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The Leading Sex Expert: How To Have Great Sex EVERY Time! (And Fix Bad Sex): Tracey Cox | E247
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In this new episode Steven sits down with the British sex and relationship expert, Tracey Cox. Topics: 0:00 Intro 03:04 Who are you? 04:39 Why do people have sexless relationships? 08:31 Do we have to stay in shape for our partners? 13:10 How do we talk about sex? 21:08 What do I do if my partner does’t want to try new things? 22:38 What do we do in sexless relationships? 34:09 Is porn damaging? 41:44 AI sex robots 45:55 Can we turn the sex recession around? 49:01 How to boost body self-esteem 01:02:27 Are sexless relationships unhappy? 01:08:16 The most common question you get asked 01:10:42 What makes the most compatible couples? 01:11:30 Sex drives between the sexes 01:12:39 How bad are kids for our sex lives? 01:16:05 Men and women labido 01:22:12 What’s the problem with the modern dating world? 01:31:20 What is sex? 01:34:33 The last guest’s question Follow Tracey: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3M49FnB Twitter: https://bit.ly/3M3BLPF Website: https://bit.ly/3IeI4h3 Her sex toys: https://bit.ly/41A3VGx You can purchase Tracey’s most recent book ‘Great sex starts at 50’, here: https://bit.ly/3LTfpz8 My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business, Marketing & Life' per order link: https://smarturl.it/DOACbook Join this channel to get access to perks: https://bit.ly/3Dpmgx5 Follow me: Instagram: http://bit.ly/3nIkGAZ Twitter: http://bit.ly/3ztHuHm Linkedin: https://bit.ly/41Fl95Q Telegram: http://bit.ly/3nJYxST Sponsors: AirBnB: http://bit.ly/40TcyNr Huel: https://g2ul0.app.link/G4RjcdKNKsb
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The Sex Recession Explained
Tracey Cox discusses the alarming trend of declining sexual activity, known as the 'sex recession.' She highlights that if couples haven't had sex in over a year, the likelihood of resuming sexual activity diminishes significantly. Tracey emphasizes the importance of understanding women's sexual needs to combat this trend.
"you've written 17 books on the topic of sex so my first question how do we have the best sex of Our Lives that's the question that everybody wants to know the first thing is Tracy Cox the world's most..."
Understanding Women's Orgasms
Tracey Cox reveals that many women fake orgasms during penetrative sex, a phenomenon recognized since the Kama Sutra. She explains that understanding how to provide genuine pleasure is crucial for maintaining sexual interest and preventing infidelity in relationships.
"absolutely the key thing is women's fake they're orgasm we have known that women don't orgasm through penetrative sex since karma sutra and yet most men will go yeah yeah I've heard about that women a..."
The Importance of Individuality in Relationships
Tracey discusses the concept of 'otherness' in relationships, emphasizing that couples need to maintain their individuality to keep desire alive. She explains how being too close can lead to a lack of sexual attraction and the importance of seeing each other in different contexts.
"erotic sex and then they'll be interested otherwise they're not going to be interested I've noticed a trend that amongst my friendship group a startling amount of them are in sexless relationships yep..."
The Obligation to Stay Attractive
Tracey Cox asserts that partners have an obligation to maintain their attractiveness for each other. She discusses how physical and intellectual appeal plays a significant role in sustaining desire and preventing relationships from becoming stale.
"six months of extensive research on scientific studies and principles to cooperate everything that I wrote into these 33 laws and ladies and gentlemen that book called The Diary of a CEO the 33 laws f..."
Creating Excitement in Long-Term Relationships
Tracey emphasizes the need for couples to lead interesting lives to enhance their sexual experiences. She explains that routine can be detrimental to sexual satisfaction, particularly for women, who often find monogamy less stimulating than men.
"proud of it really really proud of it and I can't wait for all of you to get to read it it's out in August I couldn't be more excited about this as you can probably tell I don't know what to say to sa..."
The Challenge of Communication About Sex
Tracey discusses the importance of open communication in relationships, particularly regarding sexual satisfaction. She introduces the 'compliment sandwich' technique for discussing sensitive topics without hurting a partner's feelings.
"Tracy I reached out to my team and I told my team that I wanted to have a conversation with the individual in the world that was best and most educated and most engaging on the subject matter of sex b..."
Prioritizing Female Pleasure
Tracey emphasizes that in sexual relationships, female pleasure should come first. She suggests practical ways for couples to ensure both partners are satisfied, including the importance of foreplay and understanding each other's needs.
"found you and that's why you're here so my first question is who are you and what do you do what is your mission right I'm not a trained sex therapist which is what everybody thinks I am I'm a sex edu..."
Navigating Awkward Conversations About Sex
Tracey Cox discusses the importance of open communication in sexual relationships, especially when addressing issues like premature ejaculation. She emphasizes the need for tact and suggests using a 'compliment sandwich' approach to frame the conversation positively, ensuring both partners feel comfortable discussing their sexual needs.
"coming very quickly during sex and I don't know how to broach the conversation with him about like this isn't working for me um without like embarrassing him or whatever it might be what advice would ..."
The Importance of Talking About Sex
Cox highlights that discussing sexual issues is crucial for maintaining a healthy sex life. She explains that many couples avoid these conversations due to fear of hurting their partner's feelings, but reassures that once the initial awkwardness is overcome, it leads to greater intimacy and satisfaction.
"always the way to solve the whole orgasm thing in several ways one of the ways is to have you know give her her orgasms through oral sex fingers uh vibrator and then you go on to intercourse which is ..."
Understanding Sexual Instruction
Tracey Cox addresses the dynamics of giving and receiving sexual instruction. She explains that while men may feel uncomfortable with direct feedback during sex, positive reinforcement and specific requests can enhance the experience for both partners, leading to better sexual satisfaction.
"your partner it is the number one thing you can do for your relationship so she should think about what she wants be very specific men particularly like they respond best to very specific instructions..."
The Role of Positive Feedback in Sex
Cox emphasizes the significance of positive feedback during sexual encounters. She suggests that couples should focus on what feels good rather than what doesn't, and that discussing preferences outside the bedroom can foster a more open and enjoyable sexual relationship.
"don't want rules you know like I don't want rules I don't want to be I don't want to be in instructed during sex or or even worse I don't like that do it like this oh no it kind of kills the like I th..."
Compromise in Sexual Desires
In this segment, Tracey Cox discusses how partners can navigate differing sexual desires. She suggests that when one partner wants to explore something new, the other can propose alternatives that satisfy both, emphasizing the importance of compromise in maintaining sexual harmony.
"positive no one's going to respond to sex where somebody's going oh that's not right why are you doing that for that's terrible yeah you know don't go there if that doesn't feel anything you know no t..."
Rebuilding Sexual Intimacy
A personal story illustrates how communication and patience can restore sexual intimacy in a relationship. The speaker shares their experience of reconnecting with a partner who initially struggled with sexual desire, highlighting the transformative power of understanding and support.
"person wants okay so let's go back up to this this initial question my friends they're in their 30s sexless sexless relationships they are increasingly frustrated about it it seems um it's funny I've ..."
Understanding Desire: Spontaneous vs. Responsive
Tracey Cox explains the difference between spontaneous and responsive sexual desire, noting that most men experience spontaneous desire while many women have responsive desire. This understanding is crucial for couples to navigate their sexual relationship effectively and ensure mutual satisfaction.
"happened oh so a year later we get back together we ended up having the best sex of Our Lives on an ongoing basis um and it was because she was able to understand I was okay so if she was able to unde..."
The Necessity of Foreplay for Women
Cox discusses the importance of foreplay for women, explaining that it is essential for comfort and arousal. She emphasizes that many women require time to warm up before engaging in penetrative sex, and that understanding this can help couples improve their sexual experiences.
"responsive desire have you heard of that yes yeah from reading your book so spontaneous desire is two-thirds of men have spontaneous desire and it's the desire that everybody has at the beginning and ..."
The Myth of Tame Romance
In this segment, Tracey Cox challenges the stereotype that women prefer tame and romantic sex. She discusses research showing that women often enjoy erotic and adventurous sexual experiences. Tracey shares anecdotes, including the impact of '50 Shades of Grey' on women's sexual desires, and encourages couples to explore exciting and varied sexual scenarios to reignite passion in their relationships.
"very basic couple who probably don't talk about sex and who aren't terribly sexually savvy so I think because I think people have an understanding vague understanding that women need more foreplay I m..."
Confronting the Sexless Relationship
Tracey Cox discusses the challenges couples face in sexless relationships, emphasizing the importance of addressing the issue directly. She warns against the dangers of letting sexual intimacy fade and suggests that couples should engage in open conversations about their sexual needs. This segment highlights the necessity of proactive communication to prevent long-term dissatisfaction and potential infidelity.
"say yes to this so the the you know that there's such a big difference between what we're taught and what we would like so if your girlfriend's saying no to sex and you're in a long-term relationship ..."
The Importance of Small Intimacies
Tracey Cox advocates for 'bite-sized' sexual experiences as a way to reconnect with partners in long-term relationships. She suggests that intimacy doesn't always have to involve intercourse and encourages couples to engage in smaller, sensual moments to maintain their sexual connection. This segment provides practical advice for couples looking to reignite their sexual chemistry without the pressure of traditional expectations.
"awkward awkward stage so I mean 30 of couples who have been together for two years or more don't have sex tears not 10 years two years thirty percent it is very easy to get out of the habit of sex and..."
The Role of Porn in Modern Relationships
In this segment, Tracey Cox discusses the evolving relationship people have with porn and its impact on sexual expectations. She highlights the dangers of unrealistic portrayals of sex in pornography and how they can lead to dissatisfaction in real-life relationships. Tracey emphasizes the need for couples to communicate about their sexual desires and the potential pitfalls of relying on porn as a substitute for intimacy.
"and of course what lots of people do in that scenario is they just turn to porn yeah and they just satisfy themselves with porn but that's not ideal obviously but you well because it's it's it's prett..."
Navigating the Sex Recession
Tracey Cox addresses the phenomenon of the 'sex recession' in society, attributing it to factors like social media and changing lifestyles. She discusses how modern distractions can lead to a decline in sexual activity among couples and the importance of maintaining intimacy in relationships. This segment explores the broader implications of reduced sexual engagement and the need for couples to prioritize their sexual health.
"lot I think that that I mean I sex I think it's moving in a great way in lots of ways particularly for young women except for things like that I think that is terrible so no you don't want to be satis..."
The Future of Intimacy in a Digital Age
Tracey Cox concludes with a discussion on the future of intimacy in an increasingly digital world. She highlights the challenges posed by virtual interactions and the reliance on technology for sexual satisfaction. This segment raises important questions about the impact of AI and virtual relationships on human intimacy and the necessity for genuine connections in a rapidly changing landscape.
"then the person thinks well gosh actually that's not very fair because monogamy is all about you know I pledge to only have sex with one person but if that person withdraws sex then where are you left..."
The Rise of AI in Sexual Relationships
Cox explores the implications of AI and sex dolls that can engage in conversation and provide emotional support. She raises concerns about how these technologies might affect human relationships, suggesting that reliance on AI for companionship could lead to a decline in real-life intimacy and connection.
"they don't know how to connect and sex becomes scary in Japan there's something like 30 no higher I think more like 45 of people get to the age of in their 30s and their virgins they've never even had..."
The Future of Human Connection
The conversation shifts to the potential consequences of AI companionship on human relationships. Tracey Cox warns that as people become more reliant on AI for emotional and sexual fulfillment, the essence of human connection may diminish, leading to a future where intimacy is replaced by convenience.
"think about all the lonely people that can now have a companionship if you're somebody who can't find a companion in real life or you're lonely I mean it's better than a dog isn't it I mean it's I I m..."
Changing Dynamics in Relationships
Cox discusses the evolving motivations behind infidelity, noting that women are increasingly seeking erotic experiences outside their primary relationships. This shift reflects a broader change in sexual dynamics, where women are taking charge of their sexual desires and preferences.
"be faced with a with if they were to draw their perfect partner they wouldn't say I want difficulty and Challenge and sometimes to walk out arguments and to be interrupted when the football's on you k..."
Empowering Women in Sexual Relationships
Tracey Cox emphasizes the importance of women asserting their sexual needs and desires. She argues that as women become more confident and adventurous, the landscape of sexual relationships will become more equitable and fulfilling for both partners.
"there's a scene in this film called blade where he puts on a headset and it's set I mean it was 20 years ago and upset in the future in the future puts the headset on and this headset you know is exac..."
The Role of Body Image in Sexual Confidence
Cox highlights the significant impact of body image on women's sexual self-esteem. She explains how negative perceptions can hinder sexual enjoyment and urges women to engage more in sexual activity to boost their confidence and improve their body image.
"this is women thinking like this and I think that it's going to make for more interesting relationships and because the whole women are overturning everything like the motivation for Affairs now has c..."
Building Sexual Confidence Through Experience
In this segment, Tracey Cox discusses how sexual experiences can enhance self-esteem. She encourages women to embrace their sexuality and suggests that regular sexual activity can help reshape their perceptions of attractiveness and desirability.
"century and yet most men will go yeah yeah yeah I've heard about that I've heard about that it hasn't happened to me I've just been really lucky for all my girlfriends you know I mean it's just like t..."
The Importance of Initiating Sex
Cox stresses the significance of women taking the initiative in sexual relationships. She explains how initiating sex can empower women and enhance their sexual dynamics, encouraging them to be more direct and confident in expressing their desires.
"think feeling desired by your partner is much more important to women than you know anything else if your partner looks at you in a you know like God you're so hot you're so sexy that is the biggest t..."
Overcoming Body Image Issues During Intimacy
Tracey Cox offers practical advice for overcoming body image concerns during sex. She suggests focusing on feelings rather than appearance and encourages active participation in intimacy to shift attention away from self-consciousness.
"increase your skills as well if you're worried that you're not a great lover read up on it buy some of the books go online look up technique you know because technique is very important and the better..."
Creating a Balanced Power Dynamic in Relationships
Cox discusses the importance of balance in sexual relationships, where both partners feel empowered. She highlights the need for clear communication about desires and the dynamics of initiation to foster a more fulfilling sexual experience.
"overcome body issues is if you're really active in bed and you're like looking at your partner and you're talking dirty and you're making lots of eye contact that way anything to sort of take yourself..."
Understanding Sexual Signals
Cox discusses how subtle signals from one partner can often be missed by the other, particularly in heterosexual relationships. She encourages clear and obvious communication when initiating sex to ensure both partners are on the same page, highlighting the importance of understanding each other's needs and desires.
"sex I really do think so and when women do it who don't often initiate sex what often happens is that they'll be so subtle that the man misses the point completely it's like well I gave him this reall..."
The Orgasm Gap
Tracey addresses the common misconception surrounding orgasms, particularly the pressure on women to achieve them during intercourse. She explains that many women can achieve orgasms more easily with the help of vibrators, and emphasizes the need for open discussions about sexual satisfaction and the different ways to achieve pleasure.
"things it can change everything feels like there's something really fundamental here that we we assume sex will take care of itself it never oh my God writing all those textbooks when I go to a dinner..."
Vibrators: A Solution for Better Sex
Cox advocates for the use of vibrators as a tool to enhance sexual experiences for women. She argues that incorporating vibrators can help bridge the orgasm gap and improve sexual satisfaction, encouraging couples to embrace this option rather than viewing it as a negative aspect of their intimacy.
"a woman an orgasm I mean great women can be very easily orgasmic if you use the right finger technique if you give her the right oral sex technique but the thing that is most expert at stimulating the..."
The Reality of Long-Term Relationships
Tracey discusses the challenges of maintaining sexual excitement in long-term relationships. She explains that the initial passion fueled by hormones often fades, leading to unrealistic expectations about sex. Understanding that this is a natural progression can help couples navigate their intimacy more effectively.
"that intimacy if you've had the oral sex you've had the Intercourse you've thoroughly enjoyed it but it just hasn't given you that tip over what I mean by that question about this fundamental belief t..."
Sexless Relationships: A Misunderstood Dynamic
Cox clarifies that not all sexless relationships are unhappy. She highlights that many couples with low sexual libidos can still have fulfilling relationships. The key is compatibility in sexual desires and open communication about needs and expectations.
"that's not ever going to be found as you might know this podcast is now sponsored by the incredible Airbnb and Airbnb have saved me many many times whenever I'm working away or on business trips or on..."
Communication is Key
Tracey stresses the importance of communication in relationships, especially regarding sexual intimacy. She advises couples to have open discussions about their sexual needs and desires to avoid misunderstandings and ensure both partners feel satisfied.
"fine but you what you cannot do is stop sex and not talk about it that is really really dangerous you've got to have some kind of discussion even if that's getting into bed one night and one of you sa..."
Navigating Sexless Relationships
Tracey Cox discusses the complexities of sexless relationships, emphasizing the importance of communication and willingness to explore intimacy without sexual intent. She highlights that love can often outweigh the need for sex, but warns against selfishness in denying a partner's sexual needs.
"which is all about touching each other without sexual intent and it might be that you have to go almost like you've got to learn how to have sex all over again if your partner is willing to try anythi..."
The Impact of Erectile Dysfunction
Tracey addresses the psychological effects of erectile dysfunction on men, explaining how performance anxiety and societal expectations can exacerbate the issue. She contrasts the experiences of men and women regarding sexual performance and discusses the implications of Viagra use.
"um couples said that they rarely or never have had sex and one quarter of those rated themselves as being extremely happy that's right so something like 75 of people who were denied sex nearly all of ..."
Age and Infidelity in Relationships
In this segment, Tracey explores the relationship dynamics of older couples, discussing how age can influence infidelity and the factors that lead to cheating. She emphasizes the importance of compatibility in life goals and the opportunities that arise in midlife.
"be able to I would have no boundaries they'd be calling me day and night so now I can't do that what are the most common questions that people ask you about sex and I'd like the ones that we don't tal..."
The Happiness Paradox: Single Women vs. Married Men
Tracey reveals surprising statistics about happiness among different demographics, noting that single women and married men report the highest levels of happiness. She discusses the societal roles and expectations that contribute to these findings.
"performance anxiety because they're watching too much porn and they think that that's real so they take Viagra because they think just this once you know I'll be I'll just when it's the first time I s..."
The Effect of Children on Relationships
Tracey shares insights on how children can impact romantic relationships, suggesting that while they may enhance love, they often detract from sexual intimacy. She advises couples to manage expectations regarding their sex life after having kids.
"am I supposed to do with this and then he goes off and cheats with somebody because he's so happy to have this this big rock art erection ago is there a relationship problems age and infidelity um I'm..."
The Trade-offs of Parenthood
In this segment, Tracey discusses the trade-offs of parenthood, including the stress and responsibilities that come with raising children. She highlights the importance of understanding these dynamics to maintain a healthy relationship.
"some stereotypes that still sort of exist and linger around sex and men and women being you know one of the ones that I was reading about in chapter six of your book is studies show it's it's not true..."
Happiness and Meaning in Parenting
Tracey reflects on the contrasting perceptions of happiness between parents and non-parents, discussing how meaning and purpose can influence overall satisfaction. She emphasizes the importance of perspective in evaluating happiness.
"five years really really and people freak about it and they're like it's never going to come back and it will come back of course it will but you know all your energy is going to children so I think i..."
Libido Changes with Age
Tracey explains how women's libido tends to decrease with age, particularly due to hormonal changes, while men's libido remains more stable. She discusses the societal misconceptions surrounding sexual desire in older adults.
"become selfless then don't you can't be selfish and have a kid well you can you can be a really bad parent but it's different isn't it it's really different I'm sure but then parents say well you're t..."
Embracing Sexuality After 50
Tracey shares her personal journey of experiencing a drop in libido after 50 and the importance of maintaining a positive attitude towards sex. She encourages women to seek solutions for sexual health and to embrace their sexuality at any age.
"going to be fine um if you're a woman and you actually you know get all the things that are available to you take HRT if you can like there's solutions for all of this and don't think to yourself oh w..."
Overcoming Sexual Barriers
In this final segment, Tracey discusses the importance of addressing childhood experiences and societal pressures that can affect sexual attitudes. She emphasizes the need for open conversations about sex and the pursuit of solutions to enhance intimacy.
"there's a lot of Solutions in there what are some of the most important solutions for my listeners that are maybe experiencing a similar situation again manage expectations keep having sex that whole ..."
The Impact of Childhood Experiences on Sexuality
Tracey explores how childhood experiences shape adult attitudes towards sex and intimacy. She highlights the significance of early sexual experiences and parental reactions, particularly for men, and how these can lead to issues like rapid ejaculation. Understanding and addressing these formative experiences is crucial for improving sexual health.
"it seems again like the one of the foundations behind all of this that's kind of hiding in the back room when it as it relates to people's libido and their attitudes to sex is that kind of childhood e..."
The Role of Therapy in Overcoming Sexual Issues
Tracey advocates for therapy as a means to unpack and address sexual issues stemming from childhood experiences. She discusses the importance of self-reflection and the wealth of resources available online for those who may not seek therapy. Tracey emphasizes that everyone can benefit from exploring their sexual history to improve their current relationships.
"childhood you know and I mean I was lucky to grow up in a household where why a household was like that but we just talked about sex opening I suppose my sister worked for Family Planning which helped..."
Navigating Modern Dating Challenges
Tracey addresses the difficulties faced by high-achieving women in the modern dating landscape. She discusses societal changes that have led to more single women and the challenges of finding compatible partners. Tracey encourages women to broaden their criteria and consider qualities beyond traditional expectations.
"oh God I work out and I can't even pick all these books this isn't even all the books is it no so you've got hot relationships how to have one great sex starts at 50. the sex doctor fix your love life..."
Changing Expectations in Relationships
In this segment, Tracey discusses the evolving expectations of women in relationships, particularly regarding financial success and compatibility. She highlights the importance of flexibility in dating preferences and encourages women to focus on personality traits rather than rigid criteria. Tracey shares her own experiences to illustrate the benefits of this approach.
"find a compatible male in the modern way that Society is designed and I've got friends that are you know around that sort of mid late 30s range that are really really really struggling in the modern w..."
The Myth of Having It All
Tracey reflects on the societal myth that women can 'have it all' while balancing career and personal life. She shares her journey of finding a compatible partner later in life and discusses the compromises that often come with high achievement. Tracey emphasizes that it's important to recognize the trade-offs involved in pursuing both career and relationship goals.
"so the answer for the women is to think outside the square and think right okay do I really need the guy who's got the degree because women High achieving women like to go for high achieving men stati..."
Redefining Success in Relationships
Tracey discusses the challenges high-achieving women face in dating and relationships, particularly regarding societal expectations of men. She encourages women to redefine what success means in a partner and to focus on emotional qualities rather than traditional markers of success. This shift can lead to more fulfilling relationships.
"kind of up and to the right probably but that doesn't necessarily work see for me that didn't work because if I'm I'm like very alpha female so whenever I went out with an alpha male we were just like..."
The Trade-Offs of Monogamy
In this segment, Tracey examines the complexities of monogamy and its impact on sexual desire. She discusses how love and companionship can sometimes outweigh the drive for sexual variety, especially in long-term relationships. Tracey emphasizes the importance of understanding personal motivations in navigating these dynamics.
"so I do think it's a big problem for women and men I think we both have to especially women have to stop being so rigid with that you know and how expect the man to provide I think men have to stop be..."
Understanding the Nature of Sex
Tracey provides a broader definition of sex, emphasizing that it encompasses more than just intercourse. She discusses the evolutionary purpose of sex and how it relates to human relationships. This segment challenges conventional views and encourages a more holistic understanding of sexual intimacy.
"really really difficult and I was out there meeting tons of people so first except that it's nothing to do with you doesn't mean that you're not attractive or anything you're probably less marketable ..."
The Trade-Offs of Monogamy
Tracey Cox discusses the complexities of monogamy and sexual desire, explaining how our sex drive changes over time and the trade-offs involved in maintaining a long-term relationship. She highlights that while infidelity may seem appealing when sex drives diminish, love and companionship often outweigh the desire for new sexual experiences.
"and all you wanted to do was shag like rabbits you would never get anything else done you certainly wouldn't have children you certainly wouldn't have a job so we are designed to keep the world in a s..."
Polyamory vs. Monogamy
In this segment, Tracey Cox explores the concept of polyamory as an alternative to monogamy, acknowledging its appeal while expressing the emotional challenges it presents. She reflects on the difficulty of allowing partners to seek sexual experiences outside of a committed relationship, emphasizing the inherent feelings of ownership and attachment.
"depends on your motivation so if you are driven by sex then just don't settle down keep swapping partners and get that out of your system and then you're not going to be dishonest to anyone but if you..."
Reflecting on Life's Achievements
Tracey shares her thoughts on what she will be proudest of at the end of her life, highlighting her career and the impact she has had on others. She candidly discusses her lack of regrets and the importance of confidence, revealing her inner struggles despite outward appearances.
"yeah there's another trade-off where I'm sure some people would love to be able to have sex with other people but they wouldn't be able they wouldn't want to reciprocate that exactly to their partner ..."
The Roots of Insecurity
In this introspective segment, Tracey delves into the origins of her insecurities, tracing them back to her childhood experiences. She reflects on how these feelings manifest in her professional life and the ongoing journey of self-acceptance and confidence.
"proudest of my career and having helped people and one of the really annoying people when you're in a dinner party who's just knew what they wanted to do really early on with the writing and then that..."
The Illusion of Confidence
Tracey discusses the paradox of being outwardly confident while feeling insecure internally. She shares her experiences of self-doubt and the pressure to maintain a confident facade, revealing the complexities of personal perception and public persona.
"and then all these small things are a potential abandonment uh maybe people don't think yeah yeah yeah yeah it's funny I'm confident I'm confident of my abilities um professionally I'm confident that ..."
The Importance of Relationships
This segment highlights the findings of the Harvard study of well-being, emphasizing that strong relationships are key to happiness and longevity. Tracey connects this to her work, explaining how addressing sexual issues can help strengthen relationships and combat loneliness.
"like everybody you certainly do put on a good show thank you so much Tracy um thank you giving me so much answered so many of my questions and I know for for sure for sure people are going to tell you..."
Closing Thoughts and Gratitude
In the closing moments of the podcast, Tracey expresses her gratitude for the opportunity to share her insights. The host praises her expertise and the positive impact she has on listeners, reinforcing the value of her work in fostering connection and understanding in relationships.
"wonderful listeners thank you I'm going to walk away very confident now thank you awesome and you look amazing by the way your dress is fantastic everything about you is fantastic so yeah thank you yo..."