Embracing chaos, inquiry over advocacy, poking the bear, and “impact, impact, impact” | Vlad Loktev

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What was it like managing me, Vlad?

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Most  importantly, how painful was it to manage me?

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Man, how much time do you have?

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I used to joke with people that you're  this Jedi, where you get crazy stuff done, really hard stuff done in a really  subtle and a really unique way.

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I've always used inquiry versus advocacy.

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A  lot of people approach a conversation with a point of view and they begin advocating  immediately. "We should do this."

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Or, "No, we should not do this."

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Me, I always take  the opposite approach. I inquire first.

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I'm going to ask a ton of questions because I  fundamentally believe maybe there's something I don't know and there's information that I  need to understand to make a better decision.

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Is there something you can share about just  what you learned from Brian about thinking big?

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I remember talking to Brian one day and he was  like, "Something just feels off right now."

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And I remember asking him, "What do you mean?

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Our  numbers are open to the right."

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His response was, "Things are just too calm."

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Sometimes you  want to create chaos in an organization to push the organization to think  creatively and to actually make leaps in product development.

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And I've always told  myself, "Don't be afraid to poke the bear."

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What are some skills that you believe  helped you be as successful as you've been?

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Impact, impact, impact, impact.

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That's the only thing that mattered.

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Today, my guest is Vlad Loktev.

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This is a very  special episode for me because Vlad was my manager at Airbnb for many years, and he's the person  that I credit most for teaching me how to be an effective product manager and product leader.

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Within Airbnb, Vlad started as an ICPM, five years later was leading product for the  core Airbnb business, the homes business.

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A few years later, was GM of the core homes business,  reporting directly to Brian Chesky, managing over a thousand people, including design, engineering,  and other functions.

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He's also one of Brian's most trusted partners for most of his time at Airbnb.

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Before Airbnb, Vlad was a founder.

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He's also a senior PM at Zynga, where he grew the game  Words With Friends to over 14 million daily active users.

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Even though Vlad recently moved into  venture capital as a partner at Index Ventures, he will always be a product manager at  heart to me, and I'm very excited for more people to get to learn from Vlad.

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In our conversation, Vlad shares the skills and behaviors and mindsets that most  contributed to his success, including a ton of really tactical stuff.

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Also, the strategies  and tactics that he's found most helpful in building and scaling a fast-growing org, and his  thoughts on Airbnb's current ways of working, including their move away from traditional  product management and also their approach of thinking very top-down, which I thought  was really insightful. And so much more.

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With that, I bring you Vlad Loktev.

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Vlad, thank you so much for being  here, and welcome to the podcast. Thank you. Excited to be here.

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I think this is going to be an extremely special  episode.

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People will have heard in the intro that we've worked together for many years.

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And even more interestingly, you managed me for many years at Airbnb.

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I've also told you  this before, but those years were probably, not probably, definitely the most  transformative years of my career, where I learned the most in the years that set  me up for the success I ended up having later and also the crazy work that I do now.

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Let me just  say, I'm just really excited for other people to get a chance to learn from you and to learn from  the things that you've learned that helped you be successful and helped me be successful,  so thanks again for making time for this. Yeah, of course. Excited to be here.

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You were always a rock star.

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You were a rock star back then.

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You're a  rock star today. Excited to chat. I appreciate it.

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I don't know if I was a  rock star at the beginning, and this is where my first question was going to  go, is what was it like managing me, Vlad?

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Most importantly, how  painful was it to manage me?

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How much time do you have? Oh, no.

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Jokes aside, I loved working with you, man.

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And  I have to say, the one thing that I always deeply appreciated was that no matter how hard things  were, you always called out the elephant in the room, and so you always told me the stuff I  did not want to hear.

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And large companies, things are growing, lots of things are  happening.

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As a leader, you miss so many things, and so hearing actually what's happening  and the reality of what you're dealing with, it was just so, so helpful.

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I  deeply appreciated that about you. Wow.

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I think it was just going to be  a love fest, but I feel like I was able to do that because I knew you'd react  well and you needed to hear those things.

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What I want to start talking about is talking through and spending time on some of the  skills that you developed and some of the skills that you're essentially world-class at in  my experience that I think might be helpful to a lot of other people.

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I used to joke with people  that you're this Jedi, if they have Jedi powers, where you just get crazy stuff done, really hard  stuff done in a really subtle and a really unique way that I haven't seen other people work.

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And to show the impact that has had, your growth trajectory at Airbnb is pretty absurd.

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When you joined, I think we were the same level maybe.

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Maybe you're a level above.

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You're an ICPM  at Airbnb.

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And then five years later, you're head of product basically for the homes business, which  is the core Airbnb business.

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And then a few years later, you're GM for the entire Airbnb homes  business, managing a thousand people, designers, engineers, research, marketing, and all these  functions.

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I want to spend a little time on some of the things that helped you get to that point.

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Let me just start with just a broad question. Yeah.

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What are some skills that you believe helped  you be as successful as you've been?

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And they could be skills, maybe behaviors, maybe  mindsets that helped you be successful.

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Well, first thank you for that introduction.

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I'm a work in progress, so there are many things that I am constantly working on.

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I think  for me, when I reflect on my journey at Airbnb, it was more about the mindset rather than any  kind of skill.

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For example, my main mindset was impact above everything else.

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Impact,  impact, impact, impact.

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And that's the only thing that mattered basically my entire career.

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And so I woke up every day and I asked myself two questions basically.

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Number one, what are  the highest priorities for Airbnb today and over the next three months?

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And then two, what  can I do to actually make a meaningful dent in those priorities? What impact can I have?

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And I  always made sure that whatever I worked on was very aligned with a top priority for  the company.

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And I would say if you find yourself in a situation where you're not  working on the top priority of the company, you should probably get a different job, because  at the end of the day, you're spending so much of yourself and so much time at your job.

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You might  as well really go for it and work on the hardest thing you can find, and somebody's willing  to give you a shot to build something crazy.

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And so for me, I always thought about, what  is the hardest thing that I can work on?

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And how can I drive the biggest amount of impact?

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Now, oftentimes figuring out the priorities is relatively easy.

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There's typically  clarity around what you have to focus on, whether it's expanding a team and really building  out a specific team, whether it's growth rate or focusing on the product quality or closing  deals and closing sales.

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You can typically figure out what the priorities are.

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It's  oftentimes very hard to figure out how to make impact and what impact even means.

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And so for me, my motto there was always just learn the drivers of the business.

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Put your  day job to the side for a second and just immerse yourself in understanding why certain behaviors  exist on the product that you're working on.

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Can you influence that behavior?

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If you do X, what  will happen, essentially?

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I spend a lot of time actually blocking off on my calendar just time  thinking through the drivers with the question of, what are the drivers that are going to  have the most impact for the business?

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And I remember when we worked on Instant Book  together, I think this was back in probably 2014, that was not a random project.

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There  was so much thought behind why we should focus on Instant Book and what was the core  problem with Airbnb at that moment in time, and what impact we thought we could have on  the overall trajectory of the company.

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Impact, impact, impact was always just my motto, I guess.

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Well, let's actually spend more time here  because this is such...

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Not only have I seen you do this well, I've also seen the  impact this mindset has had.

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And I think people listening to this might be like, "Yeah,  okay, impact, great. Work on impacting."

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But I think there's so much power to this that  it's worth us spending a little more time on. Yeah, let's do it.

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What do people do that's not this?

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I  imagine many people listening are like, "Oh, I work on things that are impactful. I'm doing  great."

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What is it that you see that's not this?

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I think when a company matures, I think it grows,  many more people join the team, the company gets bigger.

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At some point, a lot of people are  working on similar things.

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Teams start to form, then the entire departments start to form.

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And  pretty quickly, I think a lot of people begin to realize that you yourself are not in control of  many things and you actually depend on what other people do.

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And so a lot of people, and I've done  this too, have focused a lot of energy day to day on the dependencies, rather than the things  that you yourself can do in your day-to-day.

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For example, what I've seen as the organization  scales, people transition from saying, "I can do X," and they transition to saying, "Can the other  team do Y so that I can do X?"

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And I think that's a very dangerous place to be, because at the  end of the day, you just need to let go of some of these dependencies.

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You're not going to move  mountains every single day and you got to focus on the things that are actually within your  control.

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Again, it's more of a mindset shift.

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The other thing I would say is every  single project that we worked on at Airbnb, we did back of the envelope math with assumptions  to help us understand the impact that something would have.

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And you needed to at least...

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Now,  those assumptions could be completely crazy and could be very challenging, but you at least needed  to think through the mechanics of what you have to believe in order for this project to be a success,  and for it to then make a big dent and whatever you're trying to achieve at the company.

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Every  single thing we did had that behind the scenes, and we spent a lot of time on this to make  sure that we were focused on the right things.

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I remember there was a project that  we were going to work on.

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I'm like, "I think this is a big opportunity.

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Here's all  my thinking on it."

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And what I didn't have is, "Here's the lift this could potentially drive."

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And so what you did is you just created this flow chart of all the levers of the business, and  then you're talking about this sub-lever here, and if you move this 10%, here's the impact  on the potential business. And you're right.

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It is actually a big opportunity,  but this is how you want to show it. Yeah, totally.

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The other thing I'll say  is also equally important is saying no to a lot of things.

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And it's actually really  hard because we are basically trained and conditioned to say yes. You go to school. You  follow the rules.

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You listen to your parents.

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You don't want to disappoint people.

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And so  when people ask for help, you help and you want to be a really good teammate.

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But then at  some point, you realize that's actually not the job.

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And if you were to say yes to absolutely  everything that you have to do at a company, you would be distracted all the time with  tons of things that will not make impact.

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And so I learned very early on how to say no.

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It  was hard emotionally.

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I've gone to many different debates and conversations, but ultimately I think  maybe it doesn't win you many friends in the short term, but in the long term, people realize that  when you say no to something, there's probably a really good reason behind why that thing may not  be as impactful today, and maybe we shouldn't even do it in the first place.

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And so I think doing  the back of the envelope math and being really good at prioritization is one thing, but also  not getting distracted with all the noise and all the different opinions that everyone's going  to have at a big company is another big thing.

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Saying no is hard, so maybe two  quick questions here.

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One is, do you have any tricks for how to  say no well, where someone's not- Yes. ... pissed off?

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And then the  other question I'll just throw in, you can take them however you want, is,  what's your heuristic on how much people should like you as a PM?

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Because you touched  on people don't need to necessarily love you.

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For saying no, first, you can't just be dogmatic  and just say no for the sake of saying no and just disagreeing with people. You have to listen.

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For me, the framework that I've always used was inquiry versus advocacy.

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I don't know if you  remember, we've talked about it in some contexts, where basically a lot of people approach  a conversation with a point of view and they begin advocating immediately, meaning, "We  should do this."

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Or, "No, we should not do this."

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Me, I always took the opposite approach, and I  still do. I inquire first.

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I dial up inquiry, I tone down my advocacy, meaning I am going  to respect the other opinion.

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I'm going to ask a ton of questions because I fundamentally  believe maybe there's something I don't know and there's information that I need to understand  to make a better decision.

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In the beginning, dial up inquiry.

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And then once the person  that you're talking to feels heard and you actually have absorbed information,  and maybe you changed your mind, maybe not though, that's when you begin to advocate.

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Oftentimes you just come into these conversations where everyone just advocates, advocate, advocate,  advocate, and you're talking past each other.

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You're not even reflecting on what the other  person is saying.

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Sometimes when I talk too much, I tell myself, "Wait, inquire. Dial down advocacy.

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Just take a breath, take a moment, take a beat, and actually ask some questions and see  why the other person feels so strongly."

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I think that's such a good specific thing  you can do because I think a lot of people want to do what you're doing.

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They're like,  "Okay, I'm going to listen.

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I'm going to ask questions."

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But then they get a reaction.

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Someone's like, "Hey, we need to change this thing on the landing page."

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And you're like,  "No, that's a terrible idea."

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Or, "That's going to take all this time.

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It's going to throw off a  roadmap."

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And there's this bodily, "Oh, no, I need to stop this thingy."

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And so your advice here is  pay attention to, am I talking too long?

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I guess, is that the advice? Am I talking too long? Am I  saying too much?

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And start just inquiring instead. Yeah. Awesome. Totally. And lead with questions.

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Basically,  approach every conversation with curiosity.

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Don't come in, because people usually when  they prepare for a meeting, I've seen many PMs do this, and you prepare with, "Here is my  view, and here are the bullets that support my view."

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And that's the wrong way to approach it.

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I think when you want to go into a conversation, you start the conversation with questions.

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Prepare  the questions that come from a place of curiosity of the things that you want to know more about  and you want to learn from the other perspective, and then check yourself to see if you still want  to advocate for the same point of view or not.

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We had an awesome episode with Ami Vora.

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She's CPO at Faire, and she is also extremely good at this and a huge advocate of starting with  questions and understanding what she's missing. Totally.

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Well, the other thing I would say  is, the other motto that has really helped me drive impact, and I use the analogy  of the bear, and I've always told myself, "Don't be afraid to poke the bear."

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And what that  means is don't self-censor.

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If you have a strong view after you've really grounded yourself in the  truth and you feel like you've done your homework and you've asked all the questions, if you still  disagree, if you still feel like we're going in the wrong direction, don't be afraid to poke  the bear no matter how hard things get.

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It's interesting because I think a lot of, especially  as an organization matures, you find yourself in meetings with many execs, founders, et cetera,  it's often hard to voice your real opinion.

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And you usually tone it down a little bit because  you're afraid of being the only one who disagrees, or sounding stupid or things like that.

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And so I remember it was probably 2014 or 2013 where I made a promise to myself, "I'm going  to always poke the bear no matter how hard things get."

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Because at the end of the day, what's the  worst thing that's going to happen? Did I get fired?

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Why would I even be afraid of that?

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But  if I do, I'll find another gig. Life is short.

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You've done this really well, where I feel like  you've also always...

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I remember when we were working on Instant Book, you've definitely  poked the bear, where you were like, "You guys are wrong.

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This is how we have to approach  it."

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And I've always really appreciated it. Thanks, man.

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Is there an example of maybe working  with Brian where you poked Brian and like, "No?" Yeah, absolutely.

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I've poked the  bear many times.

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And by the way, I've been humbled many times.

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It's not like I  poked the bear and I rightfully poked the bear.

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Sometimes I learn stuff and I realize I was wrong.

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A couple of examples that come to mind.

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One, I remember having these debates with  all basically senior leaders at Airbnb, just about every couple of years actually, around  how much supply should we have on the platform and what kind of supply should be on the platform.

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And  there was one school of thought where we needed basically...

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That school of thought represented  the view that we needed all supply out there to be on our platform, regardless of if it was a  person hosting, it was a vacation rental, it was a hotel.

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We just needed all supply on the platform.

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I came at it from a very different perspective where I felt like that wasn't actually our  mission from the very beginning.

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And although I understood that in the short term, the numbers  probably would go up and you would choose growth, but at the same time that wouldn't in the long  run be a point of differentiation for us.

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And so I had a very different point of view, and it  was very hard in that conversation. Everyone's excited.

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Everyone seems to be aligning around  the point of view to be the voice that's poking.

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And this is like, "Nope, let me share why I think  maybe we should go in a different direction."

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And it's when I remember telling myself that I am  here to surface and share information that will help the group make a decision, that's what gave  me peace of mind to actually poke the bear and be able to surface the things that I've seen.

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The other thing is when we were working on the Instant Book, change from Request to Book  to Instant Book for the entire marketplace, that was very challenging.

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And I remember  getting up on stage in front of the entire company and explaining why this is  actually good for humanity. Literally, those words.

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Many people disagreed, and it was  not an easy thing to do, but had to be done.

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And one thread that I've noticed across all  these things, and noticed working with you, is it's not like just making a case  for something you could disagree with.

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It's showing the data that  will convince them they are wrong, or here's what they're missing. It's not like a  speech.

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It's, "Here's the data," and asking them, "What data would you want to see to  convince you this might be not as you-" Totally.

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I think I remember doing a Q&A with the  whole company on the Instant Book topic.

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This was a very long time ago, but I still remember where  instead of, again, advocating for a point of view, I just asked all the people that were  concerned what their main questions were, and then we just tackled them one by one and  we would talk.

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There's just something very disarming when you embrace the questions,  you embrace the negativity, and you have an open mind that maybe there's some things that you  missed and some things that you didn't consider. I love that.

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Okay, there's so many little nuggets  already through this that I just want to come back to and make sure people take away of how to be  more successful.

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And this is not just as a product leader, this just as a leader in any company.

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The  first is advice around thinking about impact above all else.

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And the very simple heuristic that I  wrote down as you were talking is ask yourself, "What are the priorities for the company?

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How  can I impact these priorities?"

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And to do that, think about the levers that drive the business.

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And where do I think I can make an impact to drive these priorities and drive the business? Two is inquiry first.

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When you disagree with something or when you want to say no,  start with understanding, asking questions, dialing up inquiry versus advocacy, versus,  "Here's what I think."

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Poking the bear, which is really fun, just this idea of don't be  afraid to disagree with someone in power.

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And your advice here is disagree with, "Here's data you  may be aware of here. Have you seen this? Hey, check this out."

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Or, "What is it that  would convince you you're wrong?"

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And then is there anything else I  missed?

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Otherwise, we'll go on to more. I think that was great. Okay, cool.

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Don't poke the bear for the sake of poking.

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Share the information that you think  will be helpful to make a decision. Cool. Anything else?

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Any other things you've found  to be really effective in helping you succeed?

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Oftentimes it's about also being able  to be impactful at a company that is in hyperscale and is growing quickly.

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A lot of  it is actually just psychological.

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It's not like there are these core skills.

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Sure,  you got to have some baseline skills, but a lot of it is day-to-day regulating your  mind.

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And it's so easy to get lost in the sea of projects, the sea of priorities, the  sea of opinions and, like I said before, dwell on the dependencies that exist between  teams without actually asking yourself what you can do in the moment to make an impact.

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And for me, I've actually used two tools, which, some of them you may remember,  that have helped me.

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The first tool, this is again purely psychological, to  help my mind, it's the serenity prayer.

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I- It's the Serenity Prayer.

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So the Serenity Prayer  goes something like this.

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"Grant me the serenity to accept the things that I cannot change, the  courage to change the things that I can, and the wisdom to know the difference."

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That prayer was so  powerful for me that I actually wrote it out on a piece of paper, like on post-it notes, and I would  read that thing every other day.

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And it would help me just take a step back from the day to day and  just put into context what's actually important, and again, what is in my control today  and the things that I can actually do? Wow.

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So that, highly recommend. Did none of that.

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The other one, which you may  remember, is the shit bucket. I do remember that.

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So the shit bucket was a visual analogy  where I would take a piece of paper, and some of it actually wasn't as visual,  it was real, I would take a piece of paper, I would write down something that wasn't going  well, perhaps a dependency, perhaps a project, perhaps a meeting that I was going to have  that I knew I was going to be frustrated, or maybe we didn't even decide to go the  way that I deeply felt passionate about.

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I would write it down, I would crumble a piece of  paper, and I would throw it in my shit bucket, basically.

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And the rule was once I threw  something in the shit bucket, I couldn't take anything out of the bucket, so I would not dwell  on the things that I just needed to let go of.

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So this was a very powerful tool that, like I'm  a perfectionist, I just deeply care about many different things, and I have a hard time letting  go.

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And so for me, it was just a reminder that I need to let some things go and focus on the  things that matter.

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And I actually, I remember even going into one of the ones with my direct  where I would sometimes lead.

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I could tell the PM is a bit frustrated about how things are going,  and one of my first questions would be, "What are we throwing in the shit bucket today?"

27:06

It's  actually a very liberating thing that you can do.

27:13

And did you have a special trash that was your  shit bucket, or is it the regular trash can?

27:17

Every meeting room always had a trash  can, and I would always throw stuff into the trash can whenever  I got upset about something.

27:23

It's like a different  dimension trash can or bucket. Yeah.

27:27

Is there something you remember  throwing in that shit bucket that would be an interesting example or story to share?

27:31

I remember there was one person  who I deeply wanted to hire, who I felt was just phenomenal and would  be such an amazing addition to the team, and I tried and tried and tried for a very  long time, and I just failed.

27:40

I just could not get that person to join.

27:45

And at some point,  it became counterproductive and I had to let go, and literally just wrote like, "Okay, getting  this person into the company," I'm like, "this is not going to happen.

27:58

I've got to  move on at this point." Just threw it in.

28:03

I love these two pieces of advice and it touches on how mentally challenging it is to  be a leader at a hyper-growth company. Yeah.

28:12

Is there anything you can share there about just  that part of the world?

28:12

People see your career like, "Holy shit, look at him.

28:17

He's running  Airbnb's business. What an amazing life."

28:21

There's a lot of pain behind it.

28:21

Is there anything  there that would be useful to people, you think? There's a lot there.

28:25

It's not like it was smooth  sailing for me every single year.

28:25

I had plenty of challenges just personally going through that  journey.

28:32

You take a job and then you're sometimes just not prepared where it's going to take you.

28:40

And the reality is, every three to six months my job changed, so I would just get comfortable  in the role I was in, let's say in the very early days, I was literally an IC growth PM with a  tiny team, got pretty comfortable, and then a year later everything changed, and I was suddenly  leading a team of 20.

28:57

Then a few years later, things changed again.

29:02

I was leading a team of a  couple hundred.

29:02

Then a few years later, again, everything changed.

29:07

And you just, everything  that you take comfort in, in your current role, breaks.

29:13

The process breaks, how you hire breaks,  how you spend your time breaks, the projects you work on, everything breaks, and you've got to  reinvent yourself, and that is very hard to do.

29:25

So one thing that I've learned is you've got to  ask for help.

29:25

It takes a village, right?

29:25

You can't just get there by yourself.

29:32

And that's actually  something that Brian taught me, where, I mean, this guy just grew.

29:38

Every six months, it was like  a different person, and a lot of his secret sauce is not being afraid to ask people for help who are  experts in the thing that you're trying to learn.

29:51

I mean, my motto is, "Ask for the impossible,  and sometimes you're going to be surprised."

29:56

There are people out there that are experts  in something who actually want to help you. That's awesome advice.

30:02

Also the Serenity Prayer,  so powerful.

30:02

I did not know that about you.

30:02

I want to spend time talking about things you've  learned about scaling Airbnb and the org, but before we get to that, is there anything  else that you think contributed to your success individually as a leader,  any other behaviors or mindsets?

30:22

I mean, I think it's building teams and realizing  that sometimes, when you build a team, and this is actually often misunderstood, I think when people  build teams, they try to make sure every person on the team is good at just about everything.

30:41

You  typically go through the process of here are my strengths, here are my development areas.

30:46

And  typically the development areas are you try to develop just about single thing so that you can be  good at almost every single skill that exists, and I just think that's the wrong mindset.

31:02

Instead,  what I've learned over time, is instead of trying to find people that are good at everything, you  need to look for people who spike on specific things and then add them to a team with different  spikes.

31:13

So there's no single person that spikes on absolutely everything, that's very rare, but  they spike on something that's very crucial to the team.

31:25

And if you assemble different spikes on a  given team, that team is going to do great things, as long as everybody inquires and everybody  starts asking questions, actually listens to other people, versus just coming about that.

31:37

So even now, as an investor, when I look or when I talk to founders, the first question in  my head is like, what does this founder spike on, and how is that spike relevant to the problem that  they're tackling today, and how well does this founder hire to bring other spikes to the team?

31:56

That's literally what I think about these days.

32:02

What are some examples of spikes, just to make it  even more real, things that people might be good at?

32:05

Is it like strategy, influence?

32:05

What are some  things you commonly see that are spike skills?

32:10

Yeah, I mean, I think the very natural spike  sometimes is you get a domain expert.

32:10

So there's a specific field, let's take marketplaces, and there  is someone who just understands the mechanics of how things work and just really spikes on  understanding how you can take certain drivers, what you can do with those drivers and how you  translate those drivers to a measurable result.

32:35

There are people who spike on sales and who spike  on just being able to package something in a way that other people cannot package it, right?

32:45

There  are people who spike in process.

32:45

There are people who will literally, every day, think about how  to get people to work together really well, and they just know how to get to the essence of that,  how to connect the dots between different teams working together.

33:01

Some people are really great at  product design.

33:01

I've seen quite a few founders, actually, who can tell you immediately about what  kind of interface is going to resonate with people and what kind won't and why.

33:14

So there's just some  examples, but there are many dimensions here. Awesome.

33:20

As a last question along these lines,  I'm going to share a few other skills that I noticed you're incredibly good at, and how about  just pick one that resonates with you and share some thoughts on how to get better at that and  why that's important. One is influence.

33:31

You're an incredibly strong influencer.

33:36

You get a lot  of stuff done that I think people would be like, "How did you do that?

33:40

I have no idea what he just  did."

33:40

Another is you're very good at keeping a very high bar.

33:45

That's one of the things I  learned from you, is just the importance of keeping a very high bar and spending more time  on stuff.

33:48

That's something I remember from you, just like spend a little more time on  this doc, make it a little bit better, refine it a little bit more, so that's two.

33:55

Another is just getting stuff done in focus while also avoiding the limelight.

34:01

You try to  not be in front and center.

34:01

You haven't done any other podcasts, I don't think you've written  a medium post, I don't know if you've tweeted, but you try to just get stuff done behind  the scenes and not get attention from everyone.

34:14

So maybe those are a few.

34:14

Is there one  of those that you want to spend a little time on? Yeah.

34:17

I mean, first of all, thank you  for saying that.

34:17

Some of those resonate for sure.

34:21

I think the getting stuff done  and being hyper-focused on the job is, it's something that's really important.

34:30

I mean,  at Index here, we also say, "Keep the main thing the main thing."

34:35

And just like in investing,  same thing in operating.

34:35

You've got to focus on the actual job, versus all the other things  that you could potentially be doing.

34:42

So to me, I remember when I was actually hiring product  leaders, and there's some product leaders would do lots of different engagements outside of  the company, whether it's investing, advising, speaking, attending conference, all those  things, and they were huge red flags to me, because it was clear that this person, there  was just something missing in their day to day.

35:08

They didn't try to put them, all of them, into  the thing that they were doing.

35:08

And so for me, it's really important when I hired people, to  hire people who were incredibly mission driven and would dedicate every ounce of energy  to keeping the main thing the main thing.

35:27

Yeah, I talk about this on Twitter and  LinkedIn, this idea that people see people like me and other PMs, tweeting,  sharing wisdom, and they're like, "Oh, these are the best PMs. They know so much."

35:36

But  in reality, the best folks, you as an example, spend zero time on Twitter or LinkedIn.

35:41

They're  just doing the job, trying to show great impact, trying to make the business successful,  trying to build great products, and I think it's important to remember you don't  need to be tweeting and writing medium articles.

35:53

Yeah, I mean, I think there are people who  find joy in solving hard problems, and the joy you get from working on the hard problem is  fulfilling and you don't need to seek external validation for the things you do every single  day.

36:05

So yeah, I loved hiring people like that.

36:12

Let me zoom out a little bit.

36:12

So we've been  talking a lot about the skills that you built and the mindset that you built to be successful  individually, but also you managed large teams, you helped scale Airbnb massively through  hyper growth, and there's a few skills I noticed you're really good at that were  specifically applied to scaling an org, building an org, building teams and things like  that, and so I want to spend a little time there.

36:35

You touched on this one a little bit, but  I think there's more here, around setting priorities.

36:39

You're incredibly good at setting  priorities and making sure everyone's aligned, making sure the main thing is the main  thing.

36:45

Can you just talk about what else you've seen be important here, as a leader of a  larger, growing org, around setting priorities?

36:54

I have a lot of strong opinions here with  setting priorities.

36:54

I would say the first one is, and this was my motto for the longest time and  it still is, you've got to let fires burn.

36:59

And what that means is you can do it all.

37:04

You just  need to let go of things that are not important because if you have 20 different things that  you're equally engaged on, it just means you don't actually know what is most important.

37:16

And  so my motto has always been let fires burn.

37:16

You've got to be okay with some things not going well so  that you can dedicate most of your energy on the few things that actually matter and the things  that are most important.

37:29

And it's hard to do, it doesn't feel good.

37:36

Again, many people,  especially PMs, are perfectionists, and so it hurts when things aren't going well,  and you've just got to learn how to let things go.

37:49

What I always did was I kicked off every  Monday with a leadership meeting where we would talk about our priorities for the week.

37:53

We  would not talk about longer-term priorities.

37:53

It was literally like for this week, what are we  trying to get done, and it could only be one to three things, and we would jointly agree  on the fires that we would let burn.

38:03

And so then when my partner, my engineering  counterpart or my design counterpart, would see a fire burning, they would know, yep,  we agreed that we're going to keep letting the fire burn for now.

38:19

And it was just really  important to be aligned as a team on that.

38:23

Now, the other thing that I've learned is  you've got to let other people burn fires too, and it's very actually empowering.

38:30

And oftentimes,  I remember, especially when you're leading a very large organization, there could be teams and  many different leaders who you're working with, oftentimes, people come to you and are  basically like, "We've got to do this new thing to drive goal one, and I just don't  have enough resources.

38:46

And we need to hire more people, and we need to expand the resources  of this team."

38:54

My first question always was, "Well, what are your actual priorities and what  can we let burn?"

39:00

Meaning do you actually have to expand and do more things or can we maybe  reprioritize certain things and focus on fewer things and put a lot more energy behind them?

39:12

But to have those conversations as a leader, you'll also have to recognize that people on your  team are eventually in a really good position to gauge what fires should be burning and which  are not to be burning.

39:25

Now the one thing I'll say though, is it could be dangerous, and there  are some things that you should never let burn, because if you let them burn for too long,  bad stuff's going to happen.

39:35

So I have a few of those examples for me that I have,  over the years, learned to not let burn.

39:48

First, timelines, major timelines.

39:48

This is like  huge product launches.

39:48

Once timelines slip, you basically establish precedent that timelines are  not as important and timelines can always slip.

39:56

So you never want to set the precedent let timelines  slip.

40:00

So that, to me, was when there was a major project and a timeline with significant slipping,  I'd never let that fire burn, immediately jump in.

40:11

The second is when there is disagreement  on a strategic decision or maybe even part of the vision.

40:19

If you feel like that exists,  like for example, if not everybody buys into Instant Book or there's just some disagreement  about what supply should be on the platform, you've got to squash that immediately.

40:32

You cannot  let that fire burn because it can spread.

40:32

I guess if I follow the analogy, it can become a  wildfire, and then suddenly you have a team of people who don't believe in what they're doing.

40:43

They lose meaning in their work, right, which is just really bad.

40:49

So you have to bring people  together immediately when you feel like people, whether it's many or few people, do not  believe in the direction that the company's headed.

41:02

You've got to squash that immediately.

41:02

Then the third one for me, and this was a bit painful to learn, but you never let a senior hire  process burn, meaning you will always, and this is what I felt during my 10 years at Airbnb, I always  felt underwater, and I always felt like we just needed to bring on more people who had experience  in certain things that we were doing.

41:26

And anytime I delayed or I was not fully engaged with the  hiring process, especially a very senior person, it bit me for such a long time and it set the  whole team back.

41:40

And so those are the three things that I would never let burn, but you've got  to let a whole bunch of other stuff burn for sure.

41:52

Such counterintuitive and amazing advice.

41:52

You shared a bunch of examples of things that you don't want to let burn.

41:56

Are there any  examples you could share of things you let burn, things that would surprise people or a story  that comes to mind of like, yeah, that's fine?

42:04

Sometimes you would have examples where  certain product launches didn't go well, and let's say you weren't seeing it in the  numbers, the users weren't happy, like, okay, that's sometimes you just need more time to  understand what's actually wrong.

42:19

You don't need to jump on it immediately, right?

42:23

So that's  maybe one example of a fire that I let burn quite a bit.

42:31

And quite frankly, at some point, I had  so many teams that I was working with that I just needed to prioritize even between the teams,  where this team is the number-one priority, and I know that I need to be in design  reviews with this other team, I just, I can't, because I have to be thoughtful about how  I'm spending my time in this given moment, and so I actually have to deprioritize projects.

42:54

And so  there are certain projects that were important, but I let burn for a while because I just had to  spend my energy elsewhere.

43:00

And then, of course, I would, to myself, I was thinking, are we doing  too many things?

43:06

Is this the right way to operate?

43:11

And I think this is really useful for  someone that, say, is an ICPM on a team, that's wondering why the hell our  team is just wasting our time, we're building all this stuff, it's not  working.

43:20

Why isn't anyone doing anything, why aren't they giving some resources, why  aren't they repurchasing, it's because they know there's many other problems they're dealing  with, and they're letting this burn for now. Yeah.

43:30

And this was actually a learning for me  in an area where I would say I failed over time is just general communication to the broader  organization.

43:35

When you rise really quickly, you tend to underappreciate, or I did, just how  important it is to communicate what, as a leader, you're spending your time on and the areas that  you think are the highest priority right now.

43:54

And so eventually, I started doing a lot of all  hands, and I started sending the weekly thoughts from Vlad or just like my random musings and  what's in my head.

43:59

And I realized that sharing that context with people is just so important, and  people actually want to hear from you.

44:06

And it's good to over communicate, and it can help people  understand certain things about their day to day.

44:15

I know that it didn't come naturally  to you.

44:15

I mentioned that you kind of like to be behind the scenes, under  the radar, not in the limelight, so I could see why that wasn't  something you were doing initially. Yeah.

44:24

Is there anything more you can share  there about what you learned about why that's important? Why spend time  there?

44:27

What happens if you don't?

44:32

Everybody wants to find meaning in their work,  and everybody typically wants to understand the reasons behind a decision, and it's important  to share, to take like, I've done this myself, where you just make a decision and you  move on and you go on to the next decision,

44:50

and it's actually so, so helpful if you take  10% more energy and time to now bring everyone along around why a certain thing was decided,  because it's going to help them, just themselves, make better decisions, because now they have a  lot more context about how this decision was made, and they can learn from that moment. So  that's partly why it's important. I mean,

45:09

So  that's partly why it's important.

45:09

I mean, for me, it didn't come naturally to  me.

45:14

I'm like a pretty, I don't know, I'm a deep introvert.

45:17

I shy away from many  different things and it had to be a learned thing.

45:25

I think you're also a really good example  of something I talk about here and there, is you can be really successful in very different  ways. I'm also introverted.

45:28

I think we're similar on the spectrum of colors or the personality test,  and you've been really successful.

45:34

You can also be incredibly successful as a very extroverted  person or someone that's very analytical, and you're a great example of someone that's more  reserved and is introverted, as you said.

45:46

And I think it's important for people to know you can be  incredibly successful as a PM, as a huge leader. Totally. From that place.

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47:12

Okay, so just to summarize the lesson we just talked about, mostly is let fires burn.

47:21

Basically, don't feel like you need to solve every problem as you rise in the ranks.

47:25

And I think this applies even if you're not the top of the org, even if you're a manager of  managers, even if you're manager of nobody. Yeah.

47:35

Maybe the other thing I'll mention, and as  I reflect on setting priorities and just working, I think a big lesson for me is that chaos is  good and chaos is actually great.

47:43

And sometimes you want to create chaos in an organization to  push the organization to think creatively and to actually make leaps in product development.

47:58

And  so, I mean, I kind of, as I reflect on my life, I like cleaning up messes, I like when things  are very organized, I liked when there's a lot of clarity on how things are put together,  and chaos is scary, right?

48:14

And I think that this is very natural for a lot of people, for  chaos to be scary, but I've seen examples when just a bit of chaos is so, so helpful.

48:27

Just to  give you an example, I remember me talking to Brian one day, and he was like, "Hey, I just don't  feel good.

48:33

Something just feels off right now."

48:43

And I remember asking him, "What do you mean?"

48:43

I  was like, "Our numbers are up and to the right, we're chipping quickly, everything's great. What do you mean?

48:48

What are you unhappy with?"

48:52

And his response was, "Things are just too calm. I  don't like it."

48:52

And I was like, "Okay, what do you mean?

49:02

Calm is great," like I operate in calm.

49:02

And he then picked a project that he thought was important - I think it was actually host  onboarding at the time - and of course, on this project, I remember we had this perfectly crafted  timeline.

49:16

We're going to design this for the next four weeks and then we're going to start building,  and we're going to deploy in certain pockets of users, we're going to learn, we're going to  iterate, et cetera, very rational timeline.

49:33

And he said, "Yeah, I don't care about any of  that.

49:33

We're going to design this in 24 hours."

49:38

And I was just like mind blown own, right, like,  one, how?

49:38

Two, the ripples that's going to send through the organization, because I knew all  the people that were involved on building this, and we had this whole neat flow.

49:51

And we did design  it, actually, in 24 hours, well, it took a little bit longer, but we designed it very quickly,  and what I learned in that moment is that ...

50:00

Very quickly, and what I learned in that moment  is, that was actually an example of chaos that he inserted into this very calm building process,  and that chaos forced us, with our artificial time constraint, to dial up our intuition and to  think a bit more creatively than maybe we would have in the past.

50:22

Now, that didn't always work,  because there were examples of this where you're just like, "I don't know what the answer is.

50:28

I  need more time to design this, and to think about this problem."

50:32

There were definitely examples  of that, but there were many examples where it was actually a great forcing function to  go with your gut and actually innovate.

50:43

That's an amazing story, and it  reminds me of something else, just to take a quick tangent here.

50:45

Brian  is incredible at just asking people always, "That's a great goal you have there.

50:51

What would it take to 10x that goal?"

50:54

He'd get to the FP&A projections, and he's like,  "Great. How do we 10x this?"

50:54

I found that to be really scary, but also, really effective in  helping people think a lot bigger.

51:00

Is there something there you can share about just what  you learned from Brian about thinking that big?

51:07

I think it's less about hitting the goal.

51:07

I think  a lot of people, when they see really big goals, they get immediately afraid of the  goals, because they think, "Oh my God, I don't know how to hit this.

51:18

If we don't hit  it, what happens?"

51:18

You start thinking about all the downstream consequences.

51:22

The reality is, it's  not about hitting the goal, it's about thinking how to hit the goal, and going through that  creative journey of, what does the world need to look like for this to be true, this crazy  goal to be true?

51:34

How should we think about it?

51:39

Oftentimes, it pushes you to test extremes, when  the whole world is going to operate this way, or nobody in the world is going to operate  this way versus something in between.

51:47

Usually, it's when you start testing the  extremes that you begin to realize, "This is the path that we should actually take."

52:00

Yeah, I've found exactly the same thing, just  thinking backwards from what is the best possible thing we could do, versus incrementally forward  ends up unlocking a lot of big ideas.

52:05

Something I imagine is in people's minds as they hear  some of this stuff, like designing something in 24 hours or thinking 10x bigger is, "I  don't want to work that way.

52:13

That sounds incredibly stressful.

52:17

That sounds really hard."

52:17

You mentioned this, that this isn't necessarily for everyone.

52:24

Not everyone needs to work at this  company, or work this way.

52:24

Part of it is hiring, is finding people that want to lean in, to  work really hard. Other people don't.

52:30

Is there anything there, of just, this is actually  really hard, and it's not for everyone, but it also ends up being successful, and you end  up having a good time a lot of times afterwards?

52:43

I find that those sprints, where, "Design this  in 24 hours," brought a lot of connection to the team, actually, and they were my most fun moments,  actually, because you're forced to let go of a lot of constraints.

53:00

All these organizational  dependencies disappear, all the stuff that's noise, and you can just start building.

53:06

For me, especially when you're not doing this by yourself, and you're doing this with  a team of people, it was deeply rewarding, because you were all working together just  shooting the shit, and throwing a whole bunch of ideas out there. No idea was too crazy.

53:21

Now, it's not for everybody.

53:21

I actually, in the interview process, when I would  hire PMs, I was always, not always, in the early days I had to learn this, but in the  later days, I always set expectations about how we work.

53:40

I think some leaders do this, it's the  anti-sell sell, where I will share the worst day, or what I think you will think as a candidate  what the worst day would be at Airbnb, and then still ask you if you want to join the team.

53:54

I would basically tell people, "We're going to work day and night.

53:59

We're going to work weekends.

53:59

The direction is going to change. The strategy?

54:03

Out the window every three months.

54:03

The projects  you're working on today, we're going to kill three weeks later.

54:07

The road map that you are right  now auditing as you're deciding your offer, when you actually join after you took some break from  your other job, it's going to completely change."

54:19

I think the common thread there is, "Everything  is changing all the time.

54:19

You've got to be cool with that if you want to join this team,"  and totally fine if that's not for you. I love that.

54:30

It makes me think of something  when my colleague used to say to me is, "If you haven't changed teams  or your desk in six months, something's about to happen.

54:36

Something's about to change." Totally.

54:40

This unsell idea, there's a recent podcast  episode where someone did something similar.

54:43

He called it the unsell email  where he sends the candidate, based on all the things he heard from the  candidate during the interview process, "Here's all the things you probably won't  love about working here."

54:51

And the recruiter was always really mad at him for like, "Don't  send that.

54:54

My numbers are really going down because of this email."

54:58

But longterm, it  ends up being really successful for them.

55:02

I mean, you're going to probably  hire fewer people that way, but you will hire the right people.

55:04

So I  think then you're going to actually have a team that you can rely on for years  and years and years as things change.

55:11

Just have to align incentives with  recruiting on that piece of it.

55:11

So, one other area I wanted to spend time on  is basically org design and hiring and people.

55:21

So you were very good at building  really effective teams, prioritizing them, bringing in amazing talent.

55:26

What can you  share about things you've learned about as the company is growing and org  is scaling about org design hiring?

55:34

So for me, one of the hardest things  about building teams and going through hyper growth was the fact that you're going  to lose a lot of friends on that journey.

55:41

You just have to be prepared to say goodbye  to your friend.

55:47

Meaning when you start, you build really deep relationships with people.

55:52

When you're a smaller startup, you typically have one-on-one interaction and you know everybody  and you have that connection with people.

55:57

And the reality is, if the company is  truly going through hyper growth, most people are not going to scale.

56:08

It is very  rare for somebody to scale with the company.

56:15

I mean, we actually, so at Index, we  wrote a book, Scaling Through Chaos, and there was this crazy stat where basically when  you look at many, many companies that reached a thousand people and were successful, when you look  back to the first 10 employees, you realize that only two to three of those ten first employees  stayed with the company when the company reached a thousand people.

56:39

And that's just so indicative  of what will actually happen in practice.

56:48

There are certain skills that you have that are  good for in the specific domain for a period of time and that time is not universal forever.

56:56

At some point, everybody taps out and so just having that realization is, it's tough. It's  tough emotionally.

57:05

It was one of the hardest things for me as a leader, and I would say the  way to break out of that is to ask for help and to try to learn as much as you can about what  the next role for you is going to look like.

57:21

So, that's one thing that I've learned.

57:29

I would say another thing is that all org charts suck.

57:34

There is no good org chart.

57:34

Every single org chart has problems.

57:34

So you can be organized around business units, you  can be functionally organized, you can be organized around problems, and the reality is  every single one of those constructs sucks.

57:52

There are pros and cons to each approach.

57:52

If  you organize yourself into business units, the problem you typically run into is silos.

57:58

When people start basically advocating for their business unit with little regard for other  business units, if you're functionally organized, sometimes you create too many dependencies  across the organization, and it becomes this matrix way of working, which could be challenging  and as a result could be slower to ship product. Those are just examples.

58:19

These are not  universal issues, but those are examples where regardless of how you're organized,  there are going to be problems.

58:24

So for me, one learning was if you're having a problem  and you're trying to solve this problem, reorganizing and a new org  chart is rarely the solution.

58:40

It's not about the boxes and how you configure the  boxes.

58:40

It's about the people in those boxes and it's about how those people work together because  you just need to understand the cons of working a certain way.

58:53

Then how do you design a process  around your org structure to make sure that people connect and work really well together?

58:58

So, my  advice there also to founders who I talk to now, focus a lot less energy on actual org design,  study the different types and just pick one and once you pick one focus on the people,  the culture and how people work together.

59:16

That's really interesting.

59:16

So basically you  think people are overthinking org design? Yes.

59:21

How do you think about incentives  and goals and how that impacts all that stuff?

59:24

Because there's people and  then there's like, "Here's your goal, here's how you're measured," and that's what  they're going to work on in this thought.

59:30

I mean, I think incentives come down to  culture, and it's what you set as the fiber of your organization.

59:36

So again, I think you  can align incentives.

59:36

And people will be excited to make impact on the organization regardless  of how an organization is actually organized.

59:47

That's a really interesting takeaway,  because I think a lot of people think about, "If we just org this and put this person here  and create business units, things are going to start moving."

59:54

And you're not saying don't  think about that and don't necessarily do that, but you're probably putting too much weight  on that actually solving your problems.

1:00:03

Yeah, I mean, I think you want to certainly  study different ways of organizing and the pros and cons, but just know that no matter  which choice you make, it's going to suck, and there are going to be problems.

1:00:15

And  you just need to go into it with wide open eyes and then create process to  make sure that whatever the cons are, if people are in silos, well, then  you got to have a really good way of bringing people together and creating the right  incentives to make sure people collaborate.

1:00:30

So, there's all these other things that I would say  are much more important to focus your energy on. Awesome.

1:00:40

Anything else along these  lines around org design or hiring they think is really important  or has [inaudible 01:00:46] Hiring, the one thing that is universal  for me and always has been is mission over domain expertise.

1:00:52

Basically,  mission over domain expertise, mission over skills.

1:00:57

I think that if you have  that raw horsepower and you're deeply...

1:00:57

You just love the mission so much, you can build  whatever skills are necessary for the job.

1:01:16

As an operator, I've loved taking bets on  people who are maybe earlier in their career who have energy, who have drive, and who are  deeply thoughtful and deeply resonant with the mission that we're working on.

1:01:27

Because at the  end of the day, strategy changes, orgs change, teams change, everything changes all the time, and  the one constant I think is actually the mission.

1:01:40

And when gets really, really hard when your  company almost collapses, like we did during COVID, the thing that gets you through those hard  times is the mission.

1:01:46

If you don't have mission, you don't believe in the mission, you lose  meaning in your day to day and you start to disengage from the company.

1:01:56

So, I think  that's actually the most important thing.

1:02:01

So what I'm hearing there is potentially  if you're just hitting it at your job or you think it's just not going anywhere, it  might be that you don't actually care that much about what the company's trying to do in  the mission, and maybe there's not a lot that can change for you to actually be happy there  because you don't actually care. Fascinating.

1:02:18

Something that I wanted to come back to real  quick, a lot of your advice comes back to impact, impact above all else, drive impact, focus  comes back to what is the most important thing to do.

1:02:27

Something that I think about a lot  is how do you be successful within a company, and one of the levers is go to a place and  a team that is driving impact.

1:02:32

Do you have any advice there around just where you're  best suited to be successful within an org, coming at it from or impact is most happening?

1:02:47

I mean, I always thought about it as  the combination or almost like this Venn diagram of there's one circle, which is all the  different priorities that are important.

1:02:52

Then the other circle are your strengths and where you  spike, and the intersection of the two is the place where you should be and sometimes you're  not quite there at the intersection and you're kind of gravitating towards that intersection.

1:03:12

You're building a specific skill that you're already naturally pretty decent at, but  you definitely want to double down on it as you're learning more about the priorities  and there's a match there.

1:03:20

The worst thing I think you can do is just sit in a  job where you're not being impactful, you're not working on the top priority and you're  just wasting your life.

1:03:28

Our time is short on earth.

1:03:34

You might as well wake up every day and  work in the hardest thing you can, where you can truly based on who you are and the spikes you  have, make a dent and whatever is going to happen.

1:03:46

And I also have the serenity prayer  ready to go when things get really hard.

1:03:51

So, what I want to do right now  is summarize many of the things that you've shared before we get  to talking about Airbnb today and Brian Chesky's approach to product.

1:03:57

I  guess before I try to summarize stuff, is there anything else you think is important  or behavior-wise that we haven't touched? No, I think we've... We've done a lot. Cool.

1:04:07

So this is almost a  Vlad's guide to being a successful product leader.

1:04:11

I don't have it all summarized  here yet, I just have a bunch of notes, but I thought it'd be fun just to try.

1:04:14

So one  is, and the way I would think about this as you're listening to this is, "What can I do to  be more successful as a leader in a company?"

1:04:24

And this is all kinds of stuff that I  100% agree with is effective.

1:04:24

So one is impact above all else.

1:04:30

Think about  what is the company prioritizing, what is important to the business, how  can I drive impact there?

1:04:34

And to do that, think about the levers in the business that move  that and then find ways to work on those things.

1:04:43

This idea of inquiry first when you disagree  with something, shift your mindset to asking questions and then along those lines when you  disagree, this idea of poking the bear, sharing, "Hey, here's why this might not be right.

1:04:54

Here's why you might be wrong about this.

1:04:58

Here's data that I found."

1:04:58

Or, "What data would  help you understand maybe you're wrong here?" What else?

1:05:03

Saying no, being really good at saying  no, and this comes back to impact and focus.

1:05:03

Let fires burn, really powerful idea.

1:05:10

Don't feel  like everything has to be solved.

1:05:10

I am similar to you where I feel like anything's in order  and clean and organized, and so this would be very hard for me.

1:05:21

But such a powerful lesson  of it's okay if things aren't going great.

1:05:26

And I love your advice of align with your  team on, "We will let these things burn for now."

1:05:30

Anything you want to add, by  the way, as I'm going through this? No.

1:05:34

Got to let everyone be a  pyromaniac.

1:05:34

It leads to great things. Awesome.

1:05:38

So along those lines, embrace chaos, let  things be chaotic sometimes because some of the best things come out of that, and as you shared,  Brian sometimes just introduces a little chaos to get people out of their safe world a little bit.

1:05:48

This idea of a shit bucket.

1:05:48

If things are just like, "I hate this thing and it's not going  well, I'm just going to throw it in the shit bucket for now and that's just how it's going  to be and I'm going to move on so I could focus on impact and important things." Amazing.

1:05:59

What else do we have here?

1:05:59

So many little notes here.

1:06:04

Be prepared, says your organizing  front teams.

1:06:04

Be prepared to lose friends that you had at the company as you rise and as you have  to do things that maybe they're not aligned with or happy about that are helping their career.

1:06:14

All org charts suck, nothing's going to be amazing.

1:06:19

Don't over focus on the org chart.

1:06:19

Focus on the people and the culture.

1:06:19

Oh yeah, the mission above all else.

1:06:24

Just like if things  are not going well, it might be people aren't aligned with the mission of the company.

1:06:28

Is there  anything else off the top of [inaudible 01:06:34]?

1:06:34

It's so interesting when I think back to my 10  years, things that I actually remember the most are these moments with other people and not some  project or some product launch that's going super well or us doing really well with metrics.

1:06:51

The  things that really made I think Airbnb special, and now that I think back to those 10  years of my experience that I deeply just resonate with are those little moments.

1:07:06

And one example, and this is why culture is just so important because these things  don't just happen organically.

1:07:10

You have to be thoughtful about building culture, and  then I think you create a place where these little things can happen.

1:07:19

So for me, I don't  know if you remember your experience when you first joined the company, my most memorable  experience at Airbnb is the human tunnel.

1:07:28

And it was just this thing where I remember it  was my first day and I was standing behind this giant wall and there was silence in, I think,  it was a cafeteria.

1:07:37

I was like this huge huge room and then somebody like this engineer  runs up to me and says, "Hey, go around to the other side of the wall," and I turn and  suddenly the room just explodes in cheering and clapping and everyone yelling my name.

1:07:54

And everyone is basically doing a human tunnel with their hands.

1:07:57

Literally every  single person at the company at HQ, including the founders.

1:08:01

And then I run through  under everyone's cheering and I jump into this beanbag while everyone's chanting my name.

1:08:05

That  was my first day, and here I am, I don't know, 12 years later, 13 years later.

1:08:12

I still remember  that as one of the most amazing moments of the entire journey and I immediately felt accepted.

1:08:21

And I wanted to contribute to the team, and a lot of the reasons why...

1:08:30

There were  many moments like that throughout my 10 years and it was a result of how we hired people for  certain core values and were very intentional about just helping people integrate into this  crazy company that was growing superfast.

1:08:50

That was an amazing story.

1:08:50

I feel exactly the  same way.

1:08:50

I went through a similar experience when I joined.

1:08:53

And obviously, the human tunnel  eventually didn't scale and people started doing it per team versus the entire company.

1:08:58

We  could do a whole episode on Airbnb culture and learnings from that.

1:09:02

Interestingly with the human  tunnel, it started I think with the founders, but it ended up being they had no involvement in  these tunnels.

1:09:07

It was just employees knew that this is the thing we're going to do for every  new employee, and so I think it's interesting.

1:09:15

I guess just spending a little time on  culture and learnings from Airbnb about the value and power of culture, is there  anything there you take away with two other companies you work with now of just how to  set up a great culture, how to do this well?

1:09:28

I would say there's no single playbook.

1:09:28

I would  say the one thing that comes to mind just being really intentional and thoughtful about it and  actually dedicating energy to it.

1:09:32

Just as much as you spend time building product, hiring people,  is you got to spend just as much energy actually thinking about culture and your core values.

1:09:44

And so core values are very, I would say, indicative of what the culture will  be.

1:09:50

So those two are very linked and once you think about core values, I remember  what worked really well was you don't just write your core values in the document somewhere  and then no one ever opens it.

1:10:01

The key is, regardless of what the core values are, you want  to make sure that those core values are prominent in just about every single thing that you do.

1:10:10

So when you hire people, you hire for certain core values, and at Airbnb, we had core  value interviewers up until, I mean, my entire tenure basically.

1:10:22

Even when we had  thousands of people already at the company, when we were hiring people, everybody had to  pass core values interviews, so it was very ingrained in how we hired and what we looked for.

1:10:31

Then even performance reviews and promotions, no matter how much impact you made, no matter what  you did, if you were not also exemplifying core, you didn't get promoted.

1:10:47

You didn't get to  the next level, and so even in our performance conversations, those core values were very  present in the day to day.

1:10:52

And then of course they were also printed everywhere.

1:10:57

They were just  physically everywhere all the time, so I felt like every single person around me always knew what the  core values work, and so that's my biggest advice.

1:11:07

It's like, don't copy some other company's core  values.

1:11:07

Instead, just be intentional about what matters to your organization and then make sure  that those core values are freaking everywhere, part of every single process.

1:11:18

Otherwise, no one's going to care.

1:11:21

Just to reinforce what you're saying, have  been gone from Airbnb for five, six years now, and I still a 100% remember the core values.

1:11:25

I'll go through them real quick.

1:11:25

Be a host, be a cereal entrepreneur, which is cereal as the  cereal story of Airbnb, champion the mission and- Simplify.

1:11:40

Simplify, although they tweak  that one or they cut it.

1:11:43

And then embrace the adventure.

1:11:44

Embrace the adventure is my  favorite.

1:11:44

I love that one the most.

1:11:49

See years later, you'll still remember. Exactly.

1:11:52

Every frame matters was the  other one they decided to cut out, because they realized something they learned about  core values that I thought is a really interesting is they shouldn't be aspirational,  they should be who you actually are, and so there's a period where the founders are  like, "We're not actually amazing at this thing, so let's just remove it from the core values  and reduce the ones we're focused on."

1:12:10

What I also really liked is that there were  tangible examples always of about what it meant to embody this core value in your day-to-day  work, and so then it was very tangible for people versus just some overarching embrace the  adventure, like what does that actually mean.

1:12:26

Then just to make sure people get this point  you made about this core value hiring team, which is really unique, I don't know if  anyone else does this, is there's people trained to interview in core values and they  were a specific volunteer team.

1:12:33

That part of the interview process, one of these people  came in and they interviewed for core values, which was meant to represent what the  founders were looking for initially.

1:12:44

I mean, it was also very telling  how, I remember, it was an honor internally to be selected to be a core values  interviewer in the first place.

1:12:48

Most people, large companies are like, "I don't want  to do any more interviewing.

1:12:54

Oh my God, I'm in interviews all the time."

1:12:56

Here, people were like, it was a sense of this emotional proud moment when you were  basically given the keys and somebody said, "Hey, we actually think you would be fantastic  at helping us think about how to make sure every single new hire embodies these core  values."

1:13:12

I think that was so powerful. Amazing.

1:13:16

So again, we could spend an entire hour  on the culture of Airbnb and all the things we've learned there.

1:13:21

It's actually a good segue to  the last area.

1:13:21

The last part I want to talk to you about, which I think a lot of people are  probably wondering about as we have been chatting, which is about Airbnb's current ways of working.

1:13:29

So, we had Brian Chesky and the podcast, most popular episode of the podcast turns out, and  he shared his approach to product, which a lot of people are like, "huh, that's unique and different  and I don't necessarily want to work that way."

1:13:43

Other people are like, "This is amazing.

1:13:43

This is exactly how I want to operate, and so I'm going to make my company work this way."

1:13:46

The way he described Airbnb is it kind of moved from bottom-up, experimentation driven to very  top-down, "We're going to have one roadmap.

1:13:51

I'm going to be involved in everything."

1:13:57

Product  managers and our product marketing managers and all these things that I think people are  like, "Wow, that's really new and interesting."

1:14:06

You actually worked through a lot of  that.

1:14:06

You went through that transition.

1:14:09

I think technically you're a product  marketing manager when you left Airbnb? Yep.

1:14:13

So you're a really good example of that.

1:14:13

You  reported to Brian during this time.

1:14:13

Thoughts now that you're removed from Airbnb  on that way of working, pros and cons, right for everyone, maybe not right for  everyone?

1:14:21

How do you think about this stuff?

1:14:24

So first, I guess, let me zoom out from Airbnb  for a second and then we'll go into the concrete details of what Brian said.

1:14:29

I don't think you  should copy another company's ways of working.

1:14:37

The reality is it is how a company operates is so  unique to the founders, to the leadership team, to all the employees, and the domain  potentially, moment in time.

1:14:45

Because how companies operate also evolve sometimes  over time and just certain different ways of operating might be needed.

1:14:56

So, I wouldn't  just copy someone else's way of operating.

1:15:04

It just copies someone else's way of operating.

1:15:04

Even at Airbnb, it was just very interesting.

1:15:08

For us, it took us a long time to figure out how  to operate, right?

1:15:08

Actually, we did it for a long time, explain and give clarity to people of how we  should even operate in the first place.

1:15:17

Because, so we hire people from Facebook and Amazon and  Google and Netflix and every Apple, every company, right?

1:15:27

And every person would come in with their  own preconceived notions of how they want it to work.

1:15:32

And oftentimes those opinions differed.

1:15:32

And  so because we never actually stated the Airbnb way for a very long time, sometimes it would be  chaotic, right?

1:15:41

People just wouldn't know how to operate and then you go from team to team, teams  would just operate very, very differently. And that was a problem.

1:15:52

So I think here the lesson for  me was not necessarily there is one way to...

1:15:52

Like every company should operate this way.

1:16:01

And it's  much more about picking an explicit way to operate and then voicing it to every single person so  that everyone has clarity on how to do their job.

1:16:16

I think the worst thing is people just don't have  clarity on how to do things day to day.

1:16:16

They don't know how to drive impact and they're just like,  what am I doing with my life?

1:16:20

So that was kind of one lesson.

1:16:26

Now specifically going double  clicking into Airbnb and where we moved.

1:16:26

So I think one of the things that Brian mentioned was  being top down, right?

1:16:32

I actually think top down is this construct that has negative connotations  associated with it quite a bit.

1:16:42

And it's often, at least in the context of Airbnb, I think  misunderstood.

1:16:49

What people think top down...

1:16:56

And I've had many by the way, many of these  conversations with folks, right?

1:16:56

So most people think, oh, there's a leader here in an  ivory tower sitting somewhere.

1:17:00

It's a voice from the team making a whole bunch of  [inaudible 01:17:07], right?

1:17:04

And everyone else is like powerless and can't do anything.

1:17:07

That's not actually a reality of top down.

1:17:07

Now, in that room where we made many of the hard decisions  with Brian, the reality was he asked a shit ton of questions, right?

1:17:23

Again, he didn't advocate in  the beginning.

1:17:23

He would come in with tons and tons of questions and he would listen.

1:17:31

And of  course sometimes, he would disregard certain things that he heard because he had very strong  conviction, a different direction.

1:17:40

But he listened and oftentimes he would also change his mind,  right?

1:17:45

And so as a leader at Airbnb for so long, I never felt like I wasn't listened to or like he  was just making these random decisions.

1:17:53

I always had an ability to influence and an ability to  voice where I felt like the company should go.

1:17:58

So yes, he made a lot of decisions, but he made sure  he was informed in those decisions and then many of us were Contributing to all the information he  needed to make the decision, which is then also why he wanted every leader to be in the details.

1:18:18

Why did he stress that for himself and every single leader on the team?

1:18:25

It's because when  you get into that room, right?

1:18:25

And you start discussing many different directions you can  go, if the leaders in that room can't tell you what's actually happening with the business,  then why they're there in the first place, right?

1:18:39

You can't then make a good decision with  that group of people.

1:18:39

So then suddenly your team of 10, you have to blow up to a team of 30.

1:18:45

And if those people are not in the details, then you got to like what? Bring in 50 people?

1:18:50

And so at some point you need to make sure that leadership is actually in the details, understand  what's happening, and can help bring to light information that's going to help somebody make  the right decision, right?

1:19:04

So that's why top-down and being in the details to me, they were actually  very connected and they made a whole lot of sense.

1:19:13

Now, the one thing I'll say is at some point when  you are working on many things, it is challenging to be in all the detail, right?

1:19:21

And if you mandate  that product cannot ship without certain people being in every single detail, sometimes you could  slow it down, right?

1:19:31

And that could be a con of that way of working.

1:19:36

I would argue for us at  Airbnb, the quality of what we were releasing kind of suffered because we were just push, push,  push, ship, ship, ship, and people were shipping across the board.

1:19:48

And I did feel as a leader,  like I wasn't proud of some of the things we were shipping.

1:19:52

And so I appreciated the intentional  slowdown at the expense of our goals to get to a higher quality bar and then amp up velocity again.

1:20:01

After everyone had a better understanding of what quality actually was.

1:20:07

So we kind of had to  slow down for a bit to then speed up later.

1:20:15

And I think a lot of it is Brian always wanted to  make sure that every leader would be able to make decisions and have really good judgment, and he  wanted to teach what that meant.

1:20:26

And I actually really appreciated that over the years.

1:20:31

Now, if  you were to go back to semantics and say, Hey, were we top down, bottom up?

1:20:37

Those are just  semantics, I would say we were actually...

1:20:37

If you really think about it, we were neither.

1:20:43

Because bottom up you could always through certain channels, voice information.

1:20:47

Again,  if you didn't self-center and you were not afraid to poke the bear, you had an ability  to voice information.

1:20:52

So from that sense, lots of information that came bottom up.

1:20:57

But  then at the same time, there was also a lot of conviction and intuition and context that came top  down.

1:21:02

And because for a lot of these decisions, there was so much conversation.

1:21:07

The reality is I  think the way we operate was actually somewhere more towards the middle on a day-to-day basis.

1:21:12

Which is why for me, I thought it was great.

1:21:18

We had a boss on the podcast, CTO of Meta.

1:21:18

And  I always thought of Meta as a very bottom up organization where anyone can run experiments,  they're shipping things all the time.

1:21:23

He's like, no, we're very top down.

1:21:26

We tell people,  here's the things we're building this year.

1:21:30

Here's our big bets, here's what we're going  to prioritize.

1:21:30

And so I think to your point, a lot of people don't necessarily understand  what that means and see things as bottom up versus top down. Any other pros and cons?

1:21:38

Just  real quick on working this way?

1:21:38

I think a lot of people are...

1:21:44

A lot of founders are like, maybe  I should move my company this way.

1:21:44

Maybe I should just be involved in everything.

1:21:48

Maybe we need  to move PMs to product marketing managers.

1:21:48

Is there anything else that's maybe a pro or a con  in this approach that might be worth sharing? Yeah.

1:21:56

I mean, I think what you need to recognize,  right?

1:21:56

Is which decisions and what part of the company do you have special...

1:22:04

Like do you spike  on and where you have edge and where you can help make the best decision.

1:22:11

And then I would argue  then as a leader, then it is your job to be involved in those decisions, right?

1:22:16

For Brian, he  always spiked in product, in design and marketing, right? So he was very natural.

1:22:22

He was  basically the CPO, right?

1:22:22

That's why he was in all those decisions because those were  his spikes and that's where he helped everybody move forward in a certain direction.

1:22:33

I think for founders, you just need to recognize what do you spike on?

1:22:38

What  are the specific things that you have, this great insight that other people do not and  immerse yourself in a lot of those decisions, right?

1:22:49

And there's some things that you might  need to let go of, right?

1:22:49

That are maybe not as important or maybe certain things that you  won't add much to the conversation, and you have someone who you trust who's going to uphold  a certain quality bar or whatever, whatever.

1:23:01

So it's just being thoughtful about where you spend  your time and leverage your strengths, basically.

1:23:15

Final question along these lines,  very specifically around this whole product marketing manager move.

1:23:18

To me,  it feels like mostly like a rebrand of PM with some marketing work.

1:23:24

And in my eyes, PMs  already should be doing marketing and thinking about adoption and growth and all these  things.

1:23:30

And so I'm curious, just your take, do you think this is the future for PMs in  general?

1:23:33

Do you think this is just a funny thing that Airbnb is trying and it doesn't really  make a big [inaudible 01:23:42] on just this idea of PMs should be product marketing  managers and we don't need PMs as PMs? I kind of felt like...

1:23:47

And I was reading about  this in the news when it blew up.

1:23:47

I mean it felt a little overblown me, to be honest.

1:23:54

Just  like you said, a lot of PMs at the company were thinking about how to talk to users about  the products they were shipping, and they were basically marketers to some degree, right?

1:24:07

So  I would say the rebranding of product manager, it did do some important things like shed project  management and establish an entire function that focused on making sure things are moving in the  right direction from a project perspective.

1:24:19

And it highlighted the importance of marketing or  maybe just it wasn't as highlighted before, but it was already happening at the company.

1:24:33

So  for a lot of the product leaders at the company, it was very liberating.

1:24:38

Because now you  actually don't need to worry as much about, let's say timelines and coordinating things across  teams and departments and functions, that there's a function that does that, and your job is a  lot more user-centric and thinking through how to tell the world about what you're building.

1:24:53

And so it was a welcome change broadly.

1:24:53

Now, does that apply to every company and  PMs do things this exact way? No, it depends.

1:25:07

I think it's actually challenging  to find product managers who are also really good marketers.

1:25:16

And so I think it's actually  a rare skill set.

1:25:16

The art of marketing and the art of talking, conveying what you're  building in a compelling way to people, it's a craft on its own, and you have to build  that over time.

1:25:27

And so there are many product managers that haven't exercised that craft.

1:25:31

And  so of course they can't just immediately snap their fingers and become good at it, right?

1:25:35

It  takes years to learn that skill.

1:25:35

So it kind of, again, depends on the people, it depends  on the organization.

1:25:42

There's no blanket statement in my opinion where it's like PMM is  the way or PM plus PMM is the way, it depends.

1:25:53

And just to clarify the function  you mentioned that kind of took off some of the load of PM is  program management, I think is- Program management. Yes.

1:26:00

And they basically took on  timelines staying on top of priorities and the project  manager part of the PM role? Exactly. Awesome.

1:26:09

If you think about it this way,  it's actually the best version of the product management function, not dealing with the  project management and thinking about the product, the experience, the launch, the  marketing, growth.

1:26:19

It's pretty- I mean, we had many product  managers internally always say, oh, we feel like we're doing very tactical work.

1:26:28

We want to be much more strategic.

1:26:28

And boom, this change actually makes the job significantly  more strategic if you weren't doing that already. Awesome.

1:26:39

Okay, I'm glad we spent time on  that.

1:26:39

One last question before we get to very exciting lightning round.

1:26:43

We've talked  about so many things that have gone really well.

1:26:47

You incredibly successful, leader, person,  PM.

1:26:47

You've worked on so many successful projects, all these skills you've worked on that  have been really helpful to you that we've been talking about.

1:26:57

I want to take us  to Failure Corner.

1:26:57

I'm curious if there's a story of failure that you could share where  you failed at some point in your career and what that was and how that impacted you, how  that helped you potentially in your career? I failed a lot.

1:27:12

We've talked about the positives.

1:27:12

There were also on my journey, a lot of humbling moments, still have them, lots of failure.

1:27:18

I  would say the one moment I remember, this was probably in 2018-ish. This was at Airbnb.

1:27:29

It was  a pretty dark time for me, and I felt overworked, overwhelmed, and I just wasn't a happy person.

1:27:42

This was a time where we were still scaling very, very quickly, and I just felt like...

1:27:54

I don't  know, I wasn't keeping up as much as I was in maybe the earlier days.

1:28:01

And I remember thinking  to myself like, oh, my God, am I going to tap out in 2018? Is this it for me?

1:28:06

And it was just  hard for me because I was also a perfectionist.

1:28:15

I wanted to help as much as I could.

1:28:15

I had  great ambitions and dreams that I like.

1:28:21

I'm going to keep going with Airbnb for a  very long time.

1:28:21

And I think in that moment, I kind of hit rock bottom at some point.

1:28:27

And I  actually remember during that time realizing that so much of my identity was Airbnb and my job.

1:28:36

That  I had trouble separating myself as a human being from my work.

1:28:47

And just realizing that was tough. I lost friends.

1:28:47

I lost a lot of relationships.

1:28:57

I lost many of my hobbies.

1:28:57

I didn't spend as much  time as I wanted to with my family and my parents.

1:29:03

And at some point I was just like, I think  in order for me to be a better leader, I just need to be a much more balanced human being.

1:29:10

And  that's where ironically, I started spending less time on work and I became way more effective.

1:29:17

Because I was just more centered as a person.

1:29:26

So I reached out to people who I lost touch  with.

1:29:26

I spent much more time with my wife and my parents.

1:29:32

I started gaming again, and all the  little hobbies that I lost along the way.

1:29:32

And it just made me happier.

1:29:38

And because I was happier,  I felt like every hour as a result was much more impactful at the end of the day.

1:29:44

So yeah, that's  one thing that I think about quite a bit. Like you can't just...

1:29:52

It's really great when you  pour your heart and soul into something.

1:29:52

I think it is very fulfilling, right?

1:29:57

Also, you  got to think about how to balance yourself as a person.

1:30:02

And if you lose sight of everything  else in your life, it's a recipe for disaster.

1:30:10

I appreciate you being really real with these.

1:30:10

A  lot of people just share something that's not as real.

1:30:14

And so I appreciate you doing that.

1:30:14

And  I love the advice of if you're going through a really hard time right now and are feeling burnt  out and sad about your career, maybe just do less and maybe lean into your personal life more and  that will help you be more successful in both. Yeah.

1:30:30

You got to find joy in the  little things again.

1:30:30

And if you don't find joy in little things, I don't  think you can show up with an open mind and the curiosity that you need to be  successful in whatever job you have. I love that.

1:30:43

Vlad, before we get to  our very exciting lightning round, is there anything else that you wanted to share  that's on your mind that you thought would be good to leave listeners with?

1:30:50

We covered  a lot, so there may not be anything left, but is there anything just to give you a chance? No.

1:30:56

I mean, I'm deeply thankful for  the experiences that I've had.

1:30:56

I mean, I've learned so much.

1:31:00

I look back and there  are definitely many lessons, but let's also be real.

1:31:06

A lot of it is luck, right?

1:31:06

And a lot of  just stuff just happens and it happens to go your way.

1:31:14

So when things are hard, the one thing that  I just want to maybe share is don't be too hard on yourself and cut yourself some slack.

1:31:20

As long as  you're waking up and you're actually pouring your heart and soul into something and you're truly  giving it your all, that's all you can really do. Amazing advice.

1:31:32

This might come up again  in our lightning round.

1:31:32

With that Vlad, we've reached our very exciting  lightning round. Are you ready? Yeah, let's do it. Let's do it. Ding, ding, ding.

1:31:40

First question, what are two or three books that you  recommended most to other people?

1:31:46

So I love Sci-Fi, Red Rising was one of my favorite books.

1:31:49

And then the Silo  series.

1:31:49

Highly, highly recommend.

1:31:53

What do you think of the TV  show version of the Silo series? What's that?

1:31:57

There's a TV show of the Silo series now. Read the book though.

1:31:59

Watch it after read  the book.

1:31:59

Reading the book is way better. I agree.

1:32:04

I don't know if you actually  watched the show, but it's completely different story.

1:32:07

It's like 90%, just a whole  new story.

1:32:07

I don't know what's going on there. Foundation is similar.

1:32:15

I don't know what  they're doing these days, movies, crazy. Amazing. Okay.

1:32:19

Do you have a favorite recent  movie or TV show that you've really enjoyed?

1:32:23

There's a TV show that I've enjoyed for a very  long part of my life. It's called Survivor. I've heard of it.

1:32:29

Everyone's probably heard of Survivor at  this point. The show is not dying.

1:32:29

It is actually very fun to watch and there's  new twist every single season.

1:32:33

And so I've probably watched, I think 35 seasons or so. That's out of control.

1:32:39

Do you feel like you  would do well in Survivor if you were to go?

1:32:43

Well, I think I would do well.

1:32:43

My wife thinks I would die.

1:32:46

[inaudible 01:32:50] to find out.

1:32:46

Okay, if I can nominate you for Survivor, I'll [inaudible 01:32:54].

1:32:53

As long  as you don't die.

1:32:53

Next question, do you have a favorite product that you've  recently discovered that you really enjoy?

1:33:01

So one is actually a product that I cannot  live without. I discovered it in 2016.

1:33:01

Discord, I cannot live without Discord.

1:33:07

It is one  of the products that I use for hours and hours every single day.

1:33:10

I'm in all these  gaming communities and it's so much fun.

1:33:15

I love that you use it for gaming, not for crypto.

1:33:18

Just chatting with players and actually  hanging out. Yeah, love Discord.

1:33:18

The product that I recently got introduced to is a game.

1:33:24

It's  actually a pseudo board- ish game called Gobbler.

1:33:32

It's an advanced version of Tic-tac-toe.

1:33:32

And so  me and my four and a half year old daughter play this before bedtime every single day.

1:33:37

She was  just started schooling me at Tic-tac-toe.

1:33:37

And so I needed to upgrade.

1:33:41

Gobbler, if you haven't  played, it adds a new dimension where pieces can gobble other pieces.

1:33:47

It's almost like playing  in 3D a little bit. It is super fun to play. Wow.

1:33:52

It's funny that she was schooling you  to Tic-tac-toe, which my understanding is you just tie all the time.

1:33:57

It's amazing  that she found ways to keep beating you. Yes.

1:34:00

I think that it says  more about me. I don't know. Okay, Gobbler.

1:34:05

Next question, do you have a  favorite life motto that you often think about, repeat back to yourself, share with friends  or family [inaudible 01:34:13] in life? You never know.

1:34:13

And it's a very simple  motto.

1:34:13

And what that means is to me, even when there are things with low  probability, shoot your shot. Take a chance. Take a leap.

1:34:25

Sometimes you're going  to be surprised at how things turn out. Beautiful. Final question.

1:34:31

A tradition at Airbnb is to ask new folks a fun fact about themselves,  which is always a hard question on the spot, but I'm going to ask you anyway.

1:34:40

Is there a fun  fact about yourself that would be fun to share?

1:34:47

Well, I kind of shared maybe a little bit of  it.

1:34:47

I absolutely love Survivor.

1:34:47

And so I have tried to get on Survivor multiple times, and  that is actually my dream to get on that show.

1:34:57

So if anyone out there watching who happens to  cast for Survivor, I am here. I am available.

1:35:04

And I will probably not do very well, but  maybe I'll be entertaining. I don't know.

1:35:09

This is your casting video right here. This is it. All right.

1:35:09

Survivor people, let's get Vlad on.

1:35:13

I think you would kill  it.

1:35:13

I could see this is all the skills we've talked about, I think would  be incredibly [inaudible 01:35:20]- [inaudible 01:35:20] though.

1:35:24

[inaudible 01:35:25] the fire. Oh, my God. Vlad, this was amazing.

1:35:24

I'm so happy we did this. What a special episode.

1:35:28

I think for  everyone that listens to this episode and goes through it all is they will and guarantee  they'll become a better leader in so many ways.

1:35:36

And so I'm really happy that we did this. Two final questions.

1:35:36

Where can folks find you online and who would you want to  reach out to you?

1:35:40

What kind of folks are you working with these days?

1:35:43

And then  finally, how can listeners be useful to you?

1:35:47

Hit me up if you want to chat on LinkedIn,  I'll respond and we can grab a coffee or Zoom or something.

1:35:53

I mean, I'm an investor now and I  love spending time with early stage founders.

1:35:53

A lot of those early stage founders actually  happen to be product managers at some point in their career.

1:36:02

So I just love chatting  with folks about the problems they're facing or the ideas they have when they're  thinking about starting a company.

1:36:06

So yeah, if you're tinkering with cool things,  hit me up and would love to chat.

1:36:14

And is there a segment of startups you're  most focused on, just for folks to know? I bet on people.

1:36:17

So for me, that was always  one of my learnings.

1:36:17

I love meeting people that take me into a whole new dimension  that I didn't even think was possible.

1:36:24

Now, I do love consumer because a lot of that is my  background.

1:36:28

And so I try to focus on consumer, but at the end of the day, I'm  focused on people.

1:36:32

And so I go into many different directions  where people [inaudible 01:36:37]. Awesome. All right.

1:36:37

And how  can listeners be useful to you?

1:36:40

If you want to chat, hit me up. Cool.

1:36:42

Healthy, find really cool  startup opportunities to invest in. Yeah, yeah, yeah. Thank you, Lenny. Thank you so much. This was  super fun.

1:36:47

Thank you for having me on.

1:36:50

It's absolutely my pleasure. Thank you, Vlad. And bye everyone.

1:36:55

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1:36:55

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1:36:58

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1:37:07

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1:37:12

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