"some of the studies I was looking at shows that if you get married after 30 each additional year of age increases your chance of Divorce by 5% I couldn't figure out why oh I think there are several re..."

"Lori if you had to summarize what it is you have done for people over the last couple of decades how would you summarize that I would say that I help people to learn what gets in their way from living..."

"put on our romantic Partners to meet more of our needs yes absolutely and that's one of the things that I think you see in dating especially with younger Generations because it used to be that your co..."

"what is it about being understood that we want like what is it what is the fundamental there is it does it make us feel psychologically safer or what what is it oh it makes us less lonely okay if you ..."

"their partner will open up in the same way that their best friends will open up yeah and many men fall short of that expectation I you know I think there's often a narrative that women want a man to k..."

"expectations are evolving I found some stats I think some of them are very much inspired by your first book um marry him one of them is that 80% of women want to date a man over 6 foot tall when only ..."

"have to say I agree and I think everyone would really agree because it makes perfect sense but in reality I was thinking about if I turn to some of my friends that are really struggling with dating ri..."

"typically men or women and who is most likely or most willing to adjust their expectations um I think it really depends on the person and I think that the expectations are higher in different areas I ..."

"difference between satisficers and maximizers at all again it depends on the person it really does I mean I think that when you when when you look at the surveys in marry him women do tend to be maxim..."

"someone who had repeatedly made the choice to date and have one night stands with people that were clearly going to hurt them or were clearly not going to call them back the next day but they had this..."

"and they didn't reciprocate it or we dated for a month and then they broke up with me so see that proves that I am unlovable and that doesn't prove anything it just proves that this person was not the..."

"earlier because I was thinking about this the the dis the general disc amongst men and women these days you used the word feminism earlier there's been a lot of changes in society's expectations and u..."

"71% of people say it's very important for a man to be able to support a family financially to be a good husband or partner if we get to the point a point which is kind of the the trajectory we're on w..."

"talk to my partner in this way but I'm afraid that it makes her feel unsafe so so what do we do what what does it mean and and I'm raised so I could say I'm raising a boy who is now 18 years old and e..."

"absolutely feel the need to open up every door for her pay for every bill for her I would absolutely not have it any other way maybe that's cuz I'm insecure or something I don't know but I just I watc..."

"then MH so is are you saying that that is a Telltale sign of a broader character issue that this individual has because earlier you said that we really should be focusing on like character traits is t..."

"front of me by The Institute for family studies says there is an Optimum age to get married if you want to statistically avoid a chance of divorce and it seems to be around ages 25 to 30ish someone wh..."

"your Ted Talk you talk about part of getting to know yourself is getting to unknow yourself why do we have to get to unknow ourselves well I think that so many people think I'm going to come into ther..."

"sort of narratives we've written I've always considered myself to be very productive maybe the more honest answer is a bit of a workaholic to some degree I think that my work is fundamentally attached..."

"you say something your new book maybe you should talk to someone you say something that really surprised me which is that sometimes when someone changes those around them will sabotage them and basica..."

"therapy session do you typically mind that the woman expresses more emotion tears than the man sometimes yes often I also think that emotions can be used as manipulation so an example is uh a pattern ..."

"surprised to find in your book but pleasantly surprised yes do our dreams have meaning or are they just random I think both but I I think the dreams are really helpful and in the book I do give exampl..."

"to self-confession yes that's what I say self-confession they can tell you things about yourself before you're willing to admit the them about yourself into yourself yes and and and it's so liberating..."

"opposite of depression isn't happiness but Vitality yeah that's Andrew Solomon that I'm quoting there um and I thought that that really struck me when he said that in his own book and his own Ted talk..."

"to therapy because of heartbreak yes I've been through heartbreak who has not it's one of the it's one of the worst feelings in the world and it's it's really hard to give someone advice when they're ..."

"heartbreak at the deepest human level is it about you know you talked about the bigger picture the loss of the future Etc in the past is the fundamental reason we have heartbreak as a device built ins..."

"differently why what are you waiting for we shouldn't have to wait L thank you so much thank you for writing a book there's this quote on the front of the book which I think perfectly encapsulates how..."