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The Charisma Teacher: Psychology Of Why People Don't Like You! People Are Attracted To These Traits!

The Charisma Teacher: Psychology Of Why People Don't Like You! People Are Attracted To These Traits!

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Charlie Houpert is the co-founder of the confidence-building online platform, ‘Charisma on Command’. He is the author of books such as, ‘The Anti Pick Up Line: Real Habits To Naturally Attract Stunning Women’ and ‘Charisma On Command: Inspire, Impress, and Energise Everyone You Meet’. 00:00 Intro 02:25 What Is It You Do? 04:39 How Much Can These Skills Change Someone's Life? 06:35 Is It Something You Can Learn? 07:15 Your YouTube Channel 09:37 I Was Shy and Introverted—How I Changed 12:47 What Did You Think of Yourself in the Early Years? 15:22 What Was the Biggest Difference in You? 17:32 First Impressions 21:07 Engineer the Conversation You Want to Have 24:38 How to Get Out of Small Talk 26:05 Flirt With the World 27:55 Prey vs. Predator Movements 35:02 The Confidence Trick Before Speaking to a Big Crowd 37:02 Do We Underestimate the Many Ways We Communicate? 41:11 Is Talking About Yourself a Bad Thing? 43:22 How to Connect With Someone in a Normal Interaction 47:40 How to Identify Real vs. Fake Interactions 50:19 Controlling the Narratives That Reach You 52:18 Narcissists and Sociopaths 55:28 What Billion-Dollar Business Would You Build and Not Sell? 1:01:20 Six Charismatic Mindsets 1:03:16 The "Elon Musk Salute" 1:06:13 Has the Media Made Apologising the Wrong Thing to Do? 1:08:31 Ads 1:08:32 Is Trump Charismatic? 1:13:29 Impeccable Honesty and Integrity 1:17:13 I Don’t Need to Convince Anyone of Anything 1:19:50 I Proactively Share My Purpose 1:22:53 Be the First to Humanise the Interaction 1:25:21 The Different Types of Charismatic People 1:30:30 Obama's Charisma 1:31:34 Why Charisma Is So Important 1:33:47 Ads 1:35:55 How Can I Use These Skills to Get a New Job or Promotion? 1:41:22 What Are Women Attracted To, in Your Opinion? 1:45:22 Are People Testing to See If You Have Standards? 1:49:35 Five Habits That Make People Instantly Dislike You 1:54:10 Speaking Like a Leader 1:55:00 Pausing Instead of Using Filler Words 1:56:26 Does Body Language Matter When I’m Speaking? 1:57:49 The Fundamentals of Being Confident 1:59:33 What’s the Most Important Thing You’re Doing to Improve Your Well-Being? 2:03:07 What Are the Mixture of Emotions You Feel? 2:08:34 Is There Anything You Wish You Could Have Said to That Boy? Follow Charlie: Instagram - https://g2ul0.app.link/sX0XNx4tBQb Charisma on Command - https://g2ul0.app.link/Bo2XEO2tBQb Charisma University - https://bit.ly/CUDOAC Get your hands on the Diary Of A CEO Conversation Cards here: https://appurl.io/iUUJeYn25v Follow me: https://g2ul0.app.link/gnGqL4IsKKb Get access to exclusive Diary of a CEO content: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGq-a57w-aPwyi3pW7XLiHw/join Sponsors: Linkedin Ads - https://www.linkedin.com/DIARY Bon Charge - http://boncharge.com/diary?rfsn=8189247.228c0cb with code DIARY for 25% off ZOE - http://joinzoe.com with code STEVEN10 for 10% off

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0:00 - 2:25
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Intro

"I want to go through these five habits that make people instantly dislike you yes yes so these are tiny little things that a lot of people do without even realizing that they're doing this sort of stu..."

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2:25 - 4:40
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What Is It You Do?

"tens of thousands of people have been through your University learning about something if you had to explain in your own words what it is that you're doing for those people in a simple way what would ..."

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4:40 - 6:35
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How Much Can These Skills Change Someone's Life?

"how important is it like and someone that has the skills that you you teach people versus someone that doesn't how much of a trajectory shift is that going to be do you think on their on their life to..."

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6:35 - 7:16
0:41 duration153 words

Is It Something You Can Learn?

"yeah I said I said there was a big myth this is probably the first or second biggest myth is that you can't learn it and that I believe that for what 18 years of my life so the the first portion of my..."

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7:16 - 9:37
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Your YouTube Channel

"that you know we've got someone listening now and they've never heard of your your channel before can you explain exactly what you've done on that channel how long you've done it for and how many situ..."

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9:37 - 12:48
3:10 duration678 words

I Was Shy and Introverted—How I Changed

"back I know that that's not always been the case yeah yeah so take me back you did your research uh so I grew up extremely shy and still am today in introvert I mean you could probably see if you flas..."

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12:48 - 15:22
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What Did You Think of Yourself in the Early Years?

"the awkward years of your life how did you how did you feel and what did you think of yourself like if IID asked you what do you think of yourself back then and you were to answer it honestly what wou..."

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15:22 - 17:33
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What Was the Biggest Difference in You?

"plane versus the guy that came back in terms of skills or knowledge what was the actual difference in the person a willingness to stick your neck out there was the big thing so one of one of the prima..."

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17:33 - 21:07
3:34 duration802 words

First Impressions

"I see almost everybody get wrong and it's bad Common advice about First Impressions is that just the best way to get people interested in you is to be interested in them and what I found is that that ..."

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21:07 - 24:38
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Engineer the Conversation You Want to Have

"charismatic mindsets that I think about one of them is go there first in humanizing the interaction and so this can mean if you're in a group of people that are all really stiff and nervous because th..."

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24:38 - 26:05
1:26 duration314 words

How to Get Out of Small Talk

"talk yeah I really hate it I find it really draining I find it so fake and I I kind of want to get on to the real stuff um so you're saying that's how to do it to leave sort of crumbs in my response t..."

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26:05 - 27:56
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Flirt With the World

"right so what I mean by this is that when you go out and you're flirting you tend not to be literal in your answers right there's there's a playfulness that is engaged you're going to joke with that p..."

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27:56 - 35:04
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Prey vs. Predator Movements

"versus Predator prey versus Predator movement and prey versus Predator gesticulation so if you think of an animal that is a prey animal like a a little bird or a little rabbit they're very like Herky ..."

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35:04 - 37:03
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The Confidence Trick Before Speaking to a Big Crowd

"at his events I don't know if you've gone they talk about incantations where one of the things that he does is prior to going on stage and he advises people to do this before they have a big moment is..."

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37:03 - 41:12
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Do We Underestimate the Many Ways We Communicate?

"how I'm showing up with like my body language and eye contact and outside of the things we've discussed is there anything else that you think I can do to try and leave I don't want to be rude that's w..."

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41:12 - 43:22
2:09 duration486 words

Is Talking About Yourself a Bad Thing?

"what sense so like if you walk into a room and you immediately start talking about yourself is that going to be if you're over talking good question it's it's about do people have opt-in points so are..."

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43:22 - 47:41
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How to Connect With Someone in a Normal Interaction

"where are you going to live I I think I even probably asked you or everyone's asking me because I posted on instagam take a person in the gym you don't know anything about them and I know context it's..."

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47:41 - 50:20
2:38 duration467 words

How to Identify Real vs. Fake Interactions

"didn't realize this cuz I do think it's not necessarily a good thing but young women I think realize this as they hit puberty that there's going to be people interested in you that don't really want t..."

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50:20 - 52:18
1:58 duration382 words

Controlling the Narratives That Reach You

"today this is Niche but if you're a business owner be very careful about making a single I I made a single person my like point of contact to the business and that meant that any feedback that came fr..."

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52:18 - 55:29
3:10 duration682 words

Narcissists and Sociopaths

"on your channel before speak to this type of behavior yes what were the things that you missed that are like characteristic of narcissist cuz I know yeah you've made videos about this subject where yo..."

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55:29 - 1:01:23
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What Billion-Dollar Business Would You Build and Not Sell?

"you had to sell it and you could never do that thing again you wouldn't take that deal and when you think how would I run this business if it had to be my billion dollar business today what sort of th..."

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1:01:23 - 1:03:19
1:56 duration454 words

Six Charismatic Mindsets

"little bit about the uh the body language and the stuff and really I land much more in the the mindsets and the ways of being and this is this is to me closer to the core first one is no matter what I..."

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The "Elon Musk Salute"

"do it it I'm I'm right in this video yeah no so so Elon Musk if you've ever seen him on stage M he is a very eccentric totally a little bit awkward sometimes individual who goes up on stage and say it..."

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Has the Media Made Apologising the Wrong Thing to Do?

"video which is if you look at the most this is this is tragic the way that we have culturally ruined saying sorry like with our media because if you look at the most powerful men Andrew Tate Donald Tr..."

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Is Trump Charismatic?

"or do you work in marketing if that's you listen up for a valuable opportunity from our show sponsor LinkedIn I'm an investor in about 40 odd companies and while they operate in different Industries t..."

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Impeccable Honesty and Integrity

"off find a period and then the other person can jump in but if you're but if we're talking and you jump in at and I just s Trail away it's has this sense of fragility weakness and it encourages people..."

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I Don’t Need to Convince Anyone of Anything

"and it respects the deepest part of that person which is I know that these this these are your behaviors but there's a you in there that is deeper than these habits that you have and I want to speak t..."

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1:19:50 - 1:22:53
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I Proactively Share My Purpose

"product who would like to buy it yes I'm going to learn how to talk about it in a compelling and interesting way that speaks directly to your problems but I'm not going to convince you so much more po..."

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2:30 duration464 words

Be the First to Humanise the Interaction

"here' and so they went and they played basketball at the White House with Barack Obama and it came from just sharing their purpose with people is that what manifestation is I think if manifestation is..."

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1:25:24 - 1:30:31
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The Different Types of Charismatic People

"sure sharing your imperfections mhm I saw this in one of your videos um that's kind of what you're talking about there right it's being willing to show The Chins in your own armor yes it is I think a ..."

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1:30:31 - 1:31:35
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Obama's Charisma

"likes it and stop yeah it's if you're if you're able to sustain a level of energy enthusiasm and positivity that is one or two degrees higher than the people in the room at first there's like I don't ..."

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Why Charisma Is So Important

"he's a great example of of those moving up he's also authentic he's funny yeah energetic I guess I mean he was he riled people up he I mean he's a generational Talent as a politician he's yeah so he's..."

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How Can I Use These Skills to Get a New Job or Promotion?

"idea of Charisma and body language and interpersonal skills to improve my prospects in work whether that's in an interview setting for a new job or if I'm looking for a promotion so the first thing th..."

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What Are Women Attracted To, in Your Opinion?

"in your opinion I know this is somewhat stereotyping and generalized but are there anything that as a as a man I could uh do to make myself more attracted to a woman and vice versa when I see men appr..."

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1:45:23 - 1:49:35
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Are People Testing to See If You Have Standards?

"this as well where people will [ __ ] test you like they will test to see if you have standards yes because if men and women so I will subtly because I heard about this thing called [ __ ] testing whe..."

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Five Habits That Make People Instantly Dislike You

"five habits that make people instantly dislike you so that's a video about Brie Larson and around the time of the Avengers Captain Marvel thing she had a string of interviews that were pretty alienati..."

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1:54:10 - 1:55:01
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Speaking Like a Leader

"you one last question on this um one of your best performing videos is titled speak like a leader make people respect you in fact there was two of your top performing videos that were about speaking l..."

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Pausing Instead of Using Filler Words

"take a pause as well when you're thinking Some People fill in the gaps a little bit yeah generally and I I'm sure I've made this mistake but if you can replace any filler word um uh any crutch word th..."

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1:56:26 - 1:57:49
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Does Body Language Matter When I’m Speaking?

"language matter when I'm speaking in your I think so yeah yeah there's a couple things that I tend to teach people which is a lot of people form a tiny little box for themselves where maybe they'll mo..."

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1:57:49 - 1:59:34
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The Fundamentals of Being Confident

"comes to confidence one of the mindsets that I see really help people is that there are no superiors that you go into your workplace and you think that you've got to treat your boss differently or you..."

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What’s the Most Important Thing You’re Doing to Improve Your Well-Being?

"this podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest without knowing who they're leaving it for all right and the question that's been left for you is what is the most important thin..."

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2:03:08 - 2:08:36
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What Are the Mixture of Emotions You Feel?

"something that you what what what what are the like the mixture of emotions you feel today I feel so much love I feel so much love like I I hear this voice voice in my head say I love you like I hear ..."

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Is There Anything You Wish You Could Have Said to That Boy?

"this this grown man in front of me could say to that boy I wish and this that someone could have I just needed someone to sit with me someone to sit and wait Without Blame there was not opportunity fo..."