"I take the same test year by year and I am 60% happier than I was 5 years ago because I finally cracked the code okay so Arthur BR the world-renowned social scientist har Professor best-selling author..."

"am dedicated to lifting people up and bringing them together using the science and ideas around human happiness where did you teach I teach at Harvard University are you a professor of Happiness yeah ..."

"is the state of Happiness can you qu can we quantify that where we are in terms of are we getting happier as a people or more unhappy as a people we can we can't so the United Nations and a lot of oth..."

"1990 since about 1990 yeah is that when you were born yeah 92 it's not you it's us what is um I always think when people commit their lives largely to a topic that that must have very personal roots w..."

"was your household a happy place it was a complicated place but it wasn't terrible because my parents were good parents and they loved each other and they loved us but my relationship by the time I wa..."

"three of my adult kids are hearing from me every day on FaceTime whether they want to or not I see my grandson as much as I can next week I turn down a whole bunch of work because I I get to babysit m..."

"with my work you know because I've seen so much I mean since I've actually dedicated myself to this I have very good protocols for measuring my own well-being and I don't game the numbers I mean I hav..."

"successful is there research that shows this point of agency correlates to happiness and survival yes like longevity and so agency essentially means that the belief that you have control over your lif..."

"society where all of our biases are I'm right you're wrong I don't want to listen la la la la la if it goes against my my whatever ideological biases that I happen to have and I'll write a spinach col..."

"the least control over their emotions their happiness their well-being the love that they experience because the commitments that they make if you really want to have power start with managing yoursel..."

"wrong what's wrong it's not a feeling happiness is not a feeling on my first day of class I have you know two sections of 90 MBA students at the Harvard Business School and they they're taking this ha..."

"enjoyment satisfaction and meaning those are the three macronutrients so you and I are nutrition nerds right and what we all know and I've heard people say on your show is that most people get insuffi..."

"need them in Balance can you define enjoyment satisfaction and meaning for me what yeah see this is the problem because a lot of people think they know what these things are but they aren't but this i..."

"alive you need especially the negative emotions I talk about negative emotions all the time because they survival is critical and so anger and sadness and fear and disgust which are the big four negat..."

"that make us feel good and and help us when we actually get hurt so that we can get back to our cave and of course we've chemically altered them into fentel which feels great until you die fenel is no..."

"drink alcohol I should never gamble no no no no you need to add two things to turn them into enjoyment you need to add people in memory because if you add people in memory to something then you're mov..."

"you studied porn much as a subject sort of everybody in my field whes up there it's not something that I focus that much on cuz you know it's focusing on the research on pornography makes you look a l..."

"don't they don't stimulate as much dopamine as as you know something like alcohol does and and so they're less likely to make you really addicted but the whole point is that they're it it does give yo..."

"know you step off the tread Mill your heart is elevated your heart goes back to where it was so you're not dead in a week the same thing is true for you emotionally something really good or bad happen..."

"satisfaction sounds like a contradiction though doesn't it sounds like a contradiction to that the striving and the struggle is going to make me happy but I should want less yeah what people actually ..."

"down to and people who crack that code over the course of self-discipline self- understanding self-management they can actually experience remarkably higher satisfaction the dolly Lama I've been worki..."

"Year's goals that we need you know this year what am I going to do what how am I how am I going to grow closer to the Divine how am I going to do that this year what am I going to do to draw closer to..."

"mean it's amazing to me cuz I you know I'm I do a lot of you know wellness and fitness and stuff as it interacts with happiness I I work with a lot of people who are very big in the longevity Communit..."

"like I got a face for radio Steve I mean it's good I don't know what you're talking about I know but it's age adjusted I look good you know this I think you look good period and I'm not you know I've ..."

"there there's a test that I give my students that kind of encompasses these three ideas so you can remember them into two questions and you have a meaning crisis if you actually don't have answers to ..."

"worst answers that doesn't mean it's a problem on the contrary it's a huge opportunity huge entrepreneurial opportunity to realize you don't have answers to these questions because you don't have to g..."

"all kinds of inadequacy what do you say to that yeah well part of it is because that's the what we call in in business the go find a rock theory of leadership where the the CEO says to an employee go ..."

"in in the Himalayan Foothills this where the Dal Lama lives in in um in Northern India and uh when I'm me in darm Solo was a little village until the Daly Lama went there about 1960 when he was exiled..."

"looking for them you've been who knows what you've been looking for like maybe even looking for what I like right why is that wrong there's nothing wrong but it's just not going to find it's not going..."

"your questions so for me that might be I think like free speech is important for example um treating people with dignity equality cool right and this is going to change over the course of your life to..."

"cheating they're against cheating they know it's everybody's against cheating by the way betraying somebody you love everybody's against betraying somebody you love right that's actually natural law i..."

"of the reasons that people will be like I hate how I eat what are they actually saying they're not saying that I I hate you know I mean like I I'm a sugar Fiend I love I just can't get enough of it I ..."

"put it in black and white write down your moral philosophy I don't care how dumb it is write down your moral philosophy and say make a plan to start living according to it that's the base of the pyram..."

"stop praying is because you don't believe there's anybody on the other end of the line listening yeah yeah you think that you're it's like the ghost phone in Japan after the after the the tsunami the ..."

"just be open to it and then the top is wisdom and that requires reading or or you know the accumulation of knowledge not everybody's a big reader and there's so many different ways to get good informa..."

"the path to the answers to those questions build the life you want it's a book it's a book sat in front of me here that that has your name on it and who's this Oprah Winfrey I'd like to give you young..."

"build your life and you you called me um a mad scientist earlier I'd have to take the test I think you nailed it I think you nailed it most likely yeah a which is that which appears in your book in th..."

"weak negative emotion right these are cheerleaders okay so they have they feel their positive affect very intensely and their negative effect effect very weakly oh okay so they're like always happy th..."

"really think of me etc etc it's also the part of the reing that you use when you're highly creative comedians yeah well for sure for sure you know I pal around with a guy Nam rain Wilson who was in th..."

"you feel things deeply is that fair it is fair yeah I mean that's the one I I resonate with the most and I do describe myself as being a bit intense my team know me I think I'm I think I come across a..."

"like this music I live here I like these things I want somebody with these preferences and they get somebody who's their sibling which is as my adult children will remind me is not hot difference is h..."

"which is what a lot of the psychiatric drugs are trying to manipulate when when they feel that it's an imbalance so people who are clinically depressed will often get selective serotonin reuptake Inhi..."

"that's intensely pleasurable so it's like and the longer you let it go the harder it is for your brain not to be really really captured you wouldn't go to a methamphetamine addict and say why did you ..."

"people tend to do that because you're there's a lot of your brain is basically saying I'm trying to figure out if this is somebody who's going to betray me back to evolution is this somebody who's goi..."

"lot no it makes sense well so fortunately my kids look like me yeah I one that's adopted she doesn't look like me this idea in chapter four of your book of focusing Less on yourself leads to happiness..."

"other words you and again this this is basically showing the same thing that you know I did research for years and years and years about happiness and sharable giving if you're lonely the most importa..."

"furthermore you get empirical confirmation that you are that person that you want to be is happiness or negativity contagious yes that's emotional contagion there's a lot of literature on emotional co..."

"transmit from one person to one person to another person to another person that's why it's hard to live with a high negative affect person that's why because High negative affect people will spread a ..."

"think a lot about that and how we take on other people's problems when they're friends and family um what you say to that and does it matter that we take on other people's problems sort of I mean that..."

"not going to help him enough no it's almost never well I mean there there are cases when somebody is just a Schism but I I only recommend pican family Schism when there's abuse and you know somebody b..."

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"like almost an antidote to unhappiness in respects what is metacognition explain this like I'm a 10-year-old yeah okay so metacognition simply means thinking about your thinking and taking more time a..."

"episodic very occasional the problem in Modern Life is that we have all of these vague threats that are happening that are kind of half Illuminating our our amydala which is giving us a little drip of..."

"lion oh your book is fantastic I mean we could talk for for so long because there's so much more in it there's some of the unb unbelievable stats that I was reading about around social media and this ..."

"beautiful book as well it's so beautiful um we have a closing tradition on this podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest not knowing who they're leaving it for what are we sup..."