otherwise i think like you've got to sometimes you have to push the envelope there's been too many generations that have been defined by what people think you know we can achieve or you know limitations that have been imposed because of people not being able to think or dream big enough and i think it's every generation's responsibility to show the endless possibilities to the next
hey everyone welcome back to on purpose the number one health podcast in the world thanks to each and every single one of you that come back every week to listen learn and grow today's guest is someone that i've been looking forward to interviewing for a very long time i believe that she was actually one of the first names on my list when i launched the podcast
two years ago of someone that i was really excited to sit down with so to me this is a super special moment and i think you're in for a real treat today's guest is the one and only priyanka chopra and today we're talking about her new memoir unfinished for the two people who are listening who don't know who priyank is priyanka is an actor singer and film producer
she's been in the entertainment industry for over 20 years that spans both the east and west her bollywood superstardom began when she won miss world 2000 and she hasn't slowed down since from starting her own production company and now having so many successful hit movies and tv shows in the us and of course most recently marrying her beloved nick jonas priyanka's story is remarkable to say
the least and you can pick up her book unfinished on february 9th please welcome to the show on purpose priyanka chopra jonas it's all right everyone forgets that you know it's it's an it's a new addition and um it's you know i've had 35 years of my life as just priyanka chopra most people know me as just that so you know it's going to take a second it's fine i i've been watching you
for so many years since i was since i was a kid and obviously you were you're a kid too uh when you started in the industry and so i've been hearing your name and saying your name for so long and but no no offense nick my wife is also the same she she has her he has my name last on her name too so people forget me all the time so we have something in common uh but
it's not really forgetting you jay it's forgetting your last name there's a different truth true thank you thank you for the clarification that that makes my my ego feel a bit better uh but honestly it's such a joy to have you here i meant what i said when we first launched the podcast you were you were one of the first names that i wrote down as someone that i was excited
to speak with and i saw a few days ago on instagram you posted a picture of yourself at age 17. and it was it was a great throwback and and i was wondering two things the first thing is what is a piece of advice that you wish you had at 17 and the other way around is there a piece of advice or wisdom that your 17 year old self would potentially share with you now uh where you are today
yeah i have actually answers for both um what i would tell that 17 year old you know i was bright-eyed bushy-tailed i'd just been selected into the miss india pageant i'd just turned 17 and i was like oh my gosh i'm going to be a model and i'd never thought about that my teenage vanity was peaked and what i would have told that girl is you know um just breathe and just chill a little i was very hard
on myself because everything that i sort of everything that i've made so far you know with the encouragement of my family has kind of been self-made you know i had to learn on the job nobody i didn't know anything i came from in high school in an engineering background or i wanted to be an engineer um and life just kind of had other plans and you know you kind of
are you gonna swim are you gonna sink and i will always swim so i've just kind of it's i think that what i would tell i used to really take it very seriously i berated myself a lot and i was hard on myself and i would tell my younger self chill out time heals everything it'll all be fine and what she would probably tell me is to not get caught up in um in my schedule and in the multiple
things that i juggle and not forget the excitement of doing what i'm doing sometimes it's hard you know after you do it for such a long time um you have to remind yourself to be excited and be inspired and you know feel sort of alive instead of it being a job and yeah i think that's what she would tell me i love that that's a beaut both of those are beautiful answers and
i wanted to ask that to you because i think often we think like oh we have the wisdom now and we can advise our younger selves but in the way you shared your answer there's there's so much wisdom coming back and and i think that's a great reminder for everyone now i saw a video again on your instagram where you just received the book a couple of days ago i had the digital
version up until this morning when i finally got the physical version so i've been uh flicking through on the digital version it's nice to have it physically here i i'm intrigued that you know what chapter of your life you spoke about excitement there what chapter of your life was the most exciting to reflect and write upon because it's such a fascinating thing to to write a memoir
but which one which part of it was your favorite of going through um my childhood because i hadn't thought about it for a really long time you know i was in fact just writing the memoir was so healing and weirdly um sort of inspiring i i just remember never remembering you know i sat down to write it and i had never thought about what had happened in my life i never looked back i was only
running you know um as you know um the entertainment business our jobs are very transitory you know it's not consistent it's not stable what you are as much as your next job you don't know where your next check's coming from you don't know where you're going to be moving so you know there's a constant like hustle and you're running all the time and i just never looked and when i
started writing the book i was forced to look and i was very excited to write about my childhood because i could taste it i could smell it i i remember um those mogra flowers the raat kirani that used to be in all the army barracks i remember you know the feeling of the the cold walls they used to always be white the garden my bike um moving to a new city every two years
it was that was it was such an um a time of adventure for me and a time of sort of unlimited possibilities you know um and i was raised with that my parents always made me feel like i could the world is my oyster you know i can go anywhere i want um and that was such a time of wonder you know yeah well it's it's beautiful that you have such strong vivid memories and it sounds like
and and i'm thinking about our audience that's listening and watching or will listen and watch this afterwards it sounds like everyone needs to revisit their childhood or remember and and write a memoir even if it's not a memoir that gets published and goes out to the world it almost feels like reflecting is really important what what helped you were you speaking to
friends from back then or were you speaking to your you know who who are you connecting with to to reignite some of those memories oh everyone in the memories you know i called my mom my brother my cousins who i grew up with friends from the time i corroborated the stories because memory is a weird thing you know i remember it a certain way somebody else remembers it a certain way
and there was this one story i remember i was kicked out of moma for touching a painting when i was 15 16 or something and i remember that day being wonderful because we went to the statue of liberty after and like you know um we we got hot dogs and we were walking around new york city and i remember it being like oh i touched you know a painting that's so cool that
i touched i think it was a starry night and my cousins who were with me remember the day completely differently they were tortured embarrassed my cousin was an art student she was like you got me kicked out of moma and like i was like wow i didn't remember that at all well that's brilliant was that your was that your rebellious side or was that a mistake or was it curious just curious
i just i feel like rules sometimes and trust me i mean i'm in a public profession i have to follow them but um you know sometimes we conform to rules that just sort of stop our ability to grow and unless it's like hurting someone or something which by touching starry night i probably was hurting the painting but at that time i didn't know well the value of the paint the value of
the painting just went up it just went up but you know like otherwise i think like you've got to sometimes you have to push the envelope there's been too many generations that have been defined by what people think you know we can achieve or you know limitations that have been imposed because of people not being able to think or dream big enough and i think it's every generation's
responsibility to show the endless possibilities to the next yeah you've definitely done that i mean you're you're constantly breaking rules in in your career and your journey starting from touching that pain to get moma all the way through today but was that was that an energy and a mindset that you believe you had at that young age or is that something you think you
gradually developed where did that confidence come from because when i hear you say today it comes with confidence obviously it comes with having done it and i think there are a lot of people out there who may feel that way but they then also feel insecure that are they the right person to do that do they have permission to do that there's there's something that then still holds them back
what was it for you that allowed you to go all the way well two things my parents for sure i grew up in an environment where i was not shamed for my ideas um at 12 years old i told my parents i wanted to live in america with my aunt and you know my parents were like bye peace you know it was fine we had a logical pro and gone conversation i was raised sort of to have
opinions even if the room was hostile um so i think that really gave me a sense of self and i think it's really important in parenting for us to treat our children like they're developing their own minds because that's so important for them to have a sense of self and feel like you know they're not robots but they're actually thinking and they have a say in their decisions it really
lends for adults being able to have a sense of confidence and second to really understand and accept that confidence is not something you always need you don't you know so put it in a backpack it's okay give it a break let it be in your purse let it be in your wallet let it chill for a second feel insecure feel like scared just feel afraid feel vulnerable um
but when you need the confidence and you walk into that room you'll have it because you didn't keep using it you didn't need to constantly have a you know cover of or um sort of like a uniform of confidence you don't have to always show confidence you don't have to exude confidence you never you don't you just have to pull it out when you need it and then when it's in the reserve
it's so much more powerful because you're allowing yourself to be all the things i feel insecure i'm terrified that this book is coming out it's the first time i've ever written and i've never been so personal in my whole life i've been a public person for 20 years never scratched beneath the surface i've gotten away with sharing whatever i wanted to share about my life and not more you know
my story is people think they know it but they really don't and i've managed that for 20 years but i think i now on the other side of 35 was feeling a sense of confidence and a sense of self in my capabilities in what i bring to the table it only took 20 years for me to get there but i got there um and i think all those insecurities that i address in my book don't scare me that
much anymore as they did at that time as you know they worried me and i was like i don't want to talk about it nobody needs to know about my life and you know but now i'm at a place where i'm just like well it's still on my terms and um you know i'm hoping that people maybe get to know me a little bit more than a fashion meme or a headline or something like that
yeah i i think that's what i love about it from the few pages that i've i've flicked through i definitely see you allowing yourself and that's that's the power of a book though and so i relate to that insecurity my first book came out last september i know we know your first book i was i have it i was so oh that's awesome i'm so glad you have it i was i was so nervous so i can i know what
you mean by that and especially for you at this stage in your career of yours is a memoir mine had part stories it wasn't a memoir so i can only imagine but i see you doing that and books are so powerful for that and that's why i really hope everyone who's listening and watching right now if you're enjoying this conversation go and pick up the book because i do think that
media the news the the short meme the clip it portrays such a limited view of of someone like yourself and it's a superficial view really yeah and you and it's okay it's a choice also i i want to for people to consume only a part of me you know i want to be able to preserve my humanity my family my life my opinions i may have chosen a public profession but i'm not an elected
official i don't owe an explanation to anyone for the choices that i make you know i'm here to create work i'm doing a job just like everybody else mine happens to be in entertainment and it happens to have a lot of cameras on my face it's fine you know i made it i made that deal with the devil so i've kind of made peace with the fact that i i prefer it being from a distance
um but at the same time i think now i've been a public person for more than half my life it's my normal and only now have i reached a point where i'm allowing the walls to sort of fall down and letting whoever wants to know me get to know me as the person that i am before that i was very protective of who i was because maybe i was insecure about who i was or i was i still didn't have a
sense of self i don't know but i think in the journey of life i've reached a place where you know i'm i'm good with who i am yeah so what's that's wonderful to hear by the way and and i can feel it off your energy what's the part of yourself in this book that you share that you think most people are going to be surprised by where you think that people may just be
like what like and i'm sure there's many but but what's something that stands out um it's there there are a few um which i think people may be surprised by that i was vulnerable enough to discuss um and i think my my failures my struggles rejections um sadnesses that um i've never really people have never seen i always wear a brave front most women in like you know tough jobs have to always
have like a little bit more of a stronger front um to be taken seriously i built that very early um at 18 to be thrown into the limelight of this job i mean you know it you've been in it for a long time you know it's it's a crazy profession the expectations the pressure um you know to deliver under that scrutiny um to be artistic to yet have a point of view to be unique
not you know have your own trajectory because that's the only way it'll work um you know nobody wants me twos in the entertainment business you want new kind of you know you have to always have a sense of evolution so it was really really scary in in the beginning and um i think everything just changes with time and this was one of the good changes that came out of it for me yeah
no absolutely and i'm hoping that i i wonder do you think that's changing now if someone's coming into the entertainment industry today at 18 or do you think it hasn't changed where's your perception on that when you're guiding young artists or seeing people that you follow on social media or you know whatever it may be are you feeling it's changing has it improved or no
the pressure you mean uh not the pressure more the like you were saying like you when you came into the industry you had to put on a brave front you had to wear that face it was the only way to survive do you feel it's the same now for young talent as well um i i think well i was talking about definitely as a female in yeah business oh as a female okay yes um i think so i think um
you know um it's still hard when you're starting out for women to be taken seriously for your ideas to be given the kind of credence that um a man's would as quickly probably you know um especially in professions where you do you know normally you don't see women because you know women have never been pushed in that direction or women have never wanted to go in that direction because
it was never normalized for them that their ambitions could go in that direction business politics um you know to be heads of companies um engineering like you know coding um policy making like stuff like that lawyers women have just about in the last few generations been coming to the fore and you know are standing next to neck with guys but it's still an anomaly it's still not as normal
in terms of numbers it's still not equal so until that happens i think it will be hard for um you know young girls to be sick and taken seriously when they come into professions that are predominantly male um but it's okay um you know women before us have fought the fight and women after us will fight the fight it'll just hopefully not be the same fight hopefully our generation will not let
our kids inherit our problems you know um as women um we are definitely working in that direction but i think as the world needs to sit up and take notice that this demand is loud because it's a requirement this demand is loud because that's what's right and that is the reflection of the world women are 50 of it and we should be reflected in um you know every area and basically
feminism is that right like don't decide for me what i should be doing when i should be doing it and how i should be doing it just like men have had that freedom give me that as well yeah so i guess it's that sorry completely no no you're not deviating at all it's a strong message and i stand by it so it's uh it's a great message and and it's really interesting where male privilege is a really
interesting thing to reflect on i remember when i first started reflecting on it was a prob even really a few years back and i feel very much i was raised by my mom and i have a younger sister so i'm very close to the women in my life but it started to strike me in a crazy way that i grew up having had certain dreams of becoming something that my sister couldn't have
had and and that wasn't because of the way we were parented it was because of what you saw and and when that really hit me and i stood and looked at that and i often encourage a lot of my friends in that direction too i'm like if you really think about if they have a son and a daughter i'm like if you really think about some of the options that don't seem available
to your daughter that she may never consider a career and i really think that that consideration is where the equality is like the opportunity of even having that idea of i could do that opportunity of of having choice i think you know a lot of women we are i'm i'm extremely privileged that i was raised by a feminist i'm married to a feminist um i'm extremely privileged that my
parents which is why i brought up parenting um earlier a big reason i have a sense of confidence and i i'm on this side this side of the fight because um it's not as hard as it is on so many women around the world i still had to fight of course i had to break down the doors and i had to you know prove a point to be taken seriously i was kicked out of movies and
replaced and you know all the things but i still had it so much easier there are women around the world that don't have a say in their life that are married off when you know other people decide that people choose who they are married to whether they can work or not when they should have children what kind of children they should have and that doesn't mean giving up culture
that doesn't mean giving up tradition you know it just means creating opportunity my father told me when i was very very young my mom since i was nine years old you will have financial independence before anything you do it doesn't matter whose daughter you are it doesn't matter um you know who you're marrying married to you'll stand on your own feet and there's such a power to that
um to having you know to be raised by parents who put that in my head so i was ambitious from 12 years old i decided every year what i wanted to be and it changed every year i i love hearing that and i've i it reminded me of something you've said before when you were speaking about your father there about how uh nick for you shares this same admiration of your power and and your ambition
and and feels you know supportive and excited and enthusiastic about the way you carry yourself tell us a bit about how i i feel like that's such an important thing for both them anyone in a relationship to feel like their partner is inspired by their values their beliefs and their dreams what has it felt like in the past where you feel like you haven't had that and if someone who's listening or
watching is feeling like maybe i don't have that how does how do you think someone can navigate that or to ultimately attract the partner that that does have that what's that journey like because i think a lot of people feel like they're with someone who may not understand or get their dreams especially when they're starting out then it's the wrong person for you and
if you have the um especially if you're starting out and you know you're testing the waters and i think it's so crucial if you have a choice in your life to end up with someone who is not like enthused by your dreams is at least interested in them is at least excited about them or you know is at least um encouraging like that's that's exciting um because you know everyone's busy and
everyone has a thing in their lives but to take to make the effort to um to make the effort to make you feel like your dreams are as important as the other one is such a gift and um i have been very blessed to have that you know i find wherever you are in your relationship obviously you and nick lead extremely busy lives uh you know my wife and i lead busy lives
and i feel even if someone's not in the entertainment industry or the media industry everyone feels like they live busy lives what does support look like when two people are busy driven and ambitious because you obviously have it you're speaking about it right now and it's beautiful what does that actually look like in a real practical sense obviously the last
six months or the last 12 months have been different but in reality what does that look like because i feel that maybe sometimes we have false expectations sometimes you want you know it's not natural that you can be at every show nick does it's not natural for him to be at every set you're doing same with me and my wife like my wife can't be at every event i'm speaking at i can't be at
every uh interview or something she's doing what does support look like what does love look like in a very real practical sense i think when it comes to support specifically i think giving the other person the space um to do what they're doing is very important without you know them feeling like oh my like for example i'm here in london for a year right now and nick is filming in la
um and i can't travel but before the holland he made sure he was here for two months to settle me in you know to make sure that the house was all set up and everything was sorted and we were together for the holidays that's because he was free um at the end of the month and that support um you know it doesn't have to be large it doesn't have to be a um you know a big expression of
i don't know love and or big gifts it's not it's it's about giving space it's about giving freedom it's about appreciation and i find this one thing really helpful um i always think about when you know he's busy or he's having a crazy day which i he does for me as well which is amazing and everyone can follow this and it's super easy um is to think about how can i make
that person's day easier just like and that's such a lovely loving thing just sometimes i'm you know back to back especially when i was doing promo i was doing like 20 interviews and suddenly there'd be like a really nice cocktail that would come in in the evening or suddenly there'd be a really nice like cup of coffee or you know something to eat for me that
would come in and it's just like so sweet to think about that or if i'm sitting outside you know you'll bring a blanket and put it it's just being thoughtful and aware about your person and you know that's the greatest form of love is showing it without really asking for it yeah that's such a great piece of advice i love that to be you you said to be thoughtfully aware
and i think that's that's so true and and the beautiful thing about everything you just said is that it's it's free it's cheap it's small it's simple it's in it's it's exciting it's the best gift yeah and it's the best gift yeah when you feel like someone's in tune with you and and your emotions and how you feel how you might be tired or how you might be sleepy or how you might be cold like
those small things when you feel someone's aware and and i love that piece of advice i think it's something that everyone's definitely learned more about in the pandemic where we're exposed to each other tell me a bit about the the title unfinished because i obviously it leads to your determined ambitious voice but what other parts of your growth uh maybe internally personally do you
feel you're unfinished on or working on i mean so much i've just about you know i'm in my 30s and this decade has been amazing because um i've just you know found my strengths i think as a woman and um what i'm looking forward to going forward is i'm very nascent in my career in america right now it's just been five years since i've started working here i just about have
done my first you know leading feature film i've just about done my first dramatic part here um i want to be able to build you know the kind of career that i had the good fortune of building in another amazing industry um in india i've done such a variety of roles there worked with the best filmmakers best actors i want to be able to have that experience here so that i'm
like my artistic side now that i've started on this journey in this part of the world is peaked to be able to do that as well as a producer i want to be able to create um a lot more south asian content in hollywood i just i didn't see enough parts for myself i didn't see enough of it on tv and considering um how large the south asian population is in around the world and how english speaking
we are you know english language entertainment should be reflecting that so i want to be able to tell stories um in india as well and as here um i want to build as an entrepreneur it's something i didn't do um you know up until now because i was building my acting career so much so you know founding my own brand um investing in tech i find that really fascinating um my philanthropy
i want to be able to set up my foundation really well my work with unicef um i've just about moved into our new house after almost 10 to 15 years of living in rentals or hotel rooms you know because i always just kept moving i was so nomadic um i'm looking forward to you know watching the trees grow in my garden i love that watch it watching trees grow is great i love that
that's brilliant i hearing you hearing you say that uh i i love hearing you talk about the south asian storytelling like obviously that that relates very strongly to me and my roots growing up in london as well where i think we have an incredibly strong south asian community where you are right now where i was born and raised and i definitely felt this yeah lack of lack of representation lack
of the ability to lack of opportunity lack of opportunity to dream in a certain way and you know my career has been totally random but it's and and you know i'm doing something today that i would never have imagined even knowing it existed see even that you and i two south asians sitting in these boxes and talking about the fact that the careers that we're
thriving in that we have worked so hard to make was never in our minds was never a possibility but i would have never dreamed about it because it wasn't in my realm of dreaming but that's not how it should be considering the he we're one-fifth of the world's popular we're huge we're everywhere okay and i think and it shouldn't be so hard for me to you know come into an industry and say i
want an opportunity and for people to be like oh well we're going to have to create that now won't we we've existed for a really long time you know it's the irony of it is so amusing but sad at the same time yeah no that resonates very strongly with me because i didn't even know any careers existed and and and when i say this i i don't say it lightly i genuinely didn't
believe careers existed out of outside of medicine engineering and business like i didn't really know i didn't know that you could have a successful career in anything else at 17 when i was it was a fluke why i got got into the miss india pageant and that kind of kick-started everything for me but i wanted to be an engineer because those were the options doctor engineer lawyer
and you know if you come from an academic family of or failure um if you come from an academic family or you know our parents our immigrants and our parents like my parents even in india were you know building their businesses for the first time it wasn't inherited from them so they also were surviving and i think it's that survival instinct that sort of pushed them to put the
aspirations that they knew best you know on their kids like this is the best job you'll always make money you will be stable yes you know but also the internet sort of changed our um i think our generation the the fact that the internet made the world such a small place which is another big reason why we should see so much more representation is because we
are catering to the whole world now definitely definitely i you're reminding me of a few years ago i before i actually started doing what i do today i went to a a presenter training day run by the bbc in london at pinewood studios i'm sure you've know it or have seen it and we went to these studios and it was an ethnic minority tv training day so it was only for ethnic minorities so
i went into this room and there were just five brown and black people in there that was it and it was a free training session on presenting and seeing if you had the skills to be in media and then i remember at the end of it saying like oh you know like is there any opportunity where do we and they're like no no there are no opportunities and i said what you called us all here
to to train us to tell us they're no opportunities and they were like oh but you can start a youtube channel and that's that's you know what you're saying about social media is so true that it was so hard to find an entry point without being able to create your own community and and i think i love the way the world's gone because now it's allowed each and every single one of us to
create a community around what we care about and that's what i wanted to ask you that today you're a entrepreneur you're an actor you're a producer you have your own production company how do you define priyanka chopra jonas's purpose that kind of cascades into all those areas like like what do you see as your purpose in the work that you're doing because
to me it seems it's always been driven by purpose it definitely has it's always to evolve i feel like my purpose is to find the next thing that i can do the next new thing the next um thing that i can push the envelope on or the next thing where i can push the goal post i want to do something you know different that's not but i've always been driven to you know and that doesn't mean every
choice is that but that's the eventual big picture purpose you know to be able to sort of i've been given such an incredible opportunity um from the beginning of my career you know i it was i don't take that lightly um to be there are so many people around the world that are probably more talented than me probably more um deserving than me but you know the sum of the opportunities i chose
is the reason why i'm here today and i don't take that for granted at all um and that's my purpose is to make sure that you know every single day spent with a pursuit of excellence in um every single choice that i make what are three truths that you live by if you had to define three things that you always live by that you don't negotiate with that you that guide you that guide your decisions
and guide your life when you're looking at those projects as you said you always want to find that next thing that you're going to break through and that you don't want to be scared of trying new things what are some of those if it resonates with me like if i read something and i'm moved by like the white tiger for example i'd read the book and it really like there you know some books
you just remember always because they were such a vivid journey and the white tiger was one of those for me it was such a vivid journey and um i when i read that it was being adapted i chased it i went after it and i was like i need to be i need to do this i need to be a part of it because it moved me it was a story that i feel like needs to be told is topical it's
entertaining um you know it's it's based on a universal theme of the haves and the have-nots you know that exist everywhere so i think like that i feel is my purpose to be able to be moved by the things that i choose to align with and i think also um for it to be a growth for me you know for it to be for it to be taking me to the next step i don't like to stay in the same place
for a very long time do the same kind of thing for a very long time i want to go to the next thing what is what is better and our my job sort of lends me to be able to do that because it's very transitory there's no you know you don't know where your next job is or where your next check comes from or anything right so it allows me to pick and choose what i think is the
next step but those two things are very important i think those are great truths those are great truths and i think uh they come across in your book when you kind of see like how has this person had like 10 careers you know in a good way in in in a strong sense of being able to find that and and i wonder obviously you've played so many roles and studied so many characters in
your life was writing this book almost like studying your own self as a character in terms of like the role you played um so the reflection of this book is sort of me now you know talking to my younger me growing up so i comment on myself and stuff i'm like come on you know don't don't do note to self have a lot of notes to self in the book so sort of a commentary on that but i think
i wasn't examining myself as a character because i think i i was sort of going along with my journey all over again i was experiencing my journey all over again i didn't have to create anything i just had to remember it as vividly as i could um and i don't know i hope i got everything right i've tried to but memory is a funny thing um and i've you know i just i experienced it so it was almost
like you know when you're in a train and you're looking outside and you know the world is sort of moving by or in a car you're looking outside and the world is moving by that's how i felt when i was writing the book yeah you shared this beautiful quote in chapter eight that really stuck with me i've never i've never read this one before and i i absolutely love discovering writers
and thoughts so thank you for introducing me to this it says it's it's from letters to a young poet and it says be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves like locked rooms and like books that are written in a very foreign tongue and and i thought the selection of that that quote it really spoke to me how do you balance your drive and what's
next with that passion sorry with that patience and with that approach because often it can feel like you know it's like you're trying to find that next thing trying to grow and evolve but but you're also beautifully speaking about patience well i bifurcated i'm not patient in my job but i'm patient as a person and my job doesn't make me um it's not i'm
my job is not my whole you know um and this is again something i didn't know earlier i've grown into understanding this my younger self probably wouldn't my 20s i didn't know this but um i've bifurcated very clearly you know my professional life is my professional life my personal life is my personal life they meet in the middle sometimes because i'm a public person but
i still have an immense part of me that's not for public consumption and it's not um for anyone else but me so um that that side of me is patient that side of me has become you know um calmer um a little bit more having um you know stable maybe having my feet on the ground a little bit but my professional self is still in a tizzy i'm impatient i want the next thing right now i
wake up in the morning thinking about my entire day and how i'm gonna achieve every single thing at zero to sixty um and that works for that girl it doesn't work for this girl and it took a lot of introspection for me to get here actually in that chapter i actually talk about that journey of getting to that place um because i wasn't there and a lot of my professional attitude which
was you know i am going to do everything i can to make this the best i took a lot of the onus of life upon myself as well and it hurt me and it um and i didn't need to take the responsibility of life life happens and we've kind of got to navigate it every single day and you know live it for being on the right side of the truth and being a good person and you know having joy in
the day because life is a gift and you know it needs to be celebrated and so my my personal side of that tree is real chill and loves life and um but the other girl she's she's crazy that's a fantastic distinction and and i i i love that i'm so glad that you shared that with us that's such a great way of of helping people understand how two seemingly opposite ideas can co-exist
and i think we often feel like we have to choose like you're either driven or you're calm you're either ambitious or you're you know conscious and aware and i've i'm so happy you said that because i i couldn't agree more right i think it's fun letting two ideas collide and live within the same space and personally and i think it's natural as well dichotomies are the most consistent
things you'll see around nobody's one thing no emotion is a singular emotion you are at any given moment and that's an actor thing i guess when you're you're playing a character you have to think about everything that character is playing you can't just be like oh this is an angry scene i'm going to just be angry and yell my eyes out you know my uh whatever throat you're
not that's not a good actor you're not even scratching beneath the surface the actor who thinks about oh my gosh i'm getting late or i have to have this conversation it's also cold and i'm i'm like mad about whatever last week my job i got fired you've got to think about all of those elements so in the same way in life we never have to choose one thing so that we need to take that
pressure off of our backs that you don't have to be on one solitary journey you can choose to be on any journey at any time you can choose to feel as long as you take the pressure we put too much pressure on ourselves to function we create boxes and glass ceilings for ourselves because we're like oh this is the only way i can be and that's how you are successful there's no black or white in the world
everyone lives in greys yeah thank you so much for sharing that passionately i could feel you feel your passion just like flying through the screen you're like everyone who's listening and watching this is just you know straight it's beautiful it's it's fantastic we break you've been so kind with your and generous with your time we end every podcast with two segments
these segments are called fill in the blank and the fast five uh the fill in the blank is a fill in the blank round uh very aware and then i'll introduce the first five later so if you're ready this is your fill in the blank okay okay so the hardest part about my job is the hours um and um the well fill in the blank the blank is basically i have to explain that because um you know
my job can come up at any time on any day it doesn't matter if it's someone's birthday it doesn't matter if it is you know my anniversary it doesn't matter if like i am um i don't know going to a friend's wedding if the job comes up you've got to kind of deliver that's the hardest part really yeah and i want to be honest and let everyone know right now it's 7 00 p.m where
priyanka is it's 11 a.m where i am so she's still here kindly doing this interview so just just to be really honest about about the hours and and and i'm gonna be doing it until 1am yeah i believe you i believe you uh okay next one 2020 gave me a new perspective on um creativity because i'm i gave me a sense of balance i became a lot more creative i think yeah that makes sense that stillness
that clarity that slow down for once the um luxury of time which i never have yeah um and i've never chosen this forced this forced time was very helpful yeah i love that my power comes from my family working hard makes me feel fulfilled storytelling is a joy and my dogs are my world [Music] [Laughter] i love it okay this is your final five so questions can be one word
to one sentence maximum you you did extremely well on the fill in the blank uh so these are one word to one sentence maximum okay uh who do you go to for their opinion about your work [Laughter] great answer i love it i love it it's a great answer i let the people decide [Laughter] you know one of my favorite things about you over the years is just how straight talking you are and
and uh and obviously my intention has has only been positive towards you but i've loved watching your interviews where someone asks tries to ask just an awkward irrelevant question and and you always just give them the best answer like you yeah it's just it's so fun to watch it's so fun thank you i haven't i haven't been able to be on the other end of it thankfully but
uh it's great it's great okay uh what's the best piece of advice you ever received to have courage of conviction um my mom said that to me when i was very young she said if you're gonna tell the truth or if you're gonna tell a lie just know that um you know whatever you do you have to stand by it the good the bad ugly it's all yours wonderful uh what's the worst advice you've ever
received i don't retain bad advice great answer that's that's a great answer it's awesome yeah yeah that makes perfect sense why would you i don't have the place in my brain for it there's too many other things floating around i love it uh question number four what's something that you know to be true for you but that other people may disagree on so something that you're confident is
true but other people may not understand it fully um that i'm actually like you a monk people won't believe it because most people even my closest family would be like you no because i'm always like in a tizzy but i'm actually inherently a monk rather close close to monk not really actually i love it no i love it that's great i i that that was the whole reason why i was
encouraging people to have a monk mindset that anyone in the world can can have that so i i love hearing that's that's beautiful you don't have to you don't have to live like a monk to think like a monk so i'm glad totally that's great okay fifth and final question uh if you could make one law in the world that everyone had to follow what would it be no one goes hungry
is my law that's it it's the worst thing to see um yeah if we could change just that it would really change a lot of things that's such a great law we've never had anyone say that before so i'm really i'm really happy you shared that and uh i i couldn't agree more as a monk we worked on several food distribution programs in india where i was and it was it was so meaningful to see but
there's so much work that needs to be done in that space all across all over the world oh my gosh everywhere um that's like such a basic right and need for a human being to just live and you know i've done obviously coming from having grown up in india but also i've worked with kids around the world with unicef and it's just it's like that's got to change a hungry child is it's
just it's not right it's not natural you know yeah and and yeah and and it's like you know we talk about as we were talking about the dreams and the ambitions but it all starts with food and water and you know it starts with those basic necessities to help that person so that's that's a beautiful and we also as privileged society have become very desensitized to it you know
yeah drive past homeless shelter you're not thinking about it and i'm not saying that you know each person needs to empty their wallets and like make a difference to the world i think yes it is the responsibility of the large earners definitely of you know the billionaires of the world um because in a big way but i think also the responsibility of each one of us to just do
whatever we can you know and that doesn't have to be large it could be just kindness compassion change someone's life just look around you your neighborhood just that that itself will be helpful you know my i was as a kid my mom told me no matter how badly off you are how bad your circumstances are someone's worse off than you and that's just the truth of the world yeah i love how much you remember and
quote your parents it's such a beautiful thing because it it shows you the power of good parenting and uh from a young age because it's it's such a special thing so they also repeated themselves a lot that's brilliant [Laughter] i love that they just kept saying the same thing every birthday every big day i was like all right i get it well the repetition worked it worked
yeah i wrote a book about them so yeah i love it yeah the repetition works so much that if you want to be parented by prion controver jonas's parents that's this is what's in the book no please go and grab a copy we're putting the link everywhere for unfinished a memoir by priyanka chopra jonas uh go and grab the book go and read it go and share it read it together start a book club
around it we're going to make this one of our book club picks for the on purpose community so i'll be sharing that with all of you in all the notes as i'm reading through it i recommend that you do the same priyanka i'm so grateful for your time your generous time uh for staying up with us i know you've got lots more of these to do and i look forward to meeting you very soon so
thank you so much thank you is there anything you want to share last this was so nice jay it was such a lovely conversation i always knew it was going to be but it's you're you're just insightful and um i can see why you know you do what you do so well and um more power to you you know keep pushing it thank you thank you so much frankie such a pleasure and uh yeah all the best for
the rest of your interviews and the rest of the tour and uh yeah look forward to speaking to you soon if you want even more videos just like this one make sure you subscribe and click on the boxes over here i'm also excited to let you know that you can now get my book think like a monk from think like a monkbook.com check below in the description to make sure you order today