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I understand you have something called the Nick method.
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I don't know what the Nick method is.
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What is the Nick method for hosting a party?
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The main thing I want your listeners to know is that I found that interesting people want to meet people that are doing interesting things.
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And the fastest way to become interesting was for me to host my own events.
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So we talked before about those business ideas that you don't need a lot of capital for.
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Hosting events is kind of the same way.
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You can do it with very little money.
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Each party should cost you less than a hundred dollars.
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These strategies start from beginner to advanced and I've helped hundreds of people to host their very first party using this method.
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So, the Nick method to host a party will absolutely level up.
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I'm going to do harmonica on this.
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Because if you do this one thing, you will level up your events to be so much better.
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And the reason is that the bar is so low for a successful event.
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Think when somebody invites you to like a company happy hour.
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You're just people standing around at an open bar. It's like bad.
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That's the That's the old way and the future can change if we bend our will to make it do that.
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You can do that with the Nick method when you host events. N I C K, like my name.
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The N stands for name tags.
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Fill out the name tags, first name only, big block letters.
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The name tags I like are the Qualatex 300s.
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I also like the Avery 5424s.
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The Qualatex 300s come in six different colors and you guys may know those.
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They discontinued the 5426s which was really sad actually. Yeah, it's the vintage.
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You You should You should completely make up the model numbers by the way and just see if anyone ever finds out and be like, I've been waiting.
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I have an envelope for the It's a golden ticket.
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It's like for the first person that realized that I was completely making up the model numbers of these name tags. You are my fellow nerd.
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I may have got those model numbers wrong. Why do name tags matter?
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Cuz I went to a party with of yours and at first I was like, okay, is this second grade? This is cheesy.
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But then it was kind of useful obviously cuz I don't remember a lot of people's names.
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But it seems like there's more to it than that.
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What is the like What's the why behind the why?
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The why behind the why is it's like a sports jersey to show everybody that we're on the same team.
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Have you ever walked into an event?
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It's the first time you've gone to something and you figure that it's me walking into something else.
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Everybody else must know each other.
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They must all be friends already. I am the outsider.
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When you have name tags, you show that you are all on the same team.
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This is not a party of cliques. We're all here together.
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By the way, if you host meetups, you absolutely have to do name tags when you host at a bar or another public spot so you know who is there for the meetup.
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Have you ever gone to a meetup and it's at like a beer garden and you're like, well, who's here for the meetup?
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They're like, oh, these people. It's like, great.
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I guess I'll just figure it out on my own. Amateur hour. All right. And name tags, I'm in. I buy. Yeah. N is name tags.
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I stands for intros or icebreakers.
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When I wrote the book, I called them icebreakers, but there's such a cringe reaction to the idea of icebreakers and that word.
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So now I call them intros.
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And this can be in small groups.
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It can be your whole group together.
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But what's the first thing that everybody asks when they meet you? What's your name? What do you do for work?
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We're going to get that out of the way by having everybody say it real quick.
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I think it is important by the way to say what people do, especially for listeners of this pod, because you never know who's looking for a job, who wants to network, who's working on growing their business.
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But those rounds of intros give you an excuse.
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It's a conversational crutch for your guests to go up and start new conversations.
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Your role is the hundred gray way to do that.
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Like, is there a better and worse way to do those intros or icebreakers?
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My man, of course there are.
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Dude, I've done more icebreakers I I I live and breathe icebreakers.
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You have come to the right spot.
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Uh welcome to Nick Gray's party icebreaker therapy.
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Because I've spent a lot of my life doing icebreakers. Um here's the deal.
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There's two different uh Do you know Stefon from SNL's Weekend Update?
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You know, like that you are Stefon right now. That is you.
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That is you at I'm so passionate about icebreakers cuz I've seen so many bad ones.
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You know an example of a bad one is, all right everybody, team meeting, let's go around and say one fun fact about yourself.
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That's a terrible icebreaker.
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So much of my work involves making people that have social anxiety or consider themselves introverts to feel more welcome.
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And I know that some of them are going to hate this idea of intros, but ideally what they like is to be able to know what to expect and minimal surprises.
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And so a green level icebreaker or intro at the beginning of an event when there's no social rapport, when people are new and a little uncomfortable is just an easy one that doesn't take time.
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The exact question that I have most people do is, everybody real quick, let's just do a round of intros. You got to say the why.
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The why is that there's a lot of interesting people here and I really want you to go meet somebody new.
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So we're going to have you say your name, say what you do for work or how you spend your day, and then tell me one of your favorite things, one of your go-to things that you like to eat for breakfast.
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Now, that's a bit of a red herring cuz I actually don't want to know their breakfast.
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I want to know what they do for work.
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But we take away the attention.
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We make them think about the breakfast.
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The breakfast one works because it's easy, it's subjective, people don't judge you for it, and it's not hard.
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You don't get locked up in your head.
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A bad example would be, hey everybody, let's go around, name, what do you do for work, and tell me your favorite business book. Favorite is definitive.
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It is your absolute favorite.
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People are going to judge me. Oh my god, favorite. What's my favorite? What's my favorite?
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So we start with a very easy one.
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So you could do the breakfast if you want to make it a little edgier, you could ask people and say your favorite vice or say what was one of your first online screen names and why did you choose it?
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Or what was one of your first jobs that you ever got paid cash money for?
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Now those are beginner level ones.
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I want to tell you an advanced one, but I want to check with you guys. Can I keep going? Yes. Yes. Keep going.
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As you continue the event about an hour later, you want to do one more advanced round of intros.
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And this is what I call a value-additive intro.
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Value-additive means that everybody's answer adds to the benefit of the room.
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And so for Sam for example, who lives in Connecticut now, say that he was hosting this in Westchester, you would say, hey everybody, we're going to do our last round of icebreakers.
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Your question is going to be, what is one of your Westchester pro tips or life hacks or little secret?
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What's a small business you support, a dog park you like, a hiking trail you enjoy?
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What's the best coffee shop in town?
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Tell us one great thing in town that you like and want to shine a light on.
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Okay, so that's one example.
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One more example if you don't want to focus on your town would be hey everybody, we're going to do a last round of intros and I want you to share a great piece of media that you have consumed recently.
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What's a movie you watched, a documentary, a podcast like My First Million, like and subscribe, gentlemen's agreement.
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Uh what are some of those things that you liked and you want to share? Okay?
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And then you go around the room and you do that. Why does this work?
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It works because every answer gives somebody value.
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Oh, I've been meaning to go to that restaurant.
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Oh, My First Million, I love those guys.
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Oh, I I heard about that book. I want to check it out.
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And you do it towards the end of your event.
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So at the end, people get all these new ideas.
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They've met all these new people and they leave with a feeling of value.
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They leave feeling that they're better than when they showed up.
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That's what a good party is.
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You did something at a party I went to of yours where I don't know, you were like lurking around or you were hopping from combo to combo, but then when you brought everybody back together, you go James, will you tell people that amazing email trick that you did that really improved your your open rates?
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And the guy said something that was like so useful to me that I was like, that one thing alone made this party worth going to because Yeah.
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it's like you had eyes and ears around the room so you could pluck the best kind of like pro tip that you heard and you had two or three people go.
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Um and you just had them share with the whole group in that moment.
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Uh I thought that was pretty awesome. That's an advanced tip.
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You should be going through life collecting the interesting people that you meet. And why is this helpful?
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Well, it helped me launch a multi-million dollar business called Museum Hack that was launched on the back of the network that I built up from hosting all of these events.
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I hear from a lot of people, oh my god, I'm going to do a startup party.
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I'm going to do a launch party for my new app.
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I was like, awesome, perfect.
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How many events have you hosted?
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Or when was the last event you hosted?
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Ooh, ooh, I've never hosted anything.
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I'm like, bro, you have a cold list. Like nobody knows you.
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Like no offense, but like in real life, nobody knows you. Nobody cares.
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This is not going to be a successful launch party.
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You need to start building up and hosting these little events.
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By the way, the perfect size for a happy hour in my opinion is about 15 to 22 people.
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I could talk forever about this, but a small plug.
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I wrote a book called The Two-Hour Cocktail Party that is really more like a workbook or a step-by-step guide that helps you actually do it.
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And by the way, if you want to go through a cohort or something, you'll give me a hundred dollars.
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At the end of hosting the party, I'll give you the hundred dollars back.
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That's how it works, but hosting a party might change your life.
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The book made you like the king of the introverts because I had so many introverted friends um who like read the book and they started hosting Nick Gray parties and I would be like walking around Austin at like 7:00 at night and in Austin, all the bars are outdoor bars.
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And I would see I would I swear to God, there was this one one-mile walk through East Austin of like where all the bars are and I would see multiple Nick Gray parties happening.
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Harmonicas all throughout downtown Austin just in the night.
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They would be in a circle and they would I call them we would call them name tag Nick.
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So they always had Nick's name tags and they would be in a circle and I could see the person in the middle pointing exactly like he tells you to do in the book.
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I swear to God on one one mile walk I saw three I saw one at Lazarus, one at Whistlers, and one at this other bar.
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It was three Nick Gray parties. It was insane.
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It's like you were the introverts king for a handful of months where I would in in Austin.
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So many people were doing it.
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The reason we're doing this is that people are hungry for in-person events.
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We're all digitally saturated.
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We want that human connection and I found that you can add value to people by introducing them to other interesting people.
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If you're looking for a business idea, if you're looking to raise your status in the world, you have to start by adding value.
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And hosting a party, introducing the interesting people you know, that is a way that you can add value.
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