“Being respected might not get you invited to a lot of parties, but you build real strong bonds. People trust you. People want to bring you around. People will have good things to say about you. Opportunities tend to find you.” — Ed Latimore
“The way you approach a conversation is going to affect how the person feels about the conversation with you. And if you can make a person feel comfortable, you can go a lot further than ever.” -- Ed Latimore
This week, we’re delighted to welcome Ed Latimore back for his second Infinite Loops appearance. Ed is a best-selling author, former professional heavyweight boxer, competitive chess player, Physics graduate, father, and husband. He joins us to discuss stoicism, progress & pain, demonstrating authenticity, being liked vs. being respected, and a whole lot more. Important Links: - Ed’s Twitter https://twitter.com/edlatimore - Ed’s website - https://protect-us.mimecast.com/s/Cr2-C737E9C2lW4IW9nt7/ - Ed’s Substack - https://edlatimore.substack.com - Ed’s first Infinite Loops appearance - https://www.infiniteloopspodcast.com/ed-latimore-lessons-from-boxing-sobriety-and-building-mental-fortitude-ep10/ 00:00 Intro 00:00 Main Podcast 01:40 New child; new house; new book 10:35 How Ed’s new book has developed 17:32 Humor and progress 23:43 Understanding addiction 32:50 Being liked vs being respected 38:01 “Stoicism found me” 52:02 Is progress possible without pain? 55:47 “Humans are very bad at the future” 01:04:32 Demonstrating authenticity 01:14:24 Being cast as a father figure 01:17:23 What’s next for Ed 01:22:53 Ed’s three step process for self-improvement Books Mentioned: - The Founders: The Story of PayPal and the Entrepreneurs who Shaped Silicon Valley; by Jimmy Soni - The Art of Learning: An Inner Journey to Optimal Performance; by Josh Waitzkin - Can't Hurt Me: Master Your Mind and Defy the Odds; by David Goggins - The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck: A Counterintuitive Approach to Living a Good Life; by Mark Manson