"since starting the Diary of a CO one of the most popular questions I get asked is what are your favorite episodes and what are your favorite guests now I don't think about it in terms of that I think ..."

"[Music] in your book that little voice in your head is this concept of neuroplasticity oh it says it on the back of the book it says um retrain your brain for maximum happiness this concept that we ca..."

"brain it's hard for some people you know because we can all think of someone in our Lives who has um certain wiring very stubborn wiring that almost seems impossible to unwire and the only thing we al..."

"that and go what's the evidence for this what's the evidence for neuroplasticity is there science oh there is a ton of science behind neuroplasticity any anything from between neuroplasticity and neur..."

"stuck with who you are absolutely not so let's choose what which parts of it are we going to grow I think that's the whole point and we grow it with our actions and our thoughts repetitive actions tho..."

"I realized that I could only be expressive as a sexual being if I was drunk or if I was high if I was in that place where of course my inhibitions are low but I had no insecurities I didn't have to fe..."

"didn't know much about my body because I'd learned from porn and because the men that I was with had also learned from porn we were just in a performance and no one's actually talking about it right s..."

"so it was kind of like learning a new language of sex and what it actually is that meant she went from the place of like I don't have sex anymore to absolutely loving to have sex yeah I didn't think i..."

"realize actually and this is something that I've spoken about so much because I ended up um starting a sexual wellness company called Cherry Revolution over time and I realized that even some of the p..."

"those things because if I say to you as my partner I might be emasculating you I might be embarrassing you you might think something is wrong so I would just perform and you're performing as well and ..."

"just just saying to someone that's listening to this that might be in a relationship where they're not they're in a sexless relationship yes just proposing the idea that what if you both just speak th..."

"to do now and again or maybe not so much sometimes um how much time do you need how does your arousal actually work and I know that some people might not know how to answer these questions for themsel..."

"don't we don't ask questions I watched a lot of interviews of you before you you arrived here today and I think in pretty much all of them you said I'm a normal guy I'm a regular guy and I get that I ..."

"something yeah whatever that something is resilient all it is is something we can control it's not a filtering of talent it's not filtering if you're you're brilliant you're through you're not through..."

"forward and you say that to you know I've got three boys now three teenagers and I think if you said to them what one thing does your dad say to you day off day before you go to school it's always jus..."

"and ink into tiny little things but having to fight for things you know it's how often do we see at school though the the school hero actually in life doesn't always do that brilliantly and why is tha..."

"what people are like and for me it just became whenever I saw people quitting or complaining especially complaining you see it so much just in the military you see it on big Expeditions you see it eve..."

"there and uh and I think as you say once you get used to this and you start to practice it the muscle gets stronger and then you almost seek out tough types you know this is a chance to to shine you k..."

"alive for crying out loud so true and also human beings are designed to grow but not everybody seems to because you have they don't understand being stuck yeah interesting see being stuck is one of th..."

"and it allows me to share in real time that I feel all the [ __ ] but I don't like to stay there and this is not toxic positivity it is important when you're disappointed to allow yourself to feel dis..."

"that's amazing it's an amazing feeling because you can pick yourself up no matter what happens I spent so long being dysregulated having a nervous system that was constantly on edge like what it felt ..."

"thinking what I'm gonna do next and it's a fluid situation but you just gave me the insight as to why it's so quick for me now because I've made a commitment to myself that after spending 30 years tha..."