let's start somewhere there's 11 sort of points in the book that you go through but I think in this time in this day and age with all the kind of current events that are happening in the world one of the things you talked about in there is ways to find calm in the chaos could you talk a little bit about that yeah absolutely I think we're just living in
uncertain times we're living in chaos as you just said it we're living in times where we're constantly surprised by what's going to happen next and it's not a good surprise like it's not like a birthday surprise it's it's a negative surprise sometimes and I think what's happened is that we've started to recognize and I really trust the people
listening and watching right now we've started to realize that the answer is not going to come from outside of us we can't just keep waiting for suddenly the stock market to be perfectly aligned we can't keep waiting for the political climate of the environment to be perfectly aligned what we need to do is find and more importantly not just find
but create that peace and that come within us and that's why I talk about thinking like a monk because when you look at the brains of monks across the world they have the calmest happiest brains on planet Earth and I want to give people access to how to have that because when you start getting access to that now you don't need the weather to be perfect now you don't need to wait
for everyone to give you love every single day now you're not dependent on anything outside of you but you recognize that you can create calm you're not going to look for calm and so that's the perspective that I want people to do it's beautiful I was reading in the book where you're talking about these monks they actually measure their gamma waves even at sleep yeah and
they are higher than everybody else right than everybody else and so you tapped into this ironically you graduate from college they just need to know the background on this as I understand it anyway it kind of in your family you say it's sort of like you're a doctor a lawyer or a failure right those are my three options yeah and you end up
graduating but before even at graduation you go away and go live with the monks right you literally how did you make this decision and what overall would you say was the impact that happened to you while you did that yeah absolutely so yeah a bit of background I grew up a teacher's pet until the age of 14. so I was an obedient kid probably like the
perfect son worked really hard at school and then at 14 I went the opposite way I started rebelling I started experimenting with everything under the sun and at 18 I was at this interesting point I think everyone is when if you think back to being 18 and everyone was listening and watching think about being 18 years old again and how
impressionable you were and what kind of decisions you were making I used to go and listen to CEOs entrepreneurs experts celebrities speak and once I was invited to hear a monk speak and I thought to myself what am I going to learn from a monk like there's nothing to learn from a monk like what's he going to teach me how to be silent like who cares and I
said to my friends I would only go if we went to a bar afterwards like that was my like I was like I want it in writing that describes where you really were literally that describes where I was genuinely I'm not making this up and I end up going and this is what I love about that moment the best moments in your life are sometimes the most
humbling ones true I was humbled because I went into that environment expecting to get nothing and having my life transformed so what ended up happening is I felt and you've probably felt this when you when you meet people when I was 18 I'd met people who are beautiful I'd met people who were powerful I'd met people who were rich I'd met people who are famous I'd met
people who are successful but I don't think I'd met anyone who was truly happy and even now if I asked you to count on your hand how many people you know that are truly content satisfied and happy I think we'd struggle absolutely and I felt that from him at 18 and the great thing is I know him now I've known him for the last 14 years this this
particular monk his name is I talk about in the book he's still the same and so he's maintained that so I started getting fascinated with him so I spent every summer vacation with him from age 18 to 8 22 every summer vacation I would spend half of it interning at Big finance companies steakhouses bars fancy suits and I'd spend the other half living as a monk in
India that's remarkable robes sleeping on the floor and meditating oh my gosh and then when I graduated I decided that the monk path was more fulfilling than the banking path and so I chose it what a remarkable young life it was it was my first like experiment you know it's like you're literally testing it and I never judged myself and that's what I love
about being able to live life in that way like I didn't judge myself when I was at the monastery I wasn't like oh no I was just drinking last week I can't do this and then when I was out there with the guys I wasn't like oh no I should be meditating I was just like let me really experience each life to its fullest and then I can decide which one really fills
me with joy it's amazing you're talking the most because just this week I was on a show they said what topic would you like to cover above anyway they left it open to me and I said I think I should be happiness because it's so rare for most people in the world there people have asked me on the show when I started the show I was fascinated because you
year shows had 54 million downloads the first year right and people say what do the people that you interview have in common they're some of my best friends some of your best friends are on your show and I thought well I wonder when I do it is it going to be their Drive their Ingenuity their Charisma their work ethic their Brilliance and many of
them have all of those qualities but I think you would agree with me that even top performers that we work with some of them have a touch of not so happy going on in their life even the people that you think have their whole world together they too seek happiness and I'll be honest with you because I'm such a fan of yours I thought well what
almost like what you thought what do I have to learn from you about happiness from the monk perspective I didn't think the same and as I started to read the book first there were many Revelations for me secondly there were some things in the book that I think I do practice pretty well but the way you phrase it and position it is beautiful as you as
is your Norm so one of the things you say early in the book you talk about selfless sacrifice and there's this great well that'll mess up in there that one of the monks had shared with you about that in the shade that you don't want to sit in plant a tree right yeah yeah the statement this was the statement that when I'm sitting in that room as an 18 year old thinking about
going to a bar this was that statement that penetrated my heart and I was like oh because so he was making the point that if you have any gifts and if you have any talents in the world if you're not using them in the service of others then worth nothing and that's a very bold point and the way he put it he was quoting another writer and he wrote that
plant trees under whose shade you do not plan to sit and what that means is most of us plant trees or we do things for people because we're expecting that one day they're going to reciprocate and do something bad for us and he was like real service is when you do things for people that can't do anything back for you at that time and you're not
expecting anything and for me for my 18 year old mind I was like Oh I thought my skills were just to impress women and make money and you know just do what everyone else does and when he was talking about selfless sacrifice and service I was like I want to test that because either this man is a genius or he's completely crazy but if he's given up and he went to IIT so he went to the
Indian Institute of Technology one of the best universities in the world he was like a number one student and he gave that all up to be a monk so I was like there's something there because you don't just give that up especially in India the pressure to perform and to be a top grade student is so high that to walk away from that like his family and
everyone would have just completely so I was like I want to follow that path wow bro I'm fascinated by you because I as now that I'm in your presence everyone should know that Jay and I have communicated for a very long time we have tons of new friends but we have a rare on the show that I'm in the presence of somebody and I I feel your
energy speak about this I think I had this impression that someone who's sort of Monk related is just sort of just there's this feeling I get that's just it's strong peace but it's strong too there's an energy about you and one of the things that I think that you eventually overcame that you talk about beautifully in the book and I see every day people ask me often
there's all these memes out there we all hear hey you know what everyone's opinion about you is none of your business but people really struggle with finding a pathway to happiness because they are borderline obsessed with the thoughts and opinions of other people and you discuss that a little bit too how would you tell someone who's struggling with this which is 99 of the
people who are listening to this how they might deal with that or overcome it yeah I give this analogy in the book about how we're all like method Act is so I'm a big movie fan like I'm a big movie fan and so for me some of my favorite actors are like Heath Ledger who played the Joker in The Dark Knight you've got Daniel Day Lewis who's an
incredible method actor now I talk about in the book how Daniel Day Lewis at some points he was wearing the clothes for Gangs of New York in his normal life to the point that he even got pneumonia in his normal life because he's wearing these old raggedy clothes and he goes at one point he almost went crazy pretending to be someone that he wasn't
now when I heard that I read that I thought wow isn't that all of us like you wear a certain role to work you wear a certain role at home you wear a certain role with your friends and in playing all those roles you end up method acting and forgetting who you are oh my goodness that is beautiful and for me that's what I'm just seeing across and in and of myself me too and I see
myself do that I become you become who you think other people want you to be and so for me the first step in that is writing down everything you're chasing right now like this is a great strategy and a tool and if anyone's listening or watching get a pen and paper if you're not take a screenshot of this time code right now and come back to this because
I want you to sit down and I want you to write down everything you're chasing right now whatever it is make that list second question where did that idea come from did that idea come from your mom your dad your friend your brother did the idea come from me or Ed did the idea come from I don't know some book that you read like did the idea
come from your heart and your mind or was it born because it was influenced by your friend who just got promoted yes your friend who just got proposed to your friend who just sold their company for a hundred million dollars like is that was that the reason because then that may not be your dream and then the third question you have to ask yourself
is is this my dream or this is the question is your dream really your dream and when you go through that exercise you want to keep the stuff that's yours and you want to distance yourself from the stuff that's what incredible advice you know I'm a little bro I got to tell you there's such wisdom for such a young man I'm a little bit further down the road
age-wise and wisdom-wise and wisdom-wise I'm excited to learn from you a lot man so certainly not but I appreciate you saying that I mean but I can I can validate what you've just said I'm I think dream catching in your life can become something that gains momentum as you vibrate a little bit higher frequency you can begin to attract things and I'm a big believer in that
and I have many times achieved a dream or two that when I got there was completely empty and every time that I got to those dreams when they were empty they were not my dreams they were something that I thought someone else wanted me to do or something that I saw someone else have that I thought I wanted a place a destination a home something and you're 100 right but the
times when I've got clear on things that I really wanted that really mattered to me and when they were good enough that they materialized in my life what great joy they've brought me and they're usually extremely simple things yeah as you illustrate as well I love hearing you say that it's nice to get validated on that because I think you've achieved
so much in your life and it's incredible to see what you've achieved and I think that's what people forget is that the things that bring you Joy and because you achieved what you wanted to achieve let's talk about that for a minute you talk about Dharma a little bit how do you figure that part out in your life yeah so Dharma is a fascinating concept
I absolutely love it and the loose language terminology for it is purpose or calling or your mission and vision in life like what are you meant to do it's kind of like what you're meant to do and the thing about Dharma is Dharma talks about how we think we have to learn lots of stuff when actually Dharma is unlearning and bringing out what you
already have so one of the things I mentioned in the book is that you can't be anything there's there's two lies we've been told growing up the first lie is you're nothing you're stupid you're worthless you're not going to make it and I'm sure many people are listening and watching have heard that from teachers parents Aunts Uncles whoever it is and then the other
lie that we're actually told and I don't think it's a lie I think it's positive but sometimes it's misconstrued is you can be anything right and and we all know that's not true too and it's unfair because sometimes people get misled you're exactly right and the Dharma point of view is you can't be anything you want but you can be everything you are
and what I mean by that is you have a genius a potential a power inside of you that you don't know yet why because you're inexperienced it's not that you're unqualified it's your inexperience so people are saying I'm stuck I don't know where my life's going I don't know why purpose is so you're perceiving yourself to be unqualified or under qualified actually you're just
inexperienced you just haven't done enough things to let the magnet of your life tell you what it's attracted to so for me that's what dharma's encouraging people to do in this beautiful verse from this Vedic text among text called the Manu Smithy and it says that when you protect your purpose your purpose protects you and what I love about that
and you will appreciate this because I know you're someone that I feel is living this a purpose is like a rare gem and you have to protect it people will tell you that gem is worthless they'll tell you that their gem is not going to make it they'll tell you that that gem that Jewel has no value and that's why you have to protect your own purpose because
the world is going to constantly try and pull you away from it so Dharma is a real it's not a belief system it's a fact that you've got skills genius potential is sitting inside of you and you have not seen it yet and I've seen this across the board I literally just got a call from the I got a call from the CEO of Instagram probably about
three to six months ago it's been a while now and she called me up and she said Jay we just had I don't think I've told this story anywhere so you've sparked it out of me but she goes we've just had this call uh sorry we've just had this talk from this speaker that we brought in and this speaker spent years in a refugee camp and in this refugee camp not only did he
figure out how to survive he actually got his mother to save up for a computer and he coded a game he taught himself out of code and he coded a game that helps people understand how not to be violent in a refugee camp and then he used Facebook to promote it oh my gosh and they said we were so inspired by him that we brought him in
to speak to Instagram and Facebook and then we asked him the question we asked him what has had the impact on you like what kept you inspired and this guy goes he goes I used to watch this guy called Jay Shetty on Facebook and and literally when she told me that she said literally the whole audience was in tears at his story and I said to her I said I need to talk
to him right away because I need to tell him I'm like dude you've just inspired me like my like I'm like dude your life is way harder than mine's ever been and if you can realize that you have the potential in a refugee camp to teach yourself how to code and to help people not be violent I mean you're inspiring more lives his name is luau Mayan I'm
like dude you're inspiring so many more lives than I ever like it's just beautiful and to me that story I'm not sharing it to show my role in his life I'm sharing it because I'm like if he can find a way to find his Dharma yes then we haven't got any excuses brother that's Mac it's funny but right before you told the story about him yeah I was
going to tell you that it's so obvious to me that you're in your home and that's perfect evidence of it it's so obvious to me as I sit next to you and I the book guys I want you to get this book it has my full endorsement and the reason it does first off is because this man that you're hearing these incredible words from wrote it but it's it's a
unique book because it talks about these principles that are eternally true but there's also like what I would call fundamental strategy I was going to say basic but it's not basic it's fundamental strategies I was surprised in a book that talks so much about happiness that you get as granular as a morning routine right which I'm a huge believer of and I think sometimes
but you do it differently right and so I only go through a few things because we wanted to read the book yeah right but like just so you know guys we're at one percent less than one percent of the book so far you're very good but it's true but so talk a little bit just tactically for a second about importance of it and and the way that you perceive
a morning routine yeah so the beautiful thing about monk life is half the day is self and half the day is service that's how you're taught to live okay so the morning hours are for you to fill yourself it's almost like putting on mental emotional and physical armor like that's what a morning routine is odd days are tiring our days are busy our days are draining well guess what if you
didn't put your armor on in the morning and you're going out to battle how many knives are going to cut you how many swords are going to pierce you how many wounds are you going to come home with how many of you come back home feeling wounded I come back home feeling wounded sometimes but guess what if you put your armor on in the morning a
warrior would never go out onto a Battlefield and life can be a battlefield work can be full of conflict sometimes your relationships can be damaging sometimes your friendships can be toxic sometimes so we are warriors in one sense and so without wearing that so for me a morning routine is putting on emotional armor which is meant to protect you for the
rest of the day and that way even if you do get pierced or you do get popped or you do get cut you're protected and I know that when I my morning routine is at its best I feel protected I know exactly whereas when my morning routine is weakened I feel weak and so for me the morning routine as I get strategic about it there's two principles you have to know
location has energy and time has memory if you do something in the same place every day that place now holds that energy and this is huge like it's it's just so big and I'm grateful for that reaction because people don't realize how how powerful this is like when I meditated in temples that were 5 000 years old in South India it was easier to meditate
because people have been meditating there for thousands of years and so when you find a space in your home and even if you've got like I lived in a 500 square foot apartment in New York four years ago and I just had a tiny Corner which I dedicated to my sacred practices so if you you don't have to have a big home to do this you don't have to be
wealthy to do this you can find just a corner in your home that you dedicate as your meditation space or your reflection space so first thing location has energy second thing time has memory and this is something that people underestimate when you do something at the same time every day you remember it and time remembers it that's why we
struggle to work out at different times every day it's why we struggle like why do we feel hungry at the same time every day generally we feel hungry at the same time most people if you've got regulated diet you're full hungry you'll feel tired at the same time every day you will look towards that coke can or that sugar or that chocolate bar at the same
time every day and so when you're meditating at the same time if you're exercising at the same time so what I recommend to people wow is your morning routine needs four aspects and it's simple and I call it time it's about making time in the day okay so time stands for t-i-m-e T stands for thankfulness there needs to be even if it's five minutes five minutes of
thankfulness of gratitude every single morning and that has to be gratitude that's specific it can't be gratitude that's generic so generic gratitude is something that anyone could be grateful for oh I'm grateful for the sky I'm grateful for air I'm grateful for water that's cool but it's generic gratitude specific gratitude is I'm grateful for
the fact that I have someone calling me this morning I'm grateful for the fact that I can still call my parents I'm grateful for the fact that I have this person in my business who is having such an impact I'm grateful you know it's specificity yeah so thankfulness second one is Insight I think this is one thing that a lot of people are missing which I
recommend people listening to you it's like podcast books and and make it easier for yourself if you get this book leave it open on your bedside table leave it open on your kitchen table leave it open on your dining table I guarantee you you will read more and what you read will speak to you and I think people underestimate that that literally like when you have it open and
you'll just flick to a chapter randomly and you pick up one line it will impact you and it'll speak to you so Insight you need Insight every day m is meditation and I believe meditation is different for different people as monks we did walking meditations we did Beach meditations we did visualizations we did breath work find your meditation
practice I give a ton in the book and fourth obviously exercise which you can speak to even more than I can I exercise to keep fit you look amazing too though but it's an exercise everyone needs to find five minutes a day 15 minutes a day of exercise that can just get them moving and guess what if you like sport play sport with a friend if you want to
shoot hoops go and shoot hoops you don't have to sit on a treadmill no one's telling you to do that make it fun and playful brother I'm you know I've been in personal development and business Entrepreneur Space for a long time those are two gigantic Revelations that I've never heard before I I'm telling you that that for me in the book right I'm
reading it and I I literally stopped the book and I brought both my kids in and we talked about this idea of that space having an energy to it and I want to validate it because I just think you're incredible I just everybody is why I want you to get the book and it's why if you're not you must be following Jay on these different platforms not just one
either you need to be honest YouTube you need to be on his Instagram his Facebook but I was I'll share this with you because I'm sure he's a hero of yours when I was very young well when I was younger actually about your age ironically I'm running on the beach in Hawaii and um it's early in the morning so I did my morning run speaking about
exercise and passing me by on the beach was this man I saw him from a distance anyway he gets by me and he starts to go the other way and it was Wayne Dyer oh wow and a lot of people listen to this probably don't know oh wait guys you should check I mean you can't he's not alive anymore you should check out Wayne dye's work his books he's one of the
Godfathers of I mean he was somebody that's really made an impact I ended up getting a chance of long story short sitting on the beach with him for about an hour as the sun comes up talking about life you talk about just the two of us right however one of the principles he taught me that day and you articulate it quite frankly more beautifully and more specifically than
even he did but I want to validate it again because these are things that you're not getting on any other podcast is what Jay and I are talking about right now and he asked me he said are you going to write a book and do you prepare speeches I said I do and he says one of the things I do is I have lots of the greatest books in the world surround
me when I write because these books have that time and energy in them and he believed that it gave him the great wisdom of all of these people when he just surrounded himself in that familiar space so for you to now put this in your book about a morning routine is remarkable because I was just a passing thought that's really written nowhere so
wow thank God for yourself man and you just sparked actually Phil Knight shoe dog you know Nike it's like he he he talks about how he actually has a room where he keeps his books like a library but he takes his shoes off when he enters that room because of the wisdom and the weight and the energy and the gravitas he believes books hold and so
even as monks we would never wear shoes around books because it was considered shoes are dirty and you wear them outdoors and books are so pure that you don't want to take dirt into that space and and supposedly Phil Knight he does the same thing and I was like four nights thinking like a monkey but it's just so interesting what you're saying about like books holding energy
right we believe that books are sacred you don't kick books you don't keep books on the floor because they have knowledge and they're meant to raise you up wow wow wow yeah there's so much in there I want to go through a couple more things I want to have the book but I'm so fascinated by you I got a couple personal things but one of the things you say in the book I've said this
before and again I just like the way you approach it with more depth than I've covered it before I just said this this week to somebody look at me like I was crazy and I talked about I said some of your low self-esteem and your lack of confidence is actually an ego issue that you have and the person stared back at me like how in the world is someone with
no comp or low confidence or low self-esteem struggling from an ego issue and I don't know that I articulated it well enough although it's in one of the podcasts that I've released one of my solo podcasts but you articulate it right on so talk about that for a second yes it's an interesting concept and it's talked about in the bhagavad-gita and
not the monk text and and in the book it talks about how like ego is demonstrated in two ways so ego is either I am the best in the world and I think I'm better than everyone or ego says you're the worst in the world you're the worst than everyone you're you're much worse than everyone or you say my life is the best and the greatest my life is the worst
right my life is far worse than anyone else so the ego likes to push you to the extreme it doesn't like to give you balance and honesty and reality it likes to it wants to make you feel like you've got the worst life in the world and no one else understands it no one gets that only you get and you get the worst or you're the best and no one else gets you
you're untouchable and and people miss that yeah like how does that make sense exactly like you said but it does make sense because the ego wants to be the top or the bottom but the top of the bottom yeah it doesn't just want to be at the bottom for the bottom yeah it's going to be the bottom of the bottom of the bottom but the top of the bottom
right well set yeah and so we get lost in that and we don't think of it as ego yeah and that's why the only antidote to either ego is self-honesty is being honest and honesty is I'm good at these things I'm great at these things and I suck at these things right like that's honestly like and we could all sit down me and you could sit down with a list of
our skills and map out what we were great at what we were average at and what we knew we were terrible at yes and that's honestly that keeps you so away from either ego do you think part of it too is that when you're suffering from my life is the worst that you're focusing on you and you're centering on you and there's an ego connection to that too and that this pathway you
talked about earlier about getting into the service of other people yeah removes you from you which begins to remove the ego absolutely I mean that's a huge point you just made right there like you just dropped some seriously like that's like a you know please don't underestimate that point everyone's listening like the the challenge with all self-centeredness is that all you
then indulge yourself in is your own pain well very good right you just indulge you're just submerge and like immerse yourself in pain because it's all about you yeah and you know I think Gandhi said it best is that you find yourself when you lose yourself in the service of others and what I love about that statement is that what he means by
that is and and empaths get this mixed up sometimes so I want to clarify because a lot of people who are empaths are listening like Jay I'm always trying to help people but then I get screwed over so here's here's the answer you're not helping people so that they can thank you you're not helping people so that they can be grateful to you you're
helping people because you know it's the right thing to do but more importantly you're helping people because you get to understand and experiment and experience different parts of yourself when I helped kids growing up in India that were that didn't have food and we were giving them free food I learned so much about myself when I was able to go and
give talks that help people or now I make videos or podcasts you learn more about yourself when you help people you don't learn anything about yourself when you're just sitting there filling out a quiz going who am I what am I like you don't figure but you learn about yourself when you help people and and this is what we don't realize I can't
remember who said it recently it was someone saying about Jeff Bezos but they were saying that you know the scale at which you succeed is the depth of the problem you solve and so even if you look at someone like Jeff Bezos who's extremely successful he's successful because he solved a problem that many people have Bill Gates is successful because he solved a
problem so even if you look at Monetary success even if you look at financial success it comes from service any success comes from service a musician is famous because they're serving they're serving You by understanding your feelings making music you now feel comforted so you follow them they have served you so don't think of services just charity and
giving money which are beautiful things which we all should do but don't just limit your life to thinking I serve on the weekends or I serve once a year you can serve every month this podcast is a certain no question right it's your service because you're serving people by giving them an alternative to just watching some trash show but they're
actually here learning from you and learning from the people that you bring on the show I've watched you to that point this is a personal thing because I'm I'm such a believer that you're you move the needle in the world that you can help change Consciousness I'm in my little way people say in my small way I would love to think I'm a like in that ocean that you see out
there like a drop of water and altering the consciousness of the world just just a skosh not me but who I can share with people and my own messages and I believe you're one of those people and so I will tell you as I've watched this meteoric rise of yours I've actually privately a few times not every day but a few times I've actually prayed for you that you
that you would keep this level of humility and so this is an interesting thing I wanted to ask you but it'll serve everybody else there is this balance isn't there of wanting this book to do well right you don't want to sell two copies you want it to do very well when you put a video out there's probably of this there's got to be a little part of you that's like how
well did it do and I think that line right there I'm not even sure if you or I know the answer entirely but do you struggle with that balance of I'm doing this in the service of people yet I'm sensitive to the response of what I'm doing because I think someone listens right now who's going to have a present sales presentation tomorrow they
want to be in the service of that person but there's this part of them that is in that balance we've talked about earlier about what's the response going to be how am I going to be received I want people to like me I want to how do you navigate that that's a great question man that's huge and and the answer let's take that sales person the more time that person spends
in empathy their customers pain and what the customer is really looking for the better they're going to be received yes so that service mindset always helps because if you're thinking about and this is what it comes and I said this to my team when we were writing the book and everything I was working on I said if I sit here right now and all I'm
thinking about while I'm writing the book is being a best-selling book then guess what I'm now not writing the book I'm now living in the future and I'm not living in the present and so the only way to make this a best-selling book is to do the process properly and I don't think and this is what I do and this is the only thing that's helping me and
again I go through all the time after my first video went viral three four years ago I stopped creating because of the pressure that I wouldn't be able to live up to it wow so I actually got scared because I was like oh well what if the next video doesn't do as well everyone's gonna think I'm tanking like you get into that self-doubt and that self and I
got into that space where I was just thank you for being honest about it yeah no really like genuinely I didn't want to make a video again because I was like this video just got 40 million views like how am I ever gonna beat that right and you get scared because I'm not putting anything out I'm just gonna stop and then I started to realize I was like
well now I'm not living in service anymore I'm living out of ego and I'm living for feeling a certain way and guess what I'm not feeling better by not putting anything out yeah and actually if I just serve more I'll learn more so the way I've made sense of it and there's a verse in the Gita that explains it too is that you have full
control over the preparation the process and the practice but you have no control over the potential result but all of those three things are the result in and of themselves yes and so if you get addicted to the process of writing the practice of connecting with the right people who can help share your work and yeah like you said I am focused on the
process of making sure that the most people in the world have the opportunity to buy this book but then if they choose not to buy it I can't control that but I can control making sure that it's in front of everyone and that I believe in the context wow and that to me is not attachment that to me is not uh ego that to me is trying to live your best life I
mean like you know if you didn't just try if you're like I wrote this book but who cares yes I mean that's not service either because the way I explain it and I'm not I'm not claiming that this is it and I'm not trying to say I'm it I'm trying to say that I think we all feel this way if you or me see an amazing movie we want to tell everyone about it if you
read an amazing book you want to tell everyone about it if you found the cure to cancer you tell everyone about it for me I got to live an incredible life thanks to these amazing teachers I met I just want to tell everyone about it like that's all I'm doing yes but I want to tell everyone because of how powerful it was brother that's the best description
I've ever heard of there's this line I've always tried to teach of you want to have outcomes but yet you need to separate from them yeah and that's a difficult thing when people are trying to achieve different things that was perfectly stated absolutely being addicted to the process of it but actually separating from what you can't control I absolutely yeah
absolutely love it I'm just curious I got a couple more questions tell us something about being a monk and living with them that would surprise us okay give me something about that so so we had we had that's a good question so we had snoring and non-snoring rooms so they try and be compassionate right so we would so I'm a non-snorer I don't
snore I sleep and my wife agrees now too she validates that yeah so I'm in the non-snar room but the snoring room we would always joke around with the snores because we'd always joke about how they all sound like different motorcycles so we'd be like oh that guy's like a Harley Davidson yeah because you're human and we're playful and you know it's almost like monk life
kind of makes you more childlike not childish but childlike because you start seeing things for what they truly are and you don't get caught up in stuff so you can laugh at each other you can mess around another thing is um we had these sacred sweets or sacred uh items that are prepared and and offered and everyone gets to share them and you
don't eat a lot of sugar as monks and you don't eat sweet stuff but these these kind of natural sweetened items came out like once a week and and some monks would wrestle over them like you know like basically like grapple over who's gonna get those so these are the behind the scenes I love that it's humanizes yes the entire amongst the normal people and let's be
honest like most people haven't been monks their whole lives so it's not like yeah great Point yeah it's like I became among when I was 22 and I'm not now my friends some of them became amongst the 22s some of them became Monks at 30 like it's not like there are monks that become Monks at five that does exist but the majority of people now are not doing
that they may even have more time in their life not one than they were one exactly exactly and so for me yeah I'm glad you asked me that question because yeah like monks are humorous they're funny that like my teachers are hilarious if I'm with them I'll just laugh the whole time really yeah because they just see that and I'd love to introduce you to one of my teachers who
travels here a lot I would love that I'd love to introduce you to him actually he's around 70 years old now he's been a monk for 40 years and and he grew up in Chicago so he's an American man but he lives in India it's been a month for free he's unbelievable but he is hilarious oh my goodness and anytime I'm with him I don't stop laughing so well
present people are more joyous in and of itself right 100 yeah exactly but you are you're not dealing yeah and you're not dealing with that you're not dealing with the baggage of the past right or the anxiety ID of the future so when you are present you can just laugh you can be joyous and be entertained and enjoy the Bliss of the moment yeah dude I want
to keep going so I just want to one more thing let's give him one more gift because you're a treasure bro and uh okay I I wanna I uh I want you to know that I I want you and I to spend some more time together I would love after meeting you today I knew already but after meeting you today you have your energy in in person surpasses all
expectations thank you which is very like I mean that like people listen this going boy can these guys I know it's not the romance yes right so okay so someone would pay a lot of money to do this but I'm going to let him do it for free for a second sure someone says I'm watching this and I've I really have this energy about me after listening to this or watching this and I
want to change my life and maybe I don't have super high self-esteem right now and potentially I lack a little bit of direction or maybe I know what I want to do but I don't know that I have the confidence to get there if you just I want to turn my life around I want to have some of these emotions that it seems as if you experience on a pretty
regular basis what advice or counsel just in general would you give somebody who wants to live a better life yeah so one of my biggest things first of all would be that we we do this wrong because we do either or we do them in the wrong order so in life there are two aspects that impact everything our thinking and our actions and I read a quote the other day that
was saying that the mistake we make is that we either Act without thinking or we think without acting and I think that's where most people are if you're feeling stuck or you're like I'm not sure what I'm doing right now you're either doing too much thinking or you're doing too much acting so you're just doing a lot of stuff but you don't know
why you're doing it or you're just sitting there procrastinating every day and you're doing it so I'd say it's it's both so the first thing I would say to you is take a moment and speak to three different people speak to a family member a friend and a colleague and ask them this one question what strengths do I have what do you think is my
superpower what skills do you think I bring emotional strong soft hard whatever it is do that first get that sense check second thing for the next month take off every weekend eight days because there's eight Saturdays and Sundays all together in a month and book a different course Workshop seminar online offline go to an event Shadow a friend go and spend time with an aunt
Uncle who's doing the career you want go and have eight new experiences and after each of them sit with yourself and ask yourself did I like that yes or no whether you like to or not ask yourself why did I like it or why did I not like it and then ask yourself would I like to do it again and if the answer is yes yes yes guess what go do it again and if the answer is
no no no don't do it again leave it out but if you've had eight and this is the problem we do that over a year we do that over eight years and that's why life feels slow and boring and lethargic and stuck but it just in the next eight days in a weekend just test eight new things and you'll have just a great experiment and the worst thing that will
happen is you'll find eight things that you don't like but I guarantee you that even if you have a sense of that reflection in the beginning and and what I don't get why we don't do this enough is wow we do it with food and movies all the time like you just Ed is such a kind man like I got here slightly late because of traffic and then he let me eat my lunch because I
wanted to be full of energy I I need to find out where that place is because it's local to here my my team got it ordered for me it was amazing good and and it's like you know when you eat something whether you like it or not you know when you watch a movie whether you like it or not you know when you read a book whether you like it or not but why
don't we ask ourselves after meeting people completing projects or going to places most of us keep meeting people that take our energy most of us keep going to places that drain us of our energy and most of us keep working on projects that just disturb our energy all you have to do is ask yourself does this bring me alive why does it
bring me alive really important to know why it works and do I want to do it again wow deep insight there that that brother what do you described right there everyone is like the ultimate pattern interrupt what he's saying is you're going to do this over eight years or ten years if you can just do this in the next eight weekends or the next four weekends eight days