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I don't think that failure's the opposite of success.
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I think it's just the road to success.
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Hard work isn't a prison sentence if you have a reason for working hard.
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Dude, what the hell are you doing going to the library on a Saturday? You're crazy, man. You're obsessed.
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And yet I didn't look at it as obsession at all, right?
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I just looked at it as I got to know.
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I got to figure this out.
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I think the biggest thing I've learned is not to accept the standard pace as the pace that you have to go at.
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Permissionless action, it's about doing the work up front.
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How can I make this a no-brainer for the other person?
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It's all about reducing the friction it takes for the other person to say yes. Well, hello everybody.
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It's Jim O'Shaughnessy with yet another Infinite Loops.
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I've been chatting already with today's guest, Jay Yang.
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Jay is uh very impressive young man.
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Uh we're talking about also one of my favorite topics, high agency.
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The majority of people wait around, right?
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They wait for somebody to tap them on the shoulder or say, "Hey, you look like you're talented.
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Why don't you come and work for us?"
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And I think Jay and I agree about this.
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You can correct me later, Jay, if I'm wrong and assuming too much.
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But that isn't going to get you where you want to go, especially in today's world.
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Jay, you at age 16 cold emailed Tyler Denk, the CEO of Beehiiv.
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But you didn't just say, "Hey, can we grab coffee sometime?"
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You actually gave him a concrete plan that led to an internship and of course Beehiiv 101 that's helped hundreds of creators get more out of the platform.
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But you weren't just sitting around at age 17.
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You sent one to Noah Kagan, a 19-page audit of his app that that analyzed his email funnel, and you also included kind of ready-to-ship assets.
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You reminded me very much of a friend of mine who ended up an incredibly huge success by doing that a different version of that.
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What he did was when he would get anything in the mail, this is back in the Paleolithic era of the 1980s.
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When he would get like a bill in the mail, he did.
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He would He would analyze it, find everything that was wrong with it, redo it, and send it to the company.
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And they ended up in more cases than not like literally hiring.
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And and kind of like you, I think your result uh with the with the email you sent to Noah was becoming uh head of content and leading campaigns that put the book Million Dollar Weekend on the New York Times uh Times best seller list.
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But today, Jay, I want to talk about your book, You Can Just Do Things, The Power of Permissionless Actions.
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It's a field guide for stacking small, bold moves until something ultimately compounds. Jay, welcome.
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Thanks for having me on, Jim.
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That was an amazing intro.
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I've been a long-time listener to the podcast, so appreciate you having me on. Terrific.
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Well, let's get into it, right?
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Uh you've argued that preparation beats bravado, that speed through depth is a real thing.
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And that doors that many people assume, just assume, are locked actually don't even have keys.
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And you recommend they hey, just try the handle.
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Elaborate on that for our audience.
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Yeah, that uh that philosophy has been reinforced in my life.
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Uh you know, the older I get, the more I realize that a lot of the opportunities that we want in our lives aren't handed to us, they have to be created.
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And if you are somebody who is naturally more ambitious than the average person, uh expect to take different actions than what most people take.
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One of our North Stars that O'Shaughnessy Ventures and Infinite Loops there's compounding knowledge, skin in the game have to be married to action. Right?
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They always have to be because otherwise you're just playing with yourself, right?
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Like you can sit and daydream all day long, even if you've got great ideas.
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Great ideas that aren't acted upon tend to slip away.
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Oh, how would you tell our listeners and viewers like you know, don't do that, do this.
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What What What advice would you give them?
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I think the biggest thing I've learned is not to accept the standard pace as the pace that you have to go at.
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Um I think a lot of times we grow up and it's it's like you have to go to college and you have to study for 4 years and then you have to get an internship and then you have to get a job and then you have to, you know, put your head down and work and and then and only then will you get what you want out of out of your career and out of your life.
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And a lot of what I've learned is that instead of accepting that the the the standard pace is the only pace for you, it's realizing there is no speed limit.
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And it's asking yourself what's stopping me from going faster?
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Like it's that it's that question like how can I achieve my three-year goal in the next 12 months?
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It's it's constantly asking yourself is what everyone else is is telling me to do actually right for me?
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Or am I just listen Am I just outsourcing my thinking to parents, teachers, or society?
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And I've thought a lot about that, right?
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And one of the things that I've concluded is all of us, myself included, are far more influenced by the the reigning ideas of our era than we might like to admit.
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And I often think, you know, if you went back 500 years, you would be such a fish out of water because ideas of what's right, what's wrong, what's the correct path, what isn't the correct path, were very very different back then, right?
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And so I I definitely believe that it's going to take true action and effort on the person's part to be able to say, you know what?
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For many many people, yep, that traditional path makes a lot of sense, but it doesn't make sense for me, right?
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Like I I was very lucky to kind of come of age when it wasn't like, what?
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You're you're not going to get your graduate degree?
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You're not going to get your PhD? Like, you're crazy, man.
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I you know, when I formed my first company, which was obviously Capital Management, I was 28, 29. And this is in 1988.
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And I had a friend who was just like, wait a minute, so who are your backers?
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And I'm like, well, I I don't really have any backers.
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And he's like, that that simply isn't done.
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Like, you can't just start your own asset management company. And I went, well, I did.
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So, we'll have to see where that goes.
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But like, talk a little bit about when you say permissionless action, right?
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I know what you mean, but elaborate on it for our listeners and viewers.
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Yeah, permissionless action is this idea that it's about doing the work up front.
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I always say that if you want to have an opportunity, the best way create that opportunity is to do the work up front.
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It's to show that other person that number one that you want the opportunity and number two that you can do the opportunity.
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And so doing the work up front might mean doing your research on the company you want to intern for or putting together a pitch deck with your favorite entrepreneur and dissecting his entire social and email funnel.
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Um it might be doing your research on the founder and figuring out what problems he has in his company.
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And so the the question I always go back to is how can I make this a no-brainer for the other person?
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Um and you know I always like to say empathy is the greatest asset you can have as an entrepreneur, marketer, and just human being in general.
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And so it's all about reducing the friction it takes for the other person to say yes.
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And so when you take permissionless action when you do the work up front it makes it super easy for the other person to say oh this guy knows what he's talking about or this this this girl like she really wants this job or if she really wants this opportunity.
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And so that's what permissionless action is.
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It's doing the work up front.
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Yeah, I'm a big believer in that as well.
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But consider like when when I was still running an asset management firm, we we would have candidates who were being considered for sales jobs, right?
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And they made it all the way through.
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They made it all the way through my colleagues and everything.
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And they didn't ask for the job.
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And I kind of like made that a litmus test. It I. E.
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If you're a sales person and you make it all that way and then you fail to ask for the job, you've like you haven't done the sales job properly.
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And the more I thought about it, the more I think that there there are these kind of like what we're talking about just a minute ago, these kind of invisible societal barriers that seem to affect a lot of people.
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They they're like, "Oh, you know, I I I got to wait until such and such or so and so you know, they make their life conditional."
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And and I think if you make your life conditional, and you know, I'll be happy when I'll be a success if you're probably going to be disappointed, in my opinion.
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I think that one of the things that appeals to me so much about your message is and it's right there in your title, hey, you you can just do things.
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And but but they're like What would be true?
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Have you ever had somebody who read the book and kind of like took issue with you?
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And they're like, "Jay, well, maybe you can just do things, but you know, because I'm fill in the blank, right? I'm this this or that."
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And these are all kind of limiting functions. I can't do that.
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Well, what do you tell them?
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Yeah, I actually had a reader email me that about a month ago.
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She was like you know, it's easy for you to say Jay, like you're you're guy and and you you grew up in like a you know, well-off household and and you just you know, you're you're just privileged. Like what about me?
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Like I'm I'm a 45-year-old mom, I've got kids, like I can't just do things. I have obligations.
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And and I do feel for that.
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Like I think, you know, everyone starts off with different circumstances in their life.
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It's that type one luck, like things that are outside of your control.
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Um but things that aren't your fault are your responsibility.
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And what I've slowly realized is that when you say it's easy for you to say you're placing your own agency onto the other person.
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You're you're you're not giving yourself agency.
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And so the question I would ask is who wrote the mental software that's running through your mind and are you sure that's what you want running in your mind?
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And so if you're constantly thinking oh, I can't just do things or someone else they're just lucky or you know, like things don't go my way.
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Like is that really are those really the thoughts that you want in your head?
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And so um Yeah, it's it's realizing that what if it is that simple?
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What if it what if it's as simple as realizing that you can just do things?
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Yeah, the angry man lives in an angry world, the sad man lives in a sad world, the happy man lives in a happy world.
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And we the self-talk part I I think is incredibly important.
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You are essentially programming yourself.
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The listen to what you say to yourself and say if I was saying that to someone else, would they think that uh that was a good thing for them?
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The answer over with a lot of these limiting beliefs is absolutely not.
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And and yet there does seem to be this sort of pervasive attitude.
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I I joke about like often school is their attempt to install the one correct answer machine in your head.
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And there a lot more than one correct answer.
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Sometimes there's no answer.
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Sometimes the answers are obvious.
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But if if I was going to give you an assignment and say, all right, Jay, I've got this brilliant guy. He is incredible. She is amazing.
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Uh but they just you know, they just can't get past that barrier because they think it's rude or they think they're being pushy or they think, you know, what right do I have?
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How would you coach them?
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How would you get them to get across that chasm?
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Yeah, that's a great question.
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I would say it's it's about starting small, you know, uh, there's that quote from from Alex Hormozi, "Confidence doesn't come from shouting affirmations in the mirror, but giving yourself an undeniable stack of proof that you are who you say you are."
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And so, if you have these scripts that are running in your head that you don't want and you want to change them, it's about giving yourself evidence that you are the type of person that can just do things.
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You are the type of person that can do the work up front.
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You are the type of person that things go your way.
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And so, it's like doing really small things like smiling to the barista and seeing them smile back and realizing, "Oh, I just had a positive impact on somebody."
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It's walking up to a stranger and and giving them a compliment and realizing that you just did that.
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You just made someone's day.
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And so, it's like doing these small micro actions and then paying attention to them that helps you rewire those those mental beliefs.
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I think that's great advice.
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I think a lot of times in people that I've, uh, chatted with about this, people kind of start out way too big.
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And, you know, then that often leads to failure and then they're out, right? Like, I'm out.
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As I was saying before we started formal recording, you know, the math is pretty simple, right?
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If you wait around to take your perfect shot on goal and you only make 10 shots, even if you're 80% correct, you've made eight goals.
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If on the other hand, you take a bunch of shots on goal that you think, "Okay, maybe, maybe, right?"
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You take a hundred of it, even if you're like just half even half them going, you've made 50 uh goals.
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And yet, one of the things I I'm absolutely fascinated by human operating system because I, like you, agree that it's highly reprogrammable.
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And a lot of people don't think that.
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And and I sometimes just shake my head when I talk to again, the same person that I was asking you to encourage and coach a little bit.
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Um they're just like, well, yeah, that's okay. And same thing, right?
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And and I look at that as are you outer oriented or are you inner oriented?
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Like, I've been lucky to be inner oriented for most of my life, right?
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And one of the things you see when people are outer oriented, it's like well, that I didn't succeed because and then they point a finger outwards.
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You know, uh because that person was mean to me or, you know, that person just doesn't get it.
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Or, you know, you know all of the excuses, right?
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And and one of the things that I decided to do early in life and I was very lucky that I decided to do it is I I took the the idea everything is my fault. And I took it seriously.
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And people are like, well, just fault.
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And I'm like, no, by extension, success is, too.
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But, you know, the the old adage, uh success has a million fathers, failure is an orphan.
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And and that's why I said everything is my fault, right?
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Because it really internalized for me at at the end of the day, really it is my fault.
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If I didn't get if I wasn't persuasive enough to get that book contract or I wasn't persuasive enough to get that person to trust me to manage their assets. That's my fault. That's not their fault.
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Are there any other ways that you can upgrade, you know, your internal human OS, your mental models that would be able to at least soften that urge that many people have to like, "Oh, you know, it's their fault and I'm going to blame them."
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I like to think of it in inputs versus outputs.
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And so, a lot of low agency people track the inputs.
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It's like, "Oh, I worked hard on this.
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I spent 10 hours on this, so I deserve to be successful.
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Like, why isn't the world responding the way I want it to respond?
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Because I put so much effort into it."
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And what I what I've observed is that high agency people focus on the outputs.
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Did I actually get what I wanted out of this?
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It's that Naval quote, "The only true test of intelligence is will you get what you want out of life?"
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And I think when you operate with that mindset, it's it's about what actually happened with the result more so than what you put in.
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Um that's when you start to realize that everything is your your fault.
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Everything is your responsibility.
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Um and so, that simple reframe of like you are both responsible for the inputs, but more so for the outputs.
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Like, obviously some things are outside of your control, but for things that are, it's like did you do everything you possibly could to control the outputs?
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And like, the questions I like to ask myself are how do I increase the likelihood that this is a success, and how do I decrease the risk of failure?
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And so, then you just every decision you make, you filter that through that lens.
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It's like well, does knowing what you want increase or decrease the likelihood of getting what you want?
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Well, probably increases it.
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It's like well, once you know what you want, does learning from those who have what you want increase or decrease the likelihood that you get what you want?
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Well, probably increases it.
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It's like, does getting over your limiting beliefs and taking ownership or agency over what you can control, does that increase or decrease the likelihood that you get what you want?
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You go down this list of every single decision, every single thing that goes on in your life.
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It's like, does this increase the likelihood that I get what I want?
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And does it decrease the risk of failure?
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And I think that simple reprogramming um has played a tremendous role in in how I view the world.
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Yeah, and I often say that it's the difference between a probabilistic mindset and the the deterministic one.
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My joke is that many of us are deterministic thinkers living in a probabilistic world, and often hilarity or tragedy ensue.
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And so, what do you do when you've done all that, and you've done the work ahead of time, and you've minimized the chance for failure as best you can, but you fail anyway?
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What what what what's your framework uh both dealing with that and then moving on?
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Yeah, I just chalk it up to the game.
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I I don't think that failure's the opposite of success.
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I think it's just the road to success.
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I think the only true failure is failing and then quitting or giving up because you got discouraged.
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And so, I view all failures feedback.
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It's like, I didn't get the outcome that I wanted. Well, why?
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Like, how can I improve next time?
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And so, it's more like when you view it that way, it's like everything is reps.
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Um everything then becomes reps.
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And I think, you know, you and I both are writers.
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You kind of view anything as something that you could potentially write about.
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So, nothing really is a failure.
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It's like, you know, if you tried something and you failed, it's like, well, that's a great story I can write about.
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And it's like, you you approach that with like everything works out in your favor.
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Um and so, when you have that mindset, there really is no failure unless you stop.
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Yeah, failure is a ladder, right?
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And failures are portals of discovery and opportunity, in my opinion.
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Now, you don't want to keep making the same mistake, right?
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So, my friend Jeremiah Lowen would call novel mistakes are like incredibly magical things.
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Because you're like, "Oh, okay, what can I learn from this?"
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And, you know, it got me to do postmortems on the many, many times I failed at something I was trying to do.
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And it just makes you better for the next time around. Right?
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Because it's like, "Ah, this this pattern looks like that one where I totally the bed.
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Maybe I'm going to approach this in a different way."
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But I think at the heart of this, right?
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Is our emotional regulation.
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Uh of of how we look at the world.
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My son Patrick has a friend who has this great distinction.
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He He calls people pre-fall or post-fall.
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And I really enjoyed that because pre-fall you know, that's that's when you're filled with piss and vinegar, when, you know, my doesn't stink and blah blah blah.
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Post-fall is you've gotten hammered in the face many, many times by reality.
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And you've learned some humility, and you've learned that you are not God's gift to creation, and yet you continue to persevere. Right?
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And and like we do a lot of early pre-seed type investing.
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And I really want to find post-fall founders.
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Because they have learned a lesson that you can't teach them.
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They have to experience it themselves, right?
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And What would you say to to the pre-fall guy who's listening to this or woman who's listening to this right now?
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Like As I just said, we we can't teach them that message.
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But you can maybe encourage a way of looking at the world that will make their fall hopefully a little more gentle.
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Maybe we'll throw a couple of mattresses down on the floor for them rather than having them hit the concrete.
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Yeah, I like that frame pre-fall versus post-fall.
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I just think it's the only thing you can tell them is to expect it.
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It's going to happen at some point and when it does happen realize that And when it does happen realize that how you respond is what truly makes who you become.
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It's like character's untested when things are easy.
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It's like character's tested when things are hard.
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It's And so it's like right now I'm training for a marathon.
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And this past week I got food poisoning and it was awful.
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Like I was Things were coming out of every hole in my body.
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It was It was It was terrible.
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Um now that I'm like all better it's like well I could I can let that affect the rest of my training.
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I can say oh well, you know, there's only a you know, 40 40 days left. I'll just put it in.
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I'll just I'll just show up.
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Um or you can see that as just another part of the process and not get so emotional about it because things like that happen. So you can expect it.
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And then you can choose how you respond.
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It's like okay, I missed a week.
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I'm going to go even harder this week to make up for it.
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And so I just think it's like how you respond shows who you truly are. Yeah.
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Uh Carl Jung has a great line which is you are not what you say you will do. You are what you do.
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And uh I I I really take that one to heart, right?
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Because you know, in this era of anyone with a smartphone being able to yap and yap and yap online about this or that, pessimism just seems to be too easy to me, right?
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It's much harder to be a rational optimist.
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It's It's pretty pedestrian and simple to be able to find problems in in anything if you go looking for problems.
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It's also a shitty way to program your mental model, right?
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Because if you're only looking for the problems of a situation, guess what?
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You're probably not going to try that particular thing because ah, that'll never work, right? And persistence, right?
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I As I was getting ready for you, I was reminded of Calvin Coolidge, who was the 30th president of the United States, and he became incredibly famous for this his maxims on persistence, right?
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And I I actually jotted a couple of them down, and and he's like, "Nothing can take its place."
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He's talking about persistence.
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"Nothing can take its place."
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And then he goes, "Talent can't.
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Lots of unsuccessful people who are really, really talented. Genius doesn't.
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Unrewarded genius is almost a proverb. Education doesn't.
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The world's filled with highly educated uh what did he call them? Derelicts. Huh.
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Only persistence, right, will lead you to what you want."
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And you know, I I I was thinking like that's really, really true.
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And as I was reading your stuff, you talk about specific individuals, and it made me think of our editor-in-chief, uh Jimmy Soni, at Infinite Books.
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He's He's currently working on a book he's tentatively titled The Dao of Kobe.
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Um and you've mentioned Kobe in regards also you've mentioned Sam Walton, the founder of of Walmart.
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What do you think the connections What are the underlying connections between them and you know, others Dyson who just kept going. Edison, right?
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Who famously said, "I've come up with a thousand ways to not make a light bulb." Yeah.
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Well, firstly, well, I am so beyond excited for Jimmy's book.
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Like I've been obsessively studying Kobe Bryant for the last 6 years of my life and so I'm I'm definitely excited to to check that book out.
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I think that the only through line that you can constantly say about them is that they have they were obsessed with what they were doing.
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And it's like when you are obsessed it's like continuing to persist is an obvious choice because there's nothing else in the world you want to do.
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It's like that that question, if you know what you want to do with your life, why are you doing anything else?
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And so it's like if you know that you want to make the world's first like superpowered vacuum or you know you want to be the best basketball player in the world or you know you want to nail retail, it's like well, the only thing you can do is continue to persist.
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So, I think it's that obsession.
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Obsession isn't what you want to do.
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Obsession is what you can't not do.
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And so, you know, a few people ask me like, "Why did you write this book?"
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It's because I couldn't not write about it.
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Like I every night before bed, I was thinking about this idea.
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This idea of you can just do things. This idea of I agency.
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Like why why do some people get what they want out of life and other people don't?
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It's more often than not the the mental scripts they have running in their brain.
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And so, that's the through line is like why are people persistent? Why are people extreme?
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It's because they're obsessed with what they're doing.
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Yeah, obsession is a hell of a drug.
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Um and you know, it was in in hindsight, I didn't know it at the time.
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But in hindsight, I like was obsessed with trying to figure out why public stock markets did what they did.
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And I just kind of viewed I kind of viewed it as the Olympics of business, right?
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Like I If I can figure that out, that's going to be really, really cool.
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And so I I I Several friends at the time were like dude, what the hell are you doing going to the library on a Saturday to look up like what what You're crazy, man. You're obsessed.
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And yet I didn't look at it as obsession at all, right?
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I just looked at it as I got to know.
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I got to figure this out.
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And you know, I I certainly didn't nail it, but I I I I managed to get good enough at figuring it out to be able to start a successful business, etc.
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What about back to Kobe, though?
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The The thing I find interesting, I'm not a sports guy, right?
29:58
Like I I don't know much about sports and people make fun of me constantly for it, particularly my own children.
30:07
Uh but uh what really fascinates me about Kobe is he was a polymath.
30:15
Most of the uh Jimmy's forthcoming book on the Dao of Kobe is not about sports at all.
30:21
It's about Kobe's, you know multitude of ideas and things that he had cooking.
30:30
Uh do you think that that's another trait of the type of person who ends up being high agency?
30:38
I think high agency people are naturally more curious about the world around them.
30:45
They because they question the visible thing that they see in front of them and want to go deeper, they naturally, I think, are more interested about other areas.
30:59
And so, yeah, I mean, when I was studying Kobe, like he was an avid writer.
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And he got into meditation.
31:06
And he would go seek out like the the composer who did John the Star Wars soundtrack.
31:12
Like he was just he wanted to be around other high agency obsessive curious people.
31:21
Um and so, yeah, I think I think there's definitely a through line there.
31:26
And and I completely agree that curiosity is like magic.
31:33
And and by that I mean, everyone that I'm working with now at OSV Ventures, like the the the true line there is that they're all intensely curious about a lot of various various things in life, right?
31:48
And uh what's interesting from my perspective as the head of the company is that when you marry intensely curious people, but people who are intensely curious about different things, you get often times this wonderful synthesis where I again, back to back to Jimmy.
32:10
I I he's not paying me to mention him continually here.
32:13
Uh but we have a fellowship program, as you know, and um last October we had a gathering of people, OSV people, and the fellows.
32:26
And Jimmy sat with a scientist who was explaining her concept to him.
32:33
And uh then he asked her the question that she'd never really even thought of.
32:37
And it was, "Okay, so how you going to market this?"
32:42
And she kind of was like, uh, I I I hadn't even thought of that.
32:47
Anyway, long story short, he spent like an hour and 45 minutes with her.
32:49
And she found me afterwards and she said, "I just got to say, I like the price of the ticket coming here, I I just earned 10 times back by being able to do this with Jimmy because she goes, "Honestly, I wasn't even thinking about how to get other people interested in my invention here.
33:11
And and he kind of gave me a masterclass on on how I could do that.
33:14
So, one of the things that I've learned, um, and seen intensify is when you get these intensely curious, you know, high, uh, action people, uh, together, the cognitive diversity can really lead to like really cool things.
33:36
Have you Have you experienced that?
33:36
Have you Have you ever worked with somebody who is kind of just as obsessive and persistent and curious as you are, but in in a very different area and you've like, "Wow, I would I would have never thought of that."
33:54
Yeah, all the all the time.
33:54
I think I think what what's special about being online and on Twitter is there's just so many other people who are obsessed with what they're doing.
34:05
And so, it's an insane opportunity to to learn.
34:10
One of the one of the past guests you had on, Tommy, Tommy Potter, like I went to one of his retreats as well and that was one of my favorite things ever because there were so many other young people who were my agency and building things, um, in diff- completely different vertical that I was building in.
34:27
And just to be able to, you know, sit around in a circle and and share about what we're building and then share our problems and have everyone chime in and talk.
34:37
Um, and even aside from that, just like talking to them about religion and philosophy and like relationships with other people who are from all all sorts of places with all sorts of different backgrounds and perspectives.
34:51
I think there's there's something underrated about being in a room like that. Yeah, I totally agree.
35:00
Um, and it just invites serendipity.
35:04
Um, and increases your service area of luck, I think manyfold.
35:09
Um, let's go back to permissionless uh action.
35:14
What does that look like in the era of AI?
35:18
I mean, because like OSV, for example, we are an AI-first company.
35:24
Uh everything has to have an AI workflow built into it because we to me, I've been around a lot a while and like the impact that AI will have, I think, is probably even greater than Gutenberg.
35:41
And a lot of people just are either afraid of it, don't get it, think it's kind of cheating.
35:47
It's like uh for example, I'm I'm writing I'm taking a stab at writing a fictional thriller.
35:54
I've never done that before. But am I using AI?
35:56
You bet your ass I'm using AI.
35:59
I was able to do what in an earlier non-AI era would have taken literally months of research, I can get done in an afternoon.
36:12
Of course, you've got to make sure it's uh you have to verify it and fact-check it and and do all of that.
36:17
But it it seems to me almost a weird obsession when I see people especially like people who are like authors and did you write that with AI?
36:32
And you see on Twitter people saying they're no longer going to use the M dash.
36:35
It's because because AI does I like to me that it's so up.
36:40
It it's it's kind of like would would you have preferred that Michelangelo didn't have paint and brushes?
36:49
Would you prefer that like symphony when radio came on the scene, right?
36:55
Symphony orchestras took out full page ads in newspapers saying how that wasn't real music.
37:02
The only way you can listen to real music is to do it live.
37:07
When I was a kid, the only thing I wanted when I was 10 in 1970 was a calculator because back then they were like the They were they were just coming on the scene.
37:17
And then you got this huge backlash.
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You can't use calculators in class. That's cheating.
37:25
It's like you often hear people say that about AI in writing.
37:27
Do I take my raw man chapter that I've written and put it into AI and ask for uh uh improvements? Every single time.
37:35
Does that mean they're all good? No. Many of them aren't.
37:42
But they give me a jumping off point to be like, "Oh, wow, I I hadn't thought about that connection."
37:48
Another thing I do is I'll put them into uh Google's notebook lab.
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And I'll I'll put full chapters in there and then listen to the hosts talk about them. And guess what?
37:59
I have gotten more good ideas that did not occur to me by just taking the thing I wrote, putting it in there, and seeing the way that those AI hosts interpreted.
38:10
I'm like, "Huh, I hadn't even thought about that.
38:14
That's what a great idea."
38:17
But but back to AI, right?
38:17
AI models can summarize, pattern match, they can simulate expertise.
38:23
How how are we humans going to be able to get others to recognize hey, it's it's me.
38:34
Uh in terms of uh you know, we we now have like limitless graduate students, you know, our pocket uh whose work is pretty damn good.
38:45
What what advice would you give there?
38:47
How are you using AI, for example? Cool.
38:50
And what would you tell other young people uh who might be struggling with that?
38:56
Yeah, well, I first of all, I completely agree with you.
38:59
I I think like I use AI I talk to AI probably more than I talk to humans on most work days. I mean and I >> Me too.
39:10
And so, like people often will ask, well, if you used AI to help you write or research, is it really your stuff?
39:17
And I feel like the analogy I would counter that with is like well, I use a calculator to solve this math problem, was it me who did the math?
39:26
Like there's like in some sense, does it matter?
39:28
Like you got the outcome that you wanted to get and so, like I use AI all the time.
39:33
So, I'm writing uh my second book and so AI is currently helping me with the research process and the structuring process.
39:42
And I find that it is a incredible like it's taking the job of an entire research assistant, probably two.
39:48
Um and so as you mentioned, I think throughout history humans have always been averse to change and to new things.
40:03
But as long as it's humans with tools against humans with tools it's the humans that embrace the tools more efficiently and more effectively that will beat the humans who don't.
40:13
And so if you are a young person and you're not using AI, even just to ask silly questions and to familiarize yourself with the technology, I think you are going to be surprised by how fast you fall behind those who do embrace it.
40:32
Yeah, I again, we're very sympathetical on this because it it I it makes me a little crazy though because what what it is is it it seems to be a philosophy that wants stasis, right?
40:45
That wants you you can't use that tool.
40:49
That's cuz that's what we're talking about here, right?
40:54
We're talking about tools that can help us.
40:56
And it just seems so bizarre to me when people get really emotional about it and they and the that's not real writing or that's not real art or you know, fill in the blank.
41:11
And you know, it reminds me of I I was saying to a friend yesterday in conversation about this, actually talking about uh being excited to be able to chat with you.
41:21
And and it it reminded me of the the idea of hey, we can't this fire thing. It's way too dangerous.
41:31
It's way way too dangerous, man.
41:34
We got to ban that stuff because woo man, is it dangerous.
41:39
And and it just seems to me that Well, it By the way, I mentioned Gutenberg earlier.
41:46
Do you know how many people were opposed to the advent of the printing press? A huge number of people. Guess what?
41:57
Guess who was most pissed off? The scribes.
42:02
Because but but the innovation, every tool has its positive and its negatives and I'm not saying AI is going to be the absolute best and it will, you know, solve everything. Of course, it won't.
42:17
It will hopefully lead to newer and much better problems, right?
42:20
Than than uh we had before.
42:24
And yet we we have this kind of kink in human OS where I'm shocked where otherwise like creative people are I you know, I I was talking to one of our editors at Infinite Books and we we have an AI tool that ranks, we call it the portal, and it ranks manuscripts on a variety of categories for us.
42:51
It's just a first pass, right?
42:55
But one of them is an AI detector in there and I and and I'm like, why what like why do we even have that?
43:00
And he said that He laughed.
43:03
He goes, "Because, man, there are some people right now who you know, they're they're great thinkers, they're great writers, but like they have this thing against AI."
43:17
And it just it I can't get my head around it.
43:21
Uh it it just seems so limiting to me.
43:25
It's it's kind of like uh uh uh if if you have access to a tool where you can 10x your output, like use that tool.
43:38
And it seems to me that it's it's almost kind of like a uh sort of a Kantian category error in my opinion.
43:48
And by that I mean it's like I It's the ideas that I'm reading in a book or watching in a film or listening to a podcast that matter.
43:58
I don't really care who or what wrote them.
44:04
I it like they're good ideas or they're bad ideas, or they're just so-so ideas.
44:10
But, this this bizarre obsession to me with the the tool used, as you mentioned, right?
44:19
You used a calculator, does that mean I didn't do the math?
44:23
Uh and do you think that's just yet another of these self-limiting things that we impose on ourselves?
44:30
I think it's this idea where humans conflate things that are hard for things that are good.
44:34
It's like if I wanted to get to a far-off location, I could ride a horse, or I could take a bullet train.
44:40
And it's like, does riding a horse make me a better person because it was harder?
44:46
Or, you know, it's like it's like busy isn't better.
44:48
Uh just because you are working harder doesn't necessarily mean that you like are morally superior to everyone else.
44:57
And so, I I just think like does using the AI tool help you get to where you want to go faster or more efficiently?
45:06
Does it help you learn new things and explore new things as you get going there?
45:10
Like uh yes, then what is what what is it that you're afraid of of using AI?
45:15
I love that and will be stealing that analogy from you uh forthwith.
45:21
Um you could even walk, right?
45:25
It's kind of like it's kind of it's kind of like the Marxist theory of value, right?
45:29
Which equates effort exerted should equal compensation. Right?
45:36
And and uh I had the science fiction writer Devin Erickson on the show.
45:41
And he's got this great theory about about that.
45:45
And it's like you know what?
45:48
If you go into the sweltering Sahara desert and you spend 12 hours exhausting yourself building or digging holes in the Sahara, what am I going to pay you for that? Nothing.
46:05
Because I don't give a that you're digging holes in the in in the Sahara.
46:08
And so he equates money equals given.
46:16
And I and I think I love that because it's crass, but it gets right to the point, right?
46:19
Like the and you mentioned busyness.
46:22
I am abso- drives me crazy when people are like, "Yeah, I work 14 hours a day and I did that for years and I deserve I'm entitled to No, no, you're not.
46:39
If somebody who didn't work 14 hours, but had better output at a better thing that people gave a about, right?
46:46
They're going to beat you.
46:50
And and this busyness epidemic is just kind of crazy to me. It's like, am I busy?
46:55
Well, yeah, because I'm doing a lot of things that I want to do.
47:02
But I don't think that the time I expend writing this new fictional thriller should determine whether it has good sales or not, right?
47:10
It's It's the It's the book that's going to determine whether it has good sales or not and it will have good sales if readers like it. Right?
47:23
It just seems so simple to me.
47:26
And and conflating it with the amount of hours or oh, do you know how hard I worked make this book?
47:32
By the way, writing fiction is really really really hard.
47:38
I was talking to my daughter yesterday and she's an award-winning uh fiction writer for middle grade fiction and I said uh I I certainly have learned that what you do is incredibly hard.
47:54
But it's it's also fun and taking a page from your book, I'm doing it because I want to do it.
48:02
And and, you know, will I fail? Okay, fine.
48:06
Then maybe if I write a second fictional book, that one will do better.
48:11
But the but the confusing, you know, hours put in, it's I I call it the the the time punch card uh fallacy, right?
48:22
We we we came up historically in a world where when you went to work, you would have to punch your time card and then punch out, right?
48:30
And then you were paid for the hours that you worked.
48:33
Well, that's fine for a factory in 1905.
48:39
But it isn't the world that we live in today, right?
48:43
And What what do you say to people who have kind of you can sense that vibe when they're talking to you?
48:51
They're They're like, "Jay, you know, I love your advice, this is great.
48:53
This is great work and everything and I I was highly agentic and I put all my time and effort into it and yet I failed, so you're wrong, Jay." Yeah.
49:05
Back back to what you're saying on the on the business part, I I completely agree because uh there's this this analogy that I Yeah, me and my analogies, but I like this analogy where it's like if we have an act a competition to see who can chop down as many trees as possible and you have this really sharp axe and you're chopping it.
49:22
You're chopping the trees.
49:24
And I have an army 500 people with tractors.
49:27
I will win every single time.
49:31
And the answer isn't for you to swing harder and faster.
49:32
The answer is to get more leverage.
49:36
And so, like, yeah, I completely agree.
49:39
Like Low agency people think linearly.
49:43
I put this amount of effort hours in, I should get this amount of stuff out.
49:47
High agency people think in exponentials.
49:49
And I think that's the the fundamental difference. Yeah.
49:54
I Again, just giving you advanced warning.
49:58
I am going to be stealing your best analogy.
50:02
But, the I like that one a lot because uh you know, Ken Stanley's book Great He's coming on the podcast.
50:11
I'm really excited to be able to talk to him.
50:15
Uh because he wrote the book Greatness Can't Be Planned.
50:19
And and what he meant by that was that it's the things that you learn while working towards that goal that often times are the eureka moment, right?
50:33
And the broader your aperture, in other words, the more open-minded you are to the idea that hey, this particular version of my uh let's stay with my book.
50:45
This particular version of my book might be good, but I just learned this thing over here, and if I change it, it's going to be much much better.
50:55
And so, it's this circuitous path of learning that if you're if you can if you can maintain that attitude and be persistent and be yep, I'm just going to keep doing this uh and and hope that I get a great result.
51:14
That is going to be a much better way to do things.
51:18
And I agree on the exponential versus linear.
51:23
Um What's your attitude cuz really what we're talking about here uh if it if there was an over story, it would be prefer great signal over vast amounts of noise, right?
51:38
And it you you are kind of a very strong signal guy.
51:44
Um what tips would you have for people listening or watching us to to be able to have their signal be a lot higher and and cut it through cuz back to AI, right?
51:54
There's going to be a lot of AI slop because people are just going to go, "Oh, yeah, I'm just going to have the AI do it."
52:01
and they're going to put it out there. It's going to be slop.
52:05
Because they they haven't really been the architect of it themselves.
52:08
They're not using it as a research or a rewriting tool or a writing helping.
52:15
They're just you you know, they're just saying, "Yeah, write me a book about And guess what?
52:19
That book's probably going to be not good. But Oh.
52:25
What advice would you give people who they've bought in on being high agency, they've got great ideas, but there's a lot a lot of noise out there.
52:38
What tips would you give them for helping their signal break through that increasing uh cacophony of noise? Yeah.
52:49
That's a question I I thought a lot about, which is you know, in in age of AI, there's so many mentors that you can find online.
52:55
There's so many people you can listen to.
52:59
Who should you listen to?
53:01
And I think a lot of people mistake someone with charisma as someone with a lot of deep insight and experience.
53:11
And so the question I like to ask myself is is not did this person achieve what I wanted what I want to achieve, but did this person help other people achieve what I want to achieve?
53:26
And then did this person help other people like me achieve what I want to achieve?
53:31
And then did this person help other people like me achieve what I want to achieve many times?
53:35
And I think that's often a single of a signal of who should you be listening Who should you seek out for insight?
53:43
Uh not someone who's charismatic and speak well and tell stories, but who is someone who has gone through the fire and helped others got go through the fire as well.
53:58
That's a great distinction.
53:58
And yet again, we're back to human OS.
54:00
And it I I'm baffled by the amount like I I I think doubt is is uncomfortable and sometimes unpleasant, but certainty is its thing. Right?
54:15
Like it's to me, somebody who believes that they have a truth with a capital T is generally somebody that is probably misguided and is probably not going to end up doing very very well.
54:39
Um and that's not me being nihilistic and saying there are no truths.
54:43
It's it's me saying that you're probably much better off in terms of doing it the way you've just described, right?
54:52
And yet and yet, who do we elect?
54:55
We elect the people who give that speech that they're certain.
55:01
Who who are we charmed by?
55:01
The charismatic talker who's really wonderful at telling wonderful stories and you just feel so good listening to them, etc.
55:14
And that does seem hardwired into our human OS.
55:19
I What I mean, I know you do it.
55:21
How how would you encourage others who really like that charismatic YouTuber or podcaster or writer um to to go about finding the nearest neighbor to what you're looking for.
55:37
I I myself have an idea about it that does involve AI, but I'd like to hear yours.
55:45
How do you go about finding that that person? Yeah.
55:49
I think it goes back to probabilistic thinking, which is like do you listen to the I guess let's say your goal is to climb Mount Everest, right?
55:58
Do you do you find the person who is, you know, telling all these crazy stories and has, you know, you know, he's really tall and he's he's wearing this nice jacket and he has a crowd around him, or do you go look at that person who's sitting off to the side who you can tell his calves are just like really built.
56:16
Like he's kind of sitting off the side drinking like, you know, and drinking out of a metal canteen.
56:21
He's got his big pack next to him.
56:21
He looks tired, like he's gone up the mountain several times.
56:24
It's like, who do you listen to?
56:26
Do you listen to the person who you can tell is trying to put on a show or the person who has built has gone up the mountain several times, has taken people with him, and isn't trying to look for attention.
56:38
And I think maybe a hot take, but most of the people that you can learn the most from actually aren't super huge on social media.
56:49
They don't have huge followings. They're not going viral.
56:53
They're the operators who have been in the trenches and have been quietly compounding their years of experience in the dark.
57:02
And so, if you can find those people, I think you'll be way better off.
57:07
So, in other words, uh find Tenzing Norgay, not Edmund Hillary, right?
57:14
Tenzing Norgay was the Sherpa who got Hillary up to the top of uh Everest.
57:16
Um and yet Hillary became the very famous one, at least in the West.
57:24
Whereas Tenzing was like, yeah, do this every day, man.
57:30
Um but but on that point, it like doesn't that conflict a little bit with your work your your idea that people should work in public?
57:40
Yeah, I think the difference is the person who is trying to be charismatic and posture and put on a show, they're doing it for the sake of attention.
57:50
Whereas the people who built build in public, the people who work in public, they're not trying to teach things.
57:54
The the lens is different.
57:56
Like when I wrote my book, I wasn't trying to say, "Hey, I'm the guru.
58:00
I'm the professor up here lecturing to the rest of you little students."
58:05
It it's more like you're the guide, not the guru.
58:07
I'm I'm that kid in the back of the class who's you know taken this class before and I'm just writing down things in my journal and then I'm I'm sharing, "Hey, hey friend to my left, hey friend to my right, here's what I you know, here are my notes.
58:20
It's like this isn't the way or the best way or the only way, but you know, I took this class last year, here's what's worked for me."
58:26
And so when you work in public and you document the things that are working for you, um it's it's more like here's how I'm doing it more so than here's how to do it. I love that distinction.
58:40
Um, and you know, if I was going to put you on the spot and say, "Hey, can you build a template right here, a repeatable playbook uh based on maybe we'll just take your your email breakthroughs.
58:52
Like is there is there a repeatable playbook that people obviously would modify for their own uh specific needs, but is there what I like to call an ur pattern, a primitive pattern that that is repeatable and that people listening to us right now, and if you were able to generate one for them, were like, "Damn, this really works." Yeah.
59:20
I would say there's a repeatable approach to doing it.
59:21
I don't think there's a repeatable template because the process of doing it is by definition will be unique every time.
59:30
But I think um I like to call it um I think Charlie Hoehn, uh Tim Ferriss's director of special projects, calls it the the TAG method.
59:36
Which is step one, you want to pick a target.
59:39
Like who do you want to work with?
59:42
Who do you want to get an opportunity from?
59:46
And so right off the bat, I like to choose people who are one to two steps ahead of me, not on the top of the mountain.
59:56
Um because it's like, "Hey, would you rather learn entrepreneurship from someone who's uh you know, currently in the trenches or someone who's already been a billionaire but did it decades ago and may not remember what it's like to be a beginner right now in the current state that the world is in?" Step two would be audit.
1:00:13
Now that you have this person, do your homework.
1:00:16
Like, can you listen to old podcasts that they went on?
1:00:18
Can you go to Twitter and and do Twitter advanced search and figure out some of their favorite thoughts or ideas?
1:00:24
Can you Google them and then not look at what's on the first page, but go to the second page of Google or the third page?
1:00:32
Can you go to the third page of YouTube?
1:00:34
Um can you ask people they used to work with and and really try and understand who is this person? What are their goals?
1:00:41
What problems are they they facing?
1:00:43
And then how can you help them?
1:00:46
And then step three would be gift.
1:00:46
Now that you've done this work, you've done this audit, um so for Noah, for example, I realized like, "Hey, he has this book coming out.
1:00:55
Well, if you want to launch a book, what do you need?
1:00:57
You need a strong newsletter so you can reach and contact those people."
1:01:01
And then I was like, "Well, what do you need to have a newsletter?
1:01:05
Well, you need to grow the newsletter.
1:01:06
Well, how's he doing it now?
1:01:08
Oh, he's doing it like this and this.
1:01:10
Well, it looks like he's not using these social media channels and he's using only this one.
1:01:14
Well, what happens if he did this?
1:01:15
And then, well, if we did use these channels, well, what would that look like?
1:01:18
Okay, so here's someone else who's been doing it.
1:01:20
Well, here's how we can do it for you.
1:01:23
And then when you do that audit, you showcase your thinking.
1:01:27
It shows that you want the job cuz you're you're doing the work, and then it shows that you can do the job cuz you're actually thinking like as if you already having uh that opportunity.
1:01:36
And then step three would be gift.
1:01:36
Give that for free, no strings attached.
1:01:41
Um I think the exact line I used was um like here, I made this for you because I've been loving your work for the last few years.
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If you like it, let's work together.
1:01:50
If not, no harm, no foul.
1:01:52
And what that does is it decreases the friction it takes for them to say yes.
1:01:59
Because when you get I mean, I'm sure you're on Twitter.
1:02:03
All these people cold DMing you like, "Hey, I want to work for free or I'll I'll work for you or whatever."
1:02:07
It's like it puts the burden on you to figure out who they are and how they can help.
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And so by doing the work up front, by using the tag method, you you decrease the friction it takes for them to say yes. I love that idea.
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Um and it's you know, we we we have changed the way we hire at OSP, for example.
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Uh and everybody, even if we think they're the greatest thing since sliced bread, we start everyone off as a consultant.
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Because one of the things that I have found is the traditional way of hiring is, in my way of looking at it, kind of looking at a snapshot, right?
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Did they have a great day?
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Were they super on in that particular interview with you?
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Or what about the guy I really don't or woman I really don't want to miss?
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They had an off day on that particular day.
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They, you know, they were didn't sleep well, and they got in a fight with their partner, and you know, they got a ticket on the way to the interview, and you're not seeing them at their best, right?
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It can be either or, right?
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I want to watch a movie of that person.
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I want to see how they do over Typically, we'll give three to six-month consulting arrangements.
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And you know, my my my newest chief of staff, that's how he got the job.
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He got the job by using your idea of a gift, uh sending a really, really cool video that he made about some of the possibilities within our media franchise.
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And I'm like, "Huh, this is interesting."
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And so, we hired him for a six-month period to work on that and other things.
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And like in working with him, I found him to be just incredible and ended up offering him the position of new chief of staff.
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Um I my previous chief of staff had developed into like the axe on our film uh division.
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And so, he moved over there to be the head of that.
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And now, uh Jean-Marc is here doing that. Um What?
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Why don't more people do this?
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Why don't more people just like that I mean, there's a ton One of the things we the reasons I started the fellowship and grant program was because I felt, you know, for almost all of human history, a genius was born, lived, and died
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without even knowing, right, that they were a genius, without an opportunity because like if they were in, I don't know, Bangladesh and I was in Connecticut, unless I traveled to Bangladesh, my chances of meeting that incredible innovator are virtually nil, right? Now,
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Now, we can find them everywhere, right?
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And that does necessitate being at least a little bit online.
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We're not going to be able to find you if you have no online uh footprint.
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Um but the idea that we can do this kind of said to me that I must do this, right?
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Because I personally think that we are at the beginning of uh an explosive period of innovation, creativity, etc.
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not only because we can now find these people, but these people we can interconnect, we can do all of those things that, you know, if you blink your eye, that's how long we've had this capability, right?
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For for most of our history and by the way, that's one of the reasons why I think the whole idea of gatekeepers and accreditation and all of that are still very much in our psyche because in the old days like you couldn't do an online search, you couldn't do all of the things we're able to do now.
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So, you know, you had to have something.
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And so, we went the route of accreditation and, you know, who your references were and did you make it past the gatekeepers and all that.
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That's still in our cultural DNA.
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And and I think the faster you realize that that ain't the way things work anymore, the better.
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But you know, another great way to learn, in my opinion, my friend David Senra, I'm sure you're familiar with his podcast.
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Um the guy's a maniac and I love him for that.
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And and you can learn more, in my opinion, just spending an hour with David.
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Because he did all the heavy lifting for you.
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It's like David doesn't just when when I had him here for the first time rather than like, "Hey, how's it going?"
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and everything, the first thing he did is go to my library.
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And then we didn't hear anything.
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We didn't hear anything from David for like 25 minutes.
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And he's like, he came back and he's like, "Where did you get this book?"
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And I and I and I love the idea that you can leverage these obsessive types like David, like you, um and you know, learn a tremendous amount from them.
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But but I'm reminded of one of my favorite philosophers who masqueraded as a science fiction writer, Douglas Adams, who said, you know, she she it is remarkable that the species, we humans, who have the easiest path of learning from the experience of other people, are remarkably disinclined to do so.
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It it Well, is there is there a way to kind of break down that resistance that you found that works reasonably well?
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I think it's reminding yourself of the opportunity cost of not learning from those who have come before you.
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It's like the greatest people and entrepreneurs and builders and athletes and artists of all time, like we're so amazing, somebody wrote a book about that, and you choose not to learn from them.
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Like the greats of the greats of all time speak to you through books, and yet you choose not to listen.
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And I find that I find that crazy, to be honest.
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Like there are million-dollar lessons, billion-dollar lessons and hidden in $30 books, and I I don't see why you wouldn't spend an hour of your time trying to learn from them so that you don't have to go through life, you know, bumping your head against the wall trying to figure everything out by yourself.
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Yeah, you can knock on a deaf person's door forever, right?
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And if they can't hear you, all the knocking in the world isn't going to get you there.
1:09:06
Another thing that you you said in your work is that people don't lack motivation, they lack clarity. Expand on that. Yeah.
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That was an idea I thought a lot about in my own life.
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I found the times where I procrastinate the most, the times where I work but not not very hard or not very efficiently.
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It's it's honestly not that I lack motivation.
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Like I'm a very driven person.
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It's when it's when I don't really know why I'm doing something.
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And why what I'm doing matters.
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And once I do understand why I'm doing what I'm doing, it makes working so much easier.
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It's like hard work isn't a prison sentence if you love have a reason to working hard.
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And so I think that's why, you know, principle number one I think chapter two in the book is identify your North Star.
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Like it's very hard to get what you want if you don't know what you want.
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And so once you know what you want, then it makes everything else clear.
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It's like why did Kobe Bryant become one of the best basketball players of all time?
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It's because he knew that's what he wanted.
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And so every decision he made, he filters through that North Star.
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It's like, does paying attention in class like help me pay attention on the court more?
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Yes, okay, I'm going to do that.
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Does, you know, practicing my pivot moves over and over over again so it becomes automatic, does that help me get there?
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It's like, yes, okay, I'm going to do that.
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And so uh for everyone, especially young people, it's like truly ask yourselves, what do I want my to look like?
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And not what my parents want for my life, not what my teachers or society wants for my life, but but what do I actually want?
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And then then ask yourself, what do I not want? What are my anti-goals?
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What do I not want in my life?
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And so when you have the you know, the north and the south, you're able to make clear decisions.
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You're able to work harder on things that you want to do that move the ball forward because you have those north stars.
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So so what what are your north stars now?
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And interestingly, to me at least, what are your south southern what you don't want?
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And and and how do you keep both of those top of mind? Yeah.
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My north star, my mega north star, is a play off of Naval's quote, which is a fit body, a calm mind, a house full of love, meaningful work, enough wealth to not have to worry about it.
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And I think those are very vague and amorphous terms on purpose.
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I don't think I'll ever fully achieve any of those things to the completely.
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But I think it's in striving to be 1% better in each of those domains that I find the most joy.
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Um because to me, at least in this season of my life, progress equals happiness.
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And so when I make progress towards those north star goals, that's when I feel the most sense of fulfillment and meaning.
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And so um I try to keep that in mind pretty much every day.
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It's It's like, what am I going after?
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I want I want to be high energy and fit.
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I want to be calm and not reactive to things that happen during the day.
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I want to stay close with my friends and family and actually have them want to have me around and hang around with me.
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I want to work on things that give me joy and and that I feel like are important in the world.
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And I want to have enough money where I don't have to worry about like what tomorrow will look like.
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I I can I have this freedom to then design the rest of my life to be the way I want it to be.
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Um and so then what would the anti-goals for that would be?
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It's like well, I don't want to be fat, dis- like always stressed with no friends or family, just like in my room, just kind of alone, just a car, like a little gremlin.
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I don't want to be working on things that I feel like are busy work or or meaningless just for the sake of getting a paycheck at the end of the day.
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And I want to not live a life where I get to the end of it, it's like I regret that I didn't experience the vastness and the beauty of of life of of this beautiful thing we call life.
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Those are uh great uh things to move towards and move away from.
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And and that underlines very nicely your point about clarity. Right?
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Um I can't remember whose quote it is, but it's along those lines.
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You can you can deal with almost any what if you know why. Right? >> Frankl? Is that Victor Frankl? Yeah, I loved Okay.
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So, uh another quote of his that I love is um when we find that what we are that we cannot change a circumstance, we must change ourselves. Yeah.
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And I really really like that idea as well.
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In other words, it's it's of course, if you know his story, like the it brings like if you're not crying when you're reading Man's Search for Meaning at certain parts of it, You don't have art because he he went through horrible horrible things during the war and yet came out the other side this amazingly inspiring human being.
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Um and because he found his why, right?
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Um and I I think I think that might even be really good advice for people listening to us and and watching us right now.
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It's like if you can't immediately say what your why is, you might really really want to think about that.
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Because you can get you know they these fitness landscapes, right?
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People often times when they're young and they haven't like had the full experience like they're like, "Well, I I I want all those things, but I want but right now I'm going to take this job at McKinsey or one of the big consult cuz I'm going to make a lot of money.
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And but then after I make the money, then I'm going to go and do what I really want to do."
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And that very rarely happens because guess what people forget about the path dependency, right?
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So, you take that high-paying job and I'm not going to just pick on consultants here.
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You you take some high high-paying job that you don't really want to do, but you're good at it.
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So, you so you take it, but then what happens?
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You get married or you find a life partner and maybe you have kids.
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And well, the kids have got to go to this great school, which happens to cost, you know, thousands and thousands of dollars and well, we really should join, you know, that club over there.
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And then all of a sudden what you what's happened to you is you reach the top of your fitness landscape.
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And you're like, "Oh, If I stop doing this and go do what I say I really love and want to do, there's going to be a tremendous amount of collateral damage there.
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And you know, it I've actually seen in a real life it lead to like divorces and all of that type of thing.
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And and so know your why seems like really good advice to me.
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And also, you know, be calm and carry on, right?
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I I think another thing of yours I read uh no risk, no story. Right?
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And so like I'm not I'm not saying that you should make your life so that it's a great story.
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You shouldn't you should make it a great story for you, right?
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If if you are the author of your life and I hope you are, um you should you should be interested in it from that point of view.
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Um I'm also interested in when you are working in public, right?
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What has been the biggest upside that happened from that that you didn't expect to happen?
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I would say getting the opportunity that I'm in right now.
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So I currently work at acquisition.
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com and I completely caught me off guard.
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I wasn't expecting it at all.
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Uh and it's been an absolute crash course in business and sales and psychology and marketing.
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Like it's been it's been incredible.
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And yeah, at the time I was running a marketing agency and it was it was going well and I I like I love my clients.
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They love working with me really.
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And because of the stuff that I put out onto the internet, uh someone on the team found me and they they want they offered me a position and at first I was like, well, I kind of like, you know, what I'm doing right now, but I ended up realizing that the fastest way to where you are is not the fastest way to get to I decided to to shut down the marketing agency and join acquisition and it's been it's been an incredibly fulfilling time here.
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And so, I think like there's so many non-obvious serendipitous things that happen when you put your work out onto the internet.
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And like I've met lifelong friends on Twitter.
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I've I've gotten to have incredible conversations with people like yourself.
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I've gotten you know, I'm I'm waiting for that one day where I say I'll I'll met my wife on Twitter, but not yet.
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But, you know, I can't understate how much writing online has changed my life.
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Yeah, I I think doing it in public warts and all is a great way to do it because you never know who's watching.
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You never know who's interested.
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And they can't know about you if you don't put it out there. Right?
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You can't ask until you you know, you'll never know until you ask.
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And if you don't ask, you don't try that handle to use your metaphor, like that door is remain forever locked to you.
1:20:03
You mentioned you're working on a second book.
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Same same concept or completely different? Similar.
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So, the first book was about how do you create opportunities without waiting for permission?
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And the second book is well, okay, you've gotten this opportunity.
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Well, how do you stand out within the opportunity that you have?
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And so, it's kind of like the it's kind of the situation I'm going in now.
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It's like I'm working at acquisition.
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When everyone else is great and everyone else is an A player, how do you stand out?
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And so, that's the the big question for the next book.
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How do you make yourself impossible to ignore? I love that theme. Can you give us a hint?
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Uh, just give us one way to do that so our listeners uh will rush out to buy the book to see all the rest of them.
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I will say descend into hell to create heaven. Uh I love that.
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Yeah, so you got to be Dante and go all the way.
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I I I used to joke that um I personally have a block of ice right next to Satan waiting for me in hell. Um that's a great one.
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When do you When do you think that book will be coming out? Uh, not anytime soon.
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I think I'm I'm taking more of my time on this one.
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I want to I want to weave the stories a little bit deeper uh than the last book.
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So, the last book was more for like you know, a lot of people at the time it was for young people, people in college, people who don't read a lot.
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And so, it was meant to be short, meant to be like you can read it in a day, like get in, get out.
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Um I think this next book I want to be more intentional about uh interweaving these themes a little bit better. Very cool, Jay.
1:21:55
Uh I think you are uh amazing sort of North Star for a lot of people your age. At least I hope you are.
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Because there's never been a better time to be young and have access to like oh my god, all of these tools.
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Like I'm 65 years old and they excite me every day.
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I can't imagine what it must be like to be your age and just think holy like look at all the things that I get to use and play with and and use these tools to get what I want and the thing that's going to block you is what you're writing about.
1:22:35
You got to take the plunge, right?
1:22:37
You've got to take that first step and uh I highly recommend that people of all ages read your book because it it really makes its points elegantly about, you know, and unless you are high agency, the world's going to pass you by.
1:22:58
Uh George Mack, the fellow that we were chatting about before uh formally starting the recording.
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Um he has this uh maxim that if you want to think or learn pretty quickly who the highest agency person you know is, think this.
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If I was locked up in an emerging country or third world uh prison, who would I call with my one phone call?
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And he says, "That's your highest agency friend." Yeah. I love that. Yeah, me too.
1:23:34
Listen, Jay, this has been fantastic.
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Um if you uh listened to the podcast in the past, you know that we our final question dubs you emperor of the world for just a day.
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You know the ground rules. You can't kill anyone.
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You can't put anyone in a reeducation camp, but what you can do is take a magical microphone that we're going to hand you right now and you can say two things into it and everyone on Earth, whenever their morning is, is going to wake up that more next morning and say, "You know what?
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Unlike all the other times when I had these great ideas when I was waking up and I failed to act on them, I am going to act on these two starting right now."
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What are you going to intercept in the world?
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I think you know what I'm going to say, but number one would be you can just do things.
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And number two would be define your North Star.
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I love both of those and I did have kind of an intuition about what they might be.
1:24:37
Where can people find you online?
1:24:37
I know you're ubiquitous, but just to make sure that everyone who has a preferred platform or whatnot where where can they find you?
1:24:49
Yeah, I'm @JYangInspires on pretty much every social media and for a little bit of my deeper thoughts, my newsletter is jyanginspires. beehive. com. Perfect.
1:25:02
I wish you the greatest success.
1:25:02
I love seeing people like you coming up in the world.
1:25:06
We need a lot more of you and I hope your book helps people who are kind of teetering on the edge think, "Ah, it. I'm doing it."
1:25:16
Well, I appreciate you having me on, Jim.
1:25:17
This was an absolute pleasure. As it was for me, Jay. Take care. That was great. That was awesome.
1:25:26
I, you know, as I mentioned, long-time listener to the podcast, so it's been it's been an honor, truly.
1:25:31
Oh, well, really great having you on. I love your work.
1:25:36
I wish I wish that there were many more of you because I think the more people like you, Jay, the better the outcomes, the better the world becomes.
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So, keep doing what you're doing. Thank you.
1:25:49
I'll certainly do my best to to increase the number of those types of people out in the world. Terrific.
1:25:54
All right, good luck with the marathon. Awesome, thank you. Cheers.