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Are your fears giving you terrible advice? | Matt Mochary
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From episode: (https://youtu.be/bCel0X2Ta7U) How to fire people with grace, work through fear, and nurture innovation | Matt Mochary (CEO coach) — Matt Mochary, CEO of Mochary Method, is a full-time executive coach who has worked with some of the biggest names in tech and finance, including investor Naval Ravikant and the CEOs of Notion, OpenAI, Coinbase, Reddit, and many others. — 🔔 For more videos like these, subscribe here: https://www.youtube.com/c/LennysPodcast?sub_confirmation=1 — 🎙️ Lenny's Podcast: https://www.lennyspodcast.com/ Lenny Rachitsky interviews world-class product leaders and growth experts to uncover concrete, actionable, and tactical advice to help you build, launch, and grow your own product.
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Fear's Grip on Decision Making
Matt Mochary discusses how fear can cloud judgment and hinder decision-making for CEOs. He emphasizes that many individuals experience varying degrees of fear, which can lead to exaggerated predictions about outcomes. Through coaching, he helps clients recognize when they are acting out of fear, often leading to poor advice and decisions.
"to me the sort of the bar is fear and how strongly do people feel fear there are a few people that I coach that just don't feel fear at all and frankly with them we have very tactical conversations bu..."
Betting Against Fear
In this segment, Mochary introduces a unique coaching technique where he makes a bet with clients to challenge their fearful predictions. By betting on outcomes, he demonstrates how fear distorts reality and helps clients realize that their fears often lead to incorrect assumptions about potential consequences.
"why don't we pick something this is very high stakes why don't we pick something that's lower Stakes you make a prediction we'll see if I make the opposite and then let's bet on it so we pick somethin..."
The Power of Transparency
Mochary shares a powerful example of a CEO who hesitated to disclose business problems to their board due to fear. He explains how transparency can actually build trust with investors, countering the instinct to hide issues. This segment highlights the importance of open communication in leadership.
"and then they go ahead and do the thing that they feel fear about and of course later they come back to me and said Matt that was magical it works so well and yeah I mean I'll give you examples the th..."
Navigating Fear and Ego
Mochary discusses the distinction between fear and physical danger, emphasizing that fear often relates to ego protection. He advises checking with others who are not in fear to gain clarity on decision-making. This segment underscores the importance of perspective in overcoming fear-driven choices.
"the board members have said this is fantastic I love this honesty thank you so much you know this is the one of the only companies that I'm on the board of that actually is transparent and honest and ..."
Understanding Anger as a Cover
In this insightful segment, Mochary reveals that anger is often a cover for deeper emotional pain. He explains how recognizing and allowing oneself to feel this pain can prevent the externalization of anger onto others. This understanding is crucial for personal growth and healthier relationships.
"I was working through your curriculum and you pointed out that you found a way to express to somebody that they are in fear I think it was your wife that kind of like iterated on how to give you a fee..."
Embracing Vulnerability
Mochary reflects on the emotional challenges of confronting pain rather than resorting to anger. He shares his personal journey of learning to embrace vulnerability and the importance of not projecting pain onto others. This segment emphasizes the transformative power of acknowledging one's emotions.
"then I stopped and just didn't act until I was able to shift out of anger awesome and anger and fear I think there's different pieces of advice for if you feel angry versus fear is that right yes yes ..."