"when women are empowered to make their own sexual decisions they target the top 10% of men but why does any of that matter well that creates a lot of problems both for men and women so it creates prob..."

"can you give me the macro picture as it relates to the work that you do when I say the macro picture I mean like what is going on in the world now that is so interesting and important for us to unders..."

"things you've described in the macro those macro factors why do any of them matter why do any of them matter hm what's the downstream consequence of all those things that you know you described less p..."

"problems that that start with men men are having well it's harder for men to meet women and to get into relationships like in the last 10 years the number of relationships that were initiated online i..."

"are a net positive or a net negative I think most people don't know how to use dating apps correctly dating apps are tools and you have to adapt strategy given what that technology is capable of doing..."

"into that because I want to dig deeper there but just closing off on this point about the other ways in which the changes in society have started to impact men yeah um I think a lot about the mental h..."

"milu and say this is what it means to be a man now in my opinion A lot of that is what I would call performative masculinity and is not at the core of what it means to be a man but can make you more v..."

"that starting point then one of the things that's emerged as a solution to men I guess feeling lost about what it is to be a man is this performative masculinity in there we we we put people like you ..."

"remember one of my guests telling me that they about a study where they analyzed the suicide letters of men and they looked at the words used versus the words used in female suicide letters and the T ..."

"are the challenges that a woman faces in the modern world because of all these sort of macro changes that have taken place well the main problem that I see women encountering at least in my consultati..."

"you what's your sort of I if I looked at your you know you talked about your consultative practice what is the experiences you've had and the education you've had that have brought you to this point w..."

"private practice when people come to you what what are men most frequently coming to you with in terms of the problem they come with versus what women come to you with a problem with well in general i..."

"so if I get my work right then I'll get my love right if it works in business it often works with women what do you mean sorry well think about it this way men want sex and they want relationships fro..."

"figuring out how you do that but but on the point I asked you there I said what do men come to you with in terms of problem sets and you said money and women ideally sort of work in work in women work..."

"three different problems then so if a man comes to you and they are expressing an issue with love they're trying to get laid they're trying to find someone um where does where do you start what are th..."

"how do I increase my probability that a woman will give me that chance and then stick with me like how do I increase my chance of being attractive all things I can do do I need to go hit the gym sure ..."

"do with my Surface marketing to make me more attractive well you got to focus on what you can control because generally when we go down this road what I hear from men online is well that's all well an..."

"other things should I be thinking about in terms of Seduction if I want to be because one of the central things I need to understand as you said that the pickup artist Community learned is is what act..."

"do men need to do to be more attractive I think can learn to dress better I think that they can take care of their physical fitness for some men it's as basic as hygiene you know what I'm saying uh I ..."

"it's not a script right so one of the it's a it's a lot about vibing like female feminine communication let's put it that way feminine communication is very different from mask in communication I'm no..."

"hygiene right I'm GNA hit the gym I'm G to get a new outfit sounds like you're doing pretty good I'm going to learn how to talk is there anything else that in that sort of initial top of the funnel at..."

"work but at the same token I guarantee that there is an unemployed man living in his parents basement who's getting laid tonight because he's a musician and he's playing at the local open mic on Tuesd..."

"about attraction um as you move down through that funnel the next challenge becomes actually keeping someone yeah and I funny enough because in my early 20s although I could seemingly attract women at..."

"and there'll be a sudden disappointment probably there generally is I talk about that in the book The Crisis of disappointment is one of the first crises that all nent relationships must pass through ..."

"by data as well isn't it that you know I've heard repeatedly that the top 10% of men are having most of the sex they are killing it it's like what a time to be alive these days man and that seems to b..."

"relationships are a exchange of value between two people of course and what is that exchange of value because when I when when you when I read that it kind of sounds like gold digging or something wel..."

"but Al I would have been living in like a community where I could have got you know we're living much more isolated and lonely now so I would have been a you know the village would have given me some ..."

"that really works in my relationship that I've observed is just being away absolutely so I come out here for you know I'm out here for a couple of weeks now I'm not going to see my and then I was doin..."

"the very nature of monogamy because if you need to this doesn't feel like a natural thing if I go back you know we once upon a time we couldn't just get on a plane or go to the office we would presuma..."

"this point about um exchanging values but that's really what a relationship is when I spoke to James seon the divorce lawyer you referenced there we started talking about gold diggers and he you know ..."

"video as well was just how desperate men must be and especially in the the way that the world has changed following the me tooo movement and we understand you know what consent really is and the the e..."

"we didn't do plays we played this one game and we played this game for I think three or four months straight and the game is called the game of please no and I've since discovered that this game is th..."

"until the wter can change the no into a yes using only the word please okay so how would we do that well what you learn like I was saying earlier is that a word is both a semantic yeah message but it'..."

"make when they're rolling up on a woman so you said you know they might surprise them in some way they might be shut down their personal space by getting a bit too close yeah I think most of them are ..."

"person selling the car would say I personally like it in blue potentially okay just as a way to I don't know that just came into my mind I don't I like it it's quite but it does it evokes curiosity be..."

"forgotten from when I was 18 years old and I was reading those books about um seduction and pickup Artistry is it talks about how to deal with a 10 a 10 out of 10 what they say Well it basically says ..."

"and what if I'm a woman because a lot of women are struggling with the way that the world has changed and this sort of move towards dating apps and online um dating and they don't have the the it's no..."

"this and what is love then because if if we're talking about you know this being a transaction relationships really being about transaction of value where does love fit MH and is love just when the tr..."

"in all this you know you must see speak to a lot of men in your practice that are suffering with pornography addictions or that is it making us harder to find relationships is it changing our ability ..."

"only fans only fans is a fantastic ftic way for women to transact their sexual relation opportunity for resources in a safe convenient and easy way like we'll talk about men this is really interesting..."

"the reasonable alternative solutions to that problem I guess the the most important question which I've missed here is is it a problem pornography yeah is the like if if the world became a only fans M..."

"the the guy that calls you and then you know he hears you say this I don't know if if this is what you'd say or not but if he arrives at that conclusion that everything you said is correct that watchi..."

"that that's 35 years old and struggling to get into a relationship and a woman that's 35 and struggling to get into a relationship if you could only speak to them for just 30 seconds to give them advi..."

"interesting transitional moment in the world of dating and relationships sure you talk about that a lot the sort of the transition period we're going through with things like obviously birth control b..."

"about the um the video I saw on your YouTube channel called how to be a man yeah that's one of the more popular ones H it's interesting because a lot of women come up to me um that have young that are..."

"end up having these sort of midlife crises that we've talked about because they stop standing up and they stop having Ables because I've heard you talk about selfishness and that men aren't selfish en..."

"criteria okay so I used to have much higher selection criteria same and one of the mindsets that it's going to sound weird but one of the mindsets that I've worked against and has led to a lot more sa..."

"most important thing from your book the value of others understanding the economic model of relation ships to get and keep more of what you want in the sexual Marketplace what is the most important th..."

"is there something you wanted to do in your life that you didn't do because you were afraid sure yeah there have been things that I haven't done because of fear I think on the like I didn't go skydivi..."