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"you so much for being here and welcome to the podcast. Well, thanks for having me, Lenny. It's it's really a delight to meet you and to be with you today. I want to start with a a very classic Jerry C..."

"mean responsible. And that's a really important distinction. And as I often say to understand the word complicit think of the word accomplice. Right? As I I will share you are driving the getaway car...."

"would be I say I don't want to feel busy all the time but the truth of the matter is I feel really unnerved and you know disconcerted if my agenda isn't jam-packed. And the reason that this is all rea..."

"busy to the point where I feel exhausted? it. And perhaps there's another more conscious way of getting that feeling than feeling like crap all the time. This is a a good segue to something that I hea..."

"And as is often the case, I'm kind of winging it as I go and I'm walking around probably without shoes on because that's what I do. And there was a dry erase board behind me and I was trying to explai..."

"inquiry. And I said in that moment I said people will come and ask me how and I will drive them crazy because I will say something like tell me about your father right or tell me why you chose to be i..."

"leadership plus greater resiliency. And so the equation is practical skills plus radical self inquiry plus shared experiences. That is the process of actually talking about the craziness that goes on ..."

"really marked most of my life had gotten so bad that despite my outward success I was suicidal and lost. And I would I will turn to the audience and I say, "I get you want to be a great CEO. I get you..."

"there's this uh huge implication here that a lot of people think that when they reach a certain point, become successful, you know, make a certain amount of money, get a beautiful house they'll be hap..."

"certain kinds of questions. So for example, someone says I feel really it's really important for me to be to be ambitious and achieve a particular goal. What's radical a radical question to ask is and..."

"So longw weeded response to your question. What I encourage people to do is to ask themselves these kinds of questions so that they can raise their level of consciousness. so that they can be in the d..."

"If I pause and ask myself, is this relationship working out for me? I might end up leaving this relationship if I pause and ask myself if this career isn't working for me. I might leave my career. And..."

"Now this is Bruce Springsteen talking about this, okay? This is not some airy fairy transpersonal jury colona coach, right? And the reason I I draw that out is we as children are socialized not to dev..."

"So, coming back to this equation, uh I think I want to give people some things to do now that they're maybe likely convinced, okay, I should really rethink what I'm doing. So, back to the equation, pr..."

"we'll point people to the book for many more of these questions and in the worksheets for the third part of the equation, shared experiences. Can you explain what that is? You we were talking about so..."

"Let's go back to the the busyiness point and I'll talk about myself a bit to kind of get it real again and because I think it's also something a lot of people struggle with that listen to this are jus..."

"feel about yourself? about myself. Uh like there's this sense that it's all over. Like, oh, maybe it's all going to fall apart and maybe I'm not as uh not as good at this as I thought. And maybe Okay,..."

"much a part of what has driven me is I I was always a very shy kid early growing up. And I don't think people expected a lot of me except my mom and dad I guess. Uh, and so I always had the sense like..."

"Right. I don't know how I feel about getting parenting advice from Tik Tok but okay. I'm excited to have Andrew Luo joining us today. Andrew is CEO of One Schkeema one of our longtime podcast sponsors..."

"focus on the the second noble truth because that's really what you're talking about. When we acquire that nice couch, when we buy that nice house that stretches our income to its maximum, if we're doi..."

"what we're doing. Now, to be clear, this is hard for me. I think it's hard for everybody. When when my first book came out, Dan Harris, who's a really good friend and client, I'm 10% Happier, said to ..."

"questions that I have. For example, Captain Chaos is running the country right now. What is it that the world is going to need two or three years from now? and what's my contribution to that world. No..."

"implicitly asked a how question a few minutes ago. How do I do this? How do I this radical self inquiry? And you know I asked I I responded by an by offering a few questions. Let's build upon that for..."

"and and you just paused. I can tell from the Adam's apple jumping up and down that that question landed for you. It's a question of legacy. It's a question of meaning and purpose. At the end of my day..."

"Tyson. I don't know what's behind his response, but I can tell you what's what's true for me. Okay. I made oblique reference to Captain Chaos in the world as it is right now. The world's a tough place..."

"oppose that feel immoral, if not directly immoral. Why does this come up for me? I can't shake the feeling that someone down the line in my lineage is going to ask of me, "And what did you do Grandpa?..."

"see. A world of kindness and empathy. A world where um poverty is diminished. a world where people feel safe however the they identify. I don't give a damn. So, is that my legacy? Yeah. And maybe ther..."

"moment. And in this moment, I I'm I'm in Marin County. My wife Ally and and I are together and and I'm once again torturing myself with this question. Have I been a good man? I drive myself crazy with..."

"earth, having done the best job I could of being purposeful. I feel better. My suffering is eased when I can lean into that which then makes me able to be present for the other person. Whether it's a ..."

"we've ended up here because I think that I'm still working through those questions. You know, as I said before as we both connected with, I use my writing to find my way to answers to questions. So, p..."

"legacy will be. I'm not 100% sure. Is this uh maybe a hint at the new book you're working on? Is this the topic you're thinking about or is this not? Yeah. It and other things. That's right. That's ri..."

"I had. You remember I'm old enough to remember when not everything had an IP address. Now our refrigerators have IP addresses, right? I mean it's freaking crazy. I'm old enough to remember when you ha..."

"experience. You know, my signal is bouncing up into the sky onto a satellite. I won't name the company. It's coming back down. I don't know what your access is. We're using this platform, Riverside, t..."

"connection, humanto human contact strategic thinking, formulation you want to talk about in terms of engineering the the conceptualization that that gets elevated and our skills get better at doing th..."

"what are what are blind spots in the way I see the world that I'm not seeing. You could also upload all your chat transcripts from your meetings and ask it like what do you what do you what could you ..."

"thinking partner in a way that I did not have before. And I'm still using my live real human writing buddies which are really important to me. Where does this all end up? I have no idea. You know, it ..."

"question like what am I not saying that I need to say? That question, you can ask yourself that question every single day. The question of how have I been complicit in creating the conditions I say I ..."

"mindset. I know that you're not a big fan of this term that there's kind that it's used in a in a I don't know harmful way a lot of times. Can you just talk about that? why you find that growth mindse..."

"me is that everything's falling apart all the time. even our growth mindset. When we get too fixed on the proper way to do things, we're setting ourselves up for attachment and therefore suffering. So..."

"challenge the assumptions that made you rich in the first place. So think about it in our experience of starting a business. We have what the Zen Buddhists would say is beginner's mind. All things are..."

"and hold mindset a little loosely. I love that. There's a It reminds me of advice. I I did a meditation retreat once and there's always a sense with Buddhism and it's interesting how often Buddhism an..."

"a hallmark of my adulthood. Right? It's um to get satisfaction out of hard work for me is a much greater motivator than fear of complacency. As I've sort of slips my way into that place, I have found ..."

"Teams are groups and there are group dynamics that always happen. There is the scapegoat. There is the truth teller who has to say, "Let me tell you what's really wrong with everything that's going on..."

"Let's apply it here. Until you make conscious the unconscious patterns operating in the group, the group will continue to repeat those patterns and you will blame somebody in the group. romantic relat..."

"this has comes up a number of times on this podcast just yeah the the the the impact the leaders issues have on the rest of the team and al also just this idea that the conditions they're trying to av..."

"power. You were using the word leader. I will talk about power. And you threw out well should they get a coach? Let's put it into larger context. Should you examine your life with radical self inquiry..."

"growth mindset. That's your growth edge. How can I be with the people in my life making boneheaded decisions about something that I care so much about and what is the best way for me to be in relation..."