"it was really shocking that nobody else was doing anything creative with sex work like for me it was it was like breathing like you're just doing sex and you're bored I'm like what do you do I don't k..."

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"from looking at your reading and listening to your interviews you seem to be very defensive and worried about being good scientists yeah definitely well you're like methodology yes and funny enough yo..."

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"rigorous about sex like and I I would consider uh sexual urges to be kind of elusive to introspection in a way that's a little bit disproportionate to a lot of other things like you could like you kno..."

"this down you tweeted I do not understand how to have normal conversations with people in person if I'm not on drugs so I guess so let's both agree to not have a normal conversation I guess assuming y..."

"seems to be very driven by how can I construct an experiment to test this hypothesis yeah something like that yeah but aren't there's some things especially that have to do with the human mind that ar..."

"construct studies that ask different questions like uh you know just having worked with the autonomous vehicles a lot the uh the trolley problem gets brought up and I don't know you can construct all ..."

"you've uh actually to jump back you don't you believe that Free Will is an illusion um so uh why does it feel like I'm free to make any decision I want well it's a cool illusion I think it's probably ..."

"I actually happen to know like everything about you really yeah like more than you do it's interesting that's fascinating wait could you could you solve my problems yes all of them I've did thorough r..."

"multiple people um it's something that's not certain uh like almost definitionally not certain like we don't actually know if there is you know an internal experience so my argument is that like when ..."

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"about oh the women and the men and the difference the vivid dreams and the markets I forget what the market oh because I can I can perfectly predict your future yeah then it's not fun I like the road ..."

"you you go I feel like you get uh no I actually that'd be a really interesting experiment like what are the limits like are we all capable of becoming Psychopaths essentially like I like to believe no..."

"like if I had the power to do anything I think I would probably want to have a life very similar to where I am now yeah yeah I mean there's it's like with Uber like it'd be probably more convenient to..."

"feeds feeds into this productive effort of making things better and it somehow makes the vision of the things that are better more intense having experienced shitty things yeah so we talked about Free..."

"it but maybe what are the things you remember the good and the bad of your childhood of your maybe interaction with your father yeah my dad probably has narcissistic personality disorder and so it was..."

"sure that like I wasn't actually thinking on my own or like being able to deviate from anything anybody ever told me to the degree that it's still ingrained in me like I once was a friend we were trav..."

"so so it's very confusing to refer to it as suffering because there's so many painful things we do today that are placed in The Narrative of a greater purpose that like I think I would agree with like..."

"um people say that I I should it's very nice yeah yeah anyway um but I'm already yeah what did you call it resting happiness day yeah harvesting happening happiness yeah that's a good that's a good wa..."

"flourish so like you just notice that and it's like I mean I think people with like depression uh learn that or like probably with trauma too is like there's certain triggers like if you're if you suf..."

"was not conscious at the time this was my hindsight story but I believe that like being exposed to a culture in which I had the capacity to believe like allowed my brain to actually seriously consider..."

"yeah so anyway I wasn't I don't think I actually had the capacity to seriously question my faith even though I thought that I was questioning it quite hard until I got into an environment where it was..."

"to make given where I'm at right now but you're also assuming like there's causality in the universe time is real yeah that like that first of all the thing that your senses are perceiving is real you..."

"human being well like do somebody that you respect to you because they're significantly smarter than you and can you imagine believing an idea that you've heard them talk really disdainfully about lik..."

"the other person is is uh is smarter maybe that's maybe that's how I justify for myself I just I'm also a fan of conversations because like I've seen just listening to conversations it seems like a gr..."

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"see yes more than more than like a laptop keyboard but like that you don't have to one of the the main things is you don't have to move your fingers at all So like um so like for example a lot of peop..."

"directly cared about what I was learning and I would be able to ask questions and they would like really respond to mom's group and it was like a homeschooling groups there were a bunch of moms who ar..."

"had to work up wake up like 4 a.m you know work on weekends too fluorescent lights it was terrible and so I did that for about a year and I was like this is I was trying to grip my teeth and be like t..."

"tried various self-employment stuff I'm like maybe I can do product photography or something but no it's Idaho you know nothing and if you're like a 19 year old no experience in the outside world at a..."

"people but because I think like public school I got the impression based on them talking about it that sort of like beats out any sort of deviance from you like it more so than your because I I got th..."

"to that like uh you know how they say that there's um it's it's not just homeschooling but just like Catholic girls and so on just because like there's moral you're forbidden to do certain things like..."

"like intense Rebellion through things that people don't typically consider to be rebellious at all sure like I wore a bikini yeah insane uh I just like walked around in it and like I can do this yeah ..."

"thinking like for from first principles I think I mean like I'm not saying it was a totally a clean thing I'm sure that I was experiencing Society telling me this is bad but you have to know like I wa..."

"have your own effects filter on your brain and once you realize that there are some uh like the foundation of your beliefs were wrong then everything might be wrong and you're kind of just doing yeah ..."

"I would I'm it's like kind of cringy but I would like I would like walk up to guys or send them messages like would you like to have coitus is what I would say you would say quarters I said that I mea..."

"on in my genital region and so one day my mom sat me down I think it was like nine or ten and she was like you have a there's another what and you're going to bleed out of it is what she told me well ..."

"are the the pros and cons of camping and how does only fans map into this did you switch to only fans at some point I did yeah that came for like five or six years and I burned out eventually what are..."

"but there's gnomes on the like big nose or small gnomes like lawn gnomes one gnomes and you seduced the lawn gnome on the chair the no missing and there were some yeah gnomes in the chair I I did a ph..."

"really shocking to me that other women who are doing this sort of thing is that uh still a little bit of the case that there's not as much like because I for my sort of outside of perspective that see..."

"yeah the way you ask questions which is not trivial to do like for uh it's actually very difficult to do like good survey questions and I mean we're joking but like yeah almost like Poetic because you..."

"it's like it's like you've become gone through fire and then again I I'm testing the phrasings all the time like what happens if you slightly shift phrasings and so I'll do the same question test over..."

"little PTSD streaming like I've considered Twitch streaming I try a little bit and and I'm I'm like I haven't fully integrated the fact that you don't have to be like maximally entertaining every sing..."

"well I wonder also if there's a ways to design a survey that gets at the um at the victims of sex trafficking also which is they presumably have public access to the internet and I wonder how many of ..."

"was exactly for that reason yeah that's really really powerful to know that like you're not you're not crazy for thinking this is a bad relationship right or I think like the actual question is like c..."

"conversation is not always great um meaning this this conversation is anything but normal okay and uh that was a tangent on a tangent about a niche passion which is really fascinating that you're play..."

"like maybe I do but I'm interpreting it differently I don't know the thing is I don't know what causes me to have such a different experience from these women that are like really feel really uh hosti..."

"hit you I think that's also at least part of it maybe all of it yeah yeah I think there's there's some evidence for it I think often like guys will do a thing to me and I'm just like that's a thing co..."

"know not everybody did definitely people reported having antagonistic experiences but when I was skimming I generally really liked people are really nice to me had a great time made friends so you als..."

"and after winning a bunch of money to see if their happiness is higher yeah I think like it's by some measures it wasn't by some it wasn't no I mean like basically almost genetically so nature nurture..."

"Pollyanna all the time it's always like finding the good and everything yeah I mean like something bad would happen you were a happy kid I was really happy kid yeah even in uh in the harsh conditions ..."

"FetLife Instagram Tick Tock and you are still advertising creatively so like there's like sexuality but there's also like creative sexuality yeah and ideas too yeah like one of the really popular ones..."

"to be like like a really like quite a viral hit is there um is there stuff like you mentioned to edgy like Mr Beast tries to keep it PG yeah do you try to keep it PG-13 well with the sex advertising s..."

"quickly after following your work but yeah I actually have done a lot of studies on what is vanilla like I've done a couple different surveys where I ask people like how taboo is this thing and I have..."

"um so guys are less into power dynamics than women are and you can do power dynamics as long as it's like handed to them some guys obviously some guys are like very dominant like prefer like having to..."

"you feel right now I don't I don't know their watch because it's not live yeah that's true it's not live so like it might as well be like they could be watching I feel like there's just the two of us ..."

"future wife with my yeah you should make an application application an application for dating you I mean maybe this is more of like my strategy and less yours but you have like a wide enough audience ..."

"like you can take it from like a thousand people to 20 people and then go to dates with them but the filter is so anti-romantic like what this is true this is not the Romantic narrative that uh that y..."

"was awesome and I would never I never would have gone on a date with him without the survey can you can you if from memory or we can look it up do you remember what kind of questions were on the surve..."

"okay because I just assume most people don't and there's a lot of things that are kind of like most people don't you're putting together a survey a systematic server to understand compatibility wouldn..."

"and the guy that I did was that he took the survey he was waiting for the piece to come to come out of the oven and so it was important that it was short are literally pizza coming he's literally wait..."

"and passionate and creative and all in some other dimension that you might completely Miss but you're like because I wonder if there's any basically you're saying compatibility like hard lines that yo..."

"multiple long form text input based on an interestingly phrased question is you get to learn how to make a better survey I think you would appreciate that like you start to see how they're actually in..."

"like Twitter itself right I don't know if you've I've played with the Twitter API a lot can you just get the download the I'm just I'm stuttering now because the Twitter you download Twitter no there'..."

"questions you should be asking yeah and also highlight interesting anecdotal things when like two people freak out at each other and just argue like a thread that goes on for like a thousand messages ..."

"thing oh yeah what was your casual sex uh survey actually haven't looked at in a while I think I just asked people about a whole bunch of fetishes because you don't want to be obvious about yours beca..."

"paying a lot of money you're probably gonna be like you're the kind of person likely who's going to haggle a lot because you don't respect her yeah but anyway that aside it's a little pet peeve for me..."

"difference really or no so when I was doing it full time it was my only source of income it changed quite a lot because I was really incentivized to have repeat customers so I'm like okay if I'm my pr..."

"that and so in that case that's interesting so the money is there but yeah okay the money is basically a filter for somebody who's taking this interaction seriously yeah it also so there's an interest..."

"you buys a coffee at a Starbucks it's like all right great but it has to be plausible like you have to like trick my brain into like having it actually be incentivizing for me like China or something ..."

"the degree that I am sort of just like a result of social programming in all cases that like when I'm with a client back when I was doing it full time like it doesn't feel significantly different it j..."

"um so that's so fascinating what's like the most you've ever seen somebody charge uh um I I think I am you're like the but at this point it's because I'm post work like I can I can just put it in the ..."

"and I think the thing that I described earlier like when the homeless guy approached me and asked you know can you go home with me and I was like are you trying to have sex with me right now like what..."

"you just created extra layers extra entry points if he had gotten more meta yeah it might have been like okay well no I'm gonna exactly I mean see there is there is something uh yeah that's AIDS into ..."

"rare to see does it feel honest somehow yeah very honest like like right now in this moment I'm feeling like kind of like nervous energy because I'm talking to you and this is a unique situation and l..."

"maybe because if I was kind of drunk so you know I probably was very okay I would like to actually have like footage of that conversation so we can actually interpret what actually happened because it..."

"okay but also on the book a reading list oh okay listen uh no romantic love like a deep intimacy for somebody else like it like a deep connection with a human being that is also I mean yeah with polya..."

"other yeah and for somebody that has surveys and statistical analysis we're interested in like what's the likely thing here versus like what's possible if you say possible it's like where anything's o..."

"okay so what are the different so the butterflies boy I'd like to push back down two to four years on the butterflies but okay I mean statistically not everybody I butterflies don't give a fuck about ..."

"you have the friendship and on top of that you have like what is that that's a sandwich the love sandwich the love sandwich okay I'm down to call it a love sandwich okay Sam would you call a sandwich ..."

"aesthetic perspective yeah well me but part of it in conversation you don't want to ask a question that has an answer fully always do you have an example of a question that has what's the meaning of o..."

"actually answering it I see yeah the struggle is the place where we discover something not not the uh not the destination yeah okay it's working it's working okay so what is the role of the love sandw..."

"the rent for the house or the mortgage or whatever uh a lot of people do have primaries so it's very common to have like X like prescriptive like I'm gonna get married to you and you're not allowed to..."

"brain blows stuff out of proportion yeah and it's good to like a partner like I have partner right now who's like dating this other girl and he like really likes her and you like went traveling with h..."

"myself right like that the other woman is better than me like maybe that is an actual possible reality which I don't want to be dealing with my life in a way where I'm like pretending like I'm only ok..."

"um can you understand the pros and cons of a monogamous relationships yeah I mean depends on how you defend if you're like hey uh we you can do whatever you want but you and I are going to spend the r..."

"like there's a power Dynamic that like you can be quite influential in a relationship and convincing your partner and it sure sounds like you're honestly agreeing to a thing but you're not really agre..."

"don't see monogamy as like this definitely not a default I would actually like honestly would probably see polyamory as a more natural default yeah I mean I guess it depends on what you mean by defaul..."

"prediction predicting women and women were that moon or more off women thought men cheated much less than they actually did and but both of them were off but like the male Gap was significantly more s..."

"topic because it seems that we're very like we were talking about very afraid of this topic I like to be really honest with ourselves about it the the whole like uh academic research is afraid of it b..."

"elaborate so can you maybe talk about the methodology of how you got the 500 000 like what uh like how did this come to be yeah this is I might go into way too much detail about this because I thought..."

"difficult if I'm when I'm dealing with I think it was like 850 fetishes um so I did a couple things to spot check I like I did a couple questions where I asked um like in the detailed in the survey bu..."

"wow so like all it took is that kind of incentive what did you like uh at first have to pay people for the server foreign people that took it I'm mostly younger so usually early 20s um predominantly f..."

"then you actually it's possible that you also don't want to know that yeah this is true but on average hopefully that doesn't I mean there's these are really difficult like what what is this some inte..."

"might be able to do more research on and you're making the data available yeah yeah I'm doing it slowly because uh it they're so I ask about so many questions it's like not very anonymized so I'm real..."

"it I don't know but when I'm talking about the the thing like my conclusions are that like uh transsexuality is really unique um it's not like like sister or CIS woman or man sexuality at all and me t..."

"strongly see I already forget the results but I feel like women have more preference to be submissive yeah this is one of the things that got me into researching fetches to begin with because I think ..."

"binary yeah it's like either one is or is not rape and so you had a friend whereas like this felt rapey yeah she's like confused about how to interpret it I think people look to the terms to know how ..."

"yeah I mean like people it's a dangerous thing to assign a word to to an experience like even or to a relationship like saying a toxic relationship yeah that can completely destroy your perception of ..."

"hard for me it made it worse like it's crazy the power that terms have I think we didn't talk about this but how did you how did you begin to overcome uh the the trauma of your childhood you mentioned..."

"a long time ago I did a survey on streams versus LSD so I asked people and people had slightly stronger experiences on LCD overall I remember but rated the experience is about is equally good um but I..."

"it's uh it's about like talking in that way about reality about the world yeah sure it's like overfitting there's the narratives that you make out the world become really Vivid and so you pattern matc..."

"beneficial for you and I think I just for some reason happen to have some brain that's constructed where I don't get a belief construction at all so oh that's really interesting I believe construction..."

"stick to like find a frame that like I guess if you don't believe constructing you're escaping your previous beliefs aren't you doing like just some you're picking up a bigger frame yeah in some way y..."

"there's a negative competition to that usually uh yeah I mean I think maybe I chose the term kind of poorly because I think to some degree people are always a little bit manipulating each other but I ..."

"no oh my God I have to like figure out how to read your facial expressions I'm still learning there's none there's none you don't have any I'm like uh I'm not even like a Chad gbt I'm like gbt one wit..."

"was told because like this is what Satan does and it's taken as evidence for it so like the attempt to move away from the belief like re like rebounds on you and like causes you to be more embedded in..."

"people who are narcissists and sociopaths and Psychopaths out there and um I'm not even sure if people like that because I think they get good at frame control but I don't know if they're aware they'r..."

"this what's the timeline like how long does it take to go through your whole childhood I don't remember I mean time's really messed up when you when you do that I was listening to the soundtrack of th..."

"for a lot of human beings like childhood is full of those kind of mini traumas big or small and like working through that it feels like what a lot of life is about is trying to work through that and i..."

"he wrote a book on on trauma he's an incredible brilliant psychiatrist yeah he's probably agrees with your kind of oh that's cool I should read it yeah you should um maybe even talk he's a fascinating..."

"points he has in his head and it's like of course that's what doctors do but it's cool as the doctors basically the doctor of the mind and um have like an actual like like qualitative data and be able..."

"seems like almost acknowledging to yourself that things happen um like I've said uh I think I've said this before my brother who I love very much I tried to set me on fire a few times and I I think I ..."

"drugs depending on the person allows you to more vividly bring it to the surface and then depending on your genetics be able to find a better frame that's fascinating human mind is freaking fascinatin..."

"three days in an Airbnb as our first date I was like yeah and that was romantic like the Bold leap into oh leap into a really intense date I think you mentioned it I think you mentioned something also..."

"that was in my early 20s people my friends at home were taking prediction markets on whether or not I was going to get abducted and killed yeah what was that like I mean what what um you've traveled q..."

"this was aggressive so across the globe with you didn't even stop in I just hurled myself yeah absolutely along the way I kept eating myself in various places yeah and so at one point I said Okay Cupi..."

"express agency when you eat LSD like the only thing you actually do anything else is like put the tab into your mouth and then you just kind of Scream the whole way after that yeah but I I there are a..."

"um I'm jumping around here Twitter poll have you ever hitchhiked you posted this Twitter poll out of all that was a big list of Twitter posts why did you pick the hitchhiking one I don't know because ..."

"he had some fake before of society I'm not sure okay but some people are like hey we think you're cool come to this party you're like all right I'm allowed to come to this party and be really weird bu..."

"submit a form with and then you just randomize it and then select one and then you just if it's terrible you just go randomize it again like the first not terrible option yeah sure somebody's like dro..."

"big five and the way that they used to do IQ tests I've heard is that they do factor analysis you know where they ask a whole bunch of questions and then they run calculations on the data to like sort..."

"natural spectrums so I had other people submit questions for a very large survey and I took the first I think 1100 and barely filter them at all and then I just had a whole bunch of people answer them..."

"I think most most people's past is like complicated he's a pretty good bird no you're right I do agree that like there's a level of obscued obfuscation wow that um is hard to see through but this look..."

"but it's still a crutch yes but I feel like the past is more like talking about your dreams it just it's not it's a crutch that doesn't care it doesn't empathize with the other person's experience of ..."

"I'm not sure but the thing my guess is that in general it's better to let people do the thing that feels good to them and then the environment will naturally modify to fit this thing and then if we ha..."

"I'd like to maybe make it a million years yeah but can't torture you for like a million years what if you're the last human left yeah that is i that's true the thought of like civilization ending and ..."

"I'm like so you're like I I guess the the window of what you consider to be beautiful about life is not limited to this particular definition yeah let's explode like let's make our Consciousness is hu..."

"who's here to destroy the the the the quality of the conversation I think it's like a common misconception about rationalists is that they're kind of like Spock like ah we used to press emotion we're ..."

"how do you feel about this conversation what could we have done better I like the conversation I was a little worried coming and I was like what if he'll only asked a couple questions and then we don'..."

"question what's the meaning of life to want things to to search to be in well I think your curiosity is like somehow getting to that yeah to one thing it's like curiosity like you don't know I want to..."