"nobody even knows there's over 20 kinds of orgasms that you can have there's that's a oneand done but then there's oh oh oh oh oh that's the queen of orgasms and to achieve that there are very specifi..."

"Susan what do you do and why do you do it well I teach passionate love making techniques by publishing books and programs and audios and uh I do it because my passion is Passion uh I like to say that ..."

"often I recently had a young woman come to me and say um all my friends talk about sex being so great but I haven't experienced that and I wonder if I'm asexual because it's just not that good for me ..."

"because if you're thinking about sexuality because sex has been so censored nobody even knows what's possible if I say to someone you know there's over 20 kinds of orgasms that you can have they'll be..."

"had to bet yeah what that question in that email was and all you know that is that it's from A lady called Suzanne what would your guess be my libido is gone and um I feel really guilty I feel really ..."

"I would say quality generally more so than qu quantity you can fix when you fix quality right quantity quality comes before quantity that's true yeah you have a a really atypical journey to becoming a..."

"shortly after that why sex why in your early 40s did you decide to focus on sex when previously your career had been about many other things did something happen yeah it did right I was married to Tim..."

"sexual trauma teach you about sex well it taught me that I am who I've always been inside myself and that no one can take away who I am and my power and my sovereignty I've learned that one can move t..."

"dissociation cuz I think yeah I've heard people tell me privately that that's the issue that they had in their sex life for many many years with that they were basically disassociated from it what is ..."

"went to sex love and intimacy from the human awareness Institute we did ecstatic loving we did orgasmic meditation we did all kinds of things and it just lit our sex life on fire once we got some skil..."

"on that moment where you and Tim are struggling in the bedroom yeah how long had it been since you you had had sex or how often were you having sex at that point well it petered out over time so when ..."

"intercourse you just need to learn a couple things that's the great thing about sex it's like have you ever heard that phrase a little hinge that swings a big door it's like it's like an example of Le..."

"again in that moment when you and Tim hadn't been having sex so you sex had completely dried up I really avoided him as much as I possibly could I was giving him what I now call Mercy sex what is that..."

"trauma as well in your situation I did and how did you go about fixing that I I did a number of things um the first thing that I did was I worked with a sexual trauma therapist and I also worked with ..."

"was able to move through things and mostly what helped me was being able to say I remember one of the one of the things I had to do was I had to write down every single sexual trauma Injustice frustra..."

"not that's not the right therapy for any everyone people need different types of therapy and remember I'm not a therapist so what I do is I deal in the how do you have hot sex not in the let me fix yo..."

"and that is my parents never told me about sex and they never showed that they were sexual I feel like I came from a very stoic uh repressed best family and it's impacted my sex life and one of the th..."

"got two more questions on this point before we move on to some of these real specific things we've been talking about I read that Tim cheated on you at the time he was having an affair I don't even li..."

"a lack of knowledge he didn't understand how my body worked I didn't understand how my body worked once we learned that we learned technique and I was able to stay present and connected with him and n..."

"we were like hey this is so much fun let's have some sex with some other people and so we did and it was not without its challenges it's never without its challenges when you you know when you go beyo..."

"I'm not here to tell anyone that what I do is better than what they do I am not a polyamorous proponent or any of those things it's just what I do but Steve I mean I'm a sexer I'm I stand up here tell..."

"offensive TR like someone someone turns to my partner turns to me and goes listen you you are out of shape and I'm just not feeling it yeah well why wouldn't your partner turned to you and say first o..."

"really start to get good at offering up love and noticing what you love about someone um you just you're in love more you're just in love with people more you're in love instead of in judgment we reac..."

"partner I'm going to play you a few more from Eliza because I think this will help sort of uh Phil theix will puzzle a little bit um there's another one here work um doctor's appointments and yeah we ..."

"think to yourself oh I better get it now because I'm gonna get old and die and in your 60s you go oh I'm I'm still alive and I did get some good sex and I it is good and I'm looking forward to my ' 70..."

"our bodies we have body image issues that we fight against and she Eliza is probably beautiful but she doesn't think she is she thinks that she doesn't look good anymore and then she thinks that makes..."

"these body image issues is it usually the person saying they're unhappy with their own body or is it the partner saying they're unhappy with their partner's body it's almost always the woman saying sh..."

"feel like two ships passing in the night as Eliza said in that video yeah what is step one yeah Step One is often just holding each other one of the techniques there I have these two techniques that c..."

"but what couples forget is to start with holding and being held because when we do that we generate oxytocin and the oxytocin is kind of like the antidote to all the cortisol we're pumping out constan..."

"arousal system and it takes 15 20 30 minutes when it's been a long time between love making sessions to get out of your head into your body calmed down because arousal it's not I'm going to push your ..."

"it in all my relationships I've seen guilt guilt guilt yeah like the comparison to other people who are just not you it can do so much harm and I I think in my current relationship we've basically ban..."

"if he starts saying to her how about Thursday night I bring home some Chinese we get the kids in the bath we get them in bed we divide and conquer we put them down I'll go in take a quick shower I'll ..."

"it's just safe boring sounds so boring so variety novelty erotic adventures erotic play dates learning new things together when you have this seat this Foundation of trust and safety and good communic..."

"in my I've been there in my sexual history where I was with a partner and um I remember first introdu introducing the idea of using sex toys yeah and my partner responded at the time many many years a..."

"let's do this sex life bucket list and see what does sound good to you and let's just start with your A's I'm perfectly willing to to meet you where you are with the things that might be on your bucke..."

"times when we have a date we'll sit down and and or or if we have a date with a third person so I have a boyfriend as well and the three of us make love and we'll get together for our date and we'll w..."

"young man okay who is a diers of listener and this is his situation I feel like when whenever I am having sex with someone that she's not really having as good of a time as she's uh acting like um and..."

"you know when you're driving a car you're gassing you're braking you're looking in the rear of your mirror you're looking out the front you're steering you might even be shifting and uh golf swing you..."

"trying to make her have an orgasm is not really what you want to do either you need to get out of your head and into your body you got to slow down you got to get present because if you're thinking ab..."

"your partner which one of these is like you know easy money it's like it's going to hit the spot yeah well there's a couple of different ones one of the things that I think is really important is Yoni..."

"there you go this pulse plate technology actually penetrates the vva the outside of her Yoni and it feels great on the clitoral structures it feels great on the mons it's a headach so it feels great o..."

"because how does sex feel if you're flaccid not great it feels great when you're erect and that's because it has more surface area that sends more signals to your biggest sex organ your brain your bra..."

"there are locations to touch clitoral vaginal anal breast gasms nipple gasms throat gasms Etc and then there are techniques to use so for female ejaculation which all women can do uh there are very sp..."

"sensation and this is back to sex as a mindfulness practice now she's right there she's in the orgasm and now she's like like oh oh oh oh oh oh that's a sound that's a CB yeah I recognize that right t..."

"see how long we can go and you start having orgasms that keep getting bigger and better until you're just tired you need to stop you have to get some water you need to recover and I remember when I wa..."

"how' you go about that I just give him the program it's 21 erotic play dates you learn the it's a f stroke technique but I would say start with sex life bucket list start with trying some toys start w..."

"massages just really lay her down get out the oil I'd like to tell you about this I brought these for you so this is um Foria and this is my pleasure protocol and there are three components to it the ..."

"I used to think I used to not really like my breasts and I've got great boobs and I didn't think I did because I'm a woman and we think there's something wrong with us everybody in the world wants to ..."

"so much better about everything yeah everybody feels like that this is just a process of learning what to do and I'm so glad that he wants to and he's aware that he wants wants to learn some things um..."

"head to perfect ted.com Q4 is always the busiest period of the Year for me and my team the window to finish projects before year end starts to close and naturally pressure starts to build it's often a..."

"really three different things but people use them interchangeably libido is your health how healthy are you one of the most common things that happens to couples is someone becomes ill emotionally phy..."

"question for one of my listeners um it was a guy and we had this question come in quite a lot from our audience um and it was about routine where is it this one here this is Ethan okay yeah it's just ..."

"would say to him is that again his partner is working without a lot of knowledge so she has much more fear and so the control that she's putting onto her sex life like it's only this way it's only in ..."

"it's being touched in a loving way that feels safe so that you can begin to start those neural Pathways to the brain and back to the biggest sex organ again which is the third time you touched me in a..."

"where does masturbation and pornography fit into all of this is that a good thing for a relationship is it a good thing to be doing alone is it something that's full of shame we had a conversation on ..."

"it ruins the real thing I do because I don't even want to watch it first of all Time Magazine had an article that said that uh they did a there was a study that um randomly sampled something like 340 ..."

"want to let it out you just press it whoops uh oh there it goes and all the air goes out if you put this inside your vagina it feels incredible to have that blowing up inside there and filling up all ..."

"of the last things I wanted to talk to you about oh looks like I spilled a little oil on this I'm sorry this is so interesting because this is Basis DX now I have to say uh full disclosure in this par..."

"they say no I'm not going to therapy cuz talking about the bedroom to a total stranger is not the easiest of things to do I think I would say especially for a man I'm not saying just just therapist ar..."

"rest of the relationship better and also I think men have a bias where we don't we're not typically the ones to initiate these kinds of things yeah um sometimes we might seem like resentful or reserve..."

"hindsight I've come to learn that it's a really good thing that she does sound the alarm it's a really good thing that she is sensitive to unmet needs because unmet needs for her are probably unmet ne..."

"we've covered a lot of terrain well we have a closing tradition on this podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest not knowing who they're leaving it for and the question that l..."

"I've had this conversation with you what shifted for you there's quite a few things I mean so the first is I have this new this new set of toys that I'm going to be um bringing home which is interesti..."

"something that you know I'm five six years into my relationship now so it's time something I think about a lot I think about keeping it fresh and yeah and stuff like that and I talk to my friends a lo..."

"taken all these different approaches my one friend he knows who he is he listens to this and always sends me the clips he likes stifles a lot of the women that he ends up with yeah insecurity he will ..."