i think the key is not taking things too personally this is a journey and it is called life and we're all going to mess up everyone's going to mess up everyone's going to react instead of think when they're triggered and i think just giving yourself grace giving the other person grace and and apologizing when you have done something wrong is
something that we have to offer one another to really reach our own individual potential [Music] hey everyone welcome back to on purpose the number one health podcast in the world thanks to each and every single one of you that come back every week to listen learn and grow now you know that i'm always trying to
discover interesting stories fascinating people who have so much to share through their life through their experience what they've been through what they've achieved and what they've seen and today's guest is someone that i've been so excited to speak to for quite a while now and i'm so glad that we finally have her online so today's guest is none other
than olivia culpo who's created a substantial platform in modeling beauty and fashion what began as a minor pageant run turned into a multi-title winning streak culminating in a highly successful modelling career that has since made her a household name in just a matter of years she's created a massive worldwide platform that
stretches across entertainment beauty fashion substantiating herself as a fierce entrepreneur and business-minded woman in august 2017 olivia opened the restaurant back 40 with her family in north kingstown rhode island welcome to the show olivia culpo olivia thank you so much for doing this thank you so much i have to say you
really nail the intros i've heard a few of your uh actually every single one of your podcasts really and i'm always so amazed by your way of communicating and also the intros i mean i don't deserve that i don't deserve that at all so thank you well you deserve it because it's all true but we love you more for saying you
don't deserve it but i had no idea that you actually listened to the podcast so now i'm i'm like the one who's feeling like i don't deserve that because i had no idea that you were a listener oh absolutely yes you are constantly inspiring me i love the topics i love your guests i i take away every every tidbit that i can and i'm i'm all for
for doing the self work so thank you for making it easier for us to become better and happier people oh you're the you're this you're the kindest thank you so much well i want to dive straight in because i have so many things i want to talk to you about and the first thing i want to ask you is just some conversation starters for us
to get in there i heard that you are about to open your second restaurant which you co-owned with your dad in new england could you could you tell us a bit about first of all congratulations but could you tell us about where the passion for that came from and especially doing it with your father i mean that sounds so special
it is really special so i come from a big family i'm the middle of five and my dad and my mom both started their career as professional musicians and that's how they met my dad had five kids when he was like 32 and he really didn't know how he was going to be able to support us and give us the life that he wanted
us to with his salary as a musician that was non-existent because he wasn't getting hired um so he he had to put things into perspective and he he started as a bartender he really really worked his way up he used to count every single penny he would take and now he owns that bar and owns a lot of other restaurants and i think growing up
with his work ethic inspired me to always want to do something in the restaurant industry but on top of that i think just seeing the community that you build through restaurants is amazing in itself like good food and and good people and quality time is like those are that's why that's what life is about for me and i grew up around that
and so i really do love and appreciate it that's so beautiful to hear and i mean that leads nicely onto something else i discovered about you is that you play the cello and you're a trained cellist is that right i mean that's incredible i mean how does how long has that taken how many years has that been
so i grew up everyone in my family plays instruments and my mom and dad grew up playing instruments as well so they kind of gave me the cello and said this is your instrument everybody got a different one so i started when i was really really young and it was it was awesome i i really enjoyed it for them for the most part growing up i think i
started to really resent it and my parents during my angsty teen years when they would send me to band camp every summer for like eight weeks but looking back on it it was something that i think they did for in my best interest and i know that it was probably the best thing i could have been doing with my time but yes i'm so grateful for it it's it's a
great it's very very cathartic to play every once in a while and kind of escape that's beautiful that's that's so wonderful to hear uh i mean with your parents and you've we've already talked about them twice and they come up again and again in in so much of the important formative areas of your life as parents do but
in the early years of your career your parents as far as i believe or know they weren't they were kind of against you joining pageants and and i want to share i want you to share your experience during your first pageant competition if you don't mind sharing that with our audience yeah it was tough i well i was studying communications and
acting in college and i and i had this itch to just i wasn't enjoying college i didn't feel like i was where i wanted to be i wanted to just do something that would impress myself i guess in a way so i i really wanted to work on my stage presence i wanted to have an opportunity to uh just grow in any way
so i so i told my parents i wanted to do this pageant and you have to pay to get in they wouldn't pay for anything they wouldn't help me with any of my training my mom refused to go to the to the miss rhode island um preliminaries they just thought it was a big i don't know how to say this without sounding horrible and offending people
but they just didn't think that it was the best use of my time and they also didn't realize why i was pursuing cello as my hobby i think that's really what got them to them it felt very vain that i would that i would think that going entering this pageant would help me as much as maybe entering a an orchestra or like trying to get
into a symphony for example so they didn't understand it but that but they came to because they had to it is your relationship with your parents always being like you ask for forgiveness not permission or did that evolve over time how did you get that confidence as a young woman to just be like well this is what i want to do and
i'm going to learn this like what gave you that i think a lot of people today a lot of questions i get is a lot of insecurity where people are like well my parents don't agree with it or my brother or my sister don't agree or i don't have support of my family how were you able to do something that can be quite challenging as a young person
oh absolutely and i think when you're working toward any goal it's so important to preserve your sense of self and your confidence and i protected myself i didn't tell anybody that i was doing this i did not tell a soul nobody knew i was just working out working on my public speaking my i didn't know any of this stuff i grew up as i grew up as a
band geek i didn't even know how to put on makeup it wasn't really something that came supernatural believe it or not so i i just did the work and i didn't expect it to to go anywhere yeah and so it kind of took a form of its own but it was never something that i sought out for yeah no absolutely and and i love hearing that
because i think i align with you very closely on that that when you're trying to do something that is different chances are it's better to be quiet about it because if you tell everyone there's probably going to be so many opinions and ideas and expectations that then you kind of you kind of get yourself out of it because you get so
scared and so i i really resonate with that that makes a lot of sense you mentioned olivia confidence there i wonder what made you confident back then and what makes you confident today has your definition of confidence changed has has being confident changed for you as you've had all these different experiences in life of course as you've
grown as well well i think everything comes down to just really working on your relationship with self and i think that being confident is very hard i think that you really have to work at it and that can mean different things to different people for me i get my confidence and i had my confidence back back then as well from journaling
and quiet moments with myself where i really feel like i'm tapping into source energy or god or whatever or the universe whatever you want to call it but i but but i think that we don't really i personally believe we don't really get through life alone and you have to try to connect to whatever you think is out there that brought you here
but that's not what everybody agrees but for me i really find my peace and my understanding of where i'm supposed to be from those quiet moments with myself where i'm meditating praying doing affirmations giving thanks even and is that something that's always been a part of your life or was that something that you discovered along the
way when did prayer meditation all those beautiful things you mentioned that i know our audience also loves and our community loves when did that get introduced to your life was that something that you had from your parents or was it something you learned along the way my mom is very catholic so i grew up in and i went to
an all-girls catholic school so i think i always believed in the power of prayer um but i but i started transcendental meditation when i was 18 and that was around the time that i all of a sudden my ambitions felt possible and i i wanted to get out of rhode island i wanted to get out of school i wanted to to do something bigger than i ever
thought i could and to me that did manifest into this pageant which looking back on it i'm like i wonder i wonder i don't know i don't i wonder how i got there i still don't really completely understand but for me yeah it it really is something that transcendental meditation helped me a lot and continues to help me a lot i i
felt very grounded and centered in decisions and i it was a very formative experience learning tm was a very formative experience for me and i'm fascinated who introduced you to tm like where did that come in to be in your life of course tm has been around for many many years it's it's an incredible practice so just how did you even
interact with it how did you come across it from your background in your childhood which was obviously different it was different my older sister who is still the the girl that paves the way in our family she started meditating and at the time my mom was having trouble with her blood pressure so my sister offered for her to go to the same place that she
wanted my mom's blood pressure went down more than it had ever lower than it had ever been um and then we all felt very centered and we would meditate together it was a really lovely time and the habit is obviously it's a hard thing to keep up with but i have i'm so grateful to have the tools and i i would encourage anybody
listening to just look into whatever form of quieting your mind you want it doesn't have to be tm it was just the one that i was lucky enough to have my sister introduced me to yeah no beautiful and do you have a space i know i recently saw uh the feature that you had in architectural digest i was wondering is there a space
in your home that you like to pray that you like to meditate that you like to do affirmations or are you one of these people that can do it anywhere and everywhere i really try to do it anywhere and everywhere but i do i do yeah i really really try i think that's part of mastering it which i that sounds so
intimidating and horrible i don't want anybody to think that it's anything that you can't do in a specific spot but i think the idea is having the opportunity to escape wherever you are having that understanding is such an escape in itself because you can be in a very stressful situation just be like hey i need to go to the bathroom and you can
take three minutes and just center yourself or you can be on a plane on your way to somewhere you don't really want to go or maybe you're anxious traveling i don't know or maybe you're in a room full of people that are just bothering you you can you can you can quiet your mind and it's a tool that takes time to to definitely harness but
um it does get easier i will say which i'm sure you know all about i know that you're a big meditator is that a word no definitely but no it's you know what i find is just i love sharing notes with fellow meditators and people who have found their own way to something or to an idea or to a practice because i feel like we learn so much by
hearing how different people are applying it and i couldn't agree with you more i think meditation and mindfulness and all these practices are tools like you rightly said that we need to use when we need them you know when when we're stressed out when we're going through pressure it can't just be something that we do in one space in our
home i wonder olivia with with what we were speaking about earlier with confidence and and i think you explained it really well what would you say is one of the biggest insecurities that you have overcome or that you're working through because i think people may often look at someone like you and be like oh
she you know she's perfect her life's perfect like she doesn't have insecurity she doesn't have but as we all know as natural humans each and every single one of us has those what's something that you think you've had an insecurity about that you've worked through or broken through or are trying to work through trying to work through is definitely
my scenario well you never arrive we're all on a journey right so there are so many things that i'm so insecure about i think that i feel a lot of pressure with the term influencer which i am referred to quite often and i feel as i have overcome that some for some people influencer can have a bad connotation for me it's actually
empowering but it's also a lot of pressure and i think my insecurity could also feel come from me thinking okay i have to be a certain way i have to do a certain thing or else people are going to think that i'm not taking responsibilities as seriously as i can and there's the other side of me that's like wait
why does everybody hate influencers i don't know because a lot of people do have a bad taste in their mouth about that term so yeah that can be really challenging and they're that's something that you that i do work through and i have found uh ways to work through i mean just gratitude being so grateful for every opportunity i have and i think
i've always been the kind of person that if there's a door i go i walk through it and i see what what what happens from there and i really do take my opportunities seriously and i'm very grateful for them and it but it can be challenging when there are things that people say about you that might not necessarily be true or you have a hard
time understanding and remembering who you are because people are telling you that you're a certain way i feel like that's a different insecurity but i think that's more just having a public life people will say things about me all the time and they'll say even to the extent they'll say i've dated people that i haven't even dated
and it's it can be challenging because you have to have the self-awareness to understand that that doesn't necessarily matter and what people write about you it doesn't have to define you um and it's also something that everybody who decides to have a public life has to go through so um to me these are these are things that
i work through i don't want to get into the specifics of what people write but yeah no i i i wanted to hear from you what you're experiencing because i think from the outside in it always looks like everyone who has a platform has it all together and as we all know it and as you beautifully explained there that there are so many things that
are uncomfortable and difficult and challenging and some of it is self-created and some of it is just coming from people who've never met you or people have never known you or or people who don't understand you i guess who who do you think in the world who are the relationships that you turn to for feeling understood for being connected who are
the people in your life that you turn to for those open honest conversations oh definitely my sisters i have two sisters that i'm very very close with they really help me we really help each other i mean the good thing about sisters is i think well i genuinely think sometimes we're the only people that would be able to
stand one another in a lot of ways but we're also i don't think that there's a love that i could experience as a like my sisters are my friends and my sisters that's just a combined amount of love that um will always tie us together and i lean on them to be honest with me when i'm being horrible they will tell me and shoot it to me
straight i rely on them to ground me and remind me of what's important they are a sounding board when i need advice or i want to flush out an idea and um they they're just they they mean so much to me and it's a very reciprocal relationship because we will all help one another definitely them and you know what they
tell me that really hits home get over yourself nobody really cares and that helps me that helps me a lot honestly because it is true at the end of the day we're all here in li on in life there's a journey and we're so blessed to be on it and um yeah i i really try not to sweat the small stuff that's why it kind of took
me a minute to think of like what's really ruining my day today i try not to think about those things because i'm so i i can't believe how blessed my life is and i and i really try to lean into that and i love hearing that because we all need to be reminded to not buy into our own hype uh whether it's positive or negative and it's always wonderful to have
family and people that you trust and love that can say that to you but tell me about some of those rituals how do you get into that mind space i mean what you just said is so powerful like you know you're like i don't even let that i try and avoid having that thought come into my mind what are some of your daily rituals and practices could you walk us
through those that have really become important for you uh they don't have to be things that everyone has to do or everything well everyone will love but what are those things that are important to you well i i personally think affirmations can be really really really transformative one that i that i um say a lot is i am safe and
secure within myself and that kind of reminds me to not seek outward validation which my job is literally outward like what it's very hard not to seek that when you are feeling the pressure to show up in a certain way and i also really believe in the power of prayer i'll get on my hands and knees and just ask god for an answer
and i i get it in one way or the other it's not always in the perfect timing but that's personally something that really helps me i love those i love those and i love that affirmation it's such a powerful simple and and beautiful one that we can all use and i think no matter who we are we all seek validation externally you
know in in any field of life whether we're seeking it in our family or our workplace or whether it's on social media and online we're constantly looking for safety and security from outside of ourselves but we all know that we can only really find it inside of ourselves and that you know that's where it truly lies uh you you've
talked really openly olivia about your your journey with endometriosis and and you speak very openly about this and you know the endo find out i was wondering whether you could share with us about the diagnosis process the treatment journey tips or advice you have for young people who may not be aware fully of what it is absolutely well endometriosis is
basically when the uterine lining every month a woman sheds her unil uterine lining endometriosis is when the uterine lining grows outside of the uterus so it could really be anywhere it could be in your appendix kidneys liver diaphragm they've seen it everywhere so it can be very very painful the real kicker about endo is that you
can't diagnose it through an ultrasound it's a very hard thing to diagnose so a lot of women find themselves in excruciating pain for their whole lives or in my opinion worse they don't experience pain because their endo is in a place where there aren't a ton of nerves and then they want to get pregnant and they're unable to get
pregnant because they have this disease has wreaked havoc on their on their eggs so it can be really really and i've decided to lend my platform to it to help people in that and have a voice for the women who feel like they weren't heard because the average diagnosis for endo is about eight years because it's so
hard to find like you have to go into surgery to find the endometrial tissue it's not gonna show up if you go in for your you know pap smear or ultrasound or you know i think maybe sometimes they can see it in a cat scan or sometimes you'll have a blood filled cyst called an a called an uh chocolate cyst which is like an endometrioma and that can be
attached to your ovaries and maybe they can see it that way um but it's very rare that i mean not yeah it's rare that that would happen and um a lot of women really suffer and i just i wanted to lend a voice and i wanted people to be able to know what to look out for so that they're not you know in their late 30s late early 40s or even in
their 60s saying i could never get pregnant and i never knew why it's like well that could be why it gives you answers yeah well thank you so much for sharing that by the way and and and using your platform for that too because the more and more i learn about things like this where there are there are just so many challenges that so many people
are going through that you don't even know exist right or you may know they exist but you don't really know someone who's gone through it and you never know someone in your family is going through it right now you they just haven't been able to tell you or be honest with you and and share with you what they're struggling with or a friend
uh or a friend in your life as well who's going through it you you seem like a very open person you know you have wonderful relationships with family where you can be vulnerable with them what has been a quality that you look for in people that you surround yourself with is there something that you look for as an energy
as a person as a quality in the people that you keep close in your life ooh i would have to say the first word that comes to mind is honesty i think that part of coming from such a big family that is very close we've always been very honest with each other to the point where i think sometimes it's almost jarring for people
around us because they just can't believe how how uh bold we are with the things we say to one another but i was raised in that way we really don't hold back so i appreciate when others are honest to me i'm always kind of blindsided when somebody said that they had a problem about something three months ago i'm like what three months
ago over dinner like in my family we would just talk over each other get it all out and then move on so i really value honesty i mean obviously in relationships too you don't want any deceit that's not like that's on a whole other level and kind of goes without saying but i really admire people who are able to
have an honest conversation and um shoot it to you straight because that's something that helps both people yeah and how do you feel receiving honesty as well because i often feel like a lot of people like honesty and we say i love honesty and and i and i i think i know what you're going to say which from from the way you've shared it but
how have you prepared yourself to receive more honestly as well because i think a lot of us can say hey i really want people to be honest with me but when people are honest with us and it doesn't kind of align with what we want it can actually be really uncomfortable how have you prepared yourself to be someone who can accept and receive
feedback that's transparent honest and open i know well i think first you have to pay attention to what is triggered so are you feeling guilt are you feeling defensive are you feeling shame and then work backwards from there i personally feel like um it it takes a moment with yourself to really think about how is this making me
feel and why is it making me feel this way and why even is that person feeling that way i think thinking of things in terms of another person's point of view is the most helpful way you can have empathy and understanding and and get better and also strengthen your relationship so i think the key is not taking things too
personally this is a journey and it is called life and we're all going to mess up everyone's going to mess up everyone's going to react instead of think when they're triggered and i think just giving yourself grace giving the other person grace and and and apologizing when you have done something wrong is is something that we have to offer one another
absolutely what what a beautiful description what have been summoned olivia i'm intrigued by you've played so many roles in your different careers that you've taken on different parts can you remember like a pivotal moment whether it was a lesson a mentor even a failure that kind of crafted who you are today when i when you think
about that and looking at how your career is played out are there any specific moments that you think back to and think that's where i learned something really powerful that has helped me shift how i think and how i work oh yeah yes oh my gosh well i didn't really want to go into this but no i'm just kidding it's fine it's
actually a great story and i'm so grateful for it and it was very very formative for me so when when i first moved to la i was in a relationship and that's why i moved here and i was completely thrown when i when that relationship ended because i had no sense of self i had no i had nowhere to live i had no money i i
was raised in a very well i don't know if this would even be considered traditional anymore but i was raised where you know i don't know my dad was the breadwinner and my mom was the mom and she also worked but you know my dad felt it was just a different type of dynamic so it was the first time that i realized like i i'm my breadwinner i
have to do this i have to work really hard i have to maintain a level of excellence so that i can support myself and it was the most challenging moment in my career but it was also the most rewarding because i had to make ends meet i didn't have a choice i i otherwise would have had to move back to rhode island and
i don't know work in my dad's restaurants probably which that wouldn't have been the worst thing in the world it's obviously not terrible to do that either i would i actually love going into the restaurants but i just felt like for the first time i was really able to make myself proud and i was able to see the the hard work actually come
in to come come in a way that i was able to surprise myself and i know that that doesn't mean everything and obviously it's not really it's not really my place to say that i couldn't have been happy doing something else but i think that going through that kind of gave me the confidence to realize okay i can do this and it also
taught me a lot about having to be self-sufficient and the importance of being a woman in society you think sometimes that your partner is going to support you for life but it's just not the way to live and i i think that's why i also have such an entrepreneurial sense to me now um because i fi i think it's important to show other women that
that same message that you can do it you should do it and um you deserve it you owe it to yourself for sure yeah that's that's i'm so glad you picked that example because i think breakups can be so tough uh breakups you know like you said they can be the most ah they can be the most like confusing times where you feel so lost
and stuck and everything feels like it's falling apart and to be able to rebuild from that and to recognize that that was a sign for you to find yourself and to actually go inward but but i love that you chose that example because i think like i was saying that so many people go through breakups and that breaks them right that really breaks them
and you saw it as an opportunity to have a breakthrough as to who you are what do you think was it just the sheer pain of like i need to figure my life out now that helped you get through that or were there other things what what was that that really helped you figure out that that was the moment you needed to go inward
i think it was a few things i think for one thing it was definitely a little bit of pride and it was a lot of regret i was really upset with myself that i allowed my um i allowed i didn't put myself first because i was supporting my partner and in supporting my partner i wasn't able to fulfill my dreams and then i was eventually like i
really didn't have any way to support myself so i learned a lot in that sense but i think that um i think that in general i would just tell somebody that you have to understand exactly where you fall in life and if you're in a relationship that doesn't mean that your life isn't your own um for me the moments where i realize i
have to pick myself up from by the bootstraps is when i didn't know how i was gonna be able to afford my rent or my meals which was crazy because i came from living this a-list life and then all of a sudden it was just um not my life anymore and it was the best thing that ever happened to me it was awesome and now i make my younger
sister pay a little bit of rent because i uh want her to really understand that one she has to make ends meet and be deep want to be two she can which are that's a very important lesson in life to learn you you you can and i want her to feel that even though sometimes she tells me that that's messed up and just doesn't pay but um it's still just the
idea i'm i think i'm making her a better person so it works for me how old is she she's 20 she's 23. and i'm not kidding you she just does sometimes she really just doesn't pay it i love that i love that you're outing her on the podcast i love i love that now everyone's gonna know she doesn't well maybe this will help her to step up
[Laughter] i love it yeah olivia you mentioned there that that was where that entrepreneurial spirit that desire came in tell us about some of the best entrepreneurial lessons you've learned over the last few years of building you know so many different businesses ideas ventures tell us about some of the lessons you've learned on that journey
well i think the first thing i've learned is that it's really really really really hard and you have to be willing to put in the work i think that i've always been the type of person to go above and beyond in terms of what i turn in terms of the time that i lend to certain things i'm very thorough and and i can't really
in good faith always say no to an opportunity and to some people i've gotten before like oh my gosh she's so thirsty that's another thing i'm i'm a little insecure about but um at the same time that is why i was able to get success i think because i have a lot of i have a lot of people who are who are my you know my contemporaries and i look
at them and it's like we just didn't really give up we didn't we just kept going and every opportunity um i really try to to approach with an open heart and an open mind and gratitude and just see what i can make make of it and i think that that with that persistence i was able to get the success and get to where i am now
yeah definitely i i couldn't agree with you more i think persistence and consistency are really underrated because they're not as cool or sexy or hot as ideas because it just means showing up doing the same thing every day even when you don't feel like it sometimes i was i was speaking about that to someone recently they were like
jay what do you think is the best skill in the world and i think i said i think the best skill in the world is to be able to do what you need to do even when you don't feel like it because if you're waiting to feel like it all the time you may never feel like it or you may only feel like it once a week but actually the more you do it and the more
you practice it you start actually falling in love with it more and it starts with that desire of just that discipline and showing up how have you crafted discipline in your life you know i'm sure that so many areas of your life require discipline would you say that you're a disciplined person or would you say you're a bit more of a free spirit
spontaneous person oh i am incredibly disciplined it's actually one of those double-edged sword type of situations because i'm a bit of a pro i'm a huge perfectionist so um that's what i mean by being super thorough like it takes me so long to do something because i just want to make sure it's perfect and that is something
that i work on because it's not not the best quality but um i think that um like you said just showing up day after day and just like you know continuing to get back up when you feel down or when you're pushed down i look at a lot of people that i admire and that's what they've done that's what they're doing and that's why they are
where they are so i really try to practice that in my life although it can be very challenging and you sometimes think that the world does revolve around you when something bad happens but it's really just you know this is not going to break me i am going to get back up i'm going to keep going i don't know
where i'm going but i'm moving somewhere i love that do you know what i've this is one of the reasons why i love the podcast because you can follow someone online you can you know you can look at their posts and how they write and everything and then you can get an opportunity to sit with someone and i really see on purpose as
an excuse for me to sit down with people i find interesting and i'm speaking to you today and i'm just like wow olivia's just such a free-spirited spontaneous fun-loving individual like you know you you just like i love how you like answering a question and you switch direction then you crack up at yourself and then it will go somewhere else and
i'm like it's just so real and so special and and i love that because i i think we're all looking for that we all want to be that energetic self like how have you always been this way when you're being interviewed or you're having a conversation or has this come with time where now you just i just feel such a and when i say confidence i don't
i don't mean in an arrogant way i i genuinely feel like you just you carry yourself in this way which is just really disarming and like there's no barriers on either side oh well thank you i think that um well let me tell you my my code name or my nickname within my family is oblivia and a lot of my close friends
can tell to tell me that i have a way of blocking out things or circumstances or um you know kind of playing the well what do you mean by that person instead of you know challenging people and i think that that goes hand in hand with my kind of carefree spirit because i really really don't take myself too seriously and for some people in my life
that can be very frustrating but it is definitely a coping mechanism of sorts i just feel like um i feel like life is more fun and and more um you know natural to me when i do have that more free-spirited attitude and it's something that i i'm born with this i think i've always kind of been that way um do i work at it
yes by constantly reminding myself well not constantly but i just you know nobody good news and bad news nobody really cares you know i just don't take myself seriously and i think that doing something in the public eye it can be crippling when you're constantly thinking about the way that you're going to be perceived or the way that
somebody's going to make you feel because the way that they feel about what you did um and i've had i've had windows of that type of experience and it's just not what the way that i want to live my life it's not the it's not the best version of myself it's it is crippling it is debilitating it's not great for your um
creativity it's not great for your mental health and practicing that uh and living that way is it's probably in you can tell me if it's a defense mechanism but it works i i actually think it comes across wonderfully i don't think it's a defense mechanism i i from from what i'm experiencing through this interview is i'm just appreciating seeing someone
who's just really comfortable in who they are and and i i i love that like that that's something that i find really something that i admire in other people because i know how hard that is and and i know how challenging that can be when you are in the public eye so i just want you to know that i enjoy and appreciate it and
for whatever it's worth uh but yes your your your energy's coming across wonderfully and i i think everyone's going to really appreciate that uh because i think that's what we're all striving for we're all striving to be ourselves in every scenario and not feel like we're trying to be what everyone else wants us to be yeah
yeah i hope that i don't sound like an arrogant person but oh no no no well it's not that i'm gone well i'm just thinking it's not it's really yeah well what am i trying to say here see now i'm thinking too much oh no yeah now i made you overthink this is why you should not talk to me this is this is why we should not do podcasts
because now you're overthinking it no i was honestly saying it as a genuine observation and i there is no arrogance in there at all i'm it's not it's not it's not arrogance it's just freedom and and i think you know freedom is is is everyone's right right it's not it's not arrogance oh well thank you so much that means a lot i'm going to tell all
of my friends and family they call me oblivia that you said that do that do that although i may start calling you oblivia because it's funny and i like it so olivia you've just been you've been so generous with your time with your energy with your spirit uh just you know i've enjoyed connecting with you so much
today as you know we end every on-purpose interview with the final five so these questions have to be answered in one word to one sentence maximum so it can be one sentence but that's it so olivia these are your final five the first question is what is the worst advice you've ever received try harder what is the best advice you've ever
received work hard and be a good person my mom said that sweet what's the first thing you do when you wake up in the morning i cuddle with my dog i'm one of those people and then yep what's the last thing you do before you go to bed blow out my candle can't forget that and the fifth and final question if you could make one law
that everyone in the world had to follow what would it be well i think that smiling okay this is a one sentence thing everybody has to smile for at least an hour of their day no i just think if people smile more they'd have better attitudes they'd be happier they'd make better decisions we'd have a better life and therefore every other
law that was ever forced or not forced but you know voted upon would be a positive change for the world because smiling is proven to make you happier absolutely that is a great law we have never had that so that's why i love that answer and i think you're spot on i've smiled a lot during this interview uh i i think
smiling is one of the most underrated things in the world i i know what you mean you're not asking us to smile for an hour and hold it consistently you're just saying overall yeah overall throughout the day smile more have you ever been in a really bad mood and then you are told to smile and it just completely lifts you from that moment absolutely
absolutely so i think maybe we just raise all of our energy collectively as a species yeah i love that answer olivia is there anything i haven't asked you that you want to share something that's on your heart or your mind that you really want to share with our community today i just want to say thank you so much for having
me and for the platform that you have and use to make us better people because i really do believe that you're very inspiring and um i'm very happy to be a part of it in some way no thank you olivia well i'm humbled and i'm grateful and uh i know that after listening to this episode everyone's gonna be smiling a lot laughing a lot
and uh experiencing that joy that you shared with us today so thank you so much and i look forward to meeting you in person one day and thank you to your whole team who's been wonderful to work with so thank you so much of course thank you so much yeah thanks olivia thank you everyone who's been uh listening and watching today make sure that you tag me and
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