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The No.1 Celebrity Therapist: The WEIRD Trick To Get Your Sex Life Back! - Marisa Peer
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If you are fascinated with learning about the human mind, we recommend you watch this video with Gabor Mate next: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uPup-1pDepY 00:00 Intro 02:05 🙌 You can choose and change your beliefs to shape your reality. 03:01 🧠Question your beliefs and where they came from. Don't be afraid to lie to yourself if it's for your own good. Tell yourself you're going to do well, and you will. Your mind's job is to make your thoughts real. You can trick your mind into not feeling pain. 06:35 🧘🏼♀️You can trick your mind into not feeling pain. 07:17 🔁The mind learns by repetition. 11:08 Your brain has the power to change your sex life. 37:04 💡 How to know if you're avoiding something because of trauma or if it's not right for you 37:19 👩❤️👩 How to pick your battles in a relationship: Focus on meeting your must-have needs and be willing to compromise on the rest. 39:26 💡 How to deal with perfectionism in relationships: Remember that there is no such thing as a perfect partner. Everyone has flaws. Focus on finding someone who loves and accepts you for who you are. 41:32 💃🏼 How to attract the right kind of people: Be yourself and be genuine. People are attracted to those who are authentic. Be realistic about dating apps: Dating apps can be a great way to meet new people, but it's important to be realistic about what to expect. 45:44 💡 Don't be needy: The most attractive people are those who are happy and fulfilled with their own lives. Don't come across as needy or desperate for a partner. 47:07 🪞 Reflect on your behavior: If you've been unsuccessful in relationships, take some time to reflect on your own behavior. Are there any patterns that you can identify? Once you understand your own patterns, you can start to make changes. I hope these takeaways are helpful! 49:13 💡 The secret to finding love is to be happy with yourself. Focus on developing a strong sense of self-worth and confidence, and love will follow. 50:50 🧲 Confidence is attractive: People with a strong sense of self are very attractive to others. People can sense that you believe in yourself and that you're comfortable in your own skin, and they're drawn to that. 52:57 💡 Self-esteem comes from within: You can't find self-esteem outside of yourself. It's something that you have to develop from within. This means telling yourself positive things about yourself and believing in your own worth. 58:52 💡 Negative thoughts: Talk yourself out of it, not into it: This means telling yourself that your thoughts are wrong and that you deserve better. 59:59 💡 Understand the root of your cravings: Once you understand the root of your cravings, you can start to develop strategies for dealing with them in a healthy way. 01:02:48 💡 Choose to love it: If you want to make healthy choices, it's important to choose to love making those choices. This means accepting that you may have to give up some things that you enjoy, but knowing that it's worth it in the long run. 01:03:15 🧠 You're looking for the feeling, not the thing: When you crave something, it's often not the thing itself that you're craving, but the feeling that it represents. 01:05:19 💡 Review your memories with insight and understanding: If you have negative memories from your childhood, it can be helpful to review them with insight and understanding. This means looking at the memories from a new perspective and trying to understand why they were so painful. 01:07:10 🪞 Tell yourself that you're not that person with cravings anymore. The best way to deal with temptation is to become indifferent to it. 01:12:28 🧠 Hypnosis can help you change your relationship with food: Hypnosis can help you to change your relationship with food and to overcome cravings. It can help you to understand the root of your cravings and to develop new, healthier relationships with food. 01:18:35 Last guest’s question You can purchase Marisa’s most recent book, ‘Tell Yourself a Better Lie’, here: https://amzn.to/40BxpVB Follow Marisa: Instagram: https://bit.ly/3PkbAEJ Youtube: https://bit.ly/48h1L3h FULL CLIP (Steve gets hypnotised): https://youtu.be/rjaGOD03vK8 My new book! 'The 33 Laws Of Business & Life' is out now: https://smarturl.it/DOACbook Join this channel to get access to perks: https://bit.ly/3Dpmgx5 Follow me: Instagram: http://bit.ly/3nIkGAZ Twitter: http://bit.ly/3ztHuHm Linkedin: https://bit.ly/41Fl95Q Telegram: http://bit.ly/3nJYxST Sponsors: Eight sleep: https://www.eightsleep.com/uk/steven/ CODE: STEVEN (save $150 on the Pod Cover) Huel: https://g2ul0.app.link/G4RjcdKNKsbo Whoop: http://bit.ly/3MbapaY
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The Power of Beliefs
Marisa Peer discusses how our beliefs shape our reality and influence our success. She emphasizes that 80% of success is determined by what we believe about ourselves. Negative beliefs can lead to self-sabotage, especially in intimate relationships, where misconceptions can impact sexual health and fulfillment.
"I took 16 000 therapists there's only three things wrong with every person that turns up at your door first of all Marissa up here the worldwide renowned therapist was royalty International CEOs and O..."
Questioning Your Beliefs
In this segment, Marisa encourages listeners to question the origins of their beliefs. She suggests that we can choose our beliefs and that doing so can lead to positive changes in our lives. By challenging outdated beliefs, we can create a more empowering narrative for ourselves.
"world ourselves and everything in between but can we choose them I think so you know when I was here last time you asked me about my childhood which I don't talk about a lot it wasn't awful but it als..."
Repetition and the Mind
Marisa explains how the mind learns through repetition and how our thoughts can become our reality. She illustrates this with examples of how negative thoughts can lead to anxiety and poor performance, while positive affirmations can enhance confidence and success.
"from is that true who told me that belief and even if it's true for them does it have to be true for me you know I see a lot of women who say things like well you know if you're really famous and Rich..."
Tricking Your Mind
This segment focuses on the concept of tricking the mind to avoid pain and discomfort. Marisa shares techniques for redirecting thoughts to manage fear and anxiety, emphasizing the importance of mental focus in overcoming challenges.
"that's going to be so pain but you could I always read my phone and if you cough just as a needle goes in it confuses your mind and you don't feel it is that lying or is it just taking your mind somew..."
The Brain's Influence on Sex Life
Marisa discusses how our brain's beliefs and thoughts can significantly impact our sex life. She highlights the importance of addressing mental barriers to intimacy and how changing our mindset can lead to improved sexual health and relationships.
"one the Mind learns by repetition so when you think a thought a lot over and over again it becomes real if even if it's not real so if you think a thought my neighbor's driving me crazy they're so noi..."
Identifying Trauma and Relationship Dynamics
In this segment, Marisa provides insights on recognizing whether avoidance in relationships stems from trauma or genuine incompatibility. She emphasizes the importance of understanding one's needs and being willing to compromise in relationships.
"but it's also true you know you think a thought but and you your mind can't help it it has to make you know we do that we did that thing with a lemon didn't we where you think you're eating a lemon we..."
Perfectionism in Relationships
Marisa addresses the issue of perfectionism in relationships, reminding listeners that no partner is perfect. She encourages focusing on acceptance and love rather than unrealistic expectations, which can lead to dissatisfaction.
"relationships and everything in our life how do we know that it's not just some trauma response that we're having or if the thing we're avoiding or rejecting is actually not right for us when you thin..."
Attracting Authentic Connections
This segment focuses on the importance of authenticity in attracting the right people into your life. Marisa advises being genuine and realistic, especially when using dating apps, to foster meaningful connections.
"meet some you've got him even some just give them away it's really not not worth arguing about you reminded me when you talked there about thinking about meeting Prince Charming and Perfection I went ..."
The Importance of Self-Fulfillment
Marisa discusses how being fulfilled and happy in your own life makes you more attractive to others. She warns against appearing needy and emphasizes the value of self-sufficiency in relationships.
"aren't and then men say I'm looking for love where are you going I mean the weight were many women there they're all in the yoga class so if you really want to find love you've got to be proactive fir..."
Reflecting on Relationship Patterns
In this segment, Marisa encourages listeners to reflect on their behaviors in relationships. Identifying patterns can lead to personal growth and healthier relationship dynamics.
"search of something yeah definitely that's the problem right well it's it's one thing is to say Hey you know I'm I've got a great life and I've decided you know I'm ready to be with someone amazing I ..."
Finding Love Through Self-Acceptance
Marisa shares that the secret to finding love lies in being happy with oneself. She emphasizes the importance of developing self-worth and confidence as a foundation for attracting healthy relationships.
"they wouldn't they weren't even I got rejected a lot in that face from like 2025 and I reflect on it and go how come those five girls that I pursued I really wanted that like you know I'd start listen..."
The Allure of Confidence
This segment highlights how confidence is an attractive quality. Marisa explains that people are drawn to those who believe in themselves and are comfortable in their own skin.
"good as it ever gets I'm on my own in this amazing place in Zimbabwe in this amazing with two baths outside and two showers and two of everything I'm okay I'm really happy and I was married 10 months ..."
Building Self-Esteem from Within
Marisa discusses the importance of developing self-esteem internally rather than seeking validation from external sources. She encourages positive self-talk and belief in one's worth.
"self-elevator because of what you've done and achieved and you grew up a bit too and so your sense of self went up and people like people with a strong sense of themselves it's very attractive it's ac..."
Overcoming Negative Thoughts
In this segment, Marisa advises listeners to challenge negative thoughts and replace them with positive affirmations. She emphasizes the importance of self-worth and deserving better outcomes.
"self-value self-image you see self-esteem means if I say Stephen I hold you in the highest of esteem that's what I think of you but self is important I think of me and what happens is we start to poke..."
Understanding Cravings
Marisa explains how understanding the root of cravings can help in developing healthier coping strategies. She encourages listeners to explore their cravings and make conscious choices.
"feels out of your control which it was when you're a kid living in that house don't talk because I haven't talk yourself out of it oh yeah I have created a mess but hey I'm a super successful guy I'm ..."
Choosing Healthy Choices
This segment focuses on the importance of choosing to love healthy choices. Marisa emphasizes that accepting the need for change can lead to long-term benefits.
"choosing to say no and I'm choosing to love it I mean my parents are a bit like that no sugar sorry I'm choosing to say no to chocolate and I'm choosing to love it I'm choosing to say no to kids treat..."
Craving Feelings, Not Things
Marisa discusses the idea that cravings often represent a desire for feelings rather than the actual items. She encourages listeners to focus on the emotions behind their cravings.
"that makes him happy because it's something that was forbidden and so when he gets it he thinks oh I feel so thrilled because it did that when you look at it made you happy so you're looking for the f..."
Revisiting Negative Memories
In this segment, Marisa suggests reviewing painful childhood memories with a new perspective. Understanding these memories can lead to healing and personal growth.
"and anything you go about even if it's sad you're going to look at it with fascination with Insight with innate understanding of how those scenes then shaped you today so let's go so you're about seve..."
Indifference to Temptation
Marisa shares strategies for dealing with cravings by fostering indifference towards them. She emphasizes the importance of changing one's self-perception regarding cravings.
"disappointing lunch it's not me it's not me and will never be me ever again and we'll never be ever again because because I can have whatever I want now you're not seven your mother doesn't provide yo..."
Using Hypnosis for Change
In this segment, Marisa discusses how hypnosis can be a powerful tool for changing relationships with food and overcoming cravings. She explains its effectiveness in reshaping thought patterns.
"your body never says Hey knock me out with sugar the body hates it's the mind just like the Mind might go for alcohol or drugs until you can get into the mind and say you know it's easy to make a bett..."
Final Thoughts
Marisa wraps up the discussion, encouraging viewers to reflect on the insights shared throughout the video and consider how they can apply these principles to improve their lives.
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Resources for Personal Growth
Marisa Peer invites viewers to explore her website for a wealth of resources aimed at personal development. She highlights the availability of free content, coaching, and events designed to help individuals improve their mental health and relationships. This segment encourages listeners to take proactive steps towards self-improvement.
"I have so many schools having kids say that says this is change bullying in this school it's changed the way kids perform academies change the way they they behave emotionally they all have a little p..."