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Leading Childhood Trauma Doctor: 10 Lies They Told You About Your Childhood Trauma! - Paul Conti
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Dr. Paul Conti is a general psychiatrist and expert on treating trauma, he is also the founder and CEO of Pacific Premier Group, PC. Some of his clients include Lady Gaga, Kim Kardashian & Tommy Hilfiger 00:00 Intro 02:41 The Invisible Epidemic 04:48 What Percentage of the Population Has Traumas? 07:15 Your Brother's Suicide 10:19 Trauma Is Causing All Sorts of Illnesses in Our Bodies 13:11 How Trauma Speeds Up Your Ageing 15:07 How Trauma Affects Us at a Cellular Level 16:25 Trauma Leads to Early Death 18:37 Is There Anything Killing More Than Trauma? 19:51 The Different Types of Trauma 24:22 What Doesn't Kill You Makes You Weaker 27:06 Why Some People Experience Trauma Stronger Than Others 30:43 The Impact of Being Different 33:30 Developing Trauma Later in Life 36:57 How Do We Know If Trauma Is Being Passed On? 40:31 Do We Need to Understand Our Parents' Trauma to Understand Ours? 44:58 Post-Trauma Syndrome 45:47 How to Know If We Are Traumatised? 48:54 Trauma Shows Up as Addiction 51:54 What Tests Can Be Done to See If We Have Trauma? 52:48 Self-Destructive Shooting Methods 56:09 People Are Dying from Prescribed Meds 58:14 How Does Trauma Change Our Brains? 59:53 Trauma Creates Cognitive Blind Spots in Our Brain 01:03:50 We Tend to Seek What Harms Us in Order to Fix It 01:06:25 Becoming Addicted to Our Victimhood 01:08:03 What's the Role of the Limbic System in Our Traumas? 01:11:37 Shame Keeps Us Alive 01:13:33 You Can Build a Different Story Around Your Shame 01:17:44 How You Are Treated Determines Whether a Situation Becomes Traumatic or Not 01:19:22 How to Alleviate Our Shame 01:21:07 How Bringing Up the Trauma Helps 01:24:23 The Link Between Sleep and Trauma 01:26:04 The Importance of Sitting Alone with Your Thoughts 01:28:43 Sleep Problems Need to Be Urgently Addressed 01:30:09 Why You're Not Sleeping 01:31:26 Link Between Weight and Trauma 01:33:21 Advice for People That Think They Can't Change 01:36:16 Training Your Brain 01:38:40 Can You Completely Get Rid of a Trauma? 01:39:39 How to Stop Being Triggered by Trauma 01:40:54 Saving Lady Gaga's Life 01:44:29 Last Guest Question You can purchase Paul’s book, ‘Trauma: The Invisible Epidemic: How Trauma Works and How We Can Heal From It’, here: https://amzn.to/3wTDnXc Join this channel to get access to perks: https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCGq-a57w-aPwyi3pW7XLiHw/join Follow me: https://beacons.ai/diaryofaceo Shop the Conversation Cards: https://thediary.com/products/the-cards Studies mentioned in the episode: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/11282817/ This episode of The Diary Of A CEO was filmed at Gold Tree Studios, located in the heart of the Sunset Strip, West Hollywood, California
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Understanding Trauma as an Epidemic
Dr. Paul Conti introduces the concept of trauma as an invisible epidemic affecting over half the population. He explains how trauma can alter gene expression and lead to various mental and physical health issues, emphasizing the need for awareness and treatment. This segment sets the stage for understanding the pervasive impact of trauma on individuals and society.
"trauma is like a virus and it gets passed along to your children even if their children are not born until years later because trauma can change the expression of our genes so we need to understand wh..."
The Hidden Roots of Mental Health Issues
Dr. Conti discusses how trauma is often the root cause of various mental health issues such as depression and addiction. He highlights the misconception that these issues can be solely treated with medication, stressing the importance of addressing the underlying trauma. This segment reveals the critical link between trauma and mental health, urging viewers to reconsider their approach to treatment.
"episode Dr Paul Cony on the front of your book it says trauma the invisible epidemic why did you use those two words invisible and epidemic well so as a practicing psychiatrist what I started seeing o..."
The Aging Effect of Trauma
In this segment, Dr. Conti explains how trauma can accelerate aging, making individuals biologically older than their chronological age. He discusses the implications of trauma on physical health, including increased risks of diseases and overall health deterioration. This segment emphasizes the tangible effects of trauma on the body and the urgency of addressing it.
"that that person uh has depression that person has cardiovascular disease and had a heart attack right but those things may be linked including autoimmune diseases all aspects of mental and physical h..."
Personal Impact of Trauma: A Family Story
Dr. Conti shares his personal experience with trauma following the suicide of his younger brother. He reflects on the guilt and shame that affected his family and how it led to unhealthy coping mechanisms. This heartfelt segment illustrates the profound personal impact of trauma and the importance of seeking help and understanding.
"just mental health were saying something small I mean mental health is how we interface with the world but it's our bodies too it's is that person going to get lupus is that person going to have a hea..."
The Ripple Effect of Trauma on Families
Continuing his story, Dr. Conti discusses the long-term effects of his brother's suicide on his family, particularly his mother's depression. He highlights the lack of support for families dealing with such trauma and the need for open conversations about mental health. This segment underscores the collective impact of trauma on family dynamics and the importance of support systems.
"had a business career and I went back to college and took some Premed classes and went to medical school and then became very interested in Psychiatry and and in brain function both the psychology of ..."
The Science Behind Trauma and Health
Dr. Conti elaborates on the scientific connections between trauma and physical health issues, including autoimmune diseases and early death. He emphasizes that trauma can lead to significant health risks, urging viewers to recognize and address these connections. This segment provides a scientific perspective on the consequences of trauma, reinforcing the need for awareness and intervention.
"impact it had on the rest of your family I was reading that your mother was depressed for the rest of her life almost because of potentially because of that incident mhm yeah I think she was clearly d..."
The Hidden Cost of Trauma
Dr. Paul Conti discusses the staggering link between childhood trauma and early death, highlighting a 2021 study that shows individuals who experienced sexual abuse by age 16 have a 2.6 times higher chance of dying in middle age. He explains how trauma can lead to various diseases, including autoimmune disorders, and emphasizes the biological and behavioral changes that contribute to this increased risk.
"functioning in that environment ages is going to change like having a car maybe in a in a a a nice warm dry environment you know versus having a car where you know there's snow and ice six months of t..."
Understanding Types of Trauma
In this segment, Dr. Conti categorizes trauma into three types: acute, chronic, and vicarious. He explains how acute trauma is often recognized from significant events, while chronic trauma stems from prolonged experiences like bullying or neglect. Vicarious trauma, he notes, occurs through empathic connections with others' suffering, illustrating how all types can lead to similar brain changes.
"there's anything killing more people than trauma fundamentally not if we look for root cause I've seen many many things that kill people and I I wrote about this in the book uh people that I was taken..."
The Impact of Otherness
Dr. Conti explores the concept of 'otherness' and its psychological effects, particularly in immigrant communities. He discusses how feelings of being different can lead to increased susceptibility to mental health issues, such as schizophrenia, especially among those who integrate into new societies. This segment highlights the importance of understanding societal dynamics in trauma.
"our coping mechanisms so so there there are changes in the brain when our coping mechanisms are overwhelmed and on the other side of that our brains are different so that's the biological definition t..."
The Role of Genetics and Environment
This segment delves into how genetics and environmental factors influence an individual's response to trauma. Dr. Conti emphasizes that while some may experience significant trauma and remain resilient, others may be more vulnerable due to their genetic makeup and life experiences. He discusses the interplay of nature and nurture in shaping our mental health.
"empathic connection and compassion with other hum I want to make sure that I've nailed this before we move on so the acute trauma I get it it's the the big events it's the going to war it's the car ac..."
The Complexity of Trauma Responses
Dr. Conti reflects on how different individuals react to similar traumatic experiences, noting that factors like sensitivity and emotional attunement can lead to varying outcomes. He discusses the importance of understanding personal history and family dynamics in addressing trauma and mental health, emphasizing that not all who experience trauma will develop the same issues.
"then create the brain changes because I have often wondered I'm the youngest of four kids we all grw up in the same household we experienced a variety of different traumas in my opinion much of it was..."
The Science Behind Trauma and Mental Health
In this segment, Dr. Conti highlights the scientific basis for understanding trauma's impact on mental health. He discusses the need for a comprehensive approach to mental health that considers trauma history, genetics, and environmental influences. Dr. Conti argues for a deeper understanding of how trauma affects individuals to improve treatment and prevention strategies.
"being but the person with the sort of more finely attuned emotional Compass is the person who's likely to to register more things that are negative like things like subtle expressions of prejudice rig..."
The Impact of Otherness on Health
Dr. Paul Conti discusses how feelings of otherness and marginalization can lead to increased susceptibility to illness. He emphasizes the profound effects of subtle prejudices and societal discrimination on mental and physical health, highlighting the importance of recognizing these factors in understanding trauma and its consequences.
"strongly you know whether they were integrated or whether they were somewhere different because they W in the subsequent Generations right they're the generation that just come from the home culture t..."
Trauma's Influence Across Generations
In this segment, Dr. Conti explains how trauma can affect not only individuals but also subsequent generations. He introduces the concept of epigenetics, illustrating how life experiences can alter gene expression and impact the health of future offspring, emphasizing the importance of addressing trauma in both children and adults.
"world and I think we Overlook very much whether it's bullying there many many things that can be based upon what can make people feel less than but the effect of it is is seen in actual brain biology ..."
Childhood Trauma's Lasting Effects
Dr. Conti highlights the critical impact of childhood trauma on an individual's sense of self and overall health. He discusses the need for greater attention to helping traumatized children and the long-term consequences of unaddressed trauma, including increased burdens of illness and decreased performance in adulthood.
"people still their brains still have enough formative the ideas the thought would be they have enough formative processes going on in their brains that the brains can be changed by the trauma but when..."
The Role of Epigenetics in Trauma
This segment delves into the field of epigenetics, explaining how traumatic experiences can change gene expression. Dr. Conti provides examples of how trauma can be passed down through generations, affecting the mental health of children even if they were not directly exposed to the original trauma.
"one thing on the other end of the spectrum Dr Richer's work has highlighted the fact that when people are traumatized they are changed in ways that changes subsequent Generations so if we're talking a..."
Understanding Trauma Through Life Narratives
Dr. Conti emphasizes the importance of understanding one's life narrative to grasp the impact of trauma. He encourages individuals to explore their family history and the experiences of their parents, as this can provide valuable insights into their own mental health and behavioral changes.
"so you you or I may have a gene that is active now because we inherited an active Gene for example and then maybe that Gene is producing something it's it's helping us in some way bolstering mood decr..."
Trauma as a Contagious Virus
In this thought-provoking segment, Dr. Conti likens trauma to a virus, explaining how it can spread through families and communities. He discusses the hidden symptoms of trauma and how untreated trauma can lead to behavioral changes that affect not only the individual but also those around them.
"actually going on in US is not just the nature of what genes did we get it's the nurture how has what has happened to us affected the expression of those genes there's one study that I I read about wh..."
Post-Trauma Syndromes Explained
Dr. Conti outlines the concept of post-trauma syndromes, detailing how trauma can manifest in various symptoms such as anxiety, depression, and behavioral changes. He stresses the importance of recognizing these signs to understand the underlying trauma and its effects on an individual's life.
"expression in the children right so that's that's just a sea change in understanding that the the genes of the parents the genetic expression of the parents and the genetic expression that they pass a..."
Curiosity in Understanding Trauma
This segment highlights the significance of curiosity in understanding trauma. Dr. Conti encourages listeners to explore their own narratives and the narratives of their families to uncover the roots of their mental health challenges, emphasizing that understanding these connections can lead to healing.
"also to understand what did the parents go through you know what what experiences did they have how might that impact this person and you might then ask questions of let's say that family situation ch..."
The Abscess Analogy for Trauma
Dr. Conti uses the analogy of an abscess to explain how trauma can be hidden within individuals, causing ongoing symptoms without being recognized. He discusses the importance of addressing these hidden traumas to improve overall mental health and well-being.
"the the infection is Walled off because if if it w weren't it could be fatal right so it's good that it's walled off but the body is still aware that it's there and it's still spinning off symptoms be..."
Recognizing Changes from Trauma
In this segment, Dr. Conti discusses how trauma can lead to significant changes in behavior and mood. He emphasizes the need to recognize these changes as indicators of trauma, encouraging individuals to explore the underlying causes of their mental health issues.
"mind so if we shove it down inside of us there's reflex of guilt and shame Society isn't helping us take a look at it now it's there inside of us it's going to spin off symptoms and those symptoms are..."
The Importance of Life Narratives
Dr. Conti concludes by reiterating the importance of understanding one's life narrative in the context of trauma. He encourages listeners to reflect on their experiences and the experiences of their families to gain insight into their mental health and behavioral patterns.
"effectively because that's why I'm trying to figure out how like people will be listening to this now and hearing you talk about these different types of trauma what are the sort of telltale signs I'm..."
The Cycle of Addiction and Trauma
Dr. Paul Conti discusses how various addictions, including phone addiction, can stem from deeper, chronic traumas. He emphasizes the importance of curiosity in understanding these behaviors, suggesting that addictive actions often serve as coping mechanisms for unresolved pain or self-punishment. By exploring the underlying reasons for addiction, individuals can uncover significant past traumas that influence their current behaviors.
"things that I think maybe originate from the sort of more chronic traumas but are less easy to spot right right yeah I think the key to all of this is curiosity right so let's say someone is addicted ..."
The Impact of Trauma on Perception
In this segment, Dr. Conti explains how trauma alters our perception of the world, making individuals less likely to engage positively with new experiences. He highlights the importance of recognizing subtle changes in behavior as indicators of trauma, and discusses how trauma can lead to cognitive blind spots that affect decision-making and self-perception.
"look at that narrative you know that that person that might have a dialogue running over and over again in their head of Shame about something that happened 30 40 years ago like this is not uncommon s..."
Soothing Mechanisms and Societal Impact
Dr. Conti elaborates on the societal implications of trauma, particularly in relation to the opioid epidemic. He discusses how individuals often seek short-term soothing through substances like opiates, which can lead to addiction and greater societal issues. This segment emphasizes the need for a deeper understanding of trauma's effects on mental health and the dangers of relying on quick fixes.
"like we can see all of this and it's these these signs we should be looking for in ourselves right because it is very obvious if someone who always was an extrovert now won't leave the house right lik..."
The Desperation for Relief
This segment focuses on the desperation individuals feel when coping with trauma and how it drives them to seek immediate relief, often through unhealthy means. Dr. Conti discusses the psychological mechanisms behind these behaviors and the importance of recognizing the long-term consequences of such coping strategies.
"almost makes me think that like our sometimes our attempt we think of like alcoholism typically as people that are self-destructing but when you understand the soothing component of drinking alcohol i..."
The Dangers of Prescribed Opiates
Dr. Conti critiques the medical community's approach to pain management, particularly the over-prescription of opiates. He explains how this practice has contributed to widespread addiction and death, emphasizing the need for a more cautious and informed approach to treating pain that considers the risks of powerful medications.
"that oh alcohol Su now again there there are genetic factors and there are all sorts of factors that come into play too but unhealthy coping mechanisms are beckoning to us all the time which is why yo..."
Understanding Trauma's Physiological Effects
In this segment, Dr. Conti discusses how trauma affects brain function and connectivity. He explains the changes observed in brain scans of traumatized individuals, highlighting the implications for mood regulation and emotional health. This segment underscores the importance of understanding the physiological consequences of trauma in order to effectively treat it.
"are people being prescribed so how the opiate epidemic really began was with opiates in pill form so so that they would be prescribed say for for conditions of pain but conditions of pain that were mo..."
Cognitive Blind Spots Post-Trauma
Dr. Conti introduces the concept of cognitive blind spots that arise from trauma, explaining how these blind spots can distort an individual's self-perception and decision-making. He provides examples of how trauma can lead to negative self-beliefs and hinder personal growth, emphasizing the need to address these issues in therapy.
"in hundreds of thousands of deaths in this country alone from prescribed opiates you let alone elicit opiate so there's the short-term thinking on the part of our society that then almost lures people..."
Revisiting Early Lessons from Trauma
This segment explores how early traumatic experiences shape our beliefs and behaviors throughout life. Dr. Conti discusses the difficulty of revisiting these lessons and how they can lead to self-sabotaging behaviors. He emphasizes the importance of understanding and reframing these early lessons to foster personal growth and healing.
"activated and then we see the climate so to speak in the Brain Change in a way that's less healthy and you may also see specific aspects of a post-trauma syndrome so so so mood regulation areas are no..."
The Familiarity of Unhealthy Relationships
Dr. Conti explains how individuals may gravitate towards familiar but unhealthy relationship patterns as a way to cope with past trauma. He discusses the psychological motivations behind these choices and the importance of breaking the cycle to seek healthier connections. This segment highlights the complexity of trauma and its influence on relationship dynamics.
"do some very basic things like we don't reboot and see is there a patch or is there something to fix right we don't go back and look at these earlier lessons so if you learn at age four oh men don't l..."
The Internalized Victimhood
In this closing segment, Dr. Conti addresses the concept of internalized victimhood that can arise from trauma. He discusses how individuals may carry feelings of shame and guilt, even when they are not at fault. This segment emphasizes the importance of recognizing these feelings and working towards healing and empowerment.
"four years old and me thinking that men were well say I was four years old and my father was violent what you sometimes see is people then are attracted to the familiar when they grow up so although i..."
The Cycle of Victimhood
Dr. Paul Conti discusses how trauma can lead individuals to repeatedly choose unhealthy relationships, often mirroring past experiences of violence or neglect. He emphasizes the internal struggle of feeling like a victim and how this can perpetuate a cycle of trauma, leading to a sense of 'otherness' and feelings of being less than. Understanding this cycle is crucial for breaking free from it and making healthier choices in relationships.
"systems are concerned and if the trauma is very strong in us the emotion systems will rule the day so there you said the father was violent then maybe that person chooses a a violent significant other..."
The Role of the Limbic System
In this segment, Dr. Conti explains the function of the limbic system in our brains, particularly how it governs emotional responses and can overpower logical thinking. He illustrates how trauma can distort our decision-making processes, leading us to repeat unhealthy patterns in relationships. By addressing and processing trauma, individuals can regain control and make healthier choices, breaking the cycle of emotional distress.
"that person has to take victim inside guilt and shame how many people have I seen who are assaulted and they talk about how they're ashamed of it and it's their fault someone else attacked them but th..."
Shame: A Double-Edged Sword
Dr. Conti delves into the complex nature of shame, explaining its evolutionary purpose as a behavior-modifying emotion. He discusses how shame can arise from traumatic experiences and lead to self-blame, even when the individual is not at fault. This segment highlights the importance of understanding shame's role in trauma and how it can be both adaptive and detrimental in modern contexts.
"system is against us but but there must be some sort of evolutionary reason or rationale or purpose of that lyic system that is I don't know malfunctioning in the modern world oh sure the lyic system ..."
The Adaptive Nature of Shame
In this insightful discussion, Dr. Conti elaborates on how shame can serve as a social regulator, helping individuals avoid harmful behaviors. He uses historical examples to illustrate how feelings of shame can prevent dangerous actions, thereby promoting survival. This segment emphasizes the need to balance shame's adaptive qualities with modern challenges, such as online bullying, which can exacerbate feelings of shame and isolation.
"these systems in us that evolve to keep us safe then can very much work against us a person who's traumatized because someone attacks them and that system gives them panic attacks if they leave the fr..."
The Impact of Societal Perception on Trauma
Dr. Conti contrasts the societal reception of veterans returning from World War II versus Vietnam, highlighting how public perception can influence the severity of post-traumatic stress. He explains that a supportive environment can mitigate trauma's effects, while a lack of recognition can exacerbate feelings of shame and isolation. This segment underscores the importance of societal attitudes in shaping individual trauma experiences.
"context to Keep Us Alive like now you feel shame you will not forget to not do that anymore right like it's going to have an impression it's going to change you because you feel so much shame which we..."
Vulnerability as a Healing Tool
In this segment, Dr. Conti discusses the importance of vulnerability and openness in processing trauma. He shares insights from his experience as a psychiatrist, emphasizing that sharing traumatic experiences can lead to healing and compassion. This segment highlights the transformative power of human connection in alleviating shame and fostering recovery from trauma.
"aroused in us it's created in us because it's Behavior modifying there's there's the Adaptive something bad has happened feel something inside that creates aversion the shame is created in us and then..."
Breaking the Trauma Cycle
Dr. Conti explores how unaddressed trauma can lead to a cycle of repeated negative experiences. He emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and understanding the roots of one's trauma to break free from harmful patterns. This segment provides valuable insights into how individuals can reclaim their lives by confronting and processing their past traumas.
"story about that when I get back to the cave and tell myself like the story could be that I shouldn't have been walking out at night in a sing gey alone when that lion attacked me and that's adaptive ..."
The Cycle of Trauma
Dr. Paul Conti discusses how trauma can create a self-fulfilling cycle, leading individuals to repeatedly experience trauma in their lives. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing and verbalizing hidden traumas to prevent further suffering and unhealthy patterns, such as choosing abusive partners. By understanding the roots of their trauma, individuals can break the cycle and heal.
"trauma via shame and then they kind of their life gets more and more full of different types of trauma does that make sense cuz I'm wondering if like trauma can be quite a self-fulfilling thing where ..."
Hope in Understanding Trauma
Conti shares a hopeful message about trauma, asserting that understanding its impact can lead to healing and healthier lives. He highlights the importance of curiosity and self-reflection in addressing trauma, suggesting that when individuals confront their experiences, they can prevent future trauma and improve their overall well-being.
"absolutely yes and if we're curious and we strive for understanding ourselves and we know that there are routes to change this is how we heal from trauma that ultimately invisible epidemic is a is a m..."
Sleep and Trauma Connection
Dr. Conti explains the significant link between trauma and sleep issues, noting that trauma can lead to fragmented and unrestorative sleep. He discusses how heightened states of arousal and anxiety can disrupt sleep patterns, emphasizing the need to address underlying trauma rather than just treating sleep problems with medication.
"better I want to talk about some of the ways that trauma impacts us that are less obvious one of them I'm interested in is sleep a lot of people are struggling with sleep these days is there a link be..."
Avoidance and Sleep Disruption
In this segment, Conti elaborates on how avoidance behaviors stemming from trauma can exacerbate sleep issues. He highlights the tendency for individuals to distract themselves from their thoughts, leading to unhealthy coping mechanisms that further disrupt sleep and overall health.
"happens is we're in higher states of arousal and neurobiologically this isn't about sexual arousal it's it's just state of alertness right so we're in too high a state of arousal too high a state of a..."
The Importance of Asking Why
Dr. Conti stresses the importance of asking patients why they are experiencing sleep problems, rather than immediately prescribing sleeping medications. He argues that understanding the root causes, often linked to trauma, is crucial for effective treatment and long-term healing.
"aware and conscious of that but can that be taking place in like the back room of your mind where you oh sure sure sometimes people are aware and sometimes they are not sometimes to ask a personal why..."
The Epidemic of Sleep Issues
Conti discusses the epidemic nature of sleep problems in relation to trauma, explaining how untreated trauma can lead to chronic sleep disturbances. He emphasizes the need for a holistic approach to treatment that addresses both trauma and sleep health.
"spreads and this is part of the epidemic aspect of this and and then people often don't know why things are different in their sleep but a lot of the time if you stop and you think and you talk about ..."
Weight and Trauma Connection
In this segment, Dr. Conti explores the relationship between trauma and weight issues, noting that trauma can hinder self-care and lead to obesity. He discusses the biological effects of trauma, including increased inflammation, which can complicate weight management and overall health.
"going on and I can't settle down and my sleep system can't overcome it you know if you give me a sleeping medicine for that I'm probably going to need a lot of it right because we're trying to make th..."
Empowering Change Through Knowledge
Dr. Conti emphasizes the power of knowledge in helping individuals believe they can change. He shares insights on how understanding trauma and its effects can empower patients to take control of their lives and make positive changes.
"years it's healthier it's safer but we have to be more than reflexive right there are a lot of reasons people don't sleep what about a link between weight and Trauma I've heard I've heard a ton of stu..."
The Process of Change
Conti discusses the process of change in overcoming trauma, likening it to training in a gym. He explains that just as physical habits require repetition to change, mental habits formed by trauma also need consistent effort to alter.
"vessels so it's not as clean and clear as we would like it to be we're not as healthy and this works against the health of our blood vessels and the health of our immune system so the soup we swim in ..."
Reframing Negative Self-Talk
In this segment, Dr. Conti addresses the impact of negative self-talk that often stems from trauma. He encourages individuals to recognize and challenge these harmful thoughts, reinforcing the idea that they can reshape their narratives and beliefs about themselves.
"the changes psychologically and the changes in self-care how do you convince someone that comes into your practice and tells you that they can't change they don't believe they can change how do you co..."
Transformative Healing Stories
Dr. Conti shares a powerful story of a patient who transformed her life after addressing her trauma. He highlights the stark contrast between her past and present, illustrating the profound impact that healing from trauma can have on one's well-being and outlook on life.
"know that's not true now it may be that if you're a science-based or rational person or you're an engineer or an accountant who's like I might try and get at you through this through the science right..."
The Power of Self-Talk
Dr. Paul Conti discusses the impact of negative self-talk and how it can become ingrained in our minds over time. He emphasizes the importance of recognizing these harmful thoughts and actively working to replace them with positive affirmations. This segment highlights the process of change and the necessity of understanding our internal dialogue to mitigate trauma's effects.
"still stay with us because when we say that word so many times we're strengthening memory connections that word comes to mind more it's stronger within us and then the only way it goes away is it atro..."
Navigating Trauma Triggers
In this segment, Dr. Conti explains how trauma can continue to trigger emotional responses even after significant healing work has been done. He shares personal insights on dealing with triggers and emphasizes the importance of understanding the naturalness of these responses. This understanding can help individuals navigate their feelings without reinforcing the trauma.
"away but we have to say the hold me I about the judge in the middle of all the opinions has to say okay I know I'm saying this to myself right but do I believe that or not can you really completely ge..."
Lady Gaga's Testimonial
Dr. Conti shares a powerful quote from Lady Gaga, who credits him with saving her life and helping her reclaim herself. This segment illustrates the profound impact of trauma work and the importance of support in healing. It highlights the human experience of trauma and the potential for recovery through understanding and empowerment.
"triggering in a way that inadvertently reinforces the trauma so I would say if you're having a bad day and you have a memory of something that you kind of know you got over but then it it raises the s..."
The Journey of Healing
Dr. Conti reflects on the journey of healing from trauma, discussing the bravery required to confront one's past and the potential for change. He emphasizes that everyone has the capacity to overcome trauma and improve their lives. This segment serves as an inspiring reminder of the resilience of the human spirit and the importance of seeking help.
"anyone to say to anyone else thank you my first thought is she's eloquent and generous of spirit and and I so appreciate that she wrote such lovely words and I and I so so appreciate them thank you wh..."
The Impact of Trauma Work
In this concluding segment, Dr. Conti acknowledges the generational impact of trauma work and the importance of improving lives through understanding and healing. He expresses gratitude for the opportunity to help others and reflects on the profound effects of trauma on individuals and their families. This segment encapsulates the essence of his life's work and its significance in the broader context of mental health.
"change you have some incredible celebrities um on the book inside the book that have given you quotes for the book people like Kim Kardashian Tommy Hilfiger etc etc lady gagar as I mentioned I'm guess..."