"So, I messaged my closest friends. Can you tell me what question you have that you wouldn't ever say out loud? Give me a few. How can I be satisfied with just one sexual partner? I have my partner. Sh..."

"Esther, with all that you know and with all that you study and with all that you research and write about and think about, what is it that concerns you most? What is front of mind for you when you thi..."

"we do lose that social ability to to connect and to have happen stance, what price do we pay? Why does life get harder? And how does it get harder? Because we are social creatures. We are wired for co..."

"dissatisfied with the choices they have for connection. Now, I'm sure we're all to blame, but when I when I scroll through my my feed on social media, one of the things I've seen lately, I saw it just..."

"degree, social rejection. Maybe, maybe. But you know, the original app, if you really want to understand the gamification of that, it was really done as a way to not have to put yourself out and have ..."

"you can kind of see this is him here. This is the image of the of the swipe. So it says this guy swiped 2 million 58,000 times. He got 2,000 matches from that. Mhm. Which turned into 1,200 chats which..."

"the apps just over five years almost six years. Yes. I mean the first thing if if you sat in my office and you told me this I would not spend my time discussing what you're doing on the app. I would d..."

"It's part of the challenge that I have so many apparent options. Now, as someone on these dating apps, it's kind of like going to a when you go to like Asia or Thailand and you get the menu and the me..."

"rejected so much, as you said, I've been kind of demoralized. The energy has been taken out of me. So now it's just become this sort of cycle of just well then don't do it then go then do something el..."

"issue when you mentioned men there is there an issue that gender roles have shifted and when we think about the plight of men they are you know this I think the single biggest killer of men over the a..."

"seen change in the conversation around men and masculinity? Like what are the different problems that men are talking about in when they speak to you that they weren't speaking about when you started ..."

"year. That's triple the rate from 2008. Millennials and Gen Z's are having less sex than any generation since records began despite more access to the dating apps we talked about. Yeah. In Japan over ..."

"pornography that I will like desensitize myself to the real thing. Depends how much, depends if what else is there in your life. I mean, it's not an all or nothing thing. But what I'm saying is social..."

"from the British Medical Journal says that married couples in the UK and US report a steady decline in sexual frequency. Yes. Since basically the internet. Yeah. So here's how this works. How much tim..."

"down today, I messaged a group of 10 of my closest friends. I put them all in a group chat, and I told them I was going to be speaking to you today. So I said to them, "Can you tell me what question y..."

"I think the one that I would probably uh address is also uh about the infidelity and about your guilt. That's that and also to this person read state of affairs because I spent many years writing this..."

"attracted to your person, you know, ask yourself what is that about? You know is it are you paying attention? are you? Um I think people often just think that attraction is something like I look at yo..."

"that men whisper to me in silence, which is they can't seem to get their and listen, I'm saying men because my the majority of my good friends that would whisper to me are men. So it might be the case..."

"I think much of it is actually he and many others want the best of all worlds. And in life, we're not willing to accept trade-offs. Yeah. So, and you're saying you're saying make a decision. If you wa..."

"What would you say to him? What's his name? I I should call it name. Let's call him John. John. So, yes, John. It's we are we are not necessarily uh curious only about one partner. Many people would l..."

"so used to the relationship being off." Okay, put the put the mic on. Okay. Yep. All right, John, here's what I would suggest. Um, I think that you can just simply say I, you know, Steve approached me..."

"I made the biggest investment I've ever made in a company because of my girlfriend. I came home one night and my lovely girlfriend was up at 1:00 a.m. in the morning pulling her hair out as she tried ..."

"couples in your practice increasingly say either member of the couple that they don't like having sex? Not more than before. I wrote a book 20 years ago that was all about the dilemas of desire. You'v..."

"What element of responsibility do I have in making sure that my relationship with myself is great in order to have a great relationship with someone else? Cuz a lot of people like to blame. I think th..."

"time and not every circumstance but that voluntary connecting and and and being engaged with other people whereas being engaged with oneself. Have you seen at the gym how people are super engaged with..."

"gender roles reversing, have you seen men get increasingly emasculated by the success of women in your practice? And have you seen also the woman get sort of frustrated with the man because he's now n..."

"What is confidence in that regard? Confidence is when you are able to see yourself as a flawed person and still hold yourself in high regard. That's from my friend Terry Real. But it is a great defini..."

"[ __ ] up. I had um a lady called Dr. Lisa Feldman on the podcast recently who's, a, neuroscientist, and, one, of the things she said to me has really stayed with me and I think about it a lot and I t..."

"So, if I made you president of the entire world and your job was to prevent the the social atrophy, this decay of social connections and relationships and you had to take three steps on a global basis..."

"started doing a lot more work with businesses and companies around sort of their working culture and connection and relationships in the workplace. All of those things you just listed there, are they ..."

"have a tradition on this podcast where the last guest leaves a question for the next guest, not knowing who they leave it for. The question left for you is how are you going to adapt to a world of AI ..."