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You're never going to be the same person you were a year ago, and if we're not watching each other grow, you can lose this like spark.
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We change so much and so you're kind of falling in love with a different person regularly if you're paying attention.
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Then this is one of your talking points that you want us to talk about was our red table talk experience. So, I'm getting ready.
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I'm trying to figure out what I'm going to wear. Oh, yeah. And and what's going on.
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And then, shall I tell this one? Okay.
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And then Radi says, she's like, "So, so what should I wear?" Right? Very good question. No more questions.
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I was cook Yeah, I was cooking.
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I was like making something and then I was running really, really late and I was like to you, "Oh, like what should I wear?
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Like, you know, what should I wear?
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What should I wear right now?"
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And you were like, "Oh, it doesn't matter because you're not going to be on camera.
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Like, just wear anything that you want. Just be comfortable. Wear wherever you want."
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So, I had like 5 seconds to get ready.
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So, I threw on like a T-shirt and jeans and then you tell the rest.
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And so No, no, no, but she skipped the detail. She's being nice to me.
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I I literally said to her, I was like, I was just like, "Wear anything.
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Like, it doesn't matter what you wear.
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You're not even going to be on camera." Yeah. Right?
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Like, that's literally what I said to her because it was meant to be an interview with me and it was one of those moments that you live to regret as a husband and a partner because I was literally like, "Yeah, it doesn't matter what you wear.
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Like, wear anything you feel comfortable in.
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You're not even going to be on camera."
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Next thing you know, we get out of the car when we get there, we're both on camera from the moment we get out. Yeah.
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Uh Jada turns up to greet us and welcome us and just, you know, makes us feel so comfortable and welcomed and happy and she's sitting with both of us and literally after 5 minutes, her and her team are like, "We think Radi should be on the episode as well."
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And and the only thing I can think of is, "Why did I say that? Why did I say that? Why did I say that?"
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And and then they're like, "Radi, would you feel comfortable doing it?"
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How did that feel for you?
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It's like, you know, a few months before you'd been on my podcast with me and that was a big step out of your comfort zone.
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Literally, I think it was like 2 months later you're on this or maybe 3 months later, but how did that feel for you?
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Um well, when she asked me, there was already cameras around us.
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So, I was like, I can't really say no.
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Um, and I think I was just scared because I also, you know, when you need to mentally prepare for something?
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Um, and I take I feel like I take a lot to mentally prepare for things that I'm doing or like going on.
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Um, and so, yeah, as soon as she asked me, I literally just felt like my whole body go into immense anxiety.
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And um, and I can't remember, I think I said no, okay.
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With it like this space of 2 seconds.
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Um, but it was a such a good experience because it really pushed me to do stuff that I would have never ever like if they'd asked me separately, I would have probably said no.
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Like if they'd asked me beforehand and I had even time to think about it, I would have probably said no just because of my anxiety about it.
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But um, it was so nice to be kind of pushed and like completely shoved out of my comfort zone uh, because then when I watched it back, I was like, "God, I didn't even Don't even Like I have no recollection of that moment that I was on there."
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I don't know what I was saying.
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I feel like I wasn't even very present at the time because I was so nervous, but it really taught me like afterwards and I was looking back, I was like, "It's actually really so nice to be able to share things that you've learned and um, be part of something so special."
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And so, yeah, it was it was a really good experience for me. Yeah. Scary, but good.
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And there was the part where So, I went on first and we'd been having a conversation for about an hour.
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And then they bring Riley to the table and that's when you were like, I could see you behind the scenes and tell tell us a bit about that.
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like pacing back and forth.
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I think I've never been so like my whole hands were like so sweaty.
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I was like so I I just I can't even describe it.
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I don't think I've been that anxious or nervous for a very long time.
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Um, and then as soon as they said it's time for you to go on, I just had to completely drop, smile, and like walk on as if I was completely okay.
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So, um, but no, it was it was again like such a great experience.
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And they they make it so easy because they make it so you make they They you feel so comfortable when you're sitting with them, so Yeah, it was good.
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So, what we're going to do, as I said before, is we're going to go through these topics.
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So, that was one of the themes and topics that people wanted to hear about.
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Here are a few more that I want to check out that we want to dive into. Hit me.
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Let's start with this one.
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So, this one was, "After the honeymoon phase ends, how do you keep your attraction level high for each other and your relationship moving forward?" Ooh. It's a good question. Yeah.
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When does honeymoon period end?
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Like, what what what do people say that normally is? I don't know.
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I guess for most people it's like 6 months, a year.
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Into marriage or into relationship?
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I think into a relationship, but I think it also can happen in marriage, too, I guess, because I guess like I think when you're getting married, like it's such a fun moment, right? Yeah.
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It's like So, we know dating.
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We know that in dating 6 to 12 months.
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But then when you get married, it's like you have all your family and you have all these events and then you have this big high and then you get married and obviously for us, after we got married, we moved in together and and everything else that came from that.
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So, I guess let's talk about marriage because I guess that's what we're That's That's more recent for us both.
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I feel like for us, we had to make a really conscious effort to go above and beyond for the other person and really understand how the other person likes to have fun and how the other person really likes to um express their emotions.
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So, then we try and facilitate our time together in a way that it allows us to both do that.
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we went to a football match together, a soccer match. It was in the US.
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It was at LA Galaxy Stadium and we left at half time.
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Like, that's That's all Radhi could do watching a football match.
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because now you go with people who enjoy that with you.
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Yeah, and and I think that's part of it.
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Like, I actually like going to watch football or basketball. Radhi likes basketball.
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We love going to watch basketball together, but if if I'm going to watch football, it's like I also want to watch it with someone who's going to get into it with me and get excited and be motivated.
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And so, I don't feel like, "Oh, she doesn't want to go with me so then she doesn't care about what I care about because it's the same way as I wouldn't want to go to something particularly that maybe I'm not interested in whatever that is even though I seem to go with you to get pedicures and manicures. loves that.
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He loves a good foot massage, loves a good pedicure.
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Um you like you like getting groomed. both love spas. That works well.
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Uh but we we found that we liked doing experiences together and she's very We went to This is more my kind of experience but this last Christmas we went to Disney World. Oh yeah.
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And I've been wanting to go to Disney World for like ages.
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I haven't been back to Disney World. big kid.
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Like he absolutely I think for three, four, I can't remember how many months before, six months.
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It probably like six months he's been so excited to go to Disneyland and to Universal.
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Um and every single week he would probably mention it about his excitement for it.
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And uh and I think just through your excitement I got excited about it. Yeah.
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So we end up at Disney World in Orlando and Universal and it was just I was epic. Like it was amazing. I loved it. It was so good.
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Like Especially at Christmas.
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Yeah, what I love about it is the experience that those places create and a feeling and because I'm a creator and a content creator and I'm always like how can I create experiences that make people feel certain things and make people you know just how do you create something that makes people feel something and makes them feel excited and makes them feel passion and all of that and I feel like they do it with such ease.
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And Raleigh actually fell unwell just before we went and when we got there and she soldiered through.
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Like she was the sweetest person ever because I knew that A it was more for me than it was for her but she does get into it too and second of all she she fell unwell and she got pretty unwell at that time but she soldiered through and she was just been waiting for this for six months and imagine I was like "Mhm, going to stay here and I'm going to watch a film and just get a bit better."
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No, there was like I could not do that to him. You could have.
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I could have, but I didn't want to.
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Yeah, I really appreciated it. You like pushed through. So, what do you think?
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What How do we do the excite How do we keep excitement like through it after honeymoon period?
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I think experiences is a big one.
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Like really prioritizing experiences.
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We're not just like, "Oh, we'll find You know, I don't think you can make attraction or chemistry or compatibility.
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I don't think you can take any of that for granted.
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I think that's a big one.
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Uh you know, for for men, get your hair cut regularly.
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You know, get your beard trimmed.
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That definitely thinks that He really really believes that he's got a new haircut.
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I don't know whether you guys have noticed, but um he's changed his hairstyle and he genuinely thinks that his hairstyle has changed the way that I look at him. It works, guys.
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If you the men's groomer on Instagram it. Jason, you are the man. I love you. You're amazing.
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You tell this story way too much. It's a good story. you love it.
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Um but but no, I I mean let let Okay, let's get to it.
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So, the experiences are a big one.
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I think getting to know each other more and more, Joe, as months go on and how we're changing as well.
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I think that makes a difference because you're never going to be the same person you were a year ago.
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And if we're not watching each other grow and watching each other uh like mold into different people and observing that, then actually that can also be something that can you can lose this like spark because actually we change so much and so you're kind of falling in love with a different person regularly if you're paying attention, um which I think that's that's quite cool.
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Yeah, and I think that's a really good point actually that you've got to be open to the fact that the person's becoming different. Yeah.
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And you've got to want to be able to fall in love with the new person rather than trying to keep them the same. Exactly.
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Rather than being like, "Oh, wait a minute, you weren't like this when I married you.
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Like you were like this."
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Or you know, you were less like this when I married you and now you've changed or all of that kind of language that often comes in relationships.
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Like, I feel like we are actually very different people. Mhm. Right?
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Like, we're very different people.
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Like, I think you really ground me, you center me, you remind me of what's really important.
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You are more energetic than me. In different ways.
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Yeah, and and just like, I feel like we're actually very different and people will be like, well, how do you But, we have the same deeper values.
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Like, our spiritual values are the same.
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But, also, not just our spiritual values, I feel like we both are able I I feel this is it.
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I feel like we're both able to love each other for who we are rather than who we want the other person to become for us. Yeah, for sure.
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And I think we we've kind of had that from the beginning or at least for most of our relationship we established that.
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And I think it was good because we did those like those rules of things that we knew we didn't want to change about ourselves or that we really felt were important to each other.
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Um but yeah, no, I agree.
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I think I think that's a really good point.
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Okay, let's take the next one.
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The next one is, when your partner is fully committed to a priority or project and you're feeling unseen, how do you help yourself? Ooh.
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What's that film where they go, I see you? I don't know. Anybody know?
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Isn't that just Didn't we just do that?
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No, no, it's like a couple thing where they're like, I see you, which means like, you know, I love you. Okay.
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Anyway, if you know, then comment below and tell us.
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I feel like I'm really, really good at balancing like he has a really, really crazy schedule.
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Like, I don't think I've seen anybody with a crazier schedule than than him.
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And the way that he's able to really balance his work, but then still always prioritize me.
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Like, I never feel like I'm not a priority.
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And I think it's I mean, I don't know whether we spoke about this in the last one about We did, didn't we?
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About quality over quantity.
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But, he really lives that and he's like that with everybody around him.
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And so, like, you get a good He's so focused, so attentive.
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Um, so even in the time that we do spend together, even if he has a crazy like week, 2 weeks, a month, or if I do, um, then the time that we are actually able to spend together, you're so attentive and focused.
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And actually, if I ever need you or anything needs to like I need you to do anything for me, or if something's urgent for me, or if you just feel that my emotions are even changing or I'm feeling like a little bit sad or anything, like you're always of that attentive to pick up on it, and you always change everything around to just be there for me in those times.
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And so, I feel like I can't really say that I feel like I've been unseen by you.
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I think we've learned how to pick up on each other's emotions and know when to show up for the other person, which I feel like maybe we didn't have at the beginning of our marriage, but I think that we've really learned to understand that from one another.
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And it's And it's definitely changed the way that we feel loved by one another.
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I just miss her every day.
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Like, this year she was in London for like a long time. She was with her family.
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She was with the restaurant she's been working on.
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She was got like we didn't spend time together, I think, over a period of I'd probably say like they're like 6 weeks we didn't actually properly see each other. Yeah, probably.
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We weren't not There were probably like 6 weeks that we didn't see each other.
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We weren't in the same country for a lot of that.
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I was in LA, and she was in London.
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And on top of that, we weren't talking all the time.
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But, with Ryland, she's really good at sending me voice notes, which are hilarious, sending me funny selfies, which I absolutely love like getting.
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I just pulling like the funniest faces ever.
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And then, her trying to call me as much as she can.
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And that's how I I am on the same way.
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Like, I don't feel like we've set rules about when we are apart.
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We just get on with stuff.
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So, like, the way I deal with it if she's busy with a project is I book out my whole schedule, whether that's spending time with myself, which I really enjoy.
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And And I think that's a really important one that when I know she's busy and she's really focused and she can't like be on a phone call all the time or talking and our time difference.
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For me, it's like that's my time alone.
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Like that's an opportunity for me to really invest in my relationship with myself and how I feel and what I'm doing for myself.
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So, this year I started playing more tennis.
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I started prioritizing my exercise.
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I started spending more time at the gym.
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Like I was just thinking about like what can I do to invest in myself during this time?
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I was spending more time with friends.
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I was catching up with people I haven't seen in a long time.
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And it's not that she's not available for a phone call or to talk or to message. It's not that.
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It's just, "Hey, here's my time to spend a bit of quality time with myself."
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And I think that's such an important thing.
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And I know you do it as well when I'm traveling for work and stuff.
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And I think we've both built that independence up and at the same time then I was just so excited to see her.
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I couldn't wait for the day she was coming back.
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And I remember that hug that we had when you the day you came back.
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Like it was just like I was so happy to have you back.
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And so I actually loved that feeling of missing her.
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And I also loved that feeling of having time to really invest in my relationship with myself.
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And how about when you like Do you ever felt a time when you felt unseen by me? No.
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I think we had I think about that last year like when there were times but not not in the past 12 months.
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Yeah, I think we really learned to detect when each other needs you.
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last year we talked about a lot of the times when we've made that mistake but I think in the last 12 months no.
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All right, let's do the next one.
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Okay, so what would you say annoys you the most about your partner?
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All right, I'm going to go first cuz it's easy. Okay, go on.
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Okay, so for me it is my chargers and my tech. gosh. Like what? Look, so so No, wait. I'm going to go first.
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Okay, so I have chargers I know. Go on. Carry on.
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I have chargers placed in every key location in the home.
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I have one by my bed, I have one in my study, I have one in the corner of where the TV is.
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Like I just have charges everywhere because I use my phone a lot, I'm in lots of different locations, I have one in the car, and so I like to be able to charge it.
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I don't like being moving around, so then charges stay where they are.
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Often, I will find charges have moved locations.
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Charges are no longer in those locations.
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going to get well happy with this because I do this to him when I go home as well, and she says the same thing to me. Yeah, charge is missing.
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So, what I decided to do because because the worst thing is when I notice this and I'm like, "Rady, that's my charger."
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She's like, "No, it's not."
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She's like, "No, I I bought this."
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Like I'm like, "No, that is my charger."
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And she will like, "No, no, no."
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to be clear, iPhone chargers all look the same.
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So, so I went a step further and got a different colored cable.
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So, I was like, "This is it, right?"
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Like I've got this bright pink cable.
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I was like, "There's no chance that she bought the same bright pink bought it for me. No. Yeah, exactly.
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And then that happens with that, too.
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So, that is probably the most annoying thing.
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I I do see the annoyance come out fiercely when he can't find a charger. Last night.
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Yeah, last night I was sleeping, and he was like, "Rady, where's my charger?"
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I was like, "It's in my bag." "Why is it in your bag?" Yeah.
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Okay, so that's probably my number one thing, I think.
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I got I'm trying to think of other stuff, but that's definitely What's the thing that annoys me about you? Hmm. Oh, I know.
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Well, I don't know whether this is actually a thing that Yeah, okay.
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about my shoes last time, so we're good.
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No, I'm not talking about shoes.
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Um the one thing that annoys me is that Oh, because he has this really annoying photographic weird memory where he can actually remember every single thing.
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And so, even if I'm right, and even if I know I did something, because I know he's got this memory, I then question myself.
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Because like, I know for a fact like something has happened, and I say that to him, or I know I've told him something, but because I know how good his memory and how like weird his brain is, I then question myself because I'm like he does have that like he does know how to remember every single thing that someone possibly says.
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So then I question my my memory abilities because of your like genius brain. That's not nice.
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So yeah, that's just been annoying. Five almonds a day guys. My mom trained me. Five almonds a day.
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Apparently yeah, Ayurvedic remedy. Is it? No. Oh.
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But almonds do have that quality, yeah. Really?
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Yeah, and they're meant to be good for brainpower.
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What other What other nuts are good for brainpower? Walnuts.
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That's why they're shaped like a brain. Did you know that?
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Yeah, you you told me that before. Oh yeah.
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Um All nuts really, nuts and seeds.
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They have really good um good um ingredients that are meant to be good for brainpower. Okay. Yeah.
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All right, next question is what's something your partner has said to you that really hurt you but served as a valuable lesson?
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Um oh, I know what mine is.
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You always tell me that I don't know how to like utilize my time well, which didn't hurt which it No, in in like in like in a good way though.
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In terms of like I have I've never said that to you. No, you do.
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As in not not in a bad way, but you always say that I need to learn how to you know, use my time in a way that's efficient because I know I don't like I'm a big procrastinator.
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It's never come like in a rude way from you.
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It's when I've been talking about what I'm struggling with.
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Um whether it's to do with things that I want to get done or um how I feel like time just gets away from me through and a whole day goes by and I feel like I've hardly got anything done.
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And um I have this really bad habit of just either procrastinating or not knowing how to prioritize things and so I'll end up having a list of to do and I'll end up doing everything that's completely not on my list like reorganizing a kitchen cupboard instead of what's actually on my list of things to do.
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So you get you you you talk about this a lot.
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It wasn't just that line, but when you tell me that about myself, I know it's definitely true cuz it hits home. Mhm.
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So not I don't think you we don't really I feel like we don't often we have never been in a situation where we don't feel to what we say to each other.
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Like even if we're really upset with one another or even if we're angry or whatever it is, I don't feel like we burst out like words that we don't mean.
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Yeah, I don't think I don't think we've ever really done that.
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I don't think we've been so harsh with our words in in arguments or when we felt upset with one another.
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Yeah, I I just feel like with that type of stuff you have to be careful about that with your partner because you've got to look at this person like every night before you go to bed, you have to see them every morning when you wake up.
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And if you say stuff you don't mean too often, either it becomes real or that person feels like just like a joke has an element of truth.
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Even if you say something you don't mean that's extreme, there's still an element of truth.
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And now that person has that with them. Yeah.
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And I know one thing that I used to say that I stopped saying in our relationship was for a long time I used to say things like oh, you know, like we don't I don't really I can live without you if I needed to. Oh, yeah.
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And I used to see that as a sign of strength to say that.
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And that came from me just being detached and you know, being independent.
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But then I started to see like that type of language in a relationship.
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But I never said it in a mean way or a extreme way.
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But just that statement, what those words actually mean, you end up pushing your partner away.
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And so you've got to be so careful with your words that you say to your partner because if you're saying something just to get a reaction out of them or you're saying something to It's like being 16 again, you know, like when you would when you say something to your friend just to get a reaction out of them. Yeah, yeah.
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But it's like you can't live like that with your partner because you're just with them so much of the day Yeah.
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that you've got to be so intentional and focused on how you speak to people. So, yeah.
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Uh what's the one that you So, what's my thing?
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What would you What if your partner said to you that really hurt you but served as a valuable lesson?
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I don't think you've ever said anything hurtful to me.
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What about What about when I said I didn't like your hair? There are Oh, okay.
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Yeah, I mean, there are times when like I've worked really hard on something. Oh, yeah. Like Oh, yeah, yeah. This is it. This is it.
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There are times when I've worked really hard on something, like a video, or I've been on a photo shoot, or we've designed the podcast logo, or whatever.
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I've worked really hard on something, and I'll show Radhi to get a feedback, and Radhi is just so honest. Like she is just honest.
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Like she does not hold back.
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Like she would just say it as it is.
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And in the beginning, and even there are sometimes now where like my ego gets hurt, or when my emotions get hurt, but then I'm like, "Actually, I'm so lucky that I have someone who's so honest."
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And that's become a valuable lesson for me because if she wasn't like that, and she just said, "Yes, yes, yes."
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to everything I did, then I would never know whether if I was doing something was good or not.
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Whereas, I know now if I show her a video, and she's like, "I don't like that. I don't like that. I don't like that."
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Then I'm like, "Oh, at least she cares to be honest with me, rather than just be like, 'Oh, yeah, that's the best video I've ever seen.'"
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And then we put it up, and then no one likes it.
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And so, for me, like I've learned to value her honesty.
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And she's just raw sometimes.
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Like she'll straight up be like, "Nah, that's terrible." Right?
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But it's not It's in a loving way, because it's out of care ultimately in terms of getting the right thing.
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So, for me, I've take I think that's the one.
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That's the one it is for me.
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So, I actually value Radhi being honest with me, as opposed to either lying to me, or just saying yes for the sake of it, or just to make me feel better. So, that's mine. Okay. Fair. Yeah? I agree. I agree with that. All right. Okay. So, here we go. What's the next one? Okay.
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How do you decide what you guys show to the public, and what you keep private? Good question.
22:53
We've I've been talking to you about this a lot, haven't I?
22:57
Um, I find I get asked a lot why I don't share like so much of mine and Jay's relationship on my page whether it's like pictures or whatever it is and I find like you're so sweet and you're so expressive on your page and I feel you're like that whether it's with me or whether it's with your friends or like
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whoever comes on your podcast like you genuinely want to show appreciation and love on your page and I think that's such a wonderful thing but I think it's really good for people to know that there can be different types of people in relationships and so that is him and
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that's how he likes to express himself along with being so expressive in person that's how he is whereas for me I just um I don't know there's a part of me that just likes keeping that to ourselves but also I find generally and especially for women a lot of like post online of of people who look
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very very happy together and you know that have a lot of relationship post it can actually agitate a lot of people who are feeling quite sad about that area of their life and unfortunately that is really prominent in society at the moment like a lot of people are really upset in their relationships or
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not dating and finding it really difficult and so I often try and just avoid posting things that I think might just agitate people in that way especially because love is the one thing that people are searching for so much and so I do post things and I do post fun stuff with us but
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I like to leave some of the stuff for just us to for me to be able to say to you privately and yeah not online that's just yeah that's just how how I feel and I feel it's sometimes I've actually felt like oh maybe I should like write a really sweet post online and you know say to him and I'm like oh
24:39
but maybe I just want to write in his card and then I write it all out and then I just delete it and I write what I actually feel like writing which is something just sweet light and like just relaxed rather than you know having that emotional outpouring online which I find
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a bit difficult to do so and I think that's okay like it's it's okay to be both people and I think that there's beauty in what how you are online and how you express yourself, but I feel like I just want to protect that part of me a little bit and not have that have that so much out there. Yeah,
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Yeah, and I and I think for me it's I'm always thinking about like what can I share with you that's going to be useful to you.
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So, if you're listening or watching right now, I want to make sure that anything I'm sharing in our relationship is actually helpful to you, is useful to you, is real for you as well.
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Like why are we doing this conversation?
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Because we get to talk about what goes wrong, what we don't like about each other, what what doesn't work or not what we don't like about each other, but what annoys each other, you know, all of the things that we're talking about already right now.
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To me, I want you to see that. Mhm.
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I I want you to hear that because I want you to hear that people can be different, people can have different opinions, they can have different priorities, but they can still love each other and they can still be together.
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And so, for me, sometimes the reason why I share those messages is just because I'm like this may be relevant to someone out there and that's why we did last year's podcast, that's why we're doing this one because I'm hoping when you hear it, you'll be like, "Oh wait a minute, that's me and my Yeah.
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boyfriend, girlfriend, partner, whatever it is.
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Like that's me and my friend."
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Like I want you to hear that and recognize that you can work through this stuff, that with work, with effort, you can actually get there.
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So, yeah, that's what how I decide what I'm going to share. Okay, next one.
26:09
Have you ever felt pressurized by your partner in any way?
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Um I have I have to be honest and say no with this one in the sense that I feel like you've been really great at coaching me through my growth in areas that you're more advanced.
26:29
So, when it comes to health, Radhi is far more health conscious in what she eats and her exercise routine and it's it's it's beautiful for her wellness and how she sees wellness as this wholesome thing.
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And she's been that way since we've been together and I have always focused on my mental health, but not as much on my physical health.
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And I've never felt forced by Radhi or pressurized by her to become someone I'm not when it comes to my physical health.
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I've always felt coached and guided by her.
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So, I remember when we first moved to LA, she was the one like looking for a personal trainer for me because she was like, "I know that you know, I told her that that was the only way I would be able to get into that rhythm."
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And so, she was doing that research for me.
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And then when it comes to my food, she's always making sure that whatever she cooks is right and even though the spicy food because spicy food is not good for me, she makes sure that the food she cooks for both of us is not spicy.
27:23
And so, I've always felt like very encouraged.
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And now that I'm at like feeling like the best I've felt ever, it's like I feel so happy about that because I I feel like I did it in my own time, I did it for myself, and I have a practice and a ways of doing it that are right for me.
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And often when things are pressurized, it's very much like, "Well, this is how I do it.
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This is how you should do it.
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And this is what you need to do."
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Whereas for me, it's like I'm doing it for myself.
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I found my way of doing it and I did it in my time.
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And to me, having someone, especially your partner, who wants you to be healthy but not doing it in a way that makes you feel bad about yourself.
28:03
Like I Yeah, at one point I was probably eating too much sugar or eating too much chocolate or whatever it was and Radhi never made me feel bad about it, but she would educate me as to why it could be better.
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And I feel like being educated in that way is is a much smaller way of helping your partner actually grow.
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And be like, "Did you know that that granola you're eating is the same as That is literally how you speak.
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the same amount of sugar in this as this."
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And you'd be like, "Oh my gosh, I had no idea."
28:31
Yeah, it's so much about education.
28:33
Um I think with pressure, actually one thing that I thought of when I had that question was I also don't feel like you've ever pressured me.
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And one of the main things for me was when we actually met, you just you know, you were recently a monk before that.
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And so, in my eyes, I was like, "Oh my gosh."
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And I was just kind of starting my meditation practice at that time.
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And so, for me, it was yeah, I always thought, "Oh my gosh, am I like going to feel really, really pressured by the by the knowledge that he has and by the way that his meditation practice must be so deep and powerful and um all of that, you know, I thought I would feel that way."
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But actually, you were just such a wonderful guide and teacher in allowing me to explore myself because just like you said, I don't feel like anybody will want any Nobody is going to feel happy about doing something that they're pressured into.
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And also, just the conviction with which someone wants to do something, if it's done out of pressure, actually, it's not going to be that much.
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And so, they're not going to want to stick to it anyway.
29:32
Um and so, yeah, I felt like that was such a beautiful journey that I went through by observing how you were in your um day-to-day life and then how your meditation practice and how your spiritual journey is what took you to become that person.
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And so, for me, that was the greatest motivation for me to continue my journey in it um without you saying anything or making me feel a certain way about it.
29:56
Um and again, the other thing I think of is how um yeah, anything that I wanted to do or I've said I wanted to do, you've always given me advice on it and always given me the best advice that I could have asked for.
30:08
But yeah, you've never forced me to do the things that you've told me that I should be doing.
30:13
Like if we've you've given me advice, yeah, you're not regimental about it.
30:16
Like you've given me advice on so many different things and a lot of the times I haven't taken the advice or I've heard it, but I haven't been able to um put it into practice.
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But you just really allow me to find that journey myself and you're always there to support me, which is what I think a partner should be like in that way.
30:31
But you don't Yeah, you don't get annoyed if I don't do it and you don't pressure me into doing it if if I'm not ready for it.
30:37
So, yes, no, I don't feel pressured by you.
30:41
Except for when um you don't want to eat sugar and I want to eat like chocolate cake and ice cream and you're like I'm not eating sugar right now. Then I feel sad.
30:50
And a little bit pressured to also have to not have sugar. Which started from you.
30:55
I know it started from me, but I like I like having sugar sometimes.
30:58
He's like a all or nothing.
30:58
So that's another thing like Yeah.
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about our characters which are so different.
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I can have a small bit of like chocolate every day or like a small amount of something every day and I will be fine.
31:08
I would will never have to finish it.
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I can just have a small amount and be very happy.
31:13
Here if we're having sugar it'll be like we go to the ice cream place, Coco Bella Creamery, the best vegan ice cream place ever.
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So we'll go there and he'll be like okay, could I please have a chocolate fudge ice cream with triple or quadruple chocolate sauce, triple chocolate chips, triple sprinkles.
31:31
That's That's a good a chocolate brownie that's heated up and basically he goes he has the same amount of sugar for like a month.
31:39
He should have in like one day.
31:41
Um Well, remember my order.
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he's remembering everything.
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We went there the other day and they were like oh you've got 600 points.
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Which he got all while I was away. I'm saving them. I'm saving them. Saving them.
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One day I want to walk in there and use all my points and like feed everyone in the store.
31:56
Um but yeah no so he's a all or nothing whereas I feel like I'm quite like I will have a little often.
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Um but you're really good like when he says no to having something we will go anywhere and they'll be like the most incredible stuff around us to eat and you'll just be like no, I'll have fruit.
32:13
I'm like oh fine, don't share my cake with me.
32:16
I think we've also felt it with like ambition. Yeah.
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sense of like I feel like I've always been really driven like since since I remember in my teenage years I've always been really driven.
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I've always been really focused and motivated and inspired and I've always been ambitious and chasing my dreams whatever they may be and when we met, I was very clear about that as well. That's who I was.
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But I feel like I've I work I work harder on my purpose now than I ever have. Yeah.
32:46
So, in one sense, I've changed a lot since we met because when we met, I still wasn't working as hard as I am now on my purpose.
32:52
But I've never felt the pressure to slow down from you.
32:56
Or I've never felt the pressure to have to detach from those dreams or disconnect from those dreams.
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And I think that really helps me because I'm not worried about feeling like I'm letting her down because she doesn't let me She doesn't make me feel that way because she doesn't feel that way, I feel.
33:12
I got I think I've been asked this before because of the speed that you work at and like how uh focused you are, whether that makes me feel like pressured into being that way.
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And I actually like I feel like that we we that never really happens.
33:24
I feel like I watch you do it and I'm so amazed by it and in awe of it.
33:28
But um I feel like I still work at the same speed.
33:32
I'm just like just chilling along and doing things at my own pace.
33:34
But I think that also shows that like I never feel you're putting that onto me.
33:38
It's always just you doing you and I get to do me at the same time, but we can just kind of work on parallel.
33:46
Yeah, which is quite nice. Okay, awesome.
33:48
Let's do the next subject. That's over here.
33:52
The next one is Give us a fun one.
33:54
Uh what can only your partner do that really makes you feel loved and special?
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I mean, that's more you rather than fun.
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Um what do you do that makes me feel really special? Yeah, loved and special. Loved and special.
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Should I say what you say to me? Well, I don't know.
34:13
I So, basically, I don't know.
34:15
I don't know where this came from.
34:17
I'm going to share this because this is really funny.
34:21
I don't know where this came from, but one day he came and he like whispered in my ear.
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Was it like while I was sleeping, which also could have been a bit creepy.
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But um he came and whispered in my ear.
34:30
He was like, "You are loved. You are cherished. You are No, it wasn't. No, you are loved. You are cared for.
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You are cherished like a little cherub."
34:41
Um so, and then since then I know he says it as a joke, but really he he feels like I I actually makes me feel a bit cute. Like I like it.
34:47
Um so, since then every time I feel like I'm getting stressed out or he sees me getting a bit worked up like if I'm cooking in the kitchen for like 50 people, um he'll come up to me, hug me, and say, "You are loved. You are cared for.
34:57
You are cherished like a little cherub."
35:02
So, that makes me feel kind of cared for and loved.
35:04
Um and what else do you do that I feel loved and cared for?
35:07
Just every day he's just uh like I've said this before, but it's just an ongoing thing with him.
35:12
Like he's just always very loving and caring on a daily basis that um there's never really a need for like special gestures or like crazy stuff because I feel like it's just stable and he's just always I always feel supported and loved and cared for by him because that's just how he is.
35:28
Yeah, for me it's we talked about this last year where we talked about like love languages and things like that.
35:33
But, it's interesting how even the love languages are so much deeper than just the way they're spoken about.
35:38
So, I was always a gift person growing up which I spoke about last year.
35:44
But, we both live a life where we both don't live for gifts anymore.
35:47
Like if I want something I buy it for myself because I need it at that time.
35:50
If Rothy wants something, she buys it.
35:51
So, we don't give each other gifts at all anymore as in physical objects or gifts because we know that if we want something we'll get it for ourselves or we don't really have a need for a lot of stuff.
36:01
Like we don't have a lot of things in that way in our life I feel.
36:05
But, for me the biggest one has been the way Rothy has understood my love language in the deepest way.
36:13
So, in the last 2 years and we spoke about one of them last year, but Rothy has thrown me two of the biggest surprise parties. I have.
36:20
And one was for my birthday which is when we first moved to LA. Yeah.
36:23
But, last year it was after my live show. Yeah.
36:29
And so I I I want to talk about this for a moment because it was so important.
36:32
So, I did my first ever live show in LA.
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Nearly 2,000 of you showed up. It was packed.
36:40
It was at the Ace Theater.
36:40
My team and I had worked for 6 weeks to prepare this incredible show that we were absolutely so proud of and in love with to put on stage.
36:50
I'd been practicing with my team for like 8 hours, 9 hours a day for a week beforehand.
36:57
And then you're on stage.
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I was on stage for about 2 and 1/2 hours.
36:59
We had this incredible show.
37:00
People traveled from like Japan and Australia and London and from all over the world and people really had this phenomenal experience.
37:09
And then you experience something really unique.
37:12
So, just think about that for a moment.
37:13
You've got you've you've put all this effort in building this thing.
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You then experience it with thousands of people.
37:22
And then you're grabbing your bags, you're grabbing your clothes, and you're getting into the back of an Uber on your own.
37:28
It's It's like the It's like one of the weirdest experiences ever where you go from this real high to then almost being in completely the opposite scenario.
37:34
And on my way home, I was thinking.
37:36
I was like, "Wow, now I realize so many of the people I coach, so many people I work with, so many people I know who live these much more extreme highs than I do.
37:47
Like they have like 80,000 people, 100,000 people in you know, their audiences or whatever.
37:52
And then all of a sudden they're spending time alone without that buzz and rush."
37:56
And I was thinking, "There's so many people that get dissatisfied by not having that all the time and feel lost and confused."
38:01
And I was thinking about the most important people in my life and I was like, "Well, I'm going back to my wife who loves me."
38:07
And you know, that's such a such a fulfilling feeling.
38:11
And I was like, "I have friends, but anyway, I'm going home."
38:16
And when I get home, I walk through the door and there's like everyone I care about is in that room.
38:23
Literally, all my closest friends are at my house.
38:28
There's this big surprise.
38:28
Rothy has always has cooked like this incredible meal.
38:31
She's got like these amazing balloons that spell out JS Live.
38:33
She's got this amazing chocolate cake.
38:35
Uh and it was just like this really fulfilling feeling that I'm so fortunate to have an incredible group of people around me that love me, that really care for me, that are going to stay at my house till midnight on a work night to celebrate my day with me that I've done this event.
38:55
And Rothy's just figured out a way of giving me the gifts that I can't buy myself.
39:02
And and I think that's what a gift really is.
39:04
Whether it's an object, whether it's a thing, whether it's an experience, a real gift is giving someone something they can't give themselves.
39:15
And I you can't organize a surprise party for yourself.
39:20
You can't organize a party for yourself or you tell all your friends to come and surprise you if you know it's happening.
39:24
And she's really figured out the depth of the lung love language of the definition of gift in my gift in my opinion.
39:30
but don't be expecting this like every year.
39:32
I'm expecting every year now.
39:32
It's happened the last 2 years in a row.
39:35
a nightmare happens around November.
39:36
You know, there's something about November.
39:37
2 months after my birthday gives a bit of time to I cannot explain how much I dislike organizing surprise birthday. them really well.
39:44
Like you're really good at it.
39:46
Yeah, cuz I've done like two for you now.
39:46
Look, if you want to hire me to um throw your party, then I'm available and I have all the contacts because I've done it twice for him now and it took all the energy that I could possibly imagine that I had. They were amazing, man. Thank you.
40:04
But yeah, no, that was also like for me going out of my comfort zone to do something I know that he would have been really happy about because I'm not an organized person and I find those things really difficult and stressful, but it was definitely worth it because you came in and you were actually so surprised.
40:18
I thought you knew, but all made all of his friends and us like all rushed out of the event like okay cool peace see you later I'm a bit tired I'm going to go to bed.
40:28
And then everybody waited here for a really long time for you to come back. And it was really sweet. It's really special. Thank you so much.
40:36
And and that's one of the things that you want to talk about that for a moment.
40:38
This is that when we first moved to LA from New York, literally everyone who heard that we were moving would say to us, you know what people are like in LA. Yeah, that's so true.
40:49
Like they're like you know that everyone in LA is superficial.
40:51
You know everyone in LA doesn't really care.
40:56
And we heard that so much.
40:56
And I've always had this rule in life for myself that no matter what I hear from someone about something, someone, or anywhere I won't trust it or base my opinion on it until I've experienced it myself.
41:12
And I've always had that rule.
41:14
So if someone tells me this is an amazing holiday destination until I've been to that place, I will not agree with that.
41:21
If someone tells me this person is not nice or is nice, I will not agree or disagree with that until I've met and experienced that person.
41:30
And also actually spend time with them not just spend time with them in an elevator or something like that.
41:35
Like actually spend quality time with them.
41:38
And so for me I was like well if you think that about LA or loads of people think that about LA, I'm not going to let that define LA for me.
41:46
I'm going to define LA for myself.
41:49
And I have to be completely honest like we have met some of our closest deepest friends and so many of you I know listening and watching right now some of our deepest and closest friends we found and made in LA. Definitely.
42:00
And I know Roly feels that.
42:03
That's what she feels at home here. I know I feel that.
42:06
That's what I feel at home here. You know who you are.
42:09
And that's such a special thing that these stereotypes and these broad generalizations we make about people or places are not true.
42:19
They become what you want them to be.
42:21
And I really feel in our life that LA's been such a beautiful place for both of us to find our purpose and create our purpose and live our purpose.
42:30
And you know, you can't really define a place just based you can't just say that a place has a reputation or anything like that because you you find the people where they are.
42:39
So for me, the people that I've met here and the friends I've met here have just been absolutely incredible. Yeah.
42:42
And and for me, what we've really tried to do and I think this is important too is we've tried to build the conscious spiritual community that we want.
42:53
So rather than expecting that what you want should exist anyway, why don't create yourself?
43:00
So we started hosting these events at our home last year. We did two of them.
43:03
We're doing another one coming up soon.
43:06
We invite our friends to them and they're spiritual events, community events that we used to have in London and in New York a little bit, but definitely in London.
43:12
And we wanted our friends to experience meditation in the way we meditate.
43:16
We wanted our friends to experience wisdom from the people that we learn from.
43:19
And so we started organizing these events and now they're not parties in the same way.
43:23
Like we don't have any alcohol at these events.
43:26
Like no one's getting you know, it's not it's not that kind of an event.
43:27
It's um it's an event where people feel that they can connect with themselves, a place where people feel they can connect with their consciousness and have a deeper experience.
43:36
And that was the experience we wanted to offer our friends. Mhm.
43:40
And thankfully our friends love that kind of stuff.
43:41
So it's worked out, but I just think it's so important that we don't expect things in a place, but you go and create for yourself. Yeah, I love Cool. All right. Okay.
43:48
Next one that is on the list.
43:50
What are some telltale signs that your partner is upset?
43:54
Yeah, he's pretty obvious.
43:56
Um if he's mad, he'll sound mad.
44:00
If he's sad, he'll sound sad.
44:03
I'm but I'm pretty If he needs chocolate, he'll sound like he needs chocolate.
44:07
Um yeah, I feel like you kind of just if he's upset he'll just be like, "Look, when I like I need to tell you this is upset me."
44:14
Or yeah, you're like that, right?
44:16
Kind of think of the last time you were upset.
44:18
Oh, yesterday night when he was mad about his chargers, I knew he was mad. I heard it in his voice.
44:25
Um yeah, I don't think we're very hidden with it.
44:27
I think I'm probably a little bit more hidden than you are about it. He just goes quiet. Yeah, I go quiet.
44:30
Or I'll see her on the balcony crying. Yes.
44:35
Literally, literally that.
44:35
I'll just see her outside like obviously she wakes up earlier than me so I woke up and she's outside and I just see her next to the table.
44:44
I I cry sometimes during my meditations in the morning.
44:46
It's like my time and then suddenly I'll realize I'm sad about something and then I'll just start crying and then he catches me at that time. Or yeah, my quietness.
44:52
I need to I we spoke about this last night but I need time to process so.
44:57
But you also tell me when you're sad about something.
45:00
Yeah, sometimes I'll be like, "I'm sad.
45:01
It's not about you but I'm sad." That's also very useful. This happens a lot.
45:05
This is a good note because I get so, you know, I think we're all in one sense we're all so self-centered that we always feel like people are sad because of something we did.
45:13
Like it's a self-centered ego trick where like if she's sad it must be something I did even though I know I didn't do anything wrong.
45:19
And so then I but her telling me, "I'm sad but it's nothing to do with you."
45:23
It's like You know, it's actually a useful technique in relationships.
45:26
right now and I don't know why. I've done this a lot. I feel really irritated.
45:29
I don't know why but I just want you to know that I'm feeling that way so.
45:32
It's really good to hear.
45:35
Yeah, it's just really useful to communicate that to your partner rather than expecting them.
45:37
Like no one's a mind reader.
45:39
Like no one is a mind reader and I think one of the biggest challenges in relationships is you just expect the other person to know what you're thinking. Yeah. Awesome. Cool.
45:47
All right, that was a quick one. Cool.
45:49
Okay, this one is Do you still try to impress each other? Yeah, probably.
45:56
I feel like it's just like a subcon like an unconscious thing that you do where it's unconscious? Subconscious? One of the consciouses.
46:04
It's something conscious.
46:06
Thing that you do where it's like whether it's your outfit or whether it's like something you you've like done or made or like if I've cooked something.
46:12
I think there's always always an element of wanting the other person to approve or to like it. Yeah.
46:19
Um I think that's natural. Yeah. Yeah, I like it too.
46:22
Yeah, definitely like if I'm wearing something or I've achieved something or whatever it may be.
46:28
Like yeah, I I I love that.
46:30
I think it's an important thing to have.
46:31
Like I feel like you should feel like that, right?
46:34
Yeah, it's like if an impressing the sense of it's not about getting the other person's validation.
46:38
You want your partner to like Be excited.
46:40
acknowledge excited for you, recognize you.
46:42
And I I I love that feeling.
46:44
Like I don't And I think if I didn't feel that way about her, then you're going to find other people to impress.
46:49
And you're going to want to impress other people. Yeah.
46:53
And so I feel as like it's an important quality to have.
46:54
And I feel like you you lose that energy and the spark if you Or the excess stop trying to do that to each other because that's how you were when you first met. Mhm.
47:03
Like that's what you tried to do when you first met.
47:04
And if you stop doing that, it's yeah, it's just it's not about validation. That's not the ego one.
47:11
It's about knowing that you love someone and always like And knowing that the other person's excited when you're excited, too. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. All right, cool. Next. You don't want anything? Oh. No. Okay. All right, okay. Power through.
47:22
So, what do you like most about your partner's sense of humor? Oh my gosh, guys.
47:29
So, I feel like most of you only realized this when he went on stage at the live show if you were there, but he is actually really Well, okay, no.
47:37
He's become really funny.
47:40
Actually, you were funny-ish before, but like you had a lot of dad jokes.
47:42
But now, oh my gosh, he's taking his humor to another level.
47:46
I don't know where it's come from.
47:49
Um but like at the live show, you were on fire. I was laughing so hard.
47:52
And most of the time I'm like, "Mhm, this is funny."
47:56
Um but was actually crying with laughter.
47:58
Like, you were really good on stage.
47:59
And I feel like when you're in your element, all like different sides of you come out and you really like you come into who you like fully are on stage.
48:07
And that was really cool for us to see.
48:09
And I had so many people message me about the how funny you are on stage and that they had no idea that you had humor in you.
48:15
Um, but that was really cool to see. Mhm.
48:17
Um, what was the question again?
48:20
What do you like most about your partner's sense of humor?
48:22
Oh, yeah, now he really knows how to make me laugh.
48:24
Like, even if it's really silly stuff.
48:26
I can't even think of it right now, but you definitely know how to make me from my belly laugh, not just um, that was cute.
48:34
But I still take it too far sometimes.
48:35
Yeah, sometimes it's like I'm laughing really hard and then it keeps going because like he thinks he's going to make me keep laughing, but then he kind of ruins it.
48:41
But that's also quite funny. I do that a lot.
48:43
I do that a lot where she's like, "Okay, you went too far."
48:47
It's like I feel like I'm just going to get one more laugh and Yeah, that happens a lot.
48:51
Yeah, no, my on stage is where I feel like I'm at my most myself in terms of what I'm sharing and I I feel like yeah, I feel like I'm at my best on stage.
49:00
So I I love being with the audience and I love the energy that everyone gave me that day as well.
49:04
And you know, when when I'll be touring soon as well, I can't wait to meet so many more of you. So it'll be fun.
49:12
But yeah, okay, about you, what's my favorite thing?
49:14
Rally is literally exactly who she is on her Instagram.
49:18
Like I just whenever anyone tells me like, "I love her posts.
49:20
Like I love the light she is." Like that is her.
49:22
Like that's just her all the time.
49:24
Like I wake up and she'll be doing a dance like when I walk into the living room.
49:28
Or or like I come home and she's just like smiling and laughing and she'll make jokes about everything.
49:35
Like Rally doesn't take life seriously, I feel, and that's what I love about you so much.
49:40
And what I mean by that is she takes her spiritual life seriously, but then she doesn't take her day seriously.
49:44
Like she's happy to laugh at herself.
49:45
She's happy to laugh at what's going on.
49:47
We can both be like talking about something really serious at one point and then both start laughing because she's able to laugh at it.
49:54
And and I just think she's always got this childlike energy, and it's not childish because we don't, you know, we don't want people to act childish, but when people are childlike and Riley really has that.
50:05
Like, she always makes everyone laugh.
50:07
She's Yeah, she just says funny stuff throughout the day, and her dances are the best, and uh My my no rhythm dance is And they're the best.
50:16
I'm just so happy that I get to experience them all the time.
50:19
Like, I'm really really happy.
50:21
Like, you've made you've brought You are literally the comedian of our lives.
50:25
I mean, you're you're catching up, though. Yeah.
50:27
You are catching up with your jokes.
50:29
I have to I'll give you that.
50:30
You're definitely becoming more funnier with age.
50:33
I like your sense of humor is playful and not like contrived.
50:38
It's not like she tells knock-knock jokes and stuff like that.
50:41
It's like it's just playful. It's childlike. It's abundant. Like, it's just there. It's who she is.
50:44
It's like It's the best thing about you. Oh, thanks. Yeah.
50:48
And I love seeing you laugh.
50:51
That's the best thing because she laughs her own jokes the most.
50:54
laugh at my own jokes all the time.
50:56
her laugh her own jokes because she just Because I feel like, look, if there's ever a time when you need to laugh and there's nobody around, you need to be able to be at a point where you can make yourself laugh. Mhm.
51:03
If you're having a bad day, make yourself laugh.
51:05
Don't leave it on to somebody else. It's good advice. Thanks.
51:10
All right, we've only got a few more left to go. Okay, I'm ready. Okay.
51:15
All right, the also does I I want to add this.
51:16
Riley also does some funny stuff that makes me laugh a lot.
51:22
So, we went to this Halloween party.
51:27
And it was a fancy dress party, obviously, as Halloween is.
51:29
And Riley came up with this idea about a month before that we should go as a Rajasthani prince and princess based on this movie called Padmavati for those of you who watch Bollywood.
51:43
And so, Riley came up with that idea.
51:46
I'm, you know, I would probably have gone as Batman or something average.
51:47
So, I was like, "Okay, yeah, that's cool. Like, it's different. Let's do it."
51:52
You tell the rest of the story.
51:52
So, I I thought of the idea, and then obviously you either have to do it fully, or you just end up looking just odd.
51:59
So, I thought, "Okay, let's go the full way."
52:03
So, that meant having pretty much like a bridal Indian outfit on.
52:06
Um and he was wearing basically a groom's outfit for a wedding.
52:12
And in theory, it looked really cool in my head, which it did, but it was so heavy.
52:22
Like, my headpiece, the skirt, I he had to one push me into the car. It was so big.
52:28
Like, he had to lift my dress into the car.
52:30
Then, I lasted about 30 minutes at the event, and I was like, "I have to go home.
52:36
I literally cannot lift this anymore." My head was hurting.
52:40
Um the skirt was too heavy to like move about in.
52:42
So, I lasted at that party for 30 minutes, came home, undressed, got into my PJs.
52:49
So, I walked around the party for the rest of the night as a as a single Indian prince in this hat with my sword wearing an Indian outfit.
52:58
And in fact, I only looked good when I was with her.
53:00
Like, it only looked good as an ensemble, like together.
53:02
But, me on my own, I was not cool.
53:04
Everyone was like, It was horrendous. It was so horrendous. I don't know.
53:08
I don't know how I didn't think about that part. Yeah.
53:12
That I I found that stuff so funny about you though.
53:14
Yeah, that was that was not one of my best moments.
53:18
Okay, so this question is, what are you proudest of your partner from the last 12 months since the first since the first podcast? Oh, okay.
53:25
So, definitely the live event was one of them because you also showed people that you made them laugh, so that was cool for me.
53:30
And then the other thing was obviously your book because I've been watching him work on this book for Gosh, how long have you been writing it for? 12 months. 12 months, yeah.
53:41
He's been writing it for 12 months and I've only read bits of it, but from what I have seen it's just been so amazing once to see his dedication to the book, how authentic he's trying to make it and um also just how you get to see and hear a different side of him.
53:57
Like I feel like this podcast you you know you you show yourself in a certain way and um on your videos you have another like another part of you and this book I feel like is a completely different side of you as well that people are going to be able to experience and just the amount of energy and time and effort you've gone into really make sure it is like the best quality stuff in the book.
54:22
Um and the bits that I've read I just think it's going to be so what I love about it is that it's literally made just to really help people like find their purpose and that's the thing about you like you I I know you've said I think you said this the other day that like your worst fear and like your worst nightmare up is for people not to live their potential.
54:39
their potential. Whatever that potential is big, small, um whatever it is for them like for them to live their potential that's your that's your like dream for everybody and so I really think that this book is like almost your first step in like serving those people to really help them find their find
54:55
their potential and I think it's just such a beautiful book and yeah just seeing you go through that process was really really interesting cuz it's hard work and uh The hardest thing excited for it to come out though and like see everyone's reaction and feedback and how it's helped people. So
55:09
So yeah, that's definitely another huge highlight.
55:13
Yeah, it was definitely the hardest thing I've ever done. So I appreciate that. Thanks. I love you. Yeah, that's it.
55:19
But uh for Radi she is one exam away from being an Ayurvedic health counselor. If I pass, yeah. Which is amazing. She will pass.
55:27
I know she's been working really really hard.
55:28
Like I see her revising and I always think like I'm so happy I no longer have to revise.
55:32
Like work is hard but revising for exams was so stressful, like it wasn't a fun feeling.
55:39
Like now I'm like what my work is my work life is fun, obviously.
55:42
I love it, but and it's challenging, but it's not an exam.
55:45
Like there's something about exams that just So Radi still does exams because she's amazing and wants to learn and what I love about her desire to learn, it's not just to get a qualification or to get a title.
55:54
It's like she really has this belief that she wants to know and learn and deeply understand something before she teaches it.
56:03
And I love her integrity for that.
56:05
I love her authenticity for that.
56:07
I think it's a beautiful quality that she has that she never wants to mislead anyone.
56:11
She never wants to give someone a little bit of information.
56:14
She really wants to feel like she has a full grasp of something before she tells someone else to do it.
56:19
And I think that that is such a beautiful quality to have and I really really respect it.
56:23
So that's been amazing to watch you do.
56:26
And watching you create a full menu for a restaurant in London that we both tasted and went to check out together and the food tasted amazing.
56:36
And Radi designed the whole menu and I know she'd been testing recipes.
56:38
She'd been working on this project for like three, four years.
56:40
Forget the last 12 months.
56:42
Like she's turned up at food events.
56:44
She's turned up at food festivals where she's like making food for like hundreds and thousands of people that are coming to eat.
56:50
Like she's done that time and time again to test her recipes.
56:51
Like the amount of effort that goes into creating a recipe, like one recipe.
56:58
It's like thousands of people have had to eat that before she knows if it's right.
57:02
It's not just like oh yeah, Jay likes it. Gets on the menu.
57:04
It's like she's, you know, cooking for so many people to test it and to finally have that menu and to taste that with her and just to be so impressed by what she did. It was just amazing.
57:13
Like what an amazing achievement.
57:15
Yeah, that was a And it was so challenging in so many different ways, you know, working across time zones, you know, having to travel back constantly, like cooking in our parents' home, cooking at Vance.
57:25
Like there's there's so much to it that I just respect you for just how amazing you are at being dedicated to wanting people to eat healthy, tasty, nutritious food. Yeah. That was a fun shoot.
57:38
Yeah, really proud of you for that.
57:38
And so many amazing people involved in it, too. Yeah. That was fun. I'm really proud of you. Thanks. Yeah.
57:44
Yeah, it's it's fun to see it unravel and actually open. Yeah.
57:46
And uh okay, so we're now at the final section Okay.
57:54
have asked us to fill in the blanks. Fill in the blanks.
57:58
Which means I have to say these sentences, which I've never seen before, and apart from when I looked at this just now, and we have to end with the word that we both think.
58:07
So, we'll do one word each at the end. Does that make sense?
58:09
Yes, makes complete sense.
58:10
The first one is love is best when Love is best when shared.
58:16
I was going to say the same thing.
58:20
I was going to say when it's mutual or shared.
58:21
I was going to say shared first, and then when it's mutual. Okay, cool. Love is never Mm. ego-filled. Ooh. That's not a word there. No, but that's good. That's good. Ego-tistical?
58:33
Yeah, that's really good.
58:35
I was going to say boring. Or boring.
58:37
Yeah, love is never boring. It's always exciting.
58:39
It's always full of growth.
58:40
But, your answer's better. You win that one, okay?
58:42
Uh commitment means Um commitment means Cuz commitment means dedication, so commitment can't mean dedication. Mm.
58:53
Is it commitment means Mm.
58:55
I think commitment means Understanding?
58:57
No, commitment means that sounds good. Yeah. As in, whatever.
59:01
There's no right or wrong answer. commitment?
59:02
I think commitment means every day, anywhere, anytime. Like, that's commitment.
59:08
Three words, but fine, we'll give it to you. Yeah. Yeah. I like that. Okay.
59:12
Uh I knew I loved you when Like time?
59:16
Or like when you did this?
59:18
No, when you did something. Yeah.
59:18
And it can be more than one word.
59:20
Okay, I knew I loved I knew I loved you when you first cooked for me.
59:24
Um And you You this like You made a chocolate croissant for me. I didn't make that one. Oh, you didn't? Yeah. That wasn't me. But the rest was. How do you know?
59:35
You made all the She made It wasn't someone else.
59:38
It was She had asked I'd asked someone to make it because I didn't know how to make pastries at the time. no, I That wasn't it.
59:44
That was a wonderful moment though, but I loved you when you were my like when you Well, I I was I always loved the teacher side of you.
59:51
Like I felt feel like I I really um appreciated and valued you and loved you when you were my teacher and guide.
59:56
A successful marriage means sacrificing. What?
1:00:04
Say that one Sorry, say that one more time.
1:00:06
A successful marriage Marriage means sacrificing.
1:00:10
We don't like the word sacrifice, do we? No, we don't. So, nothing.
1:00:13
I don't like the word sacrifice.
1:00:13
I don't think I've sacrificed anything. No.
1:00:16
Yeah, no, I'm missing that one. Sugar. Okay. Okay, fair. All right.
1:00:21
Uh building a family with you makes me like excited.
1:00:26
I don't think there's anything better than excited. I'd say grateful. Yes, that's a good one. Yeah, I feel grateful. I take that.
1:00:34
I just I just know that having a little you in my life with you guiding them will be really Oh, that's going to be drama. Okay, go next.
1:00:43
Okay, so this is your final five. Okay.
1:00:45
I'll answer them as well.
1:00:45
So, who is your favorite family member? Mhm, my grandma. Okay. Bah.
1:00:51
Yeah, mine Everyone loves her.
1:00:53
Yeah, mine has to be my sister. Yeah. Yeah, yeah. For sure. Okay, top We love her.
1:00:59
Top two favorite restaurants.
1:01:00
Top two favorite restaurants in the world? Yeah. My mom's house. Won't give her address.
1:01:07
Um but definitely my mom's house.
1:01:07
And the second one, um My All of mine are in New York, actually.
1:01:14
Divya's Kitchen, ABCV, Hangawi. No, that's it. Okay, fine. I'd say our house Yeah. and AB CTV. Okay, yeah.
1:01:23
Actually, I've got a few more, too, but yeah. Yeah, that's good.
1:01:26
All right, okay, awesome.
1:01:28
Uh What song song does your partner have on repeat? Right now? I guess so, yeah.
1:01:32
Oh, um I think Roddy's song on repeat right now is is probably some like soccer song or like some sort of like some like reggaeton song or something like that. Yes. But also Jahnavi. Oh, yeah, okay.
1:01:51
Uh I have Meditation music.
1:01:52
As in yeah, just Jahnavi's voice is amazing.
1:01:54
Jahnavi Roddy's Roddy's YouTube My YouTube is like a little It would You know when it goes like recommended for, it'll be like meditation music, kirtan songs, and then like soccer music, and like Girl, you're a party animal. Yeah.
1:02:07
Like literally shows where my mind's at most of the time.
1:02:09
But Jahnavi Harrison is literally one of my favorite artists.
1:02:12
She's Actually, people ask me about this a lot.
1:02:14
Um she does the most incredible meditation music, but also just the way that she puts instruments together and everything. Like it's just amazing. So, definitely her. Soccer music.
1:02:24
Um and actually right now Justin Bieber's new song. Yeah. What about mine?
1:02:30
You're Oh, we aren't talking about each other? No, just yeah. Oh.
1:02:33
What song do you have on repeat right now?
1:02:34
Have I heard you listening to music lately?
1:02:37
So, for a while it was that Rhythm of the Night track from the Bad Boys 2 soundtrack. Oh, yeah.
1:02:42
Ritmo, I think it's called, with J Balvin and and will. i. am.
1:02:47
And then there's a lot of Drake.
1:02:49
I listen to a ton of Drake, yeah. Got Drake.
1:02:53
I can listen to a lot of Drake. Okay. Cool.
1:02:55
What was the last kind thing your partner did for you?
1:02:58
Um the last kind thing you did for me You packed my suitcases on the way there and back when I was rushing and I was busy.
1:03:07
Usually, I pack my own suitcases, but you helped me out with that. Yes, I did. big.
1:03:10
What did you do for me lately? Hmm.
1:03:17
This morning This morning Oh, you ordered me juice. Ruler, thanks for that. Yes, and not you. So, no, not today.
1:03:24
Yesterday, what did you do for me that was nice? Oh my god. Joking.
1:03:32
Um you always give my I get like tension in my head and so you always give me a really good head massage.
1:03:39
Not sure you did that yesterday, but most days. I did.
1:03:40
We were watching the movie. Yes, you did. Yes. Yeah. Said that next. Okay.
1:03:45
And the final question, what is your partner's biggest goal for 2020?
1:03:49
So, what goal did you 2020?
1:03:51
Feels like it has to be a big year with 2020, doesn't it? Um What's yours?
1:03:58
What's your biggest goal?
1:04:00
Oh, we're not answering for each other. Okay.
1:04:02
My biggest goal for 2020 is to figure out exactly what I want to do. Nice.
1:04:06
Because I don't know yet.
1:04:09
Um I love it when you get so cute.
1:04:12
This has been my goal every year.
1:04:15
But this year, 2020, feels like it's going to be really special.
1:04:17
I said this is the year I'm going to launch my blog, that's for sure. Soon.
1:04:25
I'm going to figure out exactly what I want to do.
1:04:28
And I'm going to be really productive.
1:04:31
And your goal for 2020 is My goal is the year of the book. Yes.
1:04:36
me, I've spent so much time writing this book that I just want as many people as possible to read this book because yeah, I've just put everything into it. So.
1:04:46
So cool that you have like everything down of like what your focus is and I'm like, we'll see. I love you for it. No, I know.
1:04:52
I'm just saying it's just really different. Okay, cool. That Amazing. That's it. Is that it? Yeah, that's it. We did it. number two. High five.
1:05:03
Thank you so much for watching that video.
1:05:05
If you enjoyed it, here's another one I think you'll love.
1:05:08
One of the things that can help is to say, "This demon would come out with another person, too."