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Gary Vee’s Emotional Confession About His Success & Family! | E207
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If you have a social media account you’ve seen Gary Vee, but this is a version of Gary Vaynerchuk that you’ve never seen before. You probably know him as the fast talking business sage who has industry leaders and CEO’s hanging on his every word, now see him speechless. Topics: 0:00 Intro 02:01 The best insights from your early years 12:30 How do we build confidence 19:03 Public criticism 32:26 Is mindset a privilege? 40:57 How does someone find out what they're good at 46:58 Using content to lift people up 57:02 Whats your dark side 01:08:31 Your regrets 01:14:15 Your mother Gary: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3GfswJg Twitter: https://bit.ly/3VlWHCX @garyvee Join this channel to get access to perks: https://bit.ly/3Dpmgx5 Listen on: Apple podcast - https://apple.co/3TTvxDf Spotify - https://spoti.fi/3VX3yEw Follow: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3CXkF0d Twitter: https://bit.ly/3ss7pM0 Linkedin: https://bit.ly/3z3CSYM Telegram: https://g2ul0.app.link/SBExclusiveCommun Sponsors: BlueJeans - https://g2ul0.app.link/NCgpGjVNKsb Huel - https://g2ul0.app.link/G4RjcdKNKsb Intel - https://intel.ly/3UIYxxT Wework - https://we.co/3PgoB1M
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The Weight of Expectations
Gary Vaynerchuk opens up about the pressures of being a public figure and the misconceptions surrounding his success. He reflects on his journey from building his father's liquor store to becoming a marketing expert, emphasizing the emotional toll of public scrutiny and the need to compete.
"there's certain things that I'm not ready to talk about why I just feel like [Music] Gary vaynerchuk garyvee Gary vaynerchuk one of the world's leading marketing experts an entrepreneur investor a New..."
Childhood Reflections
As Gary celebrates his 47th birthday, he shares insights from his childhood, highlighting the profound relationship with his sister and the responsibility he felt as the oldest sibling. He discusses how these early experiences shaped his desire to be admired and to make his family proud.
"we've been working for many months to do something very big in which you're all invited to I'll reveal that when we hit a million subscribers enjoy this episode with age my perspective and my recollec..."
The Need to Make Others Happy
Gary reveals his realization that his happiness is tied to the happiness of others. He discusses how his motivations have shifted from personal success to creating frameworks that uplift those around him, including his family and employees.
"two three years I'm like oh I have this like need to be admired need you know everything that works for me is when I feel like I'm doing it for someone besides myself I'm doing it to make my parents p..."
Candor and Emotional Vulnerability
Gary reflects on his struggles with emotional candor in personal settings. He shares a recent experience where he felt deep emotions while speaking to his leadership team, recognizing the importance of building familial bonds in professional environments.
"you know you know when I do things like this I always go with the first thing that came to my mind I think what's obvious to me is I've exhausted the conversation of grinding and having to do it for m..."
Gratitude and Guilt
In this segment, Gary discusses the dual feelings of gratitude and guilt that accompany his success. He emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and how his upbringing has influenced his perspective on happiness and achievement.
"communicate in case a sentence on a podcast triggers something for someone and starts their journey to be happier I don't know something more noble a human can do than be on a quest to leave collatera..."
The Role of Parenting in Confidence
Gary attributes his confidence to his mother's parenting style, which balanced accountability with encouragement. He warns against the dangers of delusional positive reinforcement and stresses the importance of external validation in building self-esteem.
"investor I've been a good operator and I'm definitely a communicator college right I was at a talk yesterday I'm not speaking that much but I like my dad taught me you know keep your words so I had a ..."
Overcoming Adversity
Gary shares his family's escape from the Soviet Union and how this experience shaped his entrepreneurial spirit. He reflects on the challenges faced during his childhood and how they contributed to his resilience and drive for success.
"Soviet Union dictated people's life and to remind everybody this this is something most Americans and westerners don't understand the Soviet Union was like North Korea it wasn't like Iran Iranians rig..."
The Balance of Confidence and Accountability
In this closing segment, Gary discusses the balance between confidence and accountability in personal development. He shares anecdotes from his childhood that illustrate how early experiences of rejection fueled his determination to succeed.
"was built to win I was built to win and so I agree with you I see it in so many of my friends I always say the two ways to build something insane is deep deep insecurity turned into fuel or deep deep ..."
The Reality of Confidence Building
Gary Vaynerchuk discusses the importance of realistic confidence building, warning against delusional thinking that can arise from overly positive reinforcement. He reflects on his parenting style and how he adjusts his approach to instill genuine confidence in his children, emphasizing that while anyone can pursue their passions, not everyone will achieve financial success in those areas.
"extra level to watch out for in confidence building too many people go too far and they go into that eighth place trophy delusional place and then kids don't believe you I'm gonna be very transparent ..."
Lessons from Rejection
In this segment, Gary shares personal anecdotes about his childhood experiences with rejection, such as selling lemonade and shoveling snow. He explains how these experiences shaped his resilience and confidence, highlighting that the few 'yeses' he received amidst numerous 'noes' were crucial in building his self-belief and entrepreneurial spirit.
"day so number one watch out for delusion number two you can't be the only source of positive reinforcement had I never gone outside and my mother did everything she did I don't think I am who I am the..."
The Role of Positive Reinforcement
Gary reflects on the impact of his mother's positive reinforcement on his self-esteem. He reveals that she focused on his kindness rather than academic achievements, which helped shape his character. This insight underscores the significance of nurturing the right qualities in children to foster their confidence and self-worth.
"is just um based on false or correct subjective evidence we have about ourselves so if that is true if beliefs or beliefs are just evidence um what's your view on how someone can build that self-confi..."
Navigating Public Criticism
Gary opens up about his experiences with public criticism, particularly after becoming a prominent figure on BBC's Dragons Den. He discusses the emotional toll of negative media portrayals and how he copes with the backlash, emphasizing the importance of maintaining perspective and focusing on the positive impact he aims to have.
"was how nice I was to everyone when I think of my 47 year old self I'm the byproduct of two energies I'm a successful entrepreneur which is what the world taught me and for the people that know they k..."
The Pain of Misunderstanding
In this candid moment, Gary shares a painful experience of being misrepresented in a Medium article. He expresses his frustration over false narratives that undermine his hard work and dedication to his family. This segment highlights the emotional challenges faced by public figures and the importance of staying true to one's values despite external negativity.
"know there are people who today don't think I'm a great dude and it's off of One Clip that somebody wanted to use me to do a split screen to build themselves up because they're in the business of tear..."
Finding Strength in Adversity
Gary discusses how he finds strength in adversity, particularly when faced with public criticism. He emphasizes the importance of gratitude and perspective, comparing the hurt from negative comments to more significant life challenges. This segment illustrates his resilience and commitment to maintaining a positive outlook amidst criticism.
"that I loved my parents so much that I was going to dedicate a decade of my youth Prime [ __ ] years Pro 20 to 30 is [ __ ] you got time you got energy you got I gave 10 of my greatest years they're n..."
The Weight of Public Perception
In this segment, Gary reflects on the weight of public perception and how it affects his message. He discusses the disappointment of knowing that some people may reject his teachings based on misunderstandings. This insight reveals his deep desire to make a positive impact and the emotional burden that comes with being a public figure.
"the DNA and environment game the elimination of opportunity to help make the world more about love in lieu of someone reinforcing their beliefs of living the world of dark and hate is crushing for me ..."
Embracing Criticism with Gratitude
Gary shares his philosophy on handling criticism with gratitude and empathy. He explains how he processes negative feedback and the importance of maintaining a balanced perspective. This segment highlights his commitment to personal growth and understanding the motivations behind criticism.
"are also equally it's not just about getting a new job or getting a job it's also oh my God because this was this was insane to me because I was just coming out to the world now I was like in My Littl..."
The Journey of Self-Discovery
Gary discusses the journey of self-discovery and the evolution of his career. He reflects on the significance of his 30s as a time of refinement and growth, emphasizing the importance of experimentation and learning from mistakes. This segment encourages listeners to embrace their own journeys and the lessons that come with them.
"to the second day that next morning very rare I just go deep into the [ __ ] Gary Cave of okay this person I admire just took a [ __ ] on me this this influencer decided to [ __ ] on me and I'm not ta..."
Looking Ahead: The Future of Impact
In this forward-looking segment, Gary shares his vision for the future and the potential he sees in the coming decades. He expresses excitement about the possibilities that lie ahead and the impact he hopes to make. This segment serves as an inspiring reminder of the importance of setting ambitious goals and continuing to evolve.
"people go on social media right now and say I suck then that to happen thus I can't be upset about this in a real way that's bigger problems there's bigger problems you referenced something earlier yo..."
The Dream of Ownership
In this segment, Gary discusses his long-held dream of buying the New York Jets, revealing the emotional significance behind this aspiration. He contrasts his youthful ambitions with his current perspective, highlighting the romantic journey of pursuing such a goal and the potential feelings of fulfillment or emptiness that may accompany its realization.
"I notice 70 I'll be exactly the same way I am right now it's inconceivable I'm not um those 23 years are pretty clear to me they're going to look like the last 23 years 70 to 80 becomes an interesting..."
The Power of Mindset
Gary explores the concept of mindset as a privilege, questioning how it influences personal success and happiness. He emphasizes that everything in life can be seen as a privilege or vulnerability, and discusses the importance of self-awareness in navigating challenges and opportunities.
"the sponsors on this podcast and in the coming weeks I'm going to be telling you about the V Pro platform Intel V Pro is built for business essentially what this means to me is that it's built for a h..."
Self-Awareness as a Key to Success
In this insightful segment, Gary articulates the critical role of self-awareness in personal development. He shares his belief that true growth cannot occur without understanding oneself, and encourages listeners to reflect on their motivations and the influences in their lives.
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Choosing Positivity Over Negativity
Gary advocates for a conscious shift towards positivity in life and social media. He suggests that individuals audit their relationships and influences, emphasizing the need to surround themselves with uplifting content and people to foster a more positive mindset.
"character in V friends self-aware hair self-aware hair Tortoise and the hair yeah I think people don't one day when I'm you know I think 47 year old Gary for cynics and people that were watching is be..."
The Journey of Self-Discovery
Gary discusses the importance of understanding one's own desires and motivations in the context of entrepreneurship. He reflects on societal pressures and the tendency to seek validation through material success, urging listeners to focus on authenticity and self-awareness.
"Algos and the people you follow are following you you know what my social looks like [ __ ] sunshine I'm being dead [ __ ] serious you know my Algos look like [ __ ] sunshine in the world of the momen..."
Navigating Social Dynamics
In this segment, Gary addresses the complexities of social interactions and the human tendency to hide insecurities through status and competition. He emphasizes the importance of authenticity and the dangers of tearing others down in the pursuit of validation.
"people's Playbook so pay attention find what works for you try [ __ ] try it multiple times Steve said something you like try it once didn't work Steve's not an idiot you don't suck try it again on th..."
Unity Over Division
Gary passionately advocates for unity among people, criticizing the divisive nature of modern society. He emphasizes that tearing each other down is counterproductive and calls for a collective understanding that we are all part of one human team. This segment encourages listeners to foster empathy and connection rather than division.
"we we used to do it with status right now we've decided to [ __ ] on each other our current move to hide is by tearing each other down that status too I want to be more I want to be the most leftist I..."
The Illusion of Material Success
Gary shares his perspective on the emptiness that can accompany material wealth. He warns against the belief that financial success equates to happiness, citing the loneliness and insecurity that often plague those with abundant resources. This segment serves as a reminder that true fulfillment comes from within, not from external achievements.
"like once people understand there's one team humans let's let's you can be mad at elephants you could be mad at Falcons but like being mad at each other is the most counterproductive thing and we need..."
The Role of Early Experiences
In this reflective segment, Gary discusses how childhood experiences shape our perceptions of success and happiness. He highlights the importance of understanding one's background and how it influences adult behavior. This conversation invites listeners to explore their own narratives and the impact of their upbringing on their current mindset.
"it's a complete reflection to your own unhappiness and insecurity I had a kid come up to me and this is why I was asking the question is after I did a tool can he said to me as I knelt down on stage h..."
The Pursuit of Happiness
Gary emphasizes the significance of defining personal happiness beyond societal expectations. He argues that many people chase material success without realizing that true contentment comes from within. This segment encourages listeners to prioritize their mental well-being over external validation.
"get mad at me in the other direction like [ __ ] Gary with my [ __ ] face off I can buy a [ __ ] watch or a car I'm like of course you can the why if you like love the [ __ ] like I don't understand s..."
The Cost of Insecurity
Gary discusses the detrimental effects of insecurity on personal happiness. He shares insights on how the pursuit of material possessions can stem from a desire for validation, leading to a cycle of unhappiness. This segment serves as a cautionary tale about the dangers of allowing insecurity to dictate one's life choices.
"because you know this now Steve you've worked very hard and you have the talents and the luck of the draw and you put in the execution to now run in circles where you know what I'm about to say is ung..."
The Power of Perspective
In this segment, Gary reflects on the importance of perspective in overcoming adversity. He shares personal anecdotes and insights on how individuals can choose to view their circumstances positively, regardless of their past. This empowering message encourages listeners to take control of their narratives.
"just truth and so like the thought of me talking in any other direction when I know that to be true seems like the least authentic thing I can do but even when you say that you must know that for a hu..."
Changing the Narrative
Gary discusses the evolution of societal values and the impact of role models on youth. He questions the current narratives surrounding success and happiness, suggesting that a shift towards more meaningful conversations could benefit future generations. This segment challenges listeners to rethink the messages they absorb from media and culture.
"I will smile 89.3 percent of my life instead of I'm gonna have a mansion and a super yacht I think [ __ ] gets crazy you're describing me there so you I I at a very young age only only black kid in an..."
The Value of Adversity
Gary shares insights on how adversity can shape character and resilience. He reflects on his own experiences and those of others who have overcome challenges to find success. This segment highlights the importance of embracing difficulties as opportunities for growth and learning.
"can I say yeah that might not be enough because those first 10 years as you learn your childhood psychology the problem is in those first 10 years you will have Heroes outside of your family what if y..."
The Evolution of Celebrity
In this segment, Gary discusses the changing landscape of celebrity and entrepreneurship. He reflects on how societal perceptions of success have shifted over time, emphasizing the need for new role models that prioritize authenticity and meaningful contributions over superficial fame.
"top 10 athletes in America that Joe Namath was more famous love them but you know you understand yeah do you understand that Joe Namath is actually a great comp the Jets quarterback that stunned the w..."
The Impact of Early Experiences
Gary delves into the significance of early life experiences and their lasting effects on individuals. He shares stories of resilience and positivity that emerge from challenging backgrounds, reinforcing the idea that one's past does not dictate their future. This segment encourages listeners to find strength in their narratives.
"it's fun you're properly speaking in the framework of our society now my argument is that communication changes Frameworks and what if we collectively got on this boat I I want to so here's what I'm t..."
Interpreting Childhood Trauma
Gary discusses the complexities of childhood trauma and its interpretation. He emphasizes that individuals can respond to adversity in various ways, and that perspective plays a crucial role in shaping one's future. This segment invites listeners to reflect on their own interpretations of past experiences.
"me and I am her more importantly these core positive person for any person in her life from acquaintance that met her once to clearly her three children she exists I'm not saying that any early experi..."
The Journey of Self-Discovery
In this concluding segment, Gary reflects on the journey of self-discovery and the importance of personal growth. He emphasizes that everyone has the potential to redefine their narrative and find fulfillment, regardless of their past. This empowering message encourages listeners to embrace their unique journeys.
"overreact in both directions it's it's your interpretation and that's what the childhood psychologist said she said you couldn't there's what there's someone's like having a sunglasses on your eyes St..."
The Value of Being in the Trenches
Gary Vaynerchuk shares his unique approach to success, emphasizing the importance of staying connected with his audience through direct engagement. He discusses how being in the trenches, reading and replying to DMs, allows him to maintain a deep understanding of his community, contrasting this with others who may delegate such tasks.
"weird things because we get unlimited DMS and emails and you know this about me because it's where I'm a little weird I took a six hour flight yesterday and read a gadrillion DMs I think what I do tha..."
Perspective is Everything
In this segment, Gary reflects on the significance of perspective in overcoming challenges. He argues that those who blame external factors for their circumstances are limiting themselves, while countless examples exist of individuals who have triumphed against the odds. He emphasizes the need for personal accountability and resilience.
"first 10 years there's so much going on it's insane including the environment you're in right yours was one mine was one but do I believe that if you then decide like many do well I got [ __ ] I got [..."
Embracing Your Dark Side
Gary discusses the concept of the 'dark side' as a part of one's competitive nature. He shares personal anecdotes about his intense competitiveness and how it can manifest in unhealthy ways. This segment highlights the balance between ambition and self-awareness in achieving success.
"just that point sometimes I Ponder which is um you'll meet someone and you think this guy regardless of what I say to them or this this woman is going to have to have their current world view fail the..."
Winning Through Willpower
Gary shares his passion for competition and the thrill of overcoming challenges, even when faced with superior opponents. He describes the excitement of rallying a team to outthink and outwill their competition, emphasizing that success is often about mindset and determination rather than just talent.
"competing like it's crazy moments ago a couple hours ago we did Rock Paper Scissors tournament with our leadership team as an exercise I lost Peter Chun head of platforms the guy that talks to snap an..."
Self-Worth Beyond Success
In this introspective moment, Gary reveals that his self-worth is not tied to his professional achievements. He discusses how he has come to understand that true fulfillment comes from the quality of his interactions with others, rather than accolades or financial success.
"with me with winning and losing I was I wasn't per se trying to listen again I'm not a robot everyone's loaded with insecurity I'm insecurity with girls much more than business like nobody was scary t..."
The Joy of Connection
Gary reflects on his innate desire to connect with people, sharing stories from his childhood that illustrate his natural inclination to bring joy to others. He emphasizes the importance of human connection and the joy he finds in making others smile, which has shaped his approach to life and business.
"I might have cried and been pissed and wanted to do something about it but I wanted to play again there was almost this weird enjoyment of losing more than winning as a matter of fact I cheered for fo..."
The Cost of Success
Gary candidly discusses the sacrifices he has made in pursuit of success, particularly regarding family time. He emphasizes the importance of communication and transparency in maintaining relationships while navigating a demanding career.
"like innate and I really like where I have it now at 47 which is like I've learned how to deal with the fact that I'm not the best at everything that's what life taught me through the years um but I r..."
Micro Regrets and Life Lessons
In this segment, Gary shares his perspective on regrets, focusing on small, everyday choices rather than major life decisions. He encourages listeners to recognize that regrets can serve as valuable lessons, shaping their future decisions and personal growth.
"in India football around the world when we get smoked where it's very obvious to everybody that four of the five best players are on one team and that's why the score was eleven to one everyone's natu..."
Family and Personal Connections
Gary discusses the importance of family and the efforts he has made to nurture those relationships. He reflects on how his commitment to family has allowed him to feel fulfilled, despite the pressures of his professional life.
"neck up is winning associated with your own sense of self-esteem definitely not one of the things that makes me so happy is here's a great indication I didn't know that until probably the last five ye..."
Building Meaningful Relationships
Gary shares a personal story about his best friend and business partner, illustrating the deep connections he has formed throughout his life. He emphasizes the value of loyalty and shared experiences in building lasting relationships.
"with them why does that matter I have a deep love for human beings I love them for example back to being a little transparent I'm a little weird with animals I have a little bit of a level of resentme..."
Micro Regrets and Life Choices
Gary Vaynerchuk reflects on his life choices and the micro regrets he has accumulated over the years. He candidly shares that he wishes he had attended more high school parties and taken more vacations in his twenties. This segment emphasizes the importance of balancing work and personal life, and how small regrets can shape our perspectives on happiness.
"that people know there's things that have happened in my life more recently and things of that nature so of course I regrets I've I also have regrets that I think will really help people which is that..."
The Value of Family Connections
In this heartfelt segment, Gary discusses the significance of family and the emotional investments he has made in his relationships. He expresses a brewing regret about not spending enough one-on-one time with his best friend, Brandon, as they both approach their fifties. This highlights the importance of nurturing friendships and family ties amidst busy lives.
"having a drink the answer might have been no the only reason I think I just said yes is because I think it's important for people to know like nobody's like I'm just scared that I'm so happy that it s..."
Fear of Losing Loved Ones
Gary opens up about his deep-seated fear of losing his parents, stemming from their own experiences with loss at a young age. He shares how this fear has profoundly influenced his life and decisions, leading him to prioritize time with loved ones. This segment underscores the emotional weight of familial bonds and the gratitude he feels for still having his parents.
"on I am I asked this for very as if the cameras weren't here and the microphones weren't here I I'm earlier I'm 30 years old yeah and I want to know the advice from you someone that I consider to be a..."
Lessons from His Mother
In an emotional moment, Gary reflects on the profound impact his mother has had on his life. He expresses gratitude for her efforts to be the best mother possible, despite her own challenges. This segment reveals how her influence has shaped his desire to spread happiness and kindness to others, showcasing the deep connection between parental love and personal values.
"pedestal uh is oh me judging Dustin or Steve like like I'm gonna be wrong all the time I know nothing about them so what you need to know is yourself what you need to know is yourself for me regrets a..."
Creating a Legacy of Giving
Gary shares his vision for his legacy, emphasizing the importance of giving more than taking in life. He articulates a desire for his tombstone to read 'he gave more than he took,' reflecting his commitment to empathy and kindness. This segment encapsulates his philosophy on balancing personal ambition with a responsibility to uplift others.
"sitting a hell of a lot more pretty I think than a lot of people because a lot of people have also gotten into weird places with the people they love they fought over money they fought over an argumen..."