"Financial stress on the parents translates into physiological stress in the children they didn't inherit anything in terms of a disease they're just reacting to the environment people call Dr gabomate..."

"my dear little man only after many long months do I take it in hand the pen so that I may briefly sketch for you the Unspeakable horrors of those times the details of which I do not wish you to know t..."

"books um and much of your work about the importance of that early context it's really been I mean the center point of all the writing that I've read recently and I know because it's it's so evident in..."

"year began in which my grandparents were killed in Auschwitz and my father was away in forced labor and my mother and I barely survived and a story I've told many times but that's where my brain is de..."

"that in this book The Myth of normal I actually talk about a an experience with psychedelic mushrooms at the with the therapist this was not that long ago seven years ago maybe um when I'm at least 70..."

"I don't have to any longer be a a subject to that interpretation of myself in the world so awareness is one step it's not adequate but it's an essential step towards um letting go that one belief that..."

"so that's one major shows up another way it shows up is if um in my relationship I don't feel as satisfied my wife doesn't please me the way I like her too um then I get angry but why am I getting ang..."

"know so you're a workaholic doctor great you make more money and all these people respect you meanwhile you're holding yourself on the on from the inside and you're not available for your family you k..."

"so then you have to go out there and work to prove yourself to prove to the world and to yourself that you're good enough so that going back to your first question about how these things show up in ou..."

"together and I went to work in the downtown east side of Vancouver British Columbia which is more North America's most constantivated area of drug use we have more people coming from anywhere in the w..."

"it challenges you to do your best when you know your best isn't going to be saving anybody's lives but it's to help people live a life of as little suffering as possible and as much dignity as possibl..."

"people were more along the lines that you describe where they really get to see what's important and so I mentioned this a number of times it sounds strange and I don't recommend it but I've had patie..."

"and people very often realize that throughout their lives they had abandoned who they were they lived the life that didn't wasn't meaningful for them and are on that they reconnected with themselves i..."

"unfolding as a human being I was so compelled by that when I when I read about that because um I've started to really understand the value of creativity in all of our Lives regardless of whether we ha..."

"and whatever form that takes I mean you know you don't want to see me do art you know unless you I can do a pretty good stick figure you know but but I'm married to a nurse um so that Community doesn'..."

"reward not the achievement or the medal that I might get although yeah not the external well look look I went through that in the writing in this book so here I am this is you know the writer who writ..."

"working on it so once it's done it's out there doing its work or not doing its work but I don't have to hang my own sense of self on how the book does because at that point that's an outcome you can't..."

"healthy nor natural in fact it's hurtful to us so that we're using the word normal in in a way that doesn't apply in the narrow medical sense it's accurate but in a broader sense that which we're used..."

"relationships and our situation in the world and and our history that also means when the circumstances are abnormal you expect people to be sick you know just as if you gave animals something that wa..."

"abnormal circumstances so that's the first point and I could go through the same kind of dialectic with all manner of physical and mental diseases by the way so-called the second point is why do you s..."

"diagnosis there's no blood test you can do and so on so illness is a is is a is a model I mean it might yeah somebody's really depressed even suicidal perhaps and they might need pharmacological Inter..."

"therefore the when the immune system turns against the body as it does in rheumatoid arthritis damage system actually attacks the body is that a thing that's got a life of its own or is it a process t..."

"immune system with the nervous system and with the hormonal apparatus I mean it's just so obvious I could change your hormonal state in this fifth second right now without touching you just by screami..."

"research so what I'm saying is that this this way of looking at what we call disease is a process is so much more accurate scientifically actually and understanding the Mind Body unity and then you kn..."

"because I remember reading in your book about the uh the study with the rats yeah um and how they could you tell me about that study how the stress study with the rats and how the parents um treatment..."

"mothers passed on their genes to the infants no they didn't because if you took the infants of mothers who groomed beautifully and put them with mothers who didn't and conversely it took the infant Ra..."

"experiences speaking about our early experience is the first word in the sort of subtitle of your book is the word trauma um it's a word that I've I've talked about a lot on this podcast and I've you ..."

"um they are a yoga teacher and a meditation teacher and a psychologist and an artist actually and they grew up in some orphanage here in Britain where they were racially taunted every every morning yo..."

"happens to you but what happens inside you this is the wound people can be wounded not just by bad things happening to them but small children can be wounded in loving families where they don't get th..."

"and you talked about you know how um an anomalous early upbringing can create sort of abnormality in an adult a lot of the people I sit here are successful because of some kind of abnormality or at le..."

"can give you the example of a Donald Trump who had a really traumatic childhood I mean his father was a this as described by his psychologist niece Mary Trump his father Trump's father who is Mary's g..."

"and the other got the same psychological reinforcement or the thing missing from power and work and money Donald Trump learned that the way to survive is to be aggressive and harsh and competitive and..."

"um being judged you know well that says something about my childhood you know nobody's born a liar as we say in this book there are congenial Liars but there are no congenital Liars no one day old bab..."

"about from the 18th of October to the 16th of November American Express is offering new card members a 60 000 Point membership reward as a welcome bonus when you join when you spend a minimum of 8 000..."

"yeah um where does that come from took 25 years and a lot of like introspection but but most people they're living unaware of the puppet master of trauma that is driving their life that's a really goo..."

"trauma if you want to revisit that question is is liberation interesting Liberation and by reconnection by reconnection of Liberation from the from the inexorable power of the unconscious which is lik..."

"awareness of them ultimately if we realize that this Puppet Master is just a desperate little person trying to get you to survive the only way he she they knew how when you were small when they were s..."

"that's already a huge step now beyond that yoga meditation um nature um therapy of all kinds Bodywork of all kinds like like somatic experiencing or um or um cranial sacral treatments or even massage ..."

"associated with maybe going back or revisiting an early experience that they just think it's better keep the doors shut yeah um and get get to tomorrow that's true um to which I have two answers one i..."

"not the but it's strange to say not that I recommend it but it's possible even to use heroin in a non-addictive way I don't personally get it and I would never want to but the addiction is never in th..."

"long term is is escapism the right word to use then for it if we're because it it doesn't sound as much like we're escaping rather than we are seeking something I'm seeking relief from a certain menta..."

"have to look at that person's life and what the benefit of the addiction is that's something that you say in the previous book that I found is it's a flipping of narrative where you say we should be a..."

"it that isn't harmful to you you know so but you you start with what's right about it what are you looking for and what you're looking for is always valid and how one would go about how would one go a..."

"its own nature because that's what we're meant to do we're meant to be here as ourselves you know and and and when we nod ourselves because we had to abandon ourselves or betray ourselves disconnect f..."

"said it's it's because either because from an early age we were escaping um some kind of you know reality in order to help us to survive or then the other thing that happens a bit later on in life is ..."

"but here's the issue as a child you had no choice but to go for acceptance and being approved of and being received um under any under any conditions no matter what you had to give up of your authenti..."

"the cost of being an authentic I can't make that decision for anybody else nobody can make that decision for anybody else but most people will find that choosing authenticity as benefits Way Beyond wh..."

"to agency first thing in your in your work throughout your work you use alliteration as a lot as a way to kind of summarize and make ideas really memorable it really helps it's an old trick it's a tri..."

"re-labeled it I don't have to work to feel a sense of validation but I have a belief that I do that's right and then I reattribute it which is the second R which means I get clear on where it's come f..."

"you they're not you yeah and then revalue um reevalue it really what it should mean or maybe more accurately devalue because you say what has been the actual value this belief that I'm not worth it wh..."

"one of the um one of the really interesting things I wanted to talk to you about is is ADHD yeah um I've had a few of my friends and my close Friendship Circle diagnosed with ADHD recently um and then..."

"now there are some diseases there are genetic one runs in my family muscular dystrophy if you have the gene you're going to have the disease my mother had it my aunt had it that's a genetic condition ..."

"so if we're diagnosing more and more kids these days I think it's because the parenting environment has been much more stressed and that's backed up in this book where you mentioned that study of 65 0..."

"quickly and I say well if in the short term the child wants the medication to function better and no child should be forced to take medication and medication are never the final answer at the very mos..."

"childhood and you know I may say my book in ADHD scattered Minds does outline some ways to do that um you might find that you don't need the medication uh so much anymore or not at all perhaps number ..."

"all you you came off the medication for your add yeah um because I'm a because I'm just not that medically well versed what's the difference between AD ADD and ADHD it's you know it's a kind of a conf..."

"toxic and if so why what measure shall we use you know if you use the measure of a number of kids being medicated a number of adults having chronic illness autoimmune disease a number of students Univ..."

"say doesn't hear a single lecture in their medical training about the impact of trauma on physical or mental health which is astonishing given that it was a British psychologist Dr Richard benthal who..."

"doesn't take more well they take some training perhaps but not more than what teachers are getting now so that's sort of a take in education I was thinking there about the importance of doing certain ..."

"that's what it would mean which means if I'm sitting there for five minutes I don't know how to reach for the cell phone to occupy my mind and now in the midst of this busy book tour and all the speak..."

"you're sure if we should they call that neural marketing neural marketing can you get that yeah they work on your brain to get you know to get you addicted but it also comes from an earlier discomfort..."

"with that I am I am I am working on it I'm working on it I think I've got to become more cognizant of the cost of that addiction well exactly to really I know one of the costs is meaningful connection..."