"every single marriage ends in death or divorce but it ends but the majority of them end because of slippage and what does slippage mean slippage is Jame ston is back the world's leading divorce lawyer..."

"advice I'd ever give to anybody James if you think about the divorces you've seen in court was there ever a case that broke your heart yeah it was a case that I won that I should have lost I remember ..."

"James our last conversation I think did almost 10 million downloads and Views across platforms and I can't imagine the amount of messages you get on a daily weekly monthly basis from people that are i..."

"voice to something that I'd felt and um it it was meaningful to me to do that and I I try to write people back and just say you know very briefly like I'm so glad that something in my perspective reso..."

"that um we we we want I think sometimes to have other people validate it for us or say it out loud because perhaps we're not as articulate about it but to have someone give voice to it gives us the ab..."

"your hair off like you and I said to my my friend who's the hairdresser so now what do you do do you try to talk them out of it and he said no he said I I kind of play a trick he's like I I do somethi..."

"inspirational things in the world because people are so much stronger and more resilient than they give themselves credit for when they're in the crisis of it was there ever a a particular case that y..."

"probably too long he retired a few years later the key piece of evidence they had was a photograph of the way that my cent of This Woman's face after my client had allegedly beat her up quite badly an..."

"punish their EX for their transgressions real and perceived like they want to their spouse was cheating on them and they want to just litigate them into submission they want them force them to spend a..."

"were times where actually I my kids were in school with people whose divorces I had I had handled um you know their parents but yeah I I I think um I do have a tremendous impact on on people's access ..."

"one in the world in any culture that if you go to them breakups that they don't go you know they get it like they get it my friend's going through a breakup at the moment um he's been with his partner..."

"now but I think that person actually sometimes deserves you know just as much sympathy as someone who got dumped because they're both someone who's experiencing a loss of sorts even if it's a loss tha..."

"a lot of people um I've handled a lot of divorces where someone uh breaks up with in a heterosexual marriage because they are coming out as gay or lesbian okay so they end the relationship so in in th..."

"started when someone said okay my husband is leaving because he's gay and now he's going to live as a gay man it was actually okay to then say yeah and he's a pervert and horrible human being and beca..."

"carry around when it comes to those breakups I've always wondered what heartbreak actually is because I I I flip between thinking Cas it's like you mentioned the word rejection is it a blow to our sel..."

"be honoring that mourning that feeling that seeing it as the transition that it is grieving the loss of it but also realizing that every ending is the beginning of the next thing and and there has to ..."

"heart be broken like this again I'll never open myself up like this again ever never this is the worst pain why would I ever do this loving anything is stupid it's insane you're opening yourself up to..."

"absolute hell and and when they're about to get remarried I go you know we should do your prenup so you don't ever have to do that again like I'll do it for free if you want like let's just do and the..."

"that you know again if you keep you know uh uh epicus the stoic philosopher said like keep death and everything horrible in your line of sight sort of momento Mory because nothing will bother you that..."

"highly likely when it comes to divorce so why not bring them back into the discourse and I'll tell you the truth I think one of the reasons why my conversations have become something people are intere..."

"that meant and I was terrified by it I was saddened by it and once again she had surgery she had all kinds of procedures and things that had to happen to deal with it but once again she just Mor mirac..."

"had been part of her life for so long so when I was in my late teens I think my mom had had three or four rounds of this this cancer thing I just remember thinking I I have to confront this I have to ..."

"one day it was my mother but it wasn't me and I have to tell you there's something about going through that experience when you're in your 20s when you're so self-centered and you're supposed to be yo..."

"that's been very um very much a part of my view of things that that um that perhaps we are just one Consciousness experience itself subjectively and that we we are just you know I heard what was it Pe..."

"challenging like when someone dies I've always thought to myself like when someone dies like the people who suffer are the living like the person who's passed they're gone now that's why I never belie..."

"again we don't know what's next we don't know what that will lead to like some of the worst things some of the moments in my life where I went oh my God I'm never getting through this gave way to some..."

"you just don't know you won't know you won't know until you're sitting ideally in a bed and there's a hospice volunteer sitting next to you and you're telling them all about the amazing meal that you ..."

"divorced they they they move towards divorce and eventually many of them go oh yeah this I saw early on we were doomed but you know love is so intoxicating we fall in love so fast you know and we real..."

"you you don't actually want to have kids oh CU I do and like oh you're you know like and they realized they were just fundamentally incompatible people have you seen any patterns there with compatibil..."

"direction that it goes in I had um you said something earlier which really peaked my interest as well which kind of relates to this is you said love is loaned and I I immediately thought of a friend w..."

"is when you say to your partner hey I I feel like we kind of lost the plot rather than hearing that as hey this is really important to me you're really important to me yeah work's important kids impor..."

"yours like this person's not yours this person is loaned to you and it's by the way it's the same with death like this person is loaned to you they could be taken away by divorce or by death they coul..."

"get up and go to the gym or do you want like sit on the couch and eat popcorn and watch something yeah let's do that you know and it's just sort of like you know you're just so it's love weight it's l..."

"time I was on I was saying I I found offensive which is happy wife happy life like I think there's this sense of like well what a man has to do is just sort of tolerate the like listen I I don't think..."

"room I think if they'd made a practice like that as something deliberate I I mean maybe it would make a difference I I think what's more important than the the structure of a ritual and the the time I..."

"that positive note and they said they've never had a week where they didn't come up with something that happy wife happy life phrase there must be a reason why it became cliche why it became popular w..."

"right people who' just said like yeah I know the hard thing to do and the right thing to do are the same thing but I'm just going to do the easy thing because it's like H what's more interesting to me..."

"different or you might want different and I think there's lots of ways to have that conversation how do we not have that conversation like what's the worst way to have that conversation the worst way ..."

"people end up in divorce court because the Lights Went Out in the bedroom I mean how many would admit it or how many is it really the case well because here's what I'll tell you I would say a good at ..."

"sophisticated camera in their hand you know so there's a tremendous amount of concern about you know this person has images of me photos of me tremendous amounts of um you know cheating has gotten muc..."

"came apart do you think marriages are good for love and like what's your view on marriages I've been thinking I think marriage and love have very little to do with each other I'm fine with getting mar..."

"much that you're like all right we're going to do our thing dude go have a wedding don't get married don't get married have a wedding because getting married and having a wedding the two don't have an..."

"the audience because it looks good for the audience like this is why we've become a culture with white teeth and rotting gums because we don't actually care what it is we care what it looks like that'..."

"each other and how much you mean to each other and like then the paperwork whatever the paperwork is the paperwork do you have celebrity clients who are literally in fake relationships yeah 100% 100 I..."

"portrayal of a perfect relationship correlates to a bad one if you know what I mean like I think the people that would sit on Valentine's Day sprinkle the rose petals then they'd get their puppy and t..."

"one of the things you see all the time and it's usually women but men sometimes are guilty of it is the photo of the person pretending that they're not having their photo taken so it's like they're ju..."

"is look fairy tales exist just like Disney and that's why we want it I get that and I think I understand why we do that but I think it's also like pornography it's an it's a I don't want to say an ide..."

"it from happening so why not talk about honestly like what's really going on like I have to tell you you ever you know again the antidote to some of this stuff is to say like who took that picture tha..."

"intricate snacks that they make for their children like all day long there is an idealized stylized version of every single aspect of our life that is so much better than the gag reel that we're livin..."

"just not in me and I and it's not only not in me it's just seems absurd to me marriage seems upset to me mar I understand why people get married I think I understand it better than most people but I i..."

"think it's an incredibly dangerous idea I I don't think it's a bad idea I think it's a dangerous idea there's a difference between those two things like skydiving is a dangerous idea I'm not saying it..."

"a function of the choice that they made of marriage and again I'm not saying don't get married but what I'm saying is when someone says I'm getting married why is it impolite to say why why you're abo..."

"so the polarity of male and female again I I know a lot of same-sex couples that have raised very successful happy children so maybe you're saying a two- parent family is a good thing that it doesn't ..."

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"deviating from it or when a red flag goes up like you go hey how come you're doing it that way remember we have that rule set and so I I like that I think prenups I think prenups even having a convers..."

"us you know I think there's real value in that I think that again the hard thing to do and the right thing to do are usually the same thing it's hard to talk about when this ends it's actually the thi..."

"but yes the the the wedding so so in in in the United States I don't know in the UK but in the United States we have these things they're called wedding bazaars or wedding Expos or wedding fairs and i..."

"you like you're getting engaged you need a prenup it's just have you talked about a prenup and information about that PR they would not even let me in the room and I because because it shatters the il..."

"like just we can't have an honest conversation and be optimistic divorce in the US is very different from divorce in the UK and I I actually learned well I think it is I learned this from watching sev..."

"success and I never realized it was like that I never realized that oh yeah oh yeah it's modifiable it's modifiable child's for example is modifiable every 3 years when there's a 30% change in income ..."

"pretty much but judges have a tremendous amount of discretion based on a variety of factors including things like what was the lifestyle of the children during the marriage what are the reasonable nee..."

"what I've always said is I mean first of all the systems complicated enough without people having to provide receipts to check the math of a person and what they're spending the child support on like ..."

"with you and there's so much legal wrangling and rambling to to do and what I'll tell you is it it you know I've had I have a client who spent somewhere in the realm of $100,000 in legal fees arguing ..."

"into the transaction whereas your time with your kids people could attribute whatever value they want to that I've had clients who fought over minuscal things about children that to me would be minusc..."

"years ago when crypto was first sort of on the scene when when I really should have been buying Bitcoin because it was like you know $3 or $5 um there there was a period of time where most divorc lawy..."

"someone's like publicly thought to be a billionaire and then you look at their bank statements during a divorce and you realize that they've basically managed to hide everything so they they're basica..."

"look very wealthy and are dead broke um and and I have a lot of those how does that play out in court when the wife finds out that their partner or the husband husband finds out that their wife was th..."

"divorce there the the so some of the things that people do in um in the ultra high net worth space for generational wealth preservation and tax avoidance have second order effects when they get divorc..."

"we've both benefited from the taxation of it so that's where it gets like a little um what I do is is a fascinating job because we work with you know very very brilliant forensic accountants who kind ..."

"like no he's a man he can work like he can work he's the men you'll get alimony and you're like no gender is a construct and sex is actually you know a construct so and you're a CFO of a company and h..."

"for a couple of years and then we divorce she's going to need cuz I now make a lot more money than her she's going to need some money to get her back to a place where she's back to her earning capacit..."

"reality is is those were people she had her most successful tour at the time during the marriage she had her most successful album at the time during the marriage it's all a question of where things l..."

"do as lawyers is not be invested in the percentage of the result personal injury lawyers like you slip and fall that's different last question for me is regarding me and my partner I never want to end..."

"that James we have a closing tradition on the podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest not knowing who they're leaving it for the question left for you is what is your most co..."