and what i'm here to tell people is high performers reset every hour it's crazy every hour figure out the questions you're going to ask to evaluate your life mind where did i live i love do i matter yours might be was i a great brother was a great mom did i build a movement did i everyone's going to evaluate it differently i don't
have the answer for anybody i don't know their purpose but i say just think if you're 90 on the rocking chair or you're 105 on the rock interior you're 200 in the hospice you know however older you are if you have a monocognition you're evaluating life how do you know if you lived a good one now wake up every day
with the intention to do that live good so you're happy with the answers at the end [Music] and today's guest is none other than brendon burchard now i know a lot of you are gonna be excited for this episode brendan is one of the top coaches in the world an incredible speaker an incredible author but most importantly i want to share
something with you i was just telling him literally two seconds ago when i joined social media in 2014 not as a creator but as a user i was always looking for people who are doing good on social media because i wanted to follow people that were empowering and i could pretty much on facebook memories on this day you know you can type it in
i could pretty much find at least one brendan quote per day that i used to share with whoever used to follow me that time and i think my post at that time should get two to four likes uh so brendan i'll take credit for the two to four people but honestly it was just such a his work was so refreshing to me and the post
that he was writing was so sincere and so genuine and when i had the opportunity to meet brendan i think it was late last year or earlier this year when we had the opportunity to connect i i waited around after a keynote i was giving because i really wanted to meet him because i was just so impressed by what he had done but more importantly the way in
which he did it and he's just not disappointed he's been really kind really supportive and someone who's really been there for me in this journey as well so i want to you know open up your minds but also open up your hearts to a very very special human being brendan welcome to the show thank you for being here man i love you i mean every single word
that i've just said thank you uh and i wanted you to hear from my from my mouth and for this i'm just going to go for the audio brendan burchard is a highly recognized as the world's leading high performance coach he's a magnificent writer public speaker and his books have been on plenty bestseller list including the
new york times wall street journal and more he's coached and worked with everyone ranging from ceos of massive companies to celebrities brendan's personal development trainings have more than 300 million views over 2 million students have completed his online courses and video series oprah.com named him one of the most successful online trainers
in history and he's also had 28 seven-figure online launches his list of accomplishments goes on and on and on but the most important thing is he's a true man of service and living an incredible life trying to help others brendan thank you brother thank you i appreciate that no i mean it you're you're truly you know i think
we always have this feeling of you you want to meet people and i'm sure you had them too and you're always hoping that when you meet someone they don't let you down yes right and i'm an optimistic person so when i meet someone that i've been aspiring to me yeah i'm always hoping that they're going to blow me away even more that's
my hope and when i met you it felt that way so i just want to say thank you thank you you too yeah you too it was so so funny because we were running so many similar circles and our friends were like you guys don't know each other you should meet up and and thank you shout out to lewis for introducing us and making sure that connection happened and
same thing i was hoping i'm like he's a monk i hope he's like calm i hope he's centered i hope he's got good vibrancy and his and joy in his heart and his eyes and you did even though you and i both were kind of road warrior a little bit that moment we were we were out on the road we were and that was late at night
and we just were chatting and just you know when you meet people and just your vibrant and enthusiastic part of you that comes out right because you and i already do that for life in a job but then when you meet somebody who it draws you out more i was energized that night so really i thought you were just always like that i think you are always
like that you have great ideas yeah i'm i'm happy yeah you know i'm living my second chance at life yeah so for me you know after a big car accident when i was younger every day is like bonus day so i'm already reverence for life i'm happy-go-lucky but there are people who have an aura and a vibrancy and everyone's listening they know that
there's those times there's just some people who you're around it kind of makes you pop and come alive and did you smile a little more and you were that and i was like oh that's what i wanted from meeting jay shetty i wanted to be like that anywhere so thank you man let's actually start there i wasn't going to start there but now
that you've mentioned it i want to start there i want my audience to hear that story from you yeah because i think that everyone's either had one of those moments or they're going to have one of those moments and i want everyone who's listening and watching right now to either be prepared if they're about to have one or maybe
not even wait for that to happen yeah and for those who have had it to really use it to the advantage so let's start with that accident that that changed your mindset that changed the urgency of life for you yeah um i'll give the takeaway because it's a little bit of a long story i know it is um you know the takeaway is at at the
end of our lives if we have a moment of cognition we're going to lay there in bed and we're going to ask questions about our life to evaluate whether or not we were happy with it and what i've always suggested to people is maybe don't pretend you're living your purpose unless you know the questions you're going to ask at the
end of your life how do you evaluate it because otherwise you're kind of living randomly but when you know oh i'm gonna evaluate my life this way at the very end now every day you can wake up with intention now every day you get to wake up with purpose which is why i love the name of your show because that's my thing too it's like this this deep
connection to some type of purpose so that at the end of our life we're happy there's no regrets there there's no sadness there's no oh my gosh why was i this way or why did i wait to do that and i my unique story is that i got that gift at 19 years old um the story is my my girlfriend and i from high school were high school
sweethearts and like the super annoying kind like we were they we became like high school sweethearts and we were the make out of locker and you know stop it you never have that couple who stops hanging out with their friends because they get so much that was us we just so fell in love with each other we stopped hanging out with
friends stopped doing anything else fell in love um she wanted to go to college i was just gonna do like landscaping i mean i was gonna do like art projects on this i had no i didn't have a real ambition to go to college yet we went to college together shared a u-haul on the way over live in the same dorm sign up for the same classes had the same friends like
the whole nine yards like literally our life was completely intertwined and then at the end of that or in that first semester of school she discovered uh beer and other men uh and cheated on me wow and i don't remember this way but if when your whole identity is wrapped up in a relationship and then the relationship falls apart
you fall apart 100 that's what happened i felt i fell apart i fell mentally emotionally spiritually completely apart um couldn't get out of bed stop going to classes friends deeply concerned about me coming over trying to move let's go out let's go out and i was like i can't i just would lay there and like cry basically um and i like two things really changed
my life which i didn't realize till later one was i was always a reader like i'm really happy about all the accolades i've gotten everything else but the thing that has driven my life is i love books when i meet with people i want to talk about books i love books i love books and so i'm still reading so here i am depressed in bed
um and i remember this is like several days after i'd planned suicide full on not like thinking about it wrote the letter made a couple calls and had planned to end my life laying in bed super sad open the school newspaper and there was an ad in the school newspaper so i'm reading second thing to change my life is marketing here's this ad
full page ad white sandy beach turquoise water blue sky green palm tree and across the top like the best headline ever for a young man in pain the headline across the top said escape and i was like yeah you know summertime job students needed dominican republic wow now i'm in montana at the time at the university of montana i don't know
i've been to montana oh yeah yeah i don't even know where dominican republic is but i know she's not there so i'm like so i'm like i'm going so take the job uh we basically become glorified tour guides for an entrepreneur who works down there who we knew and my friend kevin and i we hop in the car one night and we go to return where we're staying
and we're going down the shore to 85 miles an hour and kevin is driving and we came upon the corner that you know here in the us especially la would you know u-turn-shaped yellow sign slow down 15 miles an hour but developing country new road no sign so we go around the corner and kevin immediately like grabs and go brain hold
on and he cranks it and i just i mean i didn't know then was it you know what happened was emotional spiritual mental you know make-believe who knows in my mind of what happened the next couple of minutes but when you're sliding in this death's doorway you have questions about life it comes through as a feeling like because at first like that brace
that terror in a car accident there's a piece of that if you ever think you're like you know you don't want to die and if you've ever been in a car accident that weird slow motion thing happens so that's why i said i don't know where it was because like this super slow motion and i felt this brace and i really felt
and sensed this like did i live did i live my life uh you know later i can think about like you know because of course we want to know do we live vibrant and free and and a lot you know our life but at that point you know i lived her life i'd live my parents and professors lives and i really hadn't been living and been
thinking about taking my life um we went to the the car slid sideways off the road and we hit this little retainer wall and it popped us up into the air and i hit the side of my head um and i started seeing all these images of these times in my life when i was surrounded by people that i loved and it was like these scenes it's just beautiful
just beautiful it wasn't omniscient it wasn't like a near-death experience per se it was just these beautiful scenes when i could see family members and everybody else and because at the end of your life you think about who you're going to miss and who's going to miss you which triggers this other question of did i love
and you know you talk about it too and like we want to know that we really love fully and completely and free not not from terror or fear or need i hadn't loved my heart had been shut down and i always say to people it's like you have to be careful we've been hurt because we build up these walls to protect ourselves we put on the mask or we get
you know serious and stiff but when you build up that wall to give out the bad guys you also block out the good guys and in our own self-protection we block out the very things we really desperately desire which is connection um car hit the ground rolled several times i got knocked out completely when i came to kevin is next to me in driver's seat screaming
at the top of his just terrified his eyes are wild like an animal and a huge chunk of his head is open and there's just blood everywhere this fear is like what's going on but i'm like in shock he crawls outside the driver's side window i go to get outside mine but i can't the car smashed on me and all i have is this hole that used to
be in the windshield i push myself through and i stand up on the hood of the car he's screaming screaming screaming but i'm in this thud hollow i don't know how to describe the shock and i look down and i saw on my body i'm covered in blood and this just terror hits me remember 19 and i feel life draining literally physically out of me
and um i just remember life feeling like it's draining away and i just remember looking at at my feet which was covered in blood and i just thought did i even matter you know did i even make a difference was there a reason i was here and oh man it was the worst because i didn't feel like i did and then uh i looked down and the blood
was going off the hood of the car and there was a glint there was a sparkle in the blood and i didn't know what it was it was reflection so made me look up and there's this bright big beautiful moon that night that i didn't even see earlier and it was like this arresting connection i just felt this connection and i felt like
you know i was almost an immediate sense of grace i was like i'm gonna be okay i almost felt like i was told i was gonna be okay and so i call that like my life's golden ticket moment because i felt like the big guy upstairs because i believe in god reach down and hand me like life's golden ticket here you go kid you're still alive you can still love
you can still matter but now you know the clock is ticking you're lucky young man you're still alive and my whole life i was just like in that moment i remember literally looking up this moon and i didn't know it was so i didn't know what the feelings were at the time because i've had a lot of time to think about this obviously
23 years ago and i just remember thinking i will earn this and i felt that next breath is like i'm gonna be okay kevin and i i don't mean to ruin the story for everybody but i survived it's like i'm okay i'm alive kevin survived lots of cuts bruising broken bones terrified kids but for me what i took away with it was
both the reverence for life the appreciation for life the timing of life that the clock is ticking on all of us but also this desire to i want to earn it like i felt so blessed i felt like i got away with it you know i mean like how did i skirt death i want to earn this so in the hospital later i was thinking
about those feelings and i was like oh wow i kind of asked myself did i live did i love and did i matter and it really hit me i thought that that that's a gift right there those are the questions i'm gonna ask if i'm ever to die did i really live my life did i love others and did i make a difference did i matter and so i decided remember i'm 19. i
i decided at 19 i said every night i'm gonna go to bed i'm gonna ask those three questions about my day so i've asked those for 23 tonight i'll go home and i'll ask that same question 23 years every night people how do you do so much i go when you live your life with intention and purpose you can get a lot done because the
nights that i can't say yes to those questions it's not like i'm i hate myself or i'm sad right but the nights i can say yes i sleep well and so i just i've had this simple mission like i love your mission make wisdom go viral mine has been maybe more depressive to tell people to tell people you're going to die so how about this figure out the questions
you're going to ask to evaluate your life mine were did i lived i love do i matter yours might be was i a great brother was a great mom did i build a movement did i everyone's gonna evaluate it differently i don't have the answer for anybody i don't know their purpose but i say just think if you're 90 on the rocking chair or you're 105 on the rock interior
you're 200 in the hospice you know however older you are if you have a moment of cognition you're evaluating life how do you know if you lived a good one now wake up every day with the intention to do that live good so you're happy with the answers at the end it's awesome that's so beautiful thank you for sharing that
yeah in such a profound and moving way as well and what i love about that and how you've translated that into what you do now is that i think a lot of us are gifted like you said the golden ticket a gifted with golden ticket moment yes some are more extreme or less extreme than what you described yeah and it doesn't really matter where on the
spectrum it is we we all have those moments and i think what's fascinating is that so many of us have that glimpse but then we struggle to translate that glimpse into real transformation yes or we struggle to translate this emotive inspiring deep personal moment into something very practical active and tangible yeah and i think anyone who's
watched a motivational video or been through a life-changing accident will say they've felt that where they've had a moment where like oh i felt yeah in my body that i was meant to do this but then the next day i just didn't feel like getting up tell me how you started to form the habits that were needed yeah for you to live this every day and
you've already taught us one beautiful one just like the one you just said but how did you how were you able to really take that through and start developing a world and a life to live up to those questions yeah i mean stage one was i was honest that i was a hot mess like i came back from the accident and i'm like
i'm a mess i've been depressed i was gonna kill myself i'm sad my grades suck my friends are kind of like losers uh you know not in a judgmental way to them but in how i wanted to feel they made me feel bad about myself and that's why i think a loser isn't what they've accomplished it's how they make other people feel
two different things they made me feel bad and i thought i i don't have it together and that began my great and long-term committed search to studying psychology because i'm like why do i think so dumb why do i feel so bad about myself how do you overcome you know depression how do i deal with this sadness why do i still have so much hatred in my
heart about something that happened so long ago like just all this like people say forgiveness how do you do that so i started reading everything in psychology first then i came into personal development and then i got into spirituality then i got into leadership development then i got into business it was every single thing of like how do i
change myself so much so you and i have this shared history we've both worked at a consulting company absolutely i was a change management consultant because i spent literally from that moment for the next six years studying change in some way or another studying psychology studying political science studying organizational communications
and management to say how do people change and so i became infatuated so in personal development i studied like dale carnegie and napoleon hill and earl nightingale and zig ziglar and jim rohn and marianne williamson debbie ford and louise hay and wayne dyer and uh you know tony robbins and and just brian tracy
and anyone getting my hands on there in psychology i got carl rogers and abraham maslow and alfred ayler you know in political science i was you know studying this person in philosophy i was going down the rabbit hole and i was just eating and absorbing it and asking the questions every day and trying to live it and the most important
thing with that my that at my time i said you know what i want to learn to be confident i want to learn how to communicate well and i want to learn to have great relationships so i studied those things really intensely and i just tried them and i tried them and i just i literally i was so good about making little goal sheets
and trying and that was the year i also began my monthly goals so on the first of every month to this day i write a personal goal and a professional goal um that is the outside of all the things that project i'm trying to achieve the personal goal is something like be more patient this month and every day i look out on the way out i put on the
door i'd walk out and be patient no matter what my other goals or objectives were that was like the defining personal theme so i created monthly challenge themes for 23 years you know patients have come up a lot of times it's like joy has come up a lot of times yes you know uh uh staying centered has come up a lot
of times it's not like i've ever achieved i've no one achieves personal development i agree or purpose it is like an intention and a dedication and so that's where it started and by studying all that it gave me the edge i really believe when you are a student of life especially in psychology and philosophy you get the edge because when people are
having problems you can see perspective around it and once you have perspective you got super powers because most people are trapped in their problems and if you have perspective how people have solved or managed these things in the past you have superpowers to people they can't believe like how did you know to
say that or that i'm like oh i read that in a personal development book 10 years ago and that made the big difference for me wow it made a big difference so it's just reading i mean i read a book a week for 23 years i love that never missed um that's not true four times in my life i missed most two of them were in the hospital so that's it
oh wow i'm a reader and then i try to apply it yeah try to apply and then the ultimate challenge is i made my career about it that forced me to develop skill when i was a consultant first then became a coach then decided to become a researcher and writer in this field i had to prove my chops there was no just talk about it wasn't posting on you
know instagram because i didn't have that it was can i sit in a room with an executive and change yes can i get the change can can i sit with a high-profile athlete who's in trouble with their behavior can i get the change can i sit down with a person who wants to start a business and give them that confidence they need like whatever it
was it was real-time challenges for so long that fortunately that experience helped me yeah absolutely and i love what you're talking about because i think we have such a answer obsession today like we're all looking for the answers we're all trying to find the answer yeah and actually what you're saying is the
emphasis should be on the questions finding the right questions to us that's it and then finding where to find the answers to those questions which led you into psychology and led you into political science and led you into philosophy and led you to all these players yes because you were answering asking the right questions yeah and and i think
there's such an answer obsession today with we want the answer we want to know how this works and why it works but we've just got to go deeper into asking that question more sincerely more genuinely and so much more comes from that because you just feel inspired by that question i feel and what you mean by student of
life like when you're a student of life it means you're questioning that's it right that's what it means like what else does it mean talk about questioning like i i had been doing seminars and coaching for six seven years at a really high level but i was wondering like is my stuff right is it true am i one of these guys who just talked like let me
super test it so we did research i teamed up with a researcher from university of pennsylvania's positive psychology department and uh researchers at uc santa barbara we conducted the world's largest study of high performers of all time like no other study has been this big this comprehensive this deep down 190 countries
190 countries i mean millions of data points and and the reason because no one would spend the money on it i was like oh i'll kick this let's figure this out because i want to know that what i'm doing is precise and academically validated but i only bring that up because the first habit that we discovered of high performers worldwide and high
performers tend to be the top 15 percent of successful people in whatever field that is um and usually you know and that's the broad 190 countries in the us it's the top three percent uh hands down the habit that really changed their trajectory was this habit called seek clarity notice it doesn't say get clarity yeah high
performers seek clarity i'll give an example like with with oprah i've had blessings working with oprah if you have a meeting with oprah when she walks that meeting her first thing she asks is what's our intention for this meeting now lots of executives walk in meetings they just start the meetings she's seeking clarity of what is this about and you take a
underperformer in the work world or at your job they just bumble in and they're like okay let's just do it high performers go what is this about where does it fit in what's the priority they're asking themselves questions constantly and not questions of self-doubt questions of clarity like like who could i be what's my best
self look in this situation you know that's a question i performers ask they they want to know how can i be of most service in this situation a lot of people just go through the motions high performers see clearly they ask the questions and because they get clarity and seek clarity throughout the process they get ahead faster because a lot of
people just and they're good but a lot of people are just brunt force workers they'll just go and do it and they'll just apply force and will and hope and fire and hours at something but often they're running in the wrong direction yeah absolutely high performers you know it's like in directions some people will drive for 50 minutes
other people will pull aside in five and go hey where do i go that's the high performer and they're gonna get there faster and succeed in life that's seeking clarity and that sometimes feels scarier to do because you have to open up yourself to vulnerability not knowing you feel like you're not intelligent now or the other person may
perceive you as different like how do you break that that that barrier of like being okay with saying you know i don't know and i want to find out how do you break that because i think for so many people even raising their hand at an event or going up and really asking you a question i used to say to people all the time i was like
when you see someone you admire stop asking for a picture ask for a question you know it's like oh i love that you know what i mean like you get asked for pictures all the time and i'm like why if if you had a moment like let's just imagine let's take oprah you have a moment with oprah you can ask a picture or you can ask her a question
yeah you know it's like it's that there and if i meet you it's like gonna ask for a picture i'm gonna ask brendan for a question yeah you studied 190 countries in the top performers yeah i'm hoping i would ask you a question yeah and and i think so how do you get there how do you get to a point where you you wire your brain in such a way that
you're you break the fear of i'm scared of looking silly i'm scared of looking stupid i'm scared of looking like i don't know and actually recognizing that's a strength yeah i would say maybe not the most popular answer i go to the fear how are you gonna look silly or stupid you're not going to ask questions and
you're going to end up in the wrong place and people are like why don't you just ask like follow the fear if the fear says i'm scared i'm looking stupid by asking questions like well let's flip that because if you don't ask questions you're definitely going to look stupid you're definitely going to end up in the
wrong place yeah you're definitely i mean you're you're manifesting the very thing you fear by not doing the thing that you're scared and being bare you know you don't want to be vulnerable about yeah so i think one first i'm always a guy i'm like pay attention to research if the research clearly says like i'm a little bit scientific in my
mind that way i'm like if the research says clearly across 190 countries and some of the most successful people on the planet they ask more questions and they're intentional and thoughtful about that then start monitoring your questions because what most people will do and you know this a lot of their questions are horrible why do i suck why don't i fit in why
don't i have what she has what's wrong with me this is what people do ask if people listen to their thoughts a lot of their thoughts are negative questions what's wrong with me oh yeah wow you're already asking questions it's just the quality of your questions are probably pretty low great so now we need to first more actively
seek ask questions be vulnerable about it pay attention to the quality of questions you're already asking and what we found in the research was was really easy for people if they want to draw the circle out yeah or draw these circles out it's specifically we wanted the research and i interviewed 300 of the top high performers in the world
not for podcasts but like in real like structured academic style and here's what they tend to be more clear about they are more clear about self social skill and service and here's the breakdown of that self is they have an intention of who they want to be and they're clear about that you're like if you could describe your ideal self we
do this in the research it's actually on video it's interesting if you ask an underperformer or a high performer on video could you describe your ideal self drop three or four words to describe your ideal self high performers the answers like fall right on their mouth underperformers like it's almost like they never thought
about it yeah so they didn't have the intention about who they wanted to be so what i have people do is in their phone i have them program their alarm to describe their best self in three words and make that alarm pop up throughout the day so you're walking because you always look at your phone with buzzes it buzz the alarm
and it says bold dynamic confident great says that over and over or kind loving thoughtful you know or generous empathetic you know uh whatever when that pops up over and over and over it starts to set the intention in the mind a little bit that's why people should use affirmations to on the social side they were incredibly intentional
about how they wanted other people to feel yes you and i just talked about this out there about what i love about you is you want people to feel like they are your friend and you want to feel like a friend to them that's a social intention you're clear about that and you even said when you got clear about that something changed for you
yeah massive it was huge and i think what what i love about what you're saying right now is this we always get lost in the confusion of who we are even at the most basic things yeah so what i say to people like how many times have you ever stayed up and struggled to find something to watch on netflix it sounds like a stupid example but my
point is i'm guessing a high performer knows exactly what type of movies they like that's right they know what type of food they like in the morning for breakfast lunch and dinner and when you ask people they'll say oh no no but i like being spontaneous and and often i think that that's answer means i don't know or i don't really think about these
things yes and so if you are asking what kind of movies do you like they'll be able to say these are my favorite movies yeah i found that when i could have more self awareness about what movies are like yeah i had more self awareness about how i wanted to be in social situations yes and self yes and and i think it starts
with the small things and the big things yeah uh everything from what you want to eat for breakfast all the way through to how are you gonna serve and impact the world this is the superpower you have because you meditate because you journal you write you reflect that reflective process of our lives has gotten kind of stolen away by the distractions
so people don't know and you could see you could see a video they're like ah they don't know the other element is skill so they like high performing you say what's two or three skills you're working on in your life right now that you're actively learning or training on they're like bop bop bop underperformers like i don't know
like they're almost hoping to get better and you're like oh no you you you need to decide these are skills like for me i sucked on video sucked i got my video guy travis here right here he could tell you 10 years ago i was kind of horrible really travis yes oh wow it was a nod and i couldn't believe it it was awful i mean even before him i had the
remember flip video cameras no one knows what i'm talking about oh yeah then i remember the flip video camera it was like just a stick and i had a button on it and i would i was broke living in an apartment at the time and i duct tape it around this box and press the button and i had my shirt was all open and my hair was like all over and i
was like i'm brand new because i didn't know how to talk to camera i didn't know how to be myself yeah i was video was really awkward for me yeah like in all the personality tests believe it or not i'm half introvert i'm right down the line between introvert and next word so i need my personal time so camera was super awkward for me
and i was like okay but if i want to change the world guess what is necessary communication skills i'm going to have to learn that i i was not i didn't wasn't raised in a place i was raised in montana where men didn't really communicate except with looks glances and fists you know so it's like if a guy lifted it wasn't like
we like we're gesturing right now yeah where i'm from if their hand came up you're getting punched in the face man that was it oh uh so i had to learn emotional intelligence that's a skill uh so communication emotional intelligence when i got into our business i had to learn copywriting i know what that was email marketing i didn't know i
had to learn coding i don't none of that i knew what it was but i was always confident and i think real confidence is your belief in your ability to figure things out i believe in my ability to figure things out give me enough time energy resources study books mentors i will figure out hey you want me to go to the moon i'll figure it out
even though i have no idea today i can learn and get mentors so that's a deep part of my life high performers have that they just believe they'll figure things out that confidence is what ties a lot of their habits and their abilities together so skill set oh i better learn copywriting and video so i practiced video
a bajillion times i forced myself to do it a bajillion times and now i have 28 online courses and travis has been there i shoot all of them extemp literally i'll do a two-hour video with the flip chart five words on a page and i don't i don't need a script or anything going from a kid who's like but you know i couldn't get it out to just
flowing do four day seminars by myself for 10 hours a day on stage speaking like you know artists lose their voice sometimes singing for three hours i go ten hours a day for four days i had to learn vocal control i had no idea how to do that that was a skill but that's the important thing everyone listening please write down what are the
top skills you would need to master to succeed in your purpose in your life in your career and the last element there was service yeah high performers they kind of know the service they want to bring to the world that's why i was like jay's going to smash this because i mean you were so humble you're like i've only been doing this x amount
of time brendan but you already knew you want to make wisdom go viral and you knew what was true to you you knew the type of purpose you wanted to make and you were and you're still seeking that out and clarifying like we all are but high performers know the service they want to give to the world and they don't know it exactly or
perfectly but they're intentionally moving towards that and so for those who are like i don't know if i have clarity i'm like okay get clarity about yourself a little more yeah about how you want to treat people and be with people about what you need to develop and how you want to give or serve and if you focus on that like every day
every week you're conscious of those four things one day you're just so much more confident and clear absolutely yeah and what i love about that is just this sometimes it's just what you're fascinated with right now that's right because i think sometimes we make it too big and we're like oh well what's my big purpose or what's my big
service to the world and it's like well what moves you right now like what are you interested in right now when i mean mine was totally the opposite way i grew up as a really shy kid i'm right down the middle of intro and next word too and my parents forced me to go to public speaking and drama school when i was 14 years old oh my god because they were
scared that i was too shy and i was too much of an introvert and i didn't know how to communicate so my parents forced me to go from my school it's an extracurricular activity i went three times a week three hours every week from ages 14 to 18. wow the practice the exams that we were examined on reading a paragraph from a book with
tonality and being able to bring a story to life just through words and visuals and then being able to there was this thing called impromptu presentations where you got a subject five minutes before you had to go in and talk about it and you'd be able to talk about it and you couldn't say anything that wasn't true
so you had to make sure that it was all factual and whatever you did research in those five to 10 15 minutes was right and and i remember doing that and i get to the end of that and i was like oh well i've got this skill now but i don't know what to use it for because that's basically what i was like at 18. yeah oh so i've learned how to do
public speaking i'm now four years into my london academy of music drama and arts and i've got you know gold medal in this this this but i was like what do i do with this because i had nothing to talk about and then when i started studying philosophy from the eastern perspective of the vedas and the bhagavad gita i was like
oh this is what i was meant to learn it for like it almost like was i had a skill with no service sure and and i don't that's what i'm saying if you're listening to this right now and you have a skill with no service don't worry or if you have a service with no skill don't worry that's right you know just go and find the missing piece of the
jigsaw you just gave us yes this four piece jigsaw you just gave us chances are you probably have one of them yeah and then you can go and build the other three but don't worry about having all of them now right and i think yeah i love that yeah i love that and you you followed those interests and develop them or develop
skills without even knowing how so many people want the path to be completely clear now and you and i were just talking about this is like you you you have to have faith in the timing of the path you have to believe that serendipity will appear when it's supposed to appear that purpose will reveal itself sometimes in one battle and sometimes in another
battle sometimes in this game or that game or this thought or that activity and you know i think people stress way too much about getting clarity and that's why i love the phrase seeking clarity which came from research but no they're just they're actively seeking it's not like a 60 year old high performer has everything figured out more than a
30 year old high performer by definition what's making them high performers they're both still seeking to dial it in like you and i are going to be dialing it in our whole life sometimes it'll be a shift sometimes it'll be a total break sometimes but that doesn't stop for anybody no it just doesn't yeah i love
that i love that differentiation between getting and seeking clarity the other thing that fascinates me that you've written about high performers is this strive for perfection where high performance can often be hard on themselves and and i'd love to hear your perspective on this it's this difference between the pressure that we place on ourselves
versus complacency yeah because i think right now we're hearing a bit of both out there on social media and everywhere a lot of people are confused it's like do i really go hard on myself and am i really disciplined and am i really harsh to myself or actually do i just let it go and just let it flow and let it happen and you
know i want to hear what your research on the high performer said yeah they came into perfection versus progress yeah there's there's no question they're more into progress than perfection there's no question there's like zero question that they are working on the things that move the needle in their life so they're focused
on the the the things that matter most so they're good at wheeling out distractions but you know what i was telling people was like if you think you're a perfectionist you're probably lying and and the reason that is and that people hate when i say that but if you look it up in the book in the dictionary it's like perfection
like if you actually look at perfection or to perfect it comes from that root word to perfect to perfect does not mean it's done to perfect means like two things happen in in that connotation of two perfect first it has to be an iteration or a start it has to be done in like first draft to perfect it means take it from being done being released being out
there being com you know where you feel like it's a start and then to perfect it to keep working on it to keep iterating on it and what perfection i what perfectionists always say here's what they really say well i haven't started yet because i'm a perfectionist and i'm only going to do it if i can get it completely right
no you're lying there's a difference between want there's a difference between perfecting and being fearful yes and what most perfectionists are is they're scared they're scared to start and scared not to get it right so they don't even begin yeah a real perfectionist is so in friggin motion they are they're perfecting they're beating it up they're
iterating they're they're dialing it in and they are active at it to perfect requires an active improvement and most people who say their perfectionists are actually dead stop fear yeah and so i'm just like be clear about where you're at yeah absolutely no i think that's great advice i love that advice because i've
always had a rule since i started that all my videos are 70 complete so that's my rule yes it's 70 that's all you're getting yeah there's words that i say wrong there's fumbles there may be a few mistakes here and there the editing may be slow but it's like my rule was 70 because that journey from 70 or 75 to 99 could take decades yeah you can never
it could i would never release something and i remember in 2016 after my first ever video one of my first videos that went viral i actually got so scared because it was almost like oh i have to live up to that now so i remember not creating yeah and so i went from creating one video a week to creating one video a month
and guess what i learned less i was engaging less to connect with my audience to understand what they needed and what i was giving yeah and i was trying less ideas which meant that i wasn't learning learning i wasn't growing at all i wasn't progressing and the world was being taken from getting more beauty from which came from
a place of not thinking like that which came from a place of not trying to be perfect exactly the original video that did well came from a genuine place of just wanting to serve and trying to figure it out and then all of a sudden we're not serving anymore and so i was like okay this doesn't make any sense and i was like actually and
then last year when we started making more videos i can honestly handle my heart say that when we started doing three videos a week i started to learn so much more yeah i was like oh i really like it when i write like this and i really like it when i create like this and the audience really responds when i share it this way and i was learning so
much more yeah and i was feeling more fulfilled by making more mistakes but learning more and so my mistakes increased yeah but your learning increases which which was a much more fulfilling place to be even though it was tough at times but it was fulfilling i love that yeah i love that if you guys are listening you're thinking oh there's
just two podcast guys jamming about how it's so easy to get started let me let me share with you this one of the higher performers in the world jeff bezos who started a little company called amazon tiny he talks about this idea that he an executive team makes decisions when they have about sixty percent of the information
uh so i'm ten percent above jeff bezos so yeah i should yeah actually think about that for a minute like wait a minute a person and a team that could get all the information in the world they what they do is they're moving forward even when they don't have everything and what perfectionists do what they don't realize is there's a
difference between perfection remember perfection is to perfect in motion iterative moving it's active what they also can't admit sometimes is the real struggle is they're indecisive most perfectionists they actually know the next moves and i'm like go swat team make it happen release it drop it do it go and i'm cheering them on i'm like go
like for everyone listening you need to know high performers are decisive not because they are like i know everything and i've got clarity i know they know if they don't drop it if they don't release it if they don't do it they can't iterate and make it better they can't learn just as you said and worse they can't be of service
because when you're in silence in your life and you're in silence because of fear in your life not silence like the way you and i talk about in positive way being still and silent inside that's a positive thing but when you are in silence in a way in which you are suffering because of fear you are not going to be able to serve
you have to be in motion to serve you have to release things to perfect it you've got to be decisive almost everybody listening i i did this course with oprah winfrey network called your next bold move and that language of being bolder everybody listening probably should do that and not because i'm saying you know carte blanche ever should be
bolder i'm just saying carte blanche everyone should be bolder like they should like be bold like for me bold is we just did the influencer event i i think you were sitting there and i i was travis was sitting there and they were like why don't you just ask your friends you have all these people who they've learned their careers from the
help just ask them to come and speak and being bold is asking sometimes not just taking some huge action it's asking for help i wish as a 19 year old kid i could look back and say hey kid man you're going to kill yourself ask someone for help tell someone what's going on your head raise your hand like admit it be vulnerable
and i didn't i didn't know that that would have been bold i've been bold been vulnerable and i so it bold doesn't have to be swat team take down the world sometimes ask for help put yourself out there and know you'll figure out you'll catch that clip you'll figure it out you'll get it going on you'll improve but move yeah like the world needs action takers right
now it desperately needs it we have a lot of sideline you know conversationalists a lot of sideline you know judgment we have a lot of people not in the arena and we need more people in the arena in play we can't keep pointing and blaming and saying this is wrong that sucks and everything but we're not moving our feet forward
and demanding change creating change fighting for the change that we want because we think well i don't have the perfect plan it's not anything to fight for oh no you have values you have passion you have interests fight for those you have a project you believe in at work talk about it stop waiting for the perfect time to bring it up
there's not gonna be perfect time bring it up you believe in someone and you wanna help lift them up do it now don't wait for the perfect time it's like we've gotten too sedentary in not just in our physiology but in our actual actions a tweet is not an action like you you gotta move you gotta make things happen and i think
that's what high performance really inspired in me because if it sounds like if it sounds at all like i'm being preachy i'm literally just sharing what i learned from these high performers because the truth is they were more bold than me doing the research i was like oh okay i got up they were more clear than me they were more energized
than me they were more productive everyone thinks well brandon's got it all figured out or whatever i'm like no i'm a student and i'm just reporting what i heard from the field y'all and i want you to take some of this stuff in there they had habits that allowed them to succeed beyond normal people but here's what's beautiful about high
performance and this is really important there's success but in the way we measured high performance high performance means you succeed beyond standard norms over the long term while maintaining well-being and positive relationships that's the hardest part that's the hardest part that's why i love your podcast
because so much of what you come back to is relationships but high performers don't burn out relationships they don't take people for granted in fact you know it's like booker t washington taught us you know there's two ways to exert strength one is pushing down the other is pulling up and high performers they're the pulling up kind
that's why high performers also don't report being lonely at the top one of my mentors brian tracy said if you're lonely at the top you did it wrong but high performers because you're lifting people up it's almost like you have a chorus of people right you got a tribe you lifted people up along you were generous with people as euros
and that's what that our research what became so famous about iform's habits was we could measurely prove long-term success and say wait you can have long-term success and maintain your health and your relationships that's possible because most people think you have to compromise you got to become a jerk or you can't work out yeah that's not
you can't be married or you can't have a long-term relationship you can't have kids well you tell ourselves these stupid stories or you have to come from a certain thing the other thing that was really pioneering the goddess in a lot of academics and corporate is we measurably showed high performance is not strongly correlated with age
gender nationality i love that personality competency years on the job or compensation and every time someone wants to argue with me i just go to basic common sense i'm like okay they're like well of course rich people or highly compensated people work harder i'm like oh no have you ever worked for a lazy butt
boss they were getting paid more but they were lazy yeah like payment doesn't mean high performance no 100 either more does age you know we we got time like we got old people out performing young people young people out performing old people uh where you're from there's high performers in every given culture and it's not because their personality
because you have introverts and extroverts people who are open people who are neurotic people who have no anxiety people have tons of anxiety but it's the habits that they are following the robot and high performance habits that is that's what it was because we measured 100 different performance variables and it came down to these six
high-performance habits and uh and and i loved it too because i was wrong yeah about like if you asked me what i thought i was going to ask you oh my god literally just about to ask oh you were what was one that surprised you i was literally just about to ask you that that's crazy uh one of them that didn't make or like
something that yeah tell me about that yeah something because me personally you know i identify as as you know an author speaker coach creator online trainer thought leader hopefully social media guy whatever um creator uh creativity not in the top six wasn't no yeah and it floored me because that's me but i i interviewed this guy he was a
chief technology officer for uh you know a fortune probably 10 to fortune 10 company he's got tens of thousands employees and he said well brendan i'm not particularly creative i don't think my team is particularly creative but we are incredibly intentional and disciplined and we are incredibly collaborative those things which for him was his style
of productivity made him a high performer even though they really weren't that creative but so for those who don't feel like that's really important because in this modern social media world if you don't identify as a creative person which a lot of people do not they don't feel like they have that gift even though they do
that's okay and it what's interesting about the research it doesn't say creativity is not important it says that these six habits and high performance habits are more important because in you know research you do correlations and so it's like clarity energy necessity productivity influence and courage are all just more important in this
particular research than some of these other things and these are all things anyone can have that's what anybody can do it's so amazing about the research i'm hearing those and i'm going there is there's no excuses basically your research tells us there's no excuse for the dorks who are listening like me the geeks and the data hounds
the way that you do that is we all the 100 performance variables we codified and we also took from academic research um and my own experience in training people for a decade was we put it through a filter are these habits something that are observable learnable malleable which means you can change it improve it
um and uh can happen across domains so i mean the ceo can do it but so can the person at the front desk yeah so can the mom at home so can the student so can the athlete meaning these hat that's how he i'd identify him otherwise what they were were that person's personality or it was you know that person had a natural strength or skill there
but also for those who are interesting and you're so worried about your strengths because a lot of people listening like me maybe when the whole strengths movement started i was like i'm screwed i ain't got none the good news is high performers don't report working on their strengths any more than underperformers or anybody else
because high performers less often ask what am i good at what are my unique strengths then they tend to ask what is needed here and how can i be of service so for example if i had said is my strength video i would have never done video instead i said how do i be of service to more people i'm gonna have to reach more people how to use video same thing right so
people don't get trapped in thinking if you don't have a strength right now that a you can't develop it and b that that's necessary we need less people kind of gazing at their navels and and and being like what am i like and and i love the self-awareness and the deep introspection but we also need people who just show up and
provide service even if they're not comfortable with that even if they're not good at that like most of the things that we do we weren't good at but we said oh that would help me be of more service let me do it let me figure it out yeah there's a difference between inexperience and weakness yeah there's a difference right like so
it's not really you've not really explored something it's just an experience that's right right if you never started a podcast like i didn't know how to interview before i did my first ever podcast like you just don't know right you don't you know practice interviews at home or your parents never interviewed you and you do your first interview
oh okay i like that i learned that i got that wrong we maybe should have put the mic closer to him and maybe the camera was in the wrong angle and then and then you change it right and i i think you're spot on that it don't yeah do not accept inexperience for weakness do not do not just sit there and go i don't have that as a natural gift
yes and this is one of the reasons why i'm going into soccer analogy here sorry but it was why i admire so many uh a player named cristiano ronaldo a great soccer player incredible because he's worked on things and often people say to him oh it's not god-given for him or it's not a gift he was given but it's like for me that's what makes
it more incredible it's that he's worked on every single part of his game to become this complete player that's it and and to demonstrate that that the work ethic and the not just the work ethic but the seeking clarity and that tell me about the energy piece i'm fascinated by that because i feel like i want to hear the
definition of energy that you explored yeah and also just how people were able to bring energy even when they didn't feel like it too because that seems like a big thing for a high performer to be able to do is bring it when they don't feel i'm so glad i did this because i you know energy to me is just like a feeling or a
sense but in the research we had to codify three separate kinds of energy one is mental energy which is straight up your mental focus and stamina right to do activities right right without just like tuning off right because that's hard yeah i mean i'm sure some people have started writing a paper and you have to page one and a half and your lan your
brain went somewhere else totally um you're just tired the other one is emotional energy which is the quality of positive versus negative emotion and the last one was a spiritual energy a sensation that they were in flow or not and what we found out is high performers have incredibly intentional habits to protect that energy
um you know when we were on tour with her oprah she uh when oprah was on tour she tells this great story about how she was so moved by someone who's on her show who went into a green room and was telling over the story of she saw this sign that said please be responsible for the energy you bring into this space and i'm always saying please be
responsible for the energy you project into the world yes high performers are so critically aware of what their energy is their feeling and how they're treating other people it's profound and the way that they do that is they have a lot of habits that protect their well-being so they're truly seeking to optimize health they care about nutrition um on the
world's largest study on productivity that's ever been done found out that on average the world's most productive one percent of people take a break every 52 minutes every 52 minutes they take a break now if you ask them did you need the break they're like no they could power through all day they have the mental energy and stamina
they could go but they take the break like a pit stop like in like a nascar right the car the cars actually don't need to stop right then they stop to change things out and optimize things so they can keep going faster yes we have to do that in our own lives so some of them that's meditation um one that's incredibly important for
everybody here especially the united states right now in the united states of america 72 of americans are overweight or obese and that has incredible health repercussions that is you're sicker longer you die earlier you report less happiness throughout the majority of your life you pass some of that behavior onto children
like it's a very big deal and it's not a judgment of a of a body shaming thing it is a your quality of life in every measurable way that they have in science shows it's not as good and we want you to feel okay well high performers they work out five times per week 40 percent more likely than an underperformer now that workout might be literally like
you take a 45-minute walk at after dinner sure it doesn't mean you're climbing around the mountain it doesn't mean you have to have a six-pack or anything you move every day and so they're protecting that you know i think that's what's really important there they have active lifestyles not because it's easy because they know
the alternative of burnout and fatigue will hurt their performance yes exactly every new nba guy i've ever worked with they want to party they want to rip it up they just got that check they're a superstar now they're on the phone with me brandon and i'm like don't you you got a game in three days dude yeah this is this is an easy thing if you
care about how you show up in three days and that's what i always tell people how you feel right now is going to ripple into three days yeah like we know that from research like your nutrition today actually affects three days of behavior that's profound we we don't get that no and and then when you measure it out
over longevity studies no it affects your whole lifespan so it's wildly important and the most research and you you're more even more familiar than that research than i am is is the absolute importance of having a mental game in which you meditate pray nap or just close your eyes for a few minutes every day to recenter a little bit a lot of
fatigue and headaches are actually visual and so what i tell people to do and what we teach in our seminars high performance academy is i teach the audience all these things to do at the 52-minute mark one of them stand up from your desk or stand up no matter where you're at every 52 minutes even if you're driving pull over every
52 minutes and what i tell people stand in place bounce in place not jumping up and down just kind of bouncing lightly from the knees close your eyes because visual fatigue is a real thing they've shown visual fatigue also hurts creativity so close your eyes bounce and take ten deep breaths in through the nose as one out of the mouth 10 times
while bouncing in place the bounce is moving the lymph around your body circulating the blood refreshing your brain most brain fatigue is also tied to blood flow so we just got to move dancing in place breath is tied to all chi all energy all life force closing the eyes lets the brain literally reset it's unless profound
that's why meditators don't do with their eyes open like it's like there's a whole other level that happens and i mean you're way more familiar with the research no no it's beautiful it it is what i'm telling people is it is necessary yes if meditation is your thing pray praying your thing close your eyes close your eyes anything take the
afternoon nap because why in the blue zones they tend to take a nap after lunch they live longer that is a reset tension in my mind release attention my body and then when i sit back down i go what's my intention and what is the absolute best use of my time by the end of the day reset go back to work i do that every hour
that's why i'm so annoyingly productive i love that we should do it right now if you want to do it yeah you need some water so first we just start with it reset which were this is what i mean by bouncing yeah we're just gonna do this we're gonna sway our arms forward and back close our eyes ten deep breaths go
notice his breath is getting longer because that's what happens ah one more okay now just shake it out all right that's just the breathing i love it all right you're coming back great all right all right now we're gonna do chigong okay which is a cupping activity they call it a cupping for casual and all we're going to do is we're going
to activate the meridians of our body for those who don't believe in meridians of your body all science shows that there's nerve endings on your skin right so if you don't believe in oh this is chi then you believe in nerves and we're just gonna open up our body it's like if you tap your arm you feel that energy 100 right we're gonna do that to
our whole body amazing okay so qigong yeah so we're gonna start with our our fingertips so cupping means you take positive intent and energy a lot of the the master's don't teach like put a color like blue or green or a vibrant color for you here and we're going to cup what means we're going to lightly tap and we're going to go from here
all the way up okay and then we're gonna do we're gonna do here and we'll do here we'll do here we'll do here and then we're just gonna do one right here which is a huge meridian in the back right here everyone's gonna know that yep so we're just gonna start here like this and the intention is take a nice breath in nice without this is where everyone
outside your studio is going what are they doing like richard shows up like what is happening so we do this i do this every 50 minutes in a plane i love it you release your shoulder release all the tension in your shoulder and really strong okay now from your waist we're going to move up you're just moving up one inch at a time
take a nice deep breath in right when you get below your armpit next hand going up and just breathing just putting energy positivity joy into your arms most people have really strong to drop your shoulder most people carry so much tension their shoulders just releases the tension the shoulder right here now we're going to bend
slightly at the waist and right on your lower back you're going to take five breaths here stand close your eyes bounce five more breaths sway your arms open your eyes jump in place feel great and now just release i feel great that was awesome and you're a loss that's amazing we can show in brain scans that that decreases blood flow you decrease blood
flow you decrease oxidation which your body and your brain needs for activity like your mitochondria everything in your body counts on do we get some blood flow are we are we like and so what people don't know is their brain is off half the day and they think because they're tired and breath is the way back in this activation which people are like
think is so weird it's like oh no just like if you're like i'm if you're watching this and you didn't try it or you're listening like literally just tap your forearm five times and you're like you're like and then notice the energy you're like oh the energy just changed right there like it really changed well when you do that your whole body
chi gong actually goes ankle up ankle around here and the whole body and then they'll also often put tapping in yes yes and all of a sudden you're like isaac now now i'm going to bang out like 10 chapters in my book now i'm going to finish the presentation now i feel good to call my coaching client yeah because sometimes
i'll do you know i'll let you know i'm i'm extremely lucky to coach some of the top performers in the world in athletics and business right before i came over here i had the blessing of coaching a billionaire literally on the way over uh uh uh af this meeting this morning and what i have found is if you want to be a high former you've
got to learn to turn yourself on right don't take that weird but no no you have to how do you turn your brain on how do you turn your spirit on how to turn your heart on like you've had that too where you're you also you got to sit down you had a long day we both had long days before we did this if you can't turn your heart
your mind your spirit your body on there is no chance for you to sustain long-term performance 100 i love that that was amazing that was awesome no the reason why i love it so much is because what you just said about turning yourself on it so it's like when you're living for so for me it was when i spent my time as
a monk i focused so much on the mind and we really pushed our bodies to extreme lengths and then when i came back and i was having to live in this body i was like i want to serve and that's why i want to take care of my body and mind yes right like that became the intention i was like i'm going to have incredible habits for what i eat and how
much i work out and what i do with my body because i want to serve for the rest of my life it is i don't want to die early because i was neglectful i don't want to die early because i was neglectful and not caring and complacent because i felt i was still 22 when when you still feel all of this you can't have the feet on the beard yeah
and and so the soul is the soul is motivated by service like the soul gets energy from service but the body needs activity like this movement yeah to feel energized right every measurable outcome yeah in your life improves with more quality of exercise yeah and i always tell people even at a spiritual level
you know i ask people you know would you go to the house next door and spray paint it and break all the windows and throw a bunch of garbage in it and yet you're so willing to vandalize the temple that god has given to house your soul that's your house so if you wouldn't go vandalize your neighbor's house why are you vandalizing your house
your gift it's very important you know garbage in garbage out pay attention and i'm not here to say everyone has to you know eat perfectly and work out a million percent i'm here to share the research that is unequivocal yeah mental health and exercise and protecting both of those diet nutrition meditation all of these things
sleep all of these impact how good of a job you do tomorrow how long you live you know how good you feel and i'm like everyone wants to be happy so this that's what i was happy about i was so happy that made it into the research that like generate energy that's the chapter generating energy how do high performers generate energy and sustain it
and all these things we talk about in our industry it came up in the research i was like yes i'm so happy about that yeah yeah it's amazing i love it this all the and again it's accessible to anyone we didn't we didn't pay for gym membership just now right right we we didn't have to have fancy clothes on yeah for the gym membership
i feel like great i genuinely do podcast yeah literally we get fired up that's the i feel like i've and i'm not and i'm not saying this just for the cameras like i mean this i actually feel how i felt when we first started yeah right it's it's got that you know it's like yeah it's it's great and so 100 works i love recharge yeah 100
every 50 minutes and he's been with trav has been backstage with me for 10 years or he's he's been setting up video in the other room and he hears that like i always do it and it's like because when you watch the volume of online video i've done whether it's youtube or our online courses where most of my video is it's like so i mean it's we
literally i don't even know how many hundreds of hours are there and he's never seen me in the middle of a video like you know because of these practices um and it wasn't natural to me because i listen netflix and chill let's go brother i can chill like the best of them i got no problem but i want to make an impact i want to help people
you know what the worst thing is when you're trying to help someone and your mind is kind of blinking out yeah because you didn't take care of yourself you didn't eat good you didn't care about your sleep you know i work with athletes high performers business people who who they regret those moments in those days where they allowed themselves to burn
out or they didn't care for themselves because it shows up on the scoreboard it shows up in your bank account and but mostly it shows up in how you treat people i always tell people if you won't take care of yourself for yourself take care of yourself so you're less rude to other people yeah because guess when you're tired
science shows you're more irritable you're more short and you're faster to conflict tolerance is low right 100 and so it's like if you want to take care of yourself yourself do it for the poor people around you who probably get some of that irritability you know i love it brendan you're amazing this was so much fun honestly
this is this has been so much fun yeah this is great and i'm glad you had us do that activity i wanted to yeah me too too i feel better yeah i feel better but also i just i want everyone listening and watching to know that you know you can pick up such simple beautiful tips and insights yeah just by watching now you can play
that part of the video over again and again and again yeah we'll turn it into a little instagram video that'll be fun but it's just such an easy thing that anyone can pick up and literally refocus get back in the zone and and like you said it's like when you want to serve you want to be at your best you don't want to be at your worst and
you're trying to push yourself and i genuinely hear this from so many people who i know are genuinely trying to give their best and serve yeah but they feel drained at the end of the day yes because they're just giving and outpouring and serving and loving and caring and supporting and they're just going for it and at the end of their day and i've
been in that place before where you just feel drained yes and i started to realize i didn't want to feel that way anymore because that wasn't the badge of honor of service no that wasn't the badge of honor that i've really given today and if you believe in associations if i do if if if you drain yourself every day in
service which a lot of people do at the end of the day you're burned out and you're tired at some point your body and your brain your spirit and your soul you don't mean to starts associating your purpose with that feeling wow wow and one day you go maybe your psychology goes maybe the purpose is wrong and it forgets no it's it's the behavior
that's leading to a feeling doesn't feel good but your brain doesn't know sometimes and it puts them together and now you question your purpose when really you're tired and so let's do that yes and now you do the math okay because we've all done that everyone listening has done that brunt force because the human body is unbelievable
we we can go years of burnout it's unbelievable other animals would not put up with this nonsense but we convince ourselves that it's okay no other animal does that which is i mean i mean well salmon they say i'm gonna do it they swim till they die okay i'm sorry some animals do but but humans were super unique that we psych ourselves into this
but here's the issue a you will probably burn out your service because you won't feel good about it but think about high performers they go so much longer providing great service but here's the trick if you do the math on what i talked about break every hour take an eight hour work day high performers they're not smarter than you they're not
better than you they aren't more lucky than you it's not their age their nationality but one of the things they did during an eight hour workday they took eight more breaks than you did they took eight more breaks than you did today that's why tomorrow they show up more clear that's why next week when you're in the meeting and it's time
to brainstorm and you're fried you come up with nothing it's that gallop on the whiteboard who wrote down 20 ideas because she's still fresh that's not because her disposition she's probably a high performer who took more breaks than you we think breaking and pausing and refreshing is failure sharpening yeah it's the only oh
i love that sharpener i've never used that i love that sharpening it is sharpening it is the nascar at the pit stop to make it go faster to make it win the race and so it's it's it's it's so funny when you say high performance everyone goes well they must they just out work out hustle outward actually i'm like oh no
they actually seek harmony more than everybody else they act they look for that they're trying to optimize their time their harmony to manage their energy so they can perform longer i want to do this until i'm dead yeah me too i'm one of those guys like i found my purpose me too i want to help people live love and matter
to get there they got to achieve their goals faster they got to use their voice they got to help other people they got to live an authentic vibrant life and they that that's what i want to help people do i'll do that until i'm done i'll tell you so i got to manage myself yeah you know i do those four-day seminars by myself on stage for 10 hours i was like
how they just think well brenda's an energizer bunny if you saw me backstage i'm doing that chigong i'm protein shaking it you know i'm stretching out every night i'm doing the ice baths yes i'm changing my behavior from heavy lifting to more cardio to get the lung capacity two weeks in advance i'm diligent about exactly what i eat at
the four day events i sleep at the same schedule like everything is literally set up for me to perform 10 hours a day on stage for four days by myself that's not luck that is because i care i love it brendan we end every interview with the final five quick five rapid fire around so this is five questions one word answers maximum one sentence
maximum one sentence okay so that's good the first question is what was the last kind thing you did for a stranger uh one word oh gosh well one said no i had it just came into my mind because a dear friend had somebody a big loss in their life um and i just sent them a voice text and said if you need me on a plane if
you need an hour to to have a conversation um you're the type of person who's always the giver and always striving and caretaker is very rarely asked for care 100 so i'm here i love it okay question number two i'm sorry the answer was sent the voice text but i sent it one seven days in a row okay same one do a different ones do voice text
for seven days a lot of people say i'm here for you i was like i hound them yeah i love that okay question number two what's a lesson you find hard to teach others patience ah nice okay question number three what's the one question you ask yourself the most you've told us a bit about this man outside of did i live did i love yeah i matter i ask
what level of presence and energy am i holding and creating right now it's a we call it line trigger yeah in high performance like any time i wait in line like starbucks or remaining line i always what level of presence and energy am i right now it makes me qn i love that okay question number four the one belief that took you the longest
to really put into practice the one belief that took you the longest to put into practice trust on others wow powerful we'll have to unpack that next time yeah question final five your fifth one is and i and i kind of know the answer to this but i'm going to ask you anyway because you can you can change it up is
how do you know if you've lived a good life the answer is to did i live that i loved it i matter no i love that um but most importantly did i earn this um you know did i did i earn that second chance i love it brendon bashad everyone you're the man you're amazing man this is amazing been an honor you're awesome thank you brother you are so
incredible i can't wait to have you back on i can't wait yeah you're going to come back and do a part two and a part three times if the audience asks yeah we need to do this again i would love to man this is so funny we have so much to unpack we have so much so much more so much love your purpose and your mission thank you and how you are
learning and adjusting and giving and serving and i i wish anyone listening i wish you knew how hard this guy works for you thank you man it's yeah it's just the beginning it's you know that's how i feel every day it's just the beginning i start from scratch again i still feel every single day we're just getting warmed up yeah absolutely man because her
disposition she's probably a high performer who took more breaks than you we think breaking and pausing and refreshing is failure it's the only i love that sharpener i've never used that i love that sharpening it is sharpening it is the nascar at the pit stop to make it go faster to make it win the race and so it's it's
it's it's so funny when you say high performance everyone goes well they must they just out work out hustle outward actually i'm like oh no they actually see harmony more than everybody else they act they look for that they're trying to optimize their time their harmony to manage their energy so they can perform longer i want to do this until
i'm dead yeah me too i'm one of those guys like i found my purpose me too i want to help people live love and matter to get there they got to achieve their goals faster they got to use their voice they got to help other people they got to live an authentic vibrant life and they that's what i want to help people do i'm i'll do that until i'm
done i'll tell you so i got to manage myself yeah you know i do those four day seminars by myself on stage for 10 hours i was like how they just think well brent is an energizer bunny if you saw me backstage i'm doing that qigong i'm protein shaking it you know i'm stretching out every night i'm doing the ice baths
yes i'm changing my behavior from heavy lifting to more cardio to get the lung capacity two weeks in advance i'm diligent about exactly what i eat at the four-day events i sleep at the same schedule like everything is literally set up for me to perform 10 hours a day on stage for four days by myself that's not luck
that is because i care i love it brendan we end every interview with the final five quick five rapid fire around so this is five questions one word answers maximum one sentence maximum one second okay so that's good the first question is what was the last kind thing you did for a stranger uh one word oh gosh or one said no i had it just came to my
mind because a dear friend had somebody a big loss in their life um and i just sent them a voice text and said if you need me on a plane if you need an hour to have a conversation um you're the type of person who's always the giver and always striving and caretaker is very rarely asked for care 100 so i'm here i love it okay question number two oh
i'm sorry the answer was sent the voice text but i sent it one seven days in a row okay same one different one voice text for seven days a lot of people say i'm here for you i was like i hound them yeah i love that okay question number two what's the lesson you find hard to teach others patience ah nice okay question number
three what's the one question you ask yourself the most you've told us a bit about this man outside of did i live did i love yeah matter i ask what level of presence and energy am i holding and creating right now it's a we call it line trigger yeah in high performance like any time i wait in line like starbucks or reading line i always
what level of presence and energy am i right now it makes me q in i love that okay question number four the one belief that took you the longest to really put into practice the one belief that took you the longest to put into practice trust in others wow powerful we'll have to unpack that next time yeah question final five your fifth one is
and i and i kind of know the answer to this but i'm going to ask you anyway because you can you can change it up is how do you know if you've lived a good life the answer is to did i live that i loved it i matter no i love that um but most importantly did i earn this hmm you know did i did i earn that second chance that's the only one brendon bashad
everyone you're the man you're amazing man this is amazing it's been an honor you're awesome thank you brother you are so incredible i can't wait to have you back on i can't wait yeah you're gonna come back and do a part two and a part three time if the audience asks yeah we need to do this again this is so funny we have so
much unpacking we have so much comments so much more so much love your purpose and your mission thank you and how you are learning and adjusting and giving and serving and i i wish anyone listening i wish you knew how hard this guy works for you thank you man it's yeah it's just the beginning it's you know that's how i
feel every day it's just the beginning i start from scratch again i still listen every single day we're just getting warmed up yeah absolutely man if you want even more videos just like this one click on the boxes over here and if you want to continue seeing these kinds of stories you can subscribe by clicking the link right here