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World Leading Psychologist: How To Detach From Overthinking & Anxiety: Dr Julie Smith | E122
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This weeks episode entitled 'World Leading Psychologist: How To Detach From Overthinking & Anxiety: Dr Julie Smith' topics: 0:00 Intro 00:58 What made you want to help people? 05:32 How did a therapist make it onto tiktok? 14:13 Dealing with rejection 23:46 The consequences of having a big platform 32:11 Having the right values & goals 39:04 How do we make meaningful change? 40:36 How do I change my mood? 42:46 How important is sleep? 45:12 How to stay motivated 48:09 What is the cure for overload? 51:23 The balance of embracing emotions vs ignoring them 54:32 The stigma around addressing a situation 01:00:41 How do you build confidence 01:03:21 How important is it to not make decisions in high emotion moments? 01:07:32 Building self esteem by having a good relationship with failure 01:12:36 Using our breathing to manage anxiety 01:20:53 Is it important to understand we’re going to die? 01:24:39 The importance of relationships 01:32:07 Are you happy? 01:33:33 The last guest question Julie’s book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/dp/0241529719/ref=cm_sw_r_awdo_V6BCCKNCQY8W6WBHK8W9 Julie: https://www.tiktok.com/@drjuliesmith Listen on: Apple podcast - https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/the-diary-of-a-ceo-by-steven-bartlett/id1291423644 Spotify - https://open.spotify.com/show/7iQXmUT7XGuZSzAMjoNWlX FOLLOW ► Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/steven/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SteveBartlettSC Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/steven-bartlett-56986834/ Sponsor: Huel - https://my.huel.com/Steven
Segments Timeline
The Pressure of Perfection
Dr. Julie Smith discusses the unrealistic ideals that lead to stress, burnout, and anxiety. She emphasizes that while instant gratifications like eating or drinking may seem appealing, true long-term solutions require confronting and processing emotions. This segment sets the stage for understanding the challenges of mental health in today's society.
"i can't stop now i can't i can't stop doing this dr julie smith she's a clinical psychologist with more than three million followers how is she dealing with stress pressure burnout overload we're subj..."
The Journey to Psychology
Dr. Julie Smith shares her journey into psychology, revealing that her interest stemmed from a fascination with people rather than any traumatic childhood experience. She encourages others to follow their interests and passions, highlighting that success doesn't always require a dramatic backstory.
"and this is the diver ceo i hope nobody's listening but if you are then please keep this to yourself could you do me a quick favor if you're listening to this please hit the follow or subscribe button..."
Understanding Human Nature
In this segment, Dr. Smith reflects on her experiences with human behavior, noting that while people may seem fundamentally different, there are predictable patterns in how we react and behave. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing individual stories while also understanding common psychological trends.
"typically when people are successful and they reach the levels of success that you have in their disciplines we we tend to want to point to some kind of anomalous childhood where something traumatic o..."
Breaking into TikTok
Dr. Smith explains her unexpected journey to TikTok, where she shares mental health advice. Initially hesitant due to the private nature of her profession, she felt compelled to share valuable insights that could help others. This segment highlights the intersection of mental health education and social media.
"everything i read was about normal people in normal life situations and sort of development of how people become who they who they are and um that's always fascinated me and and actually i i started s..."
The Power of Sharing Knowledge
Dr. Smith discusses the importance of making psychological knowledge accessible to everyone. She reflects on the overwhelming positive response from her audience, emphasizing that mental health education should not be confined to therapy rooms but shared widely to benefit those in need.
"that excites you or that inspires you and you don't have to have this you know epiphany moment that transforms your life and makes you passionate about doing what it is you're doing um if you follow i..."
Balancing One-on-One Therapy and Public Outreach
In this segment, Dr. Smith shares her struggle to balance her one-on-one therapy practice with her growing public presence. She expresses the privilege of working closely with individuals while also recognizing the broader impact she can have through her videos and social media.
"i'll tell you what i've learned okay because then maybe that'll give you a bit of an indication as to what i'm what i'm referring to here one of the things i thought before i started doing this podcas..."
Navigating Public Feedback
Dr. Smith opens up about the challenges of receiving feedback from millions of followers. She discusses the emotional toll of public scrutiny and the importance of practicing self-care and resilience in the face of criticism, highlighting the vulnerability that comes with being in the public eye.
"with people one-to-one in therapy no two people are ever the same and and you can never assume anything um because you know everybody has that unique story and the new unique set of experiences that t..."
The Impact of Negative Comments
In this segment, Dr. Smith addresses the psychological impact of negative comments on social media. She explains how our brains are wired to focus on criticism, and emphasizes the importance of managing these feelings and responses to maintain mental well-being.
"um in my chosen career and the area that i work in in that it's usually a very private um quiet kind of career choice you're working with individuals it's confidential you work with one person at a ti..."
Rejection and Its Roots
Dr. Smith explores the concept of rejection and its historical significance in human evolution. She discusses how feelings of rejection can trigger deep-seated fears of exclusion from social groups, and how understanding this can help individuals cope with modern-day rejections.
"better you know there's some there's a set of kind of knowledge there and skills that are taught to people in therapy but they're not therapy skills their life skills and people can use them every day..."
Managing Emotional Responses
In this segment, Dr. Smith emphasizes the importance of managing emotional responses to rejection. She explains that while feelings of hurt are natural, it's crucial to develop strategies to cope with these emotions and not let them dictate one's self-worth.
"see what information you can get into it i said well then no you can't you can't cut it down to that you know small amount of time it'll be impossible um and i'll probably get trolled out of there bec..."
The Complexity of Rejection
Dr. Smith delves deeper into the complexities of rejection, particularly in romantic contexts. She discusses how the pain of rejection can feel like a threat to one's belonging and self-identity, and the importance of reframing these experiences for personal growth.
"where's the next one coming from so i kind of felt like when we started it was going to be this one-off thing like okay oh you know i should you know practice what i preach and have a go and i assumed..."
The Fear of Rejection
Dr. Julie Smith discusses the deep-rooted human fear of rejection, tracing it back to our ancestral need for belonging within a tribe. She explains how feelings of rejection can trigger core beliefs about self-worth, emphasizing that while it's natural to care about others' opinions, managing those feelings is crucial for mental health.
"as humans of rejection and what that used to mean when i was a human the idea of being like just like kicked out of my tribe yeah and the threat that that would put me under if i was removed from my t..."
Core Beliefs and Relationships
In this segment, Dr. Smith elaborates on how core beliefs formed in childhood can influence adult relationships. She explains how negative experiences can lead to damaging beliefs about oneself, which can manifest in behaviors and choices that perpetuate cycles of rejection and distress.
"is it is it in those moments of rejection is it really like the story we tell ourselves about what that rejection means to us i'm thinking now more broadly about romantic rejection my you know i'm dat..."
Understanding Relationship Patterns
Dr. Smith introduces Cognitive Analytic Therapy (CAT) as a method to explore and understand relationship patterns formed in childhood. She highlights how these patterns can affect adult relationships and the importance of recognizing and breaking unhealthy cycles to foster healthier connections.
"beliefs are because i went through life and i think i got to about 24 years old without being in a relationship and when i asked myself what my core beliefs were as it relates to relationships i reali..."
Journaling for Self-Discovery
Dr. Smith suggests journaling as a practical tool for self-reflection and understanding behavioral patterns in relationships. She emphasizes the importance of consistently documenting experiences to uncover themes and triggers, which can aid in breaking negative cycles.
"essentially outdated coping strategies but it's really difficult you know if something's been a lifetime of habit you can't just break that by telling yourself to do that so it takes time and it takes..."
The Challenge of Public Life
In this segment, Dr. Smith and Steven Bartlett discuss the psychological challenges that come with gaining public attention and success. They explore feelings of imposter syndrome and the pressure to maintain a public persona while balancing personal life and relationships.
"when you start to get you know and sort of knowledge of that cycle you can then you know begin to look at what's different but sometimes it's really difficult to just know how to break the cycle somet..."
Navigating Success and Privacy
Dr. Smith reflects on the balance between professional success and personal privacy. She discusses the societal pressures to achieve fame and wealth, and how these can complicate personal relationships and well-being, advocating for a life aligned with one's values.
"my children and be the mum i want to be it was all very kind of organic and and suddenly this this thing started to happen and become a bit of a roller coaster how does it feel to know that the more s..."
Staying True to Your Values
Dr. Smith emphasizes the importance of maintaining integrity and staying true to one's original motivations amidst external pressures. She encourages listeners to reflect on their values and the balance between public life and personal happiness, suggesting that it's okay to prioritize a quieter, more private life.
"of it is i have to log online every day or i have to you know open my emails every day and just see so much noise yeah which which is difficult because as you say i want to have a relationship and i n..."
The Journey of Values and Goals
Dr. Smith explains the distinction between values and goals, illustrating how goals are finite achievements while values are ongoing paths in life. She encourages regular check-ins on personal values to ensure alignment with one's life direction. This segment provides practical insights into how to evaluate and prioritize what truly matters in life.
"right and if you try and convince some ten-year-old kid you probably don't want to be famous you're right okay whatever so you have to learn these things yeah quick one for many years people have been..."
Understanding True Values
In this insightful discussion, Dr. Smith addresses the challenge of distinguishing between genuine values and those stemming from insecurities. She shares her personal evolution in understanding what brings fulfillment, highlighting the importance of regular reflection on one's values as life circumstances change. This segment encourages viewers to reassess their priorities as they grow.
"one of the things you spoke about there is um about values and much of your you know much of what you talk about in your book centers around understanding what our real values are and our goals and wh..."
The Importance of Regular Check-Ins
Dr. Smith emphasizes the necessity of conducting regular values check-ins to adapt to life's changes. She discusses how personal experiences, such as becoming a parent, can shift one's values significantly. This segment highlights the fluid nature of values and the importance of being open to change as we navigate different life stages.
"particular value but it's really about always evaluating and knowing where that path is so that you can pull back in that direction so for example when your you know your career starts to take over be..."
Navigating Change and Direction
In this segment, Dr. Smith discusses the misconception that meaningful change requires drastic decisions. She advocates for a gradual approach to change, emphasizing reflection and small steps. This perspective reassures viewers that sustainable change is achievable through consistent, incremental efforts rather than overwhelming shifts.
"you want to respond to things how you want to be in that area of your life what kind of person you want to be so let's say you were looking at your you know romantic relationships what kind of boyfrie..."
Transforming Bad Days
Dr. Smith explores the relationship between our decisions, moods, and behaviors, offering strategies to turn bad days into better ones. She suggests that physical actions, such as exercise and human connection, can significantly impact mood. This segment provides practical advice for viewers on how to leverage their bodies and relationships to improve emotional well-being.
"simple and a fairly quick exercise really i am i was actually watching a video last night and uh there was a guy on youtube i don't know how i managed to stumble across it the video had like 2 000 vie..."
The Critical Role of Sleep
In this segment, Dr. Smith discusses the vital importance of sleep for mental health and overall well-being. She shares her personal struggles with balancing work and family life while emphasizing the need to prioritize sleep. This discussion serves as a reminder of the foundational role sleep plays in maintaining a healthy mindset and effective performance.
"speaking of changing direction then a lot of what's written about how we change direction is you've got to make this like big grand decision in your life and then today you've got to go in that direct..."
Navigating Life's Demands
In this segment, Dr. Smith discusses the ongoing challenge of maintaining balance in life amidst various demands, such as parenting and professional responsibilities. She reflects on the pressures of social media and the misconception that others have it all figured out, stressing the importance of honesty about one’s struggles and the need for self-care.
"to it and you've got to you've got to give your body what it needs do you feel like you've got that balance now i think it's always i think it's always a tight rape isn't it you know like you somethin..."
Motivation vs. Overload
Dr. Smith explores the concept of motivation and how it can diminish when tasks become extrinsically motivated. She shares her experiences with content creation and the pressures that come with it, emphasizing the importance of remembering the initial passion behind her work to combat feelings of burnout and overload.
"will ensure you can kind of get through it talking about all of that so you know the success you've had and the impact it's had on you know your life and having to wake up sometimes that god knows wha..."
Understanding Overload
In this insightful discussion, Dr. Smith defines 'overload' and differentiates it from burnout. She explains how societal pressures to excel in various roles can lead to feelings of inadequacy and stress. Smith encourages listeners to set realistic goals and prioritize their mental health over societal expectations.
"um what in terms of becoming less motivated yeah or feeling more and more like work no i think there was a period where it felt like just a grind of work when um not the writing i loved the writing bu..."
The Role of Social Media
Dr. Smith discusses the impact of social media on mental health, particularly how it can perpetuate unrealistic standards. She highlights the importance of sharing personal struggles and the shift towards more open conversations about mental health, which can help reduce stigma and encourage others to seek help.
"what have you so that term overload was interesting because i've never really heard of someone describing it like that um typically people say things like burnout or whatever else what is the um what ..."
Navigating Future Success
As Dr. Smith contemplates her growing platform, she reflects on the potential demands that come with increased visibility. She emphasizes the importance of family and personal values in guiding her decisions about future opportunities, ensuring that her professional life does not detract from her role as a mother.
"it probably leads to a much more psychologically healthy outcome i kind of bring that that back to a point that i mentioned earlier and i'm probably just asking this for my own interest but your theor..."
Embracing Emotions
Dr. Smith delves into the complexities of managing emotions, discussing the balance between embracing feelings and avoiding them. She explains the importance of gradual exposure to emotions and the need for supportive environments when addressing deeper emotional issues, particularly in therapeutic settings.
"and things like that so i think yeah that's my kind of center point really because that is you know where my core values lie and that's the most important role i have as far as i'm concerned and so i ..."
Coping Mechanisms and Self-Reflection
In this segment, Dr. Smith addresses common coping mechanisms people use to deal with stress and emotions. She encourages self-reflection and awareness of behaviors that may indicate underlying emotional struggles, advocating for curiosity rather than judgment in understanding one's emotional responses.
"you look at sort of what happens in the therapy room um you know there are people who when they experience emotion it's quite unsafe for them because the coping structures that they've had throughout ..."
The Impact of Stress on Health
Dr. Smith shares insights on how stress manifests physically and emotionally, discussing her own experiences with stress-related health issues. She highlights the importance of recognizing stressors and addressing them before they lead to negative health outcomes, emphasizing the need for open conversations about mental health.
"anything or maybe it's go on netflix for like six hours and block out the world or gaming or whatever it is and and so often it's hidden in the behavior people will say i'm fine with emotion and but i..."
Breaking the Stigma
In this concluding segment, Dr. Smith reflects on the stigma surrounding mental health, particularly among men. She discusses the positive changes in societal attitudes towards mental health conversations, emphasizing the importance of sharing experiences and supporting one another in overcoming challenges.
"came to learn was the only times i ever got sick or my skin ever got bad were on like two days after that those really high stress moments so on the surface i was kind of shrugging off and playing it ..."
Finding Support and Connection
Dr. Smith emphasizes the significance of human connection in addressing mental health challenges. She encourages individuals to seek support from trusted friends or professionals and suggests writing as a therapeutic tool for those who may not have access to traditional therapy, reinforcing the importance of expressing emotions.
"with actually it's enabled people to start having a conversation that they wouldn't dream of having face-to-face with people um and certainly i recognized that in when i was just working in my private..."
Breaking the Cycle of Instant Relief
Dr. Smith explains how people often resort to instant relief behaviors, such as overeating or drinking, to cope with negative feelings. While these behaviors provide immediate comfort, they can lead to a cycle of dependency. She emphasizes the importance of facing emotions and developing long-term coping strategies instead of relying on quick fixes.
"write it down just use words use art whatever it is try and get to grips with what what could possibly be going on here start reflecting on experiences not with judgment but just looking at what's hap..."
Building Confidence Through Vulnerability
Dr. Smith shares insights on building confidence by embracing vulnerability. She uses a balloon analogy to illustrate that confidence cannot grow if one only stays in their comfort zone. This segment encourages listeners to take manageable risks to expand their confidence and highlights the importance of actions taken outside therapy sessions.
"last time and and actually the things that tend to work in the long term are hardest in the moment like sitting with it and feeling it and using skills to get yourself through it so it's not an easy r..."
Making Decisions Based on Values
In this segment, Dr. Smith discusses the significance of making decisions based on personal values rather than fleeting emotions. She explains how losing touch with one's values can lead to feelings of meaninglessness and emphasizes the importance of acting in alignment with deeply held values, especially during emotional turmoil.
"confidence yeah so i did a video on this recently actually where we i don't know what we were thinking but we used kind of balloons with a tube that went between the balloons and i had this idea that ..."
Understanding and Managing Emotions
Dr. Smith explores the role of emotions in our lives, arguing that they should be viewed with curiosity rather than judgment. She encourages listeners to reflect on their emotions and consider how they want to respond, rather than reacting impulsively. This segment highlights the therapeutic approach of examining emotions to foster better self-understanding.
"you talk about that same sort of the importance of repetition as it relates to anxiety as well and i guess maybe this is the answer to the question we were asking at the start about how to deal with a..."
The Relationship Between Self-Esteem and Failure
Dr. Smith addresses the connection between self-esteem and one's relationship with failure. She explains that low self-esteem can lead to an unhealthy view of failure and discusses the importance of self-compassion. This segment emphasizes that self-esteem is just one part of a larger equation in personal development.
"they're not totally aware of that they're just aware that everything just feels kind of meaningless or i just feel lost and i'm not sure why i don't feel the way i want to and often when we when we ac..."
The Role of Action in Building Self-Esteem
In this segment, Dr. Smith discusses how self-esteem can be built through actionable steps rather than affirmations alone. She emphasizes that taking manageable risks and facing challenges can lead to gradual improvements in self-esteem. This approach encourages listeners to focus on evidence-based actions to foster a positive self-image.
"and people say you know i just could never get jealous because it's an awful emotion or something like that and and actually the emotion isn't the thing to judge the emotion is information it's your b..."
Navigating Intrusive Thoughts
Dr. Smith explains how intrusive thoughts can lead to self-judgment and anxiety. She discusses the importance of allowing thoughts to exist without trying to control them, which can prevent the cycle of negative thinking. This segment provides insights into managing intrusive thoughts and emphasizes the importance of conscious decision-making in response to them.
"directly associate or identify with all of our thoughts because i think we all go through life believing that the things that are being said in our minds are us saying them and are a reflection of exa..."
Self-Compassion vs. Self-Esteem
In this segment, Dr. Smith contrasts self-compassion with self-esteem, arguing that self-compassion is a more effective approach to personal growth. She discusses how treating oneself with kindness during difficult times can lead to better outcomes than simply focusing on boosting self-esteem. This perspective encourages a healthier relationship with oneself.
"there and then you choose consciously what to do with them next or how much time to spend with each one then yeah it's closer to winning this is a two-part question but have you found that people who ..."
The Impact of Affirmations
Dr. Smith discusses the effectiveness of affirmations in building self-esteem and confidence. She explains that while affirmations can be beneficial, they may not work for everyone, especially those with deeply ingrained negative beliefs. This segment emphasizes the importance of using affirmations in a constructive way that aligns with one's experiences.
"more helpful way of looking at it is to to to look at it in terms of self-compassion so your self-esteem can be low but that doesn't mean that you know the story's over and and things are awful for yo..."
Breathwork and Emotional Regulation
Dr. Smith introduces the concept of breathwork as a tool for managing anxiety and improving mood. She highlights its growing popularity and discusses how breath control can have a profound impact on emotional well-being. This segment serves as an introduction to practical techniques for using breath to enhance mental health.
"talk a lot about in your book that as many people do and as a lot of like books have kind of promoted that you could kind of just wake up in the morning and look yourself in the mirror and say i'm a r..."
The Power of Affirmations
Dr. Julie Smith discusses the effectiveness of affirmations, emphasizing that they can be beneficial for those who already feel positive about themselves. However, for individuals struggling with low self-esteem, affirmations may lead to internal conflict and negative self-talk. She suggests that affirmations should be instructional and context-specific to be truly helpful.
"be sure about how you're using affirmations so if someone already feels lovable and they read an affirmation that says i'm lovable it it'll probably make them feel quite good for a minute and they can..."
Breath Work and Anxiety Management
Dr. Smith introduces the concept of breath work as a powerful tool for managing anxiety. She explains how breath control can help slow down the anxiety response, making it a quick and effective technique for individuals experiencing high levels of stress. This segment highlights the importance of breathing exercises in therapeutic settings.
"probably not so much on high pressure moments one thing that i i did recently which i thought was very interesting and got opened my eyes to a whole new world was i did um i did a breath work session ..."
Box Breathing Technique
In this segment, Dr. Smith explains the box breathing technique, a method that helps individuals manage anxiety in stressful situations. She describes how to visualize a box while breathing in, holding, and breathing out, which can provide a calming focus during moments of panic. This technique is practical and can be done discreetly in various settings.
"breathing to make ourselves feel less anxious sure so it's one of the probably the first things that i will go through with someone because you'll get people um who come along for therapy and that fir..."
Understanding Breath and Stress Response
Dr. Smith shares insights from her personal experience with breath work, discussing how understanding the physiological connection between breath and stress can empower individuals to manage anxiety. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing shallow breathing patterns and actively working to counteract them through breath control.
"for so and it's just one way of when you're out to give you a visual focus um that can help you to uh just monitor okay and now i'm breathing in now i'm breathing out because when you're really really..."
The Value of Simplicity in Stress Management
Dr. Smith reflects on the simplicity of breath work as a stress management tool, contrasting it with the complex solutions people often seek. She highlights how straightforward techniques can have profound effects on mental well-being, encouraging listeners to embrace these simple practices in their daily lives.
"override you know because you almost you don't see it you don't know what happens but for me i get the alert which is the feeling of tension in my body and kind of stress and then i can do something a..."
The Importance of Human Connection
In this segment, Dr. Smith discusses the critical role of human relationships in managing stress and enhancing well-being. She explains how quality connections can serve as a natural stress resilience mechanism, underscoring the need for social support in navigating life's challenges.
"that you then don't forget and you once you've got that tool you've got it then forever you know no one can take that from you that's why i wanted to talk about it a lot is because it's had a big impa..."
Choosing a Meaningful Life
Dr. Smith emphasizes the importance of making choices that align with personal values rather than societal pressures. She discusses how privilege allows individuals to choose paths that lead to a more meaningful and fulfilling life, encouraging listeners to reflect on their own values and decisions.
"i so worn out like what's going on and then they blame themselves for feeling worn out when actually it's this environment that and all these kind of pressures that sort of make that worse and so yeah..."
Embracing Mortality for Meaning
Dr. Smith explores the significance of acknowledging mortality as a source of meaning in life. She discusses how understanding the finite nature of life can enhance appreciation for each moment and influence decision-making, encouraging listeners to live with intention and gratitude.
"think death that was a big turning point it's not a transition but you talk about death in your book and it's funny because i sat here with my previous guest and he talked about um the importance of a..."
Living with Death Bed Regret
In this reflective segment, Dr. Smith shares insights on making life choices based on the perspective of death bed regret. She encourages listeners to consider what truly matters in life and to prioritize relationships and positive impacts, fostering a mindset that values meaningful living.
"people believe things have more value and one of the ideas in it is that you make you convince them that it's scarce which is why if you go on booking.com it'll say one hotel room left 75 people just ..."
The Fabric of Relationships
Dr. Smith discusses the central role of relationships in human life, highlighting their complexity and importance. She reflects on how relationships can significantly impact emotional well-being and the necessity of nurturing these connections for a fulfilling life.
"me personally if i can if i can touch people's lives with something that's positive in a world where you can you know your life can be touched by so many things that aren't positive while at the same ..."
Navigating Relationship Expectations
In this segment, Dr. Smith addresses the unrealistic expectations set by social media regarding relationships. She emphasizes the need for understanding and managing these expectations to foster healthier connections, acknowledging the challenges that arise from societal pressures.
"so many people you know human connection is our sort of inbuilt stress resilience mechanism if you like so you've only got if you're feeling something if you're feeling high in stress for example and ..."
Challenging Relationship Myths
In this segment, Dr. Smith addresses common myths about love and relationships, such as the belief that love shouldn't be hard. She shares personal experiences and discusses how societal expectations, often shaped by social media, can lead to unrealistic standards and the disposability of relationships.
"although life doesn't give you a manual for how to navigate a relationship social media at least sets an expectation of how a relationship should be specifically a romantic relationship and this cause..."
The Importance of Space in Relationships
Dr. Smith explores the idea that couples don't always need to be together to maintain a healthy relationship. She shares her own experience of having separate spaces and how this can foster comfort and independence, challenging conventional views on closeness in romantic partnerships.
"comes out of our insecurity about what's right because nobody sort of talks about these things or they haven't historically and so nobody really knows if the way they're having their relationship is t..."
Self-Relationship Reflection
This segment delves into the connection between our relationships with others and our relationship with ourselves. Dr. Smith discusses how self-worth impacts our ability to maintain healthy relationships and the importance of navigating personal struggles alongside partners.
"if i'm not feeling loved is it just about because i've set a standard and i've i've applied some standard to this other person that they're not fulfilling or um or am i feeling unloved generally you k..."
Understanding Happiness
Dr. Smith reflects on the nature of happiness, emphasizing that it is not a constant state but rather a fluctuating feeling. She shares her perspective on finding gratitude in life while acknowledging the ups and downs that everyone experiences, reinforcing the idea that happiness is a journey.
"again so it's a sort of a bit of a cycle we go through life you know especially because you're on this you know you're on a you're doing a lot of media at the moment because of your book and you're ha..."
The Value of Connection and Honesty
In the closing segment, Dr. Smith expresses gratitude for the opportunity to share her insights and the impact of her work. She emphasizes the importance of being honest about our struggles and the value of helping others, reinforcing the idea that connection and understanding are vital in both personal and professional realms.
"when that time comes okay the question okay okay i don't think i understand it because they've underlined one of the words so the word that they've underlined i'm gonna emphasize okay what would you d..."