"men who ejaculate 21 times or more a month are less likely to develop prostate cancer Jesus Christ why it's because Dr Reena Malik board certified urologist expert on sexual health and a rock star in ..."

"work what is it that you're seeking to do so what I'm seeking to do is have people understand that sexual health is health I think we have so much misunderstanding about one what is good sexual ual He..."

"define sexual health so sexual health is sort of an individual thing but most people would say that you are able to have sex you are able to have an orgasm you are able to have pleasure and achieve th..."

"understand our bodies as it relates to our sexual health no not at all I will tell you so I talk about for example um how it's normal to have erections at night or have even nocturnal emission so have..."

"experience on this subject come from so I'm a urologist by training a board certified urologist so we are the medical and surgical doctors of the genital urinary tract so we're essentially the plumber..."

"floor as well MH what was your sort of training with the pelvic floor so when you do a fellowship in what we call pelvic female pelvic medicine a lot of what we do is related to the strength or weakne..."

"health they don't ask if for orgasming they don't ask if for ejaculating those kinds of things why should they be asking about that because I think of a doctor as I don't know fixing other parts of my..."

"probably similarly in women although the data is not as we don't have that data for women that maybe if they all of a sudden are developing problems with arousal that maybe there that's an indicator b..."

"particularly good at is taking on some of the big myths as it relates to sexual health and I I want to start with one of the big myths around Sexual Health which is this idea that we all think other p..."

"around sex which I thought i' um get your take on is about pain during sex it's one of the sort of most uh popular questions that I often guess get whenever I speak to someone that is an expert on sex..."

"vagina expands during sex so how much does it expand by and how long does that take because I think men don't really understand this process a lot of men just like to rush in there you know yeah yeah ..."

"people are learning about sex through porn porn is entertainment it is doctored it is not real and I think people then take that and they say why did not my sexual encounter not look like that why did..."

"you will continue to have conversations so what I tell people is don't have conversations in the bedroom not right before not right after sex you want to wait until you're out of the bedroom not durin..."

"on it right if they love you if they're with you there they want what's best for your relationship they're not like hiding they're not hiding their head in the sand and being like Oh I'm like they're ..."

"did we get here mhm um and it's and it's it feels like a long way back from that point it is it's going to be right because you let it sort of dwindle and you didn't talk about it and it's going to ta..."

"know that it exists because again media attention is like you see someone who jump them you're you're horny right away you have sex and that's not what happens all the time and that's okay and so like..."

"you'll get to a point where oh you remember you recall that connection you used to have and then you can actually find that Joy again of connecting sexually that's the sort of the aspect of desire whi..."

"thing but the other thing outside of physiology is that stress even though stress is um sort of an abstract thing stress affects our physiology right so when you have a lot of stress in life whether i..."

"yourself like if I give a guy who has completely normal testosterone levels both free and total testosterone all completely normal and I give him testosterone probably nothing's going to change becaus..."

"it's sleeping replenishes that testosterone and so if you're getting either less number of hours of sleep or poor quality sleep meaning you're you know you're not feeling very rusted when you wake up ..."

"that's not a large percentage of people right but it's certainly you know it's like I'm so healthy I'm the healthiest I could ever be and I'm having low testosterone why is that and what about food an..."

"and there's a lot of reasons for that one is that you know Society has become more sedentary we're seeing people less acve getting more and more metabolic conditions like diabetes high blood pressure ..."

"removing chemicals from my life in terms of what these kinds of things that I'm holding the metal mug in front of me and then the plastic bottles I drink from could be having an impact on my testoster..."

"been decreasing over the years so if you look at the last 50 years you'll see that the average sperm count has declined almost 50% and luckily the average sperm count is still high enough for fertilit..."

"there's there's certainly concerns there and I think you know we have to as a society do better in terms of the things that we can so we can control diet we can control exercise we can control those t..."

"so um definitely as women age fertility goes down and we know women are waiting longer to have children so that's a big part of it that Society has changed women are working and and prioritizing their..."

"it's certainly important to be evaluated and seen by your doctor regularly and on that point of um seamen volume is there a way to increase that and is it similar to what you said about increasing tes..."

"see is it can actually cause harm if your pelvic floor is tense like we talked about earlier or it can cause pain and dysfunction if you're tensing tensing tensing and not relaxing and so if you don't..."

"depending on how often you're doing it so yes orgasm itself can be very beneficial for pelvic floor strength one of the big sort of myths that I've always ways I'm yet to answer is the impact that our..."

"production and so you can see that you know people also discuss like oh what about boxers or briefs what about putting and so all of these things can increase the temperature around the scrotum which ..."

"on my sperm count yeah it does and it's interesting because there's I think we'll see more of this as we're seeing the rise of I there's benefits to saunas no doubt but as we're seeing the rise of peo..."

"and so there you know people do report other benefits and so I tell people if you're getting other benefits from abstaining by all means go ahead but don't do it for don't like White Knuckle it to gai..."

"from that because maybe my partner doesn't want to have sex or maybe I have more of a sex drive than my partner or I don't have a partner like let's be realistic like if you don't have a partner you'r..."

"November yeah so I think it's I'm not a fan the reason being is because I think it makes people feel like it's something they have to do and if you want to like I said if you find benefit from abstain..."

"it to prove something to someone else yeah because I mean the way that I've had it explained to me is that it's some something about seman retention gives you some clarity of mind or something because..."

"right now cuz I I heard that rumor many years ago and I think I assumed it was correct I heard the rumor and this was of evolutionary story that was attached to the rumor was that once upon a time whe..."

"times a month um no but you know there could be a benefit yes and so uh having a healthy and it may be that those people who had sex more often or jacine more often were just healthier in other ways r..."

"of research on the subject of porn and where conversations at with the subject and one of the quite startling things is a lot of people are trying to figure out how to stop watching porn um a lot of p..."

"think there are definitely issues with it one the big one that I've been very vocal about is children seeing pornography so um we know now that the average age of a boy seeing pornography is 13 and th..."

"sort of a a movie that's not real life and this is not what sex is really like and so I think that has um implications for um for how they view sex and how they then try to have sex with partners and ..."

"difficulties and awkwardness of having a first a sexual encounter with someone that often happen and so it can become a way because it does relieve dopamine just like anything else release dopamine it..."

"you've taken a spatial video which you can now take on the new iPhone and also on the Vision Pro it basically feels like a 3D video and it's like nothing I've ever experienced before one of our team m..."

"there's going to be so many people that are using that as a way to uh masturbate and to watch pornography and there and it's going to reduce the amount of people that are seeking real Intimate Relatio..."

"um applications of this in terms of fear so if you are really scared of something you can actually desensitize yourself using these VR headsets and it can actually be very powerful so I was just speak..."

"other people right that we're we're hardwired to be around people and to be intimate with people like that's how our brains work so I'm hopeful that that will that will still remain to be the case but..."

"the genital tubric before you're assigned sex that genital tubric when you're when you become a man that genital tubric becomes the penis and the shaft and the glands and in a woman it becomes the cli..."

"reliable route for orgasm now how you stimulate it is sort of very individually specific but typically oral stimulation vibratory stimulation uh uh manual stimulation all those things can work but tha..."

"feel a little different now people like to call it like oh you're getting clitoral orgasm or a vaginal orgasm it's all an orgasm it's just a matter of what stimulation is causing the orgasm and so I t..."

"and the interesting thing is when you look at sexual encounters and you look at men and women having sex for the first time uh the woman will orgasm 45% of the time the man will orgasm 95% of the time..."

"conversation okay we're done here so um so yeah cuz nobody wants to talk about they literally want me to tell them like this is what you do a b c d instru man so um but yeah ultimately um all of those..."

"doesn't then you can again just like that's a very good description you'll lose that little air in the balloon okay so in order to increase female pleasure okay we need to understand the person we're ..."

"and when you ask people what the average time and this is a hard question because people think of sex as a whole encounter and when we do it scientifically we look at sex from penetration to the end o..."

"having because as we mentioned earlier when you have an orgasm you're actually like strengthening your pelvic floor a little bit like you're you're Contracting those muscles so actually probably the m..."

"it can also be lead to something like prolapse where the it's like a hernia in the vagina where the pelvic floor sort of is so weak that now the vaginal skin and the organ behind it is sort of bulging..."

"same thing you have to squeeze for 5 seconds relax for 5 seconds right you actually have to um relax and just like any exercise you don't want to overdo it so I tell people start lying down so that th..."

"therapist CU they're just like a when you go to the gym alone you can do it or you can go with the personal trainer they're like the personal trainers for your pelvic floor how do I know if I'm having..."

"muscles so you can actually so if you if you put your finger in the rectum if you push right straight down in a man you're feeling the prostate and if you push on the sides at a variety of different a..."

"so the original traction devices that were studied you would have to use them for 6 to 8 hours a day for several months to see a 2cm in inrease in length now um that may be enough for some people they..."

"when you look at the data in terms of what people think it should be men think it should be about 6 in in terms of women where we found the data about what they prefer um is sort of interesting so whe..."

"will my penis get smaller as I age so not if you are healthy so in terms of how do we maintain our penal Health right your body does a really good job of trying to maintain penal health because over t..."

"actually read about that study it says that a study shows that men's average ere penis size has increased over the last 29 years from 4.8 in to 6 in mhm that's pretty pretty dramatic that's huge yeah ..."

"important thing to take home is they are so diverse they're as diverse as your fingerprint your labia is unique to you and it is not um there's no script of what it should look like uh and so I genera..."

"because the studies are not perfectly designed we have a closing tradition on this podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest not knowing who they're going to be leaving it for ..."