"are you saying that you recommend that a woman looking for a partner gets off the birth control pill until they find one yeah I mean researchers found when women who were partnered to attractive men w..."

"there's been nothing more instrumental to women's ability to be able to achieve independence than the birth control pill and so we're very Cavalier and just giving it to people oh well you should go o..."

"also know that it affects men in two different ways and this has implications for society around us I'll tell you why so so what are the alternatives for women let's dive down into that first this has..."

"Dr Sarah Hill what is the mission that you're on if you had to sort of encapsulate it into a couple of sentences all of the work you're doing into a couple of sentences and the impact it has on people..."

"conversation is is just for women no absolutely not no this is a conversation for women for women's partners and those who love women right and so I think that it's a conversation for everyone I have ..."

"around us like we already know know that birth control has had an impact on women's ability to do things like go to school and get Advanced degrees and we see this played out when we look at College c..."

"including my former uh Mentor David bus who who have talked about this idea that there's a mating crisis going on and that women who are becoming increasingly college educated and you know getting acc..."

"stay single and in fact there's a wonderful um book called all the single ladies that is about this very phenomenon and um women are increasingly choosing to opt out of long-term mating if they're not..."

"they're choosing the former they're instead choosing to be single instead of um having to partner with somebody who doesn't you know sort of meet what their exacting standards are are are they still h..."

"as in why don't they date men that are broke right yeah well you know we have inherited this mating Psychology from our distant ancestors who are very much more reliant on men for things like provisio..."

"exists right we do tend to see that men tend to control resources more frequently than women in most societies around the world um but this isn't because men are banding together and trying to keep ex..."

"and women often times um again you know a lot of this has to do with this this the psychology that we've inherited and and throughout most of our history women were caring for young children I mean th..."

"something like being a being an entrepreneur for example which is something that does come with a pretty big risk attached to it meaning that you know there's a big boom and bust um but it the the ris..."

"forecast um in terms of business performance they tend so but then also I think it's interesting because I had Kevin o who's the shark on Shark Tank in the USA say that in his portfolio of investments..."

"world in a way that's distorted in terms of assuming that things are going to be better than they are is going to allow them to be able to better attract mates for example because they're buying their..."

"who have access to 10 Partners this can lead to 10 times as many offspring as what they can have if they have access to one and this creates an asymmetry in the potential benefits um Fitness benefits ..."

"principle it refers to the fact that men's fitness can increase with each partner they have access to and for women it tops out after one right so the potential reproductive returns from having access..."

"psychology in ways that helps to promote um you know gaining access to resources in part because gaining access to resources leads to a greater Fitness return than what gets um is available to women f..."

"that sort of proclivity to have to want to acquire more resources so that I can support more people it's quite frightening I don't think that it's something to be frightened of I think that you know w..."

"have an investing father around their probability of survival is vastly higher than that of the children of women who do not have an investing partner around one of the other parts of the answer is th..."

"there's a 1 to 10 scale and you're a seven right all the qualities I'm just I'm I'm not talking about you I'm talking the Royal you and what if I to do to be an eight well the reason the reason the re..."

"on somebody's willingness to stick around and continue invest to continue to invest resources in just her you can increase your value from a seven to a nine or a 10 just by virtue of being willing to ..."

"throughout a woman's 28 day cycle does she always want a nice guy no so women's partner preferences and the types of qualities that women tend to prioritize in their choice of Partners do change acros..."

"which is when ovulation occurs so estrogen begins Rising sharply around day nine of the cycle and again the first day of the menstrual cycle is the day that um is the day that your period arrives so t..."

"that time in the cycle women have more sex during that time in the cycle women masturbate more during that time in the cycle and women become more exacting about who it is that they desire as a romant..."

"home a bunch of little plastic tubes um in a freezer bag and they had them spit into these little um saliva collection tubes every day of the cycle across two menstrual cycles on those same days when ..."

"there was this really beautiful overlap between women's estrogen levels and their preference for testosterone going to show that estrogen loves testosterone right so women during this estrogenic phase..."

"and something that I found really bizarre and no one's ever explained to me is I also read I believe it was in your book or might been in a in a video I watched of yours um they found that men who had..."

"caring for your partner so nice guys don't get laid as much so nice guys might not get laid as much and and when you look at short-term casual sexual behavior in particular we tend to find that the on..."

"friends attraction for me is such a delicate thing it's almost it's almost un it's well it is unconscious and I I we often think of attractiveness as maybe you know this body part on the person is a c..."

"levels of estrogen for example are more likely to put on fat around their butt and their thighs and less likely to put on fat around their waist um relative to women with higher or lower levels of est..."

"evolutionary basis for that I do know that research finds that men don't place as much of a priority on that that compared to women but I don't know that they penalize them exactly right if you had so..."

"physical attractiveness in their choice of Partners and in fact one of the biggest predictors of a woman's upward social mobility in the US is how physically attractive a woman is and in fact that's a..."

"so women are more competitive against beautiful women in the lens of society and stereotypically yes and and one of the ways that women compete against one another is by derogating their competitors r..."

"because attractiveness plays such an important role in terms of a woman's ability to successfully attract a romantic partner um this is a dimension in which women are fiercely competitive even when th..."

"it was a test that you did right yeah so this was I have um one of my former this is digging deep so um this one of my former students um who was really into and so he's a gay man um and just to set t..."

"any of the things that the birth control pill does to the brain were happening to me and so I went off of hormonal birth control after being on it for more than a decade straight and when I went off i..."

"know that the birth control pill was changing me that nobody else knew it either and so that led me to dig into the science behind hormones hormonal birth control um and how that changes women um and ..."

"me to present this information as a way to really Empower women to be able to make informed decisions about who they want to be right and how they want to regulate their fertility what do you wish you..."

"reason to change who you are um if you don't need the contraceptive benefits so on that first point then it changes who you're attracted to your sexual desire how well so mechanistically the way that ..."

"a few things to sexual like women's sexual psychology the first thing that it does is it turns off that estrogen surge that you get right prior to ovulation that's related to a heightened preference f..."

"specifically means that a woman on birth control is less likely to be interested in a guy who is what a guy who has um really masculinized features so for example if you see a face um that has high le..."

"real important question I mean it's very provocative cuz what does that mean and there have been some research studies that have looked at that exact question and one of the best studies that's looked..."

"the reason for this is the way that hormones influence us is they kind of nudge us a little bit one way or the other right they kind of nudge us toward preferring this type of mate or that type of mat..."

"women sexiest they think that they smell better they think that they you know that they look more attractive men will tip women more um at you know at strip clubs when the women are at high fertility ..."

"research that suggest that men's testosterone levels increase in response to the scent of fertile women right so when women are at high fertility if men sniff t-shirts that they were wearing or in one..."

"the brain and one of the things that we talk about is just how problematic um you know sex has become because there's so much of a a dance with like seduction you know it's like everybody knows when u..."

"attraction and sexual desire is all about sort of the pushing the pull of the masculine and The Feminine but also if you're if you're a low status male like I was at the start of my career when I'm 18..."

"men and women 50% agreed to the date right so I've been noticing around campus I find you very attractive would you go on a date with me 50% of men 50% of women said yes after that the sexes diverged ..."

"a potential Gene transmission opportunity because short-term sex of course can lead to pregnancy and if there is no expectation of further investment it's very low cost right so the costs and benefits..."

"um that's not necessarily going to not do them favors unless that also is you know an indicator that they have other qualities that aren't working for them you can have somebody who's very successful ..."

"Market if they're men have you got a daughter I sure do your daughter comes home mom I've tried my best and no one's interested right yeah no so for my daughter then I would say then you just need you..."

"mates what if she was 35 if she was 35 hm good question so if she was 35 what would I recommend like is this like what I would actually recommend to my daughter or do you are you trying to get at like..."

"would give do men find confidence attractive in women cuz this is I was thinking about this as you're speaking because I I can think of many people that I know many women and men but many women that I..."

"studied where they find that there's nobody more polarizing in the world than powerful women so for example you know somebody like KLA Harris who is running for president um people seem to either real..."

"that's going to correspond to increased reproductive success bit of a sort of correlated but uncorrelated Point people talk about daddy issues and in your work I've I've kind of seen hints of an expla..."

"preferences and decision- making so if my if my dad am I taking as a woman do I take cues on what a good partner is from looking at my dad I have not seen any research that has looked at that I've see..."

"this is the sort of thing that we tend to see in people who've experienced PTSD or trauma because people who've experienced PTSD in trauma their stress responses um get shut down by their bodies becau..."

"using hormonal birth control and these are things that often times are swept under the rug by their doctors who are prescribing it right the fact is especially especially for teenage girlss going on h..."

"seem realistic how old is your daughter she's 17 17 so she's right she's she's at the age now where she's making the decision you mentioned Ellie she's not on birth control yes how did you feel feel w..."

"um so there's not great right and they're not for everyone but for example um there's the copper IUD which is an intrauterine device that um that prevents pregnancy without changing women's sex hormon..."

"of a um synthetic progesterone or a progestin and that daily dose of that hormone is of course keeping the brain from stimulating the ovaries and so it's keeping hormones flatlined and so that is some..."

"research being done on things um that you know male contraception and not just male hormonal contraception I don't think that's the answer either because the idea of suppressing men's hormone producti..."

"to pay the largest cost your daughter she's 17 years old you said that when you went on the birth control pill it changed you and after you came off it you quote unquote woke up uhhuh so of course you..."

"and so that way you know later on my daughter's daughters and her daughter's daughter's daughters have more things to choose from than just change me or you know come at risk of a teenage pregnancy wh..."

"are and um yeah so the most frequent thing that I get is like thank you for making me myself again thank you for helping identify what I knew was going on when I was on it and I didn't have the words ..."

"this because I don't want people to give up right when the libido gives up right yeah no I no no I totally know what you mean no and I think that that's I think yes yes yes that she probably has a hig..."

"closing tradition on this podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest not knowing who they're going to be leaving it for okay and the question left for you is hm okay what is the..."

"and and also there's something which I was quite Illuminating in your work which is I think I used to be in the of the opinion that only women had fluctuations in their hormones and feelings and I thi..."